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writes:I have a question. What are my options when I have proof that my husband is having an affair and she is living with him and he is in the military? What can I do? Can she get in trouble for having an affair with a married man?
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (8 December 2008):
 His threats are just that honey "Threats" He cannot take the children away from you just because you dont drive or work. He will have to (by law) coninue to support his children. Unless you are an un-fit mother, its very unlikely that he would get the children anyway.
About you reaching "That point", come on sweetie, what more does he have to do to you, for you to realise what a looser he is.
Bugger him!! If he gets in trouble with his command, perhaps he should have thought more about you and the children before he went shagging all and sundry.
Kick him to the curb sister, that man is a waste of space. XXX
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reader, klddmartin +, writes (6 December 2008):
klddmartin is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello. To all of you who gave me advice, I thank you so much. I really do appreciate it. This has happened to me 7 other times before with my husband, but this time is different because he actually has the woman living with him while he is supposed to be in training. I know what I have to do, it's just getting myself to that point. The only thing I am unsure of is getting him in trouble with his command. I still have to think about that one. I just know that I'm not going to sit back while they have their fun at mine and my kids' expense. We get to be miserable, and with our lives destroyed, while they get to live their lives and have fun. He has also threatened to take my kids from me now. I don't drive and I don't work and he says he can use that against me to take them from me. So, now I am freaking out about it. Anyway, like I said, I really do appreciate all the help you guys have given me. Thank you so much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): NO she cant get in trouble. But i know how you feel, i waited 11 months for my husband to come home from Iraq, he was home for 3weeks and had an affair on his lunch break! We are now seeking counceling but i can honestly say i may never look at him the same.The best of luck to you and PLEASE PLEASE keep your head up high!!
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reader, Serenity1 +, writes (5 December 2008):
 My husband is in the AMERICAN military and he has not only had one child out of wedlock but three. One with one girl back home and a set of twins by a girl he met in the military. He does pay spousal and child support. NO, she won't get in trouble, he will though, if you report adultry to his chief he may be put out of the military totally, and it would result in an dishonorable discharge. I personally decided not to do this because he is the father of our son and i wouldn't want his career to be ruined, BUT i am currently taking steps towards our divorce.But No is the answer to your question. The girl can't force him to do anything. He would be the one who ultimately gets disciplined and she would go on about her life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): I hope so give them hell babe,if he is doing the dirty, make sure they get all they are due,make their life as bad as they have made yours.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (5 December 2008):
Leave the Bugger, he is not worth your love. If they get into trouble then thats tough luck on both of them isnt it???
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (5 December 2008):
I'm not sure of the rules in the American military but over here in the UK, he can get yelled at and so will she.
At the end of the day though, as long as he is supporting you financially then there is not a lot they can do.
The best thing you can do is to move out and not be there when he gets home.
Good Luck!! xx
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