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This question has 11 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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5 December 2008: Hey, Okay, basically, people like to label people, but why do they take it so far? Goths: They are supposed to be depressed, they wear black, and people don't like them because they are either different or they think that because they wear bla...
Be yourself, don't change for anyone
This question has 10 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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9 November 2008: Hey, this is just my personal opinion. This isn't a question, just an opinion, and I would be happy to hear yours :D I believe, firmly, that you should not change who you are for anyone. I think that everyone is different and unique and diffe...
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I hate my new stepmom!
Q. my dad re-married in august 2008. i hate my new stepmum. she is mean to me and everything! i tell my dad but he says that i'll just have to get used to her. but she is always talking about my weight and she thinks that i just want to have sex with a ...
A. 24 October 2009: You should talk to your step-mother and tell her that the way she's treating you is unacceptable. She might not realize she's affecting you this way and if you talk to her about it she might stop all the unnecessary comments. You and your step... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and online friends with a 40 year old
Q. i recently became online ''friends'' with a man and i think everything heads in the wrong direction.i met him through an online game.he told me he needs someone to explain him the game,so i agreed to help him and added him in the buddy list,as he ...
A. 24 October 2009: Hey, I agree with both of the previous aunts, this guy is messing with you here. There are so many dangerous people out there on the web that we know nothing about, for all we know this could be one of them. I think it would be safer to br... (read in full...)
I need some ideas on how I can support my friend.
Q. Hi, I am 15 and so is my friend who I am trying to support at the moment. I was just wondering if I could have some ideas on a way I can support my friend. She is having a tough time at the moment with exams, home life and at school. She has been ...
A. 24 October 2009: Aww, that's great!!
Congratulations on getting A grades in your exams and that's really great news about your friend too =) xx... (read in full...)
Why is it that racism has all of a sudden become a big joke to people?
Q. Why is it that racism has all of a sudden become a big joke to people? I know some people (like me) HATE racism in any shape or form, and get really angry when people say racist things. To me, it's not right. Whether it's religion, skin colo...
A. 24 October 2009: Anonymous: Good for you!! This is awesome! Why should people sit back and take it? We shouldn't be afraid to stand up for what we believe is right!
Good on you! This is a brilliant example of what we should all be doing nowadays in society!... (read in full...)
10 reasons its her fault the relationship didnt work
Q. Here are the top 10 reasons that it's HER fault the relationship didn't work. Reason 1: You aren't cool enough. Guys love cool girls, its probably our favorite characteristic for a girl we want to keep around longer than 2 hours. The problem...
A. 8 June 2009: 1) Aren't cool enough? You should love the woman you're with no matter whether they're cool enough or not. It's not a factor it's an opinion of SOME people that comes into their love lives. If they don't like football they don't like football, if ... (read in full...)
My brother needs guidance but I'd rather spend time with my girlfriend, any ideas?
Q. My mom wants me to spend time with my brother (he's 12) because he uses our sisters (they'll 6 and 9) as punching bags. Hes like this since my dad died 4 years ago and needs an older male influence (im 16) to "guide" him. I rather spend time with my ...
A. 7 June 2009: Hey, It's understandable why you would want to spend time with your girlfriend, you're still a teenager wanting to have an independent life away from your family. However, if spending time with your brother will help stop him from using your si... (read in full...)
Is it right that american girls do oral sex easily ?
Q. I am french, so please excuse my english which is not very good. I have heard that in USA, american girls do oral sex (blowjobs) easily, it's not a big thing for them. To make love with them may be hard, but to be sucked may be easy. Is that...
A. 4 June 2009: Hey Well I think you can see why people (especially women) are extremely annoyed by this statement. This is just a generalization of women that has come about because now sex or anything isn't seen as something to do out of love but something ... (read in full...)
I went to his house, did not want sex, he insisted, I feel violated, should I?
Q. i kinda have this friends with benefits thing but i hardly see him these days as i wanted more than just sex. Anyway, i went round his the other night and we chilled for a bit but then i decided to go without having sex, for the reason i said ab...
A. 4 June 2009: Hey,
Yeah you should feel violated because you said no to him, and he still went through with it.
Sorry, I know this is the same as what everyone else is saying, but it's the truth.
This guy had absoloutly no right to do what he did. Who c... (read in full...)
Should I complain about this liftman and if so how do I go about it???
Q. I saw the most disturbing thing ever! I live in a 20 storey apartment and I live in the 16th floor so I take the elevator obviously. We have a new liftman, he is a college dropout that's what he told me anyways, he is like 20 years old. Once I w...
A. 1 June 2009: So have you complained? If not you should, this isn't the behaviour that people should have while they're working, this is stuff that should be going on in their private life and not something that people want to see.
I mean really and truely w... (read in full...)
I haven't been introduced because I'm black!
Q. I guess I am just needing objective opinions on this matter. I have been dating a guy for about 15 months. We have been living together for the last 5 months. I have 2 children and he is very involved in their life. We are our own family. We do ev...
A. 30 May 2009: Hey!
Glad everything going good :)
Hope it continues that way :D
x... (read in full...)
Racist friend....what can I do?
Q. Heyy I've written an article about this, but while replying to someone else I realized I have a problem..which might seem strange but yeah... Basically my best friend can be racist sometimes, and she just sees it as a joke and I don't really ...
A. 28 May 2009: babyduck: Yeah I think I'll do that :) At least then hopefully she'll get the message :)Exactly, that's how I feel, if I just don't talk about it I'm letting it happen and I hate feeling that way...but yeah, next time I hear her say something I'll ... (read in full...)
Why is it that racism has all of a sudden become a big joke to people?
Q. Why is it that racism has all of a sudden become a big joke to people? I know some people (like me) HATE racism in any shape or form, and get really angry when people say racist things. To me, it's not right. Whether it's religion, skin colo...
A. 28 May 2009: SirenaBlusera - Yeah, it really sucks though because now we live in the 21st Century you'd think people would be a bit more, I don't know, aware of how it can offend people, it's just really wrong. And thanks :) I just hate the way people think it's ... (read in full...)
Am I weird because I'm at virgin?
Q. Iv'e just turned sixteen and im still a virgin most of my friends arent. Does this make me weird? help!...
A. 18 May 2009: Heyy!
Alright, at my school in my year right now there are 2 people pregnant and a few years ago when I was in year 9 and another girl was in year 8 she got pregnant. One got aborted, the other 2 (in my year) are keeping theirs.
Basically, wh... (read in full...)
How to deal with exam stress?
Q. Hey :) Ive got like four exams over the next two days and can get really tetchy about them... What would you recommend me to do to calm down and stuff...they are all revised for and I'm quite confident about them its just I get cranky easy with the...
A. 18 May 2009: Heyy!
I know how you feel I have so many exams now it's unbelievable (GCSEs)
I guess all I can say is calm yourself before an exam. Make sure you have water (and of course equipment) so you don't go in paniking that you don't have anything.
... (read in full...)
Be yourself, don't change for anyone
Q. Hey, this is just my personal opinion. This isn't a question, just an opinion, and I would be happy to hear yours :D I believe, firmly, that you should not change who you are for anyone. I think that everyone is different and unique and diffe...
A. 13 April 2009: Anonymous: Hey, I'm not saying that there aren't small bad habbits you should change, just firm beliefs and who you are as a person.
If you were happy the way you were before you met the man you're in a relationship with then you shouldn'... (read in full...)
I'm tired of people talking about religion in a bad light!
Q. I'm really tired of people talking about my religion in a bad way. I'll be sitting at school and the someone says something about how my religion doesn't celebrate any holidays. They say stuff like "that's really stupid" and they don't even know ...
A. 14 March 2009: Heyy, I'm not sure which religion you are, but I think I have an idea. I'm a Christian and I am actually proud in saying that I am, my friends say my religion is really weird and stuff like that too and I also have to put up with really stupi... (read in full...)
Life is too short for...
Q. I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
A. 13 March 2009: Life is too short, plain and simple, you have to go out and enjoy every minute of it and fuffil every one of your dreams.
Awesome Artical!! x... (read in full...)
How do I get the two to settle their differences without me having to choose?
Q. I am in serious problems now. My boyfriend of five months and my sister is at war and I am left in the middle! Its like this: My family adores him, however,my boyfriend is a "say it like it is" type of person and my sister has similar personal...
A. 9 March 2009: Hey,
Firstly, letting your sister get away with slapping you? Wow you're a good sister, lol.
Secondly, they may not get along, but you love your boyfriend and your sister, it may be hard, but you could ask the two of them to at least be civil t... (read in full...)
I see my self in a mirror and I start thinking that I'm ugly...
Q. Hi, this is the first time I have posted on here, but I have been hanging around for a while now and I like the advice and help given. I'm 14 years old and when ever I'm doing anything, or even just doing nothing for that matter I don't care about...
A. 8 March 2009: Hey,
I know you posted this a while ago, but I'll post an answer anyway :)..
Anyway, I used to be EXACTLY the same. I'm 15 and have never had a boyfriend and I don't really care about what others think of me. When I started wearing make-up ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend beats the hell out of me
Q. My boyfriend beats the hell out of me when I get him upset (he says I'm "getting fly.") He choked me when I was 8 months pregnant (outside), and he beat me up in front of our 2 daughters and my lil sister. I have been kicked, punched, slapped, head ...
A. 8 March 2009: Hey,
Sorry but I'm going to repeat what others have said, please get out of this relationship. You may think that you love him, but honestly if it were back when you were single and you didn't know him and you thought about someone treating... (read in full...)
He thinks my body BELONGS to him!!!!
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months says I'm his... therefore so is my body, supposedly we love each other. He says he does, his hands are always all over me, alone or not! Once we are in a private place and he wouldn't stop! I don't mind that but I do mind ...
A. 7 March 2009: Hey!
I'm going to point out the obvious and say that this IS NOT right. You are in control of your body, girlfriend of his or not and if he can't understand that then he isn't worth it.
You need to tell him that you're not comfortable with... (read in full...)
After getting back together he started seeing the girl he'd dumped me for... so I told her! Did I do the right thing?
Q. I recently got back with an ex. He had left me a few months earlier but I still loved him and was happy to take him back but after a few days he started saying he needed time alone etc, then I found out he was back with the girl he had previously ...
A. 6 March 2009: ...This is tough, I think you kind of did the right thing, but also not.
You did because you told her what was going on and she obviously didn't like that, therefor broke up with him, if she hadn't of known, she would have been obliviou... (read in full...)
Is it okay we're dating and we're third cousins?
Q. I'm curretnly living with and dating my third cousin. A lot of people seem to be against it, I even think he double guesses it sometimes, what should I do?...
A. 6 March 2009: Heyy,
If you ask me third cousins isn't bad, the thing is if you love each other (definate) then I don't really see the problem...
He probably second guesses it because other people around him do, it's just about what others think, but that ... (read in full...)
Things you should never say to your girlfriend
Q. We all heard of that idiot how called his gf fat and got dump. But why do we keep doing it? It could be he isn't aren't aware of how disrespectful it can be? Or could it be he just like making her cry? It could be lot of reason. So think before you ...
A. 1 March 2009: Hey,
I completly agree with you. A lot of people are sensitive about themselves or insecure and it is because of the media. In the society we live in, there is a centain way we are SUPPOSED to be, I really don't like this, it makes me feel tha... (read in full...)
I feel like nobody that knows me actually knows me and I am living a lie!
Q. I've recently come to terms with the fact that i am gay after being in a relationship with a girl for almost 9 months! It took me ages to admit to myself that i don't infact like guys as anything more than mates anymore, before i met my ex girlfrie...
A. 1 March 2009: Hey,
OK, well your mum might be confused as well, probably because you didn't give her a definate answer and she's wondering how to bring it up again, without offending you in some way, it might not be, but it could be.
Also, you shouldn't fe... (read in full...)
Can a thirteen year age gap go the distance?
Q. Hi, can a thirteen year age gap go the distance? I'm 35, my partner is 22, we've been together nearly a year and are madly in love, currently we have spent last few months in different countries cos of her work but I am moving over abroad to set up ...
A. 23 February 2009: Hey,
If you ask me, age doesn't matter. As long as you're in love and are happy with each other, what's wrong with that?
Stop worrying about the age gap, it seems that your partner is happy about being with you and wants to have a future wi... (read in full...)
Is it fun to take pictures? (Why not)
Q. Is it fun to take pictures? (a minor rant) Ok this is something that might seem obvious. We live in a digital age where everything has a camera. Quiet often people think its fun to take pictures of yourself or partners in various poses ranging fr...
A. 15 February 2009: Heyy,
This is a really good article, and so true.
People should be careful about who and what they take pictures of...and with webcams, I really don't see the point, I have one (only because it's built into the computer) and honestly I think... (read in full...)
I want a tattoo, my mom doesn't want me to get one, my dad, divorced from my mom, will even pay for it, what should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid. People always say you should try to respect your parents wishes and I think growing up I did a good job of doing that. I'm now my own woman, live out in the big city in my ow flat, going to unversity to get a degree and after giving it ...
A. 15 February 2009: At the end of the day it's up to you, however, there are a lot of things you need to take in to account.
One thing is the feelings of your mum. She doesn't want you to have a tatoo, is there any specific reason for this?
Thing is with a tatoo,... (read in full...)
Why is it that racism has all of a sudden become a big joke to people?
Q. Why is it that racism has all of a sudden become a big joke to people? I know some people (like me) HATE racism in any shape or form, and get really angry when people say racist things. To me, it's not right. Whether it's religion, skin colo...
A. 12 January 2009: pvtguy: Yeah, I get what you mean, a lot of people it's what they are taught. But a lot of the time, racism is shown as wrong, and people make a joke out of it, it's just wrong, in my opinion. Yeah, usually I voice my opinion to close friends, but ... (read in full...)
Do we exist?
Q. Im going to pick an emotion or whatever you call them. Love. Is it an emotion? A feeling? A force? You are welcome to post your opinion. My opinion is that there is no such thing... the most perfect explanation. Its just an illusion, an hal...
A. 7 January 2009: Heyy, I asked my Philosophy teacher, she says that there have been a lot of scientific theorys on this. One of them is that apparently, love only lasts for 7 years, that's enough time to meet, for a woman to get pregnant and have the baby, and ... (read in full...)
Do we exist?
Q. Im going to pick an emotion or whatever you call them. Love. Is it an emotion? A feeling? A force? You are welcome to post your opinion. My opinion is that there is no such thing... the most perfect explanation. Its just an illusion, an hal...
A. 5 January 2009: Heyy,
I hadn't actually thought about this before, but it is a reasonable theory.
I don't think you can create feelings for someone though. Your mind, hormones and heart are all completly different things.
Your mind might trick you into thi... (read in full...)
Cousin chasing her and he molested her years ago
Q. Hello, i need some advice.um 16, Well i m wid dis gal for 18months,she s 15.she was molested by her cousin when she was 11.that cousin apologized to her after some day. Now da boy is back.i hate him like anything.now he s doing things to impress my ...
A. 2 January 2009: Heyy,
How come the police weren't notified when this happened? Sorry, but just because it's family, doesn't mean he shouldn't pay for what he's done.
Also, I don't think you should have a problem with her cousin and her, he's family, she may ... (read in full...)
He acts different to me when his friends are around
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 months and a bit now and i cant stand to be away from him. As i have been banned from seeing him this makes it all worse. I get to see him only at school and right now its in the holidays and im going th...
A. 31 December 2008: Heyy,
It must suck being away from your boyfriend, however, you have your friends you can hang out with as well, which can be just as much fun as when you're out with your boyfriend, maybe even a bit more, you never know :D
Also, like Un... (read in full...)
Be yourself, don't change for anyone
Q. Hey, this is just my personal opinion. This isn't a question, just an opinion, and I would be happy to hear yours :D I believe, firmly, that you should not change who you are for anyone. I think that everyone is different and unique and diffe...
A. 29 December 2008: scythe: Exactly, obviously, if there are any small habbits that are annoying, you could, maybe, change the, but never, ever your beliefs, or morals, or anything like that. I agree with that, if you don't know yourself, it's impossible for anyone ... (read in full...)
Online dirtiness until I found out she has a BF. Now I feel bad and I still like her!
Q. ok me and this girl really like each other, we was talking online and we did dirty things online also but then she told me she has a boyfriend, i felt really bad for what i did with her i didnt know she have a boyfriend what should i do? ...
A. 27 December 2008: Heyy, If she didn't tell you she had a boyfriend, it's not your fault, she should have told you, so you knew what you were getting yourself into, and made a decision on what you wanted to so, you probably wouldn't have done anything if you ... (read in full...)
Confused... am I doing something wrong?
Q. Ok well im gay girl who is 23 but for the last two months ive been talking to two girls. So when it came to meet up they stopped txtin they stopped calling and i know that one of the girls is openly gay. And if im honest im not ugly im just very...
A. 27 December 2008: Heyy, I'm not gay, but I hope I can help. Well, it's one thing to text/call some people, but it's another thing altogether to meet up with them. Unless you mean you already met them, then I don't really know. It's hard, becuase I don't kn... (read in full...)
Why is he giving me such mixed messages??
Q. I'm really confused atm. Me and this guy i met at a college party went on a date last week and had a really good time. we kissed and cuddled loads and just generally acted like a couple i.e. holding hands. The thing is he hasnt actully asked me out ...
A. 27 December 2008: Hey,
With the texting he may be a little nervous, not being able to see your facial expressions when you recieve the text, many people have a problem, where they don't know what to say to a person when they're not in front of you, when they are... (read in full...)
Religion (feel free to debate and discuss!!)
Q. Lately iv been having a discussion/debate with a woman on here about religion, she's a muslim and im not really anything, more of an athiest with a hint of scientologist id say, and as you could imagine our opinions on religion are at complete ...
A. 24 December 2008: I am a Christian, and have been raised as a Christian all my life, and will be Christened, or (as some would say) baptised. I know a bit about God/Jesus and there teachings, some I do agree with, some I don't, and some just confuse the hell... (read in full...)
Goths, Emo's, Chavs, what's the point of all this labeling?
Q. Hey, Okay, basically, people like to label people, but why do they take it so far? Goths: They are supposed to be depressed, they wear black, and people don't like them because they are either different or they think that because they wear bla...
A. 24 December 2008: XxAnGelXxx: I completly agree with you. We feel comfortable when we are with people who are like ourselves. But, like you, I don't think it's right that we are labeled, because we all have different aspects to our personalities. Yeah, I agree,... (read in full...)
I haven't been introduced because I'm black!
Q. I guess I am just needing objective opinions on this matter. I have been dating a guy for about 15 months. We have been living together for the last 5 months. I have 2 children and he is very involved in their life. We are our own family. We do ev...
A. 19 December 2008: Heyy,
In my opinion, it shouldn't matter what colour you are, what matters are your personality and anything connected with that, it shouldn't matter what you look like.
No, it shouldn't matter what his family think, and I'd be saying the same ... (read in full...)
I need some help with an apology letter to someone I offended.
Q. i need some help with writing an apology letter to someone i have offended. please read what happened and let me know what i should say. i was a very insecure and possessive type of person with people close to me in my life. when i say possessive...
A. 19 December 2008: Heyy,
People shouldn't think of you as 'low' because you went to a counselling session. In fact, people should admire the fact that you realize what you've been doing, and want to sort it out. Most people can't do this, and stay in denial, ... (read in full...)
Goths, Emo's, Chavs, what's the point of all this labeling?
Q. Hey, Okay, basically, people like to label people, but why do they take it so far? Goths: They are supposed to be depressed, they wear black, and people don't like them because they are either different or they think that because they wear bla...
A. 14 December 2008: Heyy,
Thanks for all of your answers! :D
britt429: Yeah, I agree, it is really sad, people should be who they want to be, and, it seems like they're being punished for it, it's not right, everyone has the right to be who they want to be, and ... (read in full...)
Be yourself, don't change for anyone
Q. Hey, this is just my personal opinion. This isn't a question, just an opinion, and I would be happy to hear yours :D I believe, firmly, that you should not change who you are for anyone. I think that everyone is different and unique and diffe...
A. 23 November 2008: Hey, Thank you!!! Don't worry I won't! :D :D :D... (read in full...)
I need some ideas on how I can support my friend.
Q. Hi, I am 15 and so is my friend who I am trying to support at the moment. I was just wondering if I could have some ideas on a way I can support my friend. She is having a tough time at the moment with exams, home life and at school. She has been ...
A. 22 November 2008: Hey,
Wow, this is hard, you really are so busy, but also want to support your friend.
Maybe, you could set out a schedual or something and spend time with this friend about 1 or 2 hours every day, or every other day, which ever suits you b... (read in full...)
Be yourself, don't change for anyone
Q. Hey, this is just my personal opinion. This isn't a question, just an opinion, and I would be happy to hear yours :D I believe, firmly, that you should not change who you are for anyone. I think that everyone is different and unique and diffe...
A. 18 November 2008: Lol,
Thank you!!... (read in full...)
Be yourself, don't change for anyone
Q. Hey, this is just my personal opinion. This isn't a question, just an opinion, and I would be happy to hear yours :D I believe, firmly, that you should not change who you are for anyone. I think that everyone is different and unique and diffe...
A. 10 November 2008: I agree, we should really think about whether what we are doing is right. Yeah, that really does suck, about your parents wanting you to be like your cousins, I'd hate it, no offence to my cousins, lol, but if I were being them, I definatly wouldn't ... (read in full...)
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