Can she get in trouble for having an affair with a married man?
Q. I have a question. What are my options when I have proof that my husband is having an affair and she is living with him and he is in the military? What can I do? Can she get in trouble for having an affair with a married man?...
A. 5 December 2008: My husband is in the AMERICAN military and he has not only had one child out of wedlock but three. One with one girl back home and a set of twins by a girl he met in the military. He does pay spousal and child support. NO, she won't get in tro... (read in full...)
How can I restore my relationship after an affair?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in a relationship for 7 years, we have a two year old daughter, I also have a son from a previous relationship. I recently discovered my partner has been cheating. I'm unsure of the full extent and when confronted he ab...
A. 2 December 2008: I would say give him 2wks-1month of time not living together just to show him that his behavior is unacceptable...now this is what i would do but im a softy sometime. maybe you should discuss marriage upon him coming back...and see what his reaction ... (read in full...)
Has your husband ever left you to be with the mistress? Did they work out?
Q. Has your husband (or long term boyfriend) ever left you to be with her (the mistress)? Did they work out? Posted yesterday but wondered if there was anyone else out there with a story. [Moderator's note: Please don't hesitate to write updates if ...
A. 1 December 2008: I have a question for you...
Why won't he walk away from me and save his current relationship?
I posted this question on 11/28/08...sometimes one tends to think that the other woman or the mistress break families up...in reality the guy ... (read in full...)
Has your husband ever left you to be with the mistress? Did they work out?
Q. Has your husband (or long term boyfriend) ever left you to be with her (the mistress)? Did they work out? Posted yesterday but wondered if there was anyone else out there with a story. [Moderator's note: Please don't hesitate to write updates if ...
A. 1 December 2008: Yes, my husband did leave me for her...NO they didn't work out...he's actually been with several other women since he left me...not to mention pregnancy was the result of two of these women...i actually am the other woman in my current ... (read in full...)
Why won't he walk away from me and save his current relationship?
Q. hello aunts...i know what im doing isn't right...ive been seeing a guy who has a gf for almost six months...and have made 3 attempts to cut him off and obviously have been unsuccessful... i truely don't know what to do...he seems to be kind of we...
A. 1 December 2008: you know what qcumbr1 i think you are 100% right...because he has told me once before that he doesn't feel as though he is taking a risk...and that he loves me to the point that im worth him getting caught...which is no way good...but i don't know i ... (read in full...)
Why won't he walk away from me and save his current relationship?
Q. hello aunts...i know what im doing isn't right...ive been seeing a guy who has a gf for almost six months...and have made 3 attempts to cut him off and obviously have been unsuccessful... i truely don't know what to do...he seems to be kind of we...
A. 28 November 2008: thanks...i appreciate your input and i agree that i should stop answering his calls and find some one who's available...but my question was "why would he risk what he has for his bit on the side"...according to everyone on here when a guy sleeps ... (read in full...)
How do you tell someone to lose weight without crushing them?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over 6 years now. We're going through a number of problems, which I addressed in another question, but in thinking about the possibility of us getting back together, there is one issue i just don't know how to deal ...
A. 28 November 2008: well...i hate to say but you may have to tell her...just say baby, i love you but...i feel as though you're gaining too much weight...and WE need to do something about...because it's hendering our relationship...you never know something may be ... (read in full...)
How do you tell someone to lose weight without crushing them?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over 6 years now. We're going through a number of problems, which I addressed in another question, but in thinking about the possibility of us getting back together, there is one issue i just don't know how to deal ...
A. 28 November 2008: maybe invite her to gym with you...take evening walks together...the question here is would you still want to be with her if she lost weight????...if so like i mentioned above invite her to do exercise with you...im over weight and my husband was ... (read in full...)
I have so many problems. What should I think? Is this happening for a reason?
Q. What are the most serious problems you got? I feel I have way too many problems, and I wonder if it s normal, to have so many problems, and pain. I wonder what are your, most painful events, in your life? My problems are , lost my house, my paren...
A. 26 November 2008: i sincerly apologize for your pain. i actually could feel it through your post. don't let your mind tell you that your a failure and that everything is bad or a problem in your life. what you son has was not in your control. some things are just not ... (read in full...)
If I can't have his whole heart then I don't want any part of it.
Q. I have been seeing a younger man for the past couple of months and we have fallen in love. We both feel like we've known each other in another life. Everything just happened so quickly. Problem is I found out the he is married and has a newborn ...
A. 20 November 2008: seeing that your older, I would continue to support him, because you are right he doesn't need the added stress. my husband is in the military also and when he was over seas all he wanted to talk about was positive things and things that didn't show ... (read in full...)
I feel everyone I met and have fallen for has let me down, will I ever be happy, maybe with the new guy?
Q. Will I ever be happy??? I have never had much luck in relationships, my first long term partner from age 17 cheated on me after 2 1/2 yrs then split up 3 years later to find out he had cheated several times, the second relationship was a great gu...
A. 14 November 2008: Well I would have to say that I've experienced the same thing and am currently in the same boat as you. I do kind of agree with the first poster that we have to change our mentality because our past does have an impact on our current and future ... (read in full...)
My loving husband has been seeing a dominator for the past 3 years!
Q. I'm 28, been married to my husband for the past 4 years. I found out off a very close friend last night that he'd been seeing a dominator (I can't use the word dominatrix as it wasn't another woman he'd been seeing). She said that she was driving ...
A. 12 November 2008: have you ever noticed any feminine ways about your husband? im sure you would know in your heart if you have. if so...get rid of him...AIDS is something to be scared of that is perdominantly among male gays.
i had a similar situation...with my husb... (read in full...)
I'm baffled by these texts from guys!
Q. I'm quite old fashioned when it comes to dating and in the early stages I normally leave it to the guy to initiate contact, because I think if you don't hear from them for a few days then they can't be that interested. I've noticed that recently ...
A. 6 November 2008: sometimes you would think the guy is the girl because they will be waiting for you to contact them first.
but you are doing the right thing by letting them contact you first.
train them how you want them to be trained. in other words don't get ... (read in full...)
I would rather leave while I still love him, then leave hating him! Should I hang in here or just give up?
Q. Should I get a divorce? I have been with my husband for going on 17 years, and we are only in our early 30's, so we met fairly young. Lately I have been thinking about getting a divorce. He is a very controlling person, and I have just about ha...
A. 3 November 2008: I also married young, and now being 28 i don't think it was a good idea. people very seldom know theirselves at this age and also haven't experienced alot in life. nevertheless, my husband and i have been seperated 2 of the 4 that we've been marri... (read in full...)
Did I push him too far by putting him out?
Q. I have beein in a relationship for twelve years, and have children. My boyfriend and I were having problems and we broke up because of his flirting and he moved out. However we were back sleeping together soon after he moved out and I really ...
A. 30 October 2008: hello, i hope you don't take this the wrong way but what made your relationship go sour? i know you say that he cheated, but what was missing in your relationship that made him wonder?
i am dating a guy now who has been in a long term relation... (read in full...)
This married man has my heart held captive!!
Q. Did I really lose it, or was I looking for love in the wrong place? Is it too late to fix the mess I got myself in? OMG what have I done, well it’s too late for all the crying and antidepressants, regret and maybe even counseling. Love has gone too ...
A. 29 October 2008: don't feel bad im in the same situation...we'll be ok...im just suprised you having a son didn't change the situation...if you want to private mail me we can colaborate on our situation...... (read in full...)
In love with older married man, with his baby!
Q. How do I break away from this married man, that I have had a baby with and commited myself to for the past two year? I have never had such a sad issue in my life, how can i leave him.. for good when I am so addicted to him? I feel powerless when it ...
A. 29 October 2008: I just have to ask what does he say about the baby? has he changed since you have a baby by him?
I'm in the same situation im not sure if im pregnant or not (ive missed my 10/08)period) but im curious about your guys reaction to that.
i reall... (read in full...)
This married man has my heart held captive!!
Q. Did I really lose it, or was I looking for love in the wrong place? Is it too late to fix the mess I got myself in? OMG what have I done, well it’s too late for all the crying and antidepressants, regret and maybe even counseling. Love has gone too ...
A. 29 October 2008: well...i would have to say that im in the same situation, only im 28 and he's 40. it's only been 4months for us, he's not married but has been with his gf for 15yrs on and off. they have no kids together, his name is not on lease or utilities, but ... (read in full...)
Can someone please tell me what I really am to him? "Occasional" girlfriend? What should I do?
Q. hi.. there's this guy that i've had something going on with, on and off for a while .. a year or two? and i mean 'going on'as in physically.. he was my first kiss and i was really into him BUT we never dated. he never asked. i never asked. and the ...
A. 28 October 2008: it sounds as though you may be liking this guy more than you are putting on...obviously if you and him go for months without any contact your just sex buddies that both have partners...so i would say you ar FWB's...friends with benefits
TF... (read in full...)
The man I'm dating says I shouldn't be jealous because we are not committed, so should I hide how I feel?
Q. The man i'm dating says to me that since there isn't a commitment between us, i shouldn't be jealous. Although i try to hide this feeling, sometimes it is obvious especially when he provokes me. Should i make him to realize that i don't like some ...
A. 24 October 2008: Yeah, just hide the way you feel, then he'll wonder why you're NOT showing signs of jealousy. It's all a game when dating and sometimes even in commited relationships. Don't let him see you sweat
TM... (read in full...)
What to do with a disappearing, lying, stealing husband?
Q. My husband and I have been married for a little over 5 years now and our marriage has had some problems. when we first got married my husband drank a lot and did drugs I knew how much he drank but he tried to hide his drug use from me but I always ...
A. 23 October 2008: I'm don't want to be alone either but you know what I rather be alone that tolerate what I've been settling for. And I think thats something you need to think about. Also you have no kids there are plenty of men that would love to start a ... (read in full...)
Friendships with married man. Which one is worse?
Q. I became a friend with this military guy who's married in a duty he was on a year and a half ago. I felt like we hang out pretty well, although we only met 2 times. Nothing sexual, since then we've being in touch by emails. He was stationed in Korea ...
A. 23 October 2008: I agree with the first response to a certain extent, but you can't make the friends be faithful to their wives. If you don't fulfill your temptations someone else will trust me. My husband is in the Army and he's always out of state or the country. ... (read in full...)
Still feeling the effects of husband's secret friendhip 8 months on
Q. I posted on here in Feb 08 in respect of a problem I was having with my husband - and many thanks to the aunts and uncles who provided advice it was really comforting and helpful: http:/...
A. 23 October 2008: I've actually been on both sides of the fence. The wife and the other woman. As the wife we have a womans intuition that tells us that our man is unfaithful, untrustful, etc. We know in our gut. And just listening to your story, if you don't trust ... (read in full...)
What to do with a disappearing, lying, stealing husband?
Q. My husband and I have been married for a little over 5 years now and our marriage has had some problems. when we first got married my husband drank a lot and did drugs I knew how much he drank but he tried to hide his drug use from me but I always ...
A. 23 October 2008: Sweetheart you sound like a good girl. I know you love this guy but he has to make up his mind whether he want to party or be a family. First of all I think you might want to reconsider having children with him if he's the type that disappears. ... (read in full...)
He told me he did not love me anymore and I am heartbroken.
Q. I was married for 10 years and have 3 boys. I left my husband a year and a half ago and the boys too. I met my boyfriend a few weeks before I left my husband. Our marriage was already over long before this. It was instant attraction. I was falling ...
A. 21 October 2008: To an extent I agree with the other poster's that you left your husband and kids to trade off for a young punk that doesn't know what he wants. I know I would do almost anything to have a complete family like you had and gave away.
On the other hand... (read in full...)
Why can he never "finish" when we have sex? Is it me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a few months, and have had sex 3 times. The first time was the day after he tried blow. The second time I asked him if there was anything I can do, if there was something wrong, etc. He said he didn't k...
A. 20 October 2008: First and foremost you can only intise him to have an orgasm, the actual orgasm come from him. You cannot make him have a orgasm only he can do that for hisself. Furthermore, if he's using blow that's most likely why he cant get off. Most guys don't ... (read in full...)
My husband moved out and had two babies by another woman - Now he wants me back.
Q. hi i have been leagally married for 5yrs and been separated for 3yrs from him. before the separation my husband cheated on me and i tried forgiving him but it didn't work. so he moved out and he done had 2 babies since then. he told me to get my ...
A. 17 October 2008: Girl, do yourself a favor and divorce him. My husband and I got married 4yrs ago and have been seperated for 2yrs. We have one 4yr old. He has one child with one girl, and get this a set of twins by another. I WILL NEVER REALLY TRUST HIM AGAIN!!! ... (read in full...)
I found hid old love letters to his ex, and now I wonder about our relationship.
Q. At the risk of being a total cliche, yes, I found the proverbial "box of love letters, poems, and cards" my boyfriend of 3 years wrote to his ex-wife during their courtship ten years ago. I don't have a problem with him having a past and holding ...
A. 17 October 2008: I don't know I would also feel as though he had some feelings there that he hasn't showed me. I'm only 28 but some things just come by our womanly instincts. And you know when know when you know. Even if it is ten years later, either he's bitter a... (read in full...)
What to make of increase porn use and behavior changes
Q. I'm feeling a little "uneasy" and was looking for some feedback. My fiance over the past few weeks has been coming home and propping himself up in the living room where I cannot see the computer screen (which takes effort on his part) and lookin...
A. 17 October 2008: I understand what you're saying. On one hand I think you should enjoy it while it lasts, because the last thing you want him to do is go find it elsewhere. But at the same time if cares anything about you he will respect the fact that you don't want ... (read in full...)
Never enjoyed sex with any man; in the past few years I have been fantasising about being with women, what does this mean?
Q. I am questioning my sexuality, i was married, i have 3 children but never enjoyed sex with any man that i have been with. In the past 5 years I have found myself wanting to be with women. Im not clear as to wether it is sexually but I am in my ...
A. 17 October 2008: Well to be honest with you, I think honestly all people eventually have thoughts about the opposite sex rather they admit it or not. The point is if you act on it. If you have been with men all your life and have never been emotionally or sexually ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has many young friends at the age of 36 and it's a bit frustrating for me.
Q. I met this guy when id worked through my own past issues, I have a five year old girl, and him a ten year old. We had both looked to god for the right kind of love, and when we met it felt very meant to be for us both. We even saw a shooting star on ...
A. 17 October 2008: I don't understand what the issue is. This is because my guy friend is 39 and I'm 28, and we get along just fine. He also has other friends my age. Yes, I agree with you it probably does have a little to do with them wanting to keep their youth, but ... (read in full...)
I do love her but I don't want to marry or commit to one woman all the time.
Q. Have been with my girlfriend for 7 years. She is very pretty, sexy, funny, loving the list goes on. But I know she wants more. I don't want to lose her. Every time she gets tired of dealing with my issues and tries to move on I beg her back making ...
A. 16 October 2008: I'm curious when are you going to be ready to commit? Your profile says you're between the ages of 41-50, and your still not ready? You know you can catch a deadly disease (condoms break) messing with other women. If you lose her that will be your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has gotten other women pregnant!
Q. I have a 10 year relationship with my boyfriend. And nfortunately, there is a big problem. He has gotten other women pregnant. What would I do as her girl friend? We're living together already. Hope you can reply soon on what to do on my part as ...
A. 16 October 2008: I'm trying to understand the question. You say your boyfriend has got your friend pregnant or has got another woman (that you don't know) pregnant? If it's your friend that you've got pregnant you need to let him go. If not for good for a while ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and have an older child at home and my husband left me! Will I be happy again?
Q. my husband left me a month ago and last week i found out he is seeing someone else, we have a 3yr old son and i am currently 22weeks pregnant with our 2nd child. my world is collasping around me i can't do anything other than cry i am upsetting my ...
A. 14 October 2008: I just want to send my apologies for your current circumstance, but my husband did the same thing to me. All but I wasn't pregnant for the second time. We do have a 4yr old together and he's been out of our lives for about 2yrs now. He calls every ... (read in full...)
My best friend told me my husband cheated on me prior to our marriage, 7 years ago! Now I've become more insecure, should I tell him why?
Q. What shall I do? To cut a long story short, my best friend has recently confessed to me that she knows my husband cheated on me with his ex, for over a year. I believe this happend prior to our marraige 7 years ago. I am insecure and look at his ...
A. 10 October 2008: The final answer is really up to you, but my advice is for 1 your friend needs to keep her mouth closed, and mind her own business (leave well enough alone). For 2 if she was really your friend and was out for your best interest why is she waiting ... (read in full...)
Do I love this guy or am I obsessed, infatuated or what? I'm starting to get really down
Q. Well, I don´t know what is this that I feel. I think and feel is love but hopeless one.I need your help. A year and a half ago, delivering phones I met some military guys and one of the was the one who caught my attention. I liked hi...
A. 10 October 2008: If your feelings are that strong then you should not give up on him. You never know he could be your soul mate. I've been experiencing the same thing with my guy friend, and when things don't turn as I think they should or he doesn't say what I ... (read in full...)
She left 3 weeks ago to get some space and I'm so scared I will lose her for good! Help!
Q. My wife left me 3 weeks ago. I feel like my world has fallen around me. She left because she said she isn't happy and loves me but she is not in love with me. I'm so scared I love her and I don't want her to leave with my 2 year old girl. I try to ...
A. 10 October 2008: It sounds like you are leaving some things out of the story. What has lead her to feel like she's not in love with you? She will always love you as a person because naturally you are the father of her daughter, but there had to be some leading up to ... (read in full...)
He has been cheating on me, what do I do now?!
Q. I have found out that he has cheated and Im not sure if I can get over it. He has not wilinginly admitted to it and he has been with the same girl off and on for over a year every time we would supposedly break up..which mind you was quite a bit. ...
A. 9 October 2008: Talking to the girl usually doesn't make any difference. My husband cheated on me with some girl and I talked with her to let her know that he is married with a child and lives with us. Do you know she continued to date him and eventually got ... (read in full...)
Can you fix a marriage when your heart is not in it?
Q. I'm married with 2 young kids and I'm feeling like leaving my husband for a guy I knew when I was 15-20 (I'm now 36). My husband and I have been together 7 years, having gotten pregnant in the first 6 months of knowing one another. We have had many ...
A. 9 October 2008: Well it sounds as though you really are ready for a change. I can relate seeing as my husband and I got married within the first 6 months of our relationship also (because I was pregnant). I was never really head over hills in love with my husband, ... (read in full...)
He has been cheating on me, what do I do now?!
Q. I have found out that he has cheated and Im not sure if I can get over it. He has not wilinginly admitted to it and he has been with the same girl off and on for over a year every time we would supposedly break up..which mind you was quite a bit. ...
A. 8 October 2008: I'm sorry you had to find out about this. I've been there so I know it's painful. I'm kinda of confused on your story though. If you and your bf were broke up when he was with the other girl, how was he cheating on you. And if you two weren't broke ... (read in full...)
Does he have feelings for me that go beyond friendship?
Q. My friend with benefits (that Ive been seeing for the past 9m) and I have become best friends and have told each other we love each other in the context of friends. From the start he said we could never be anything more than friends because ...
A. 6 October 2008: Guys never really show their feeling too much...but as you said you seen in his eyes that he had feelings for you. With the reaction that he gave you from the news you told him is a confirmation that he does have feelings. At the same time I don't ... (read in full...)
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