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writes: What are the most serious problems you got? I feel I have way too many problems, and I wonder if it s normal, to have so many problems, and pain. I wonder what are your, most painful events, in your life? My problems are , lost my house, my parents abused me, my marriage broke down, had 2 car accidents. I got fired ,My best friend has 3 month to live. there is more.My son is epileptic. What should I think? Is this happening for a reason? How can I explain all that to myself?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): HiSo long as you coping... take it all in your stride challenges overcome. Problems you ask. Alcoholic father, lived in fear, unhappy childhood, physically abused by first boyfriend, emotionally and mentally abused by second serious boyfreind, Was a carer for 3 years and treated like crap, new partner dies of kidney disease, depression for year, sister and brother sent me to coventry for 3 years, wrongly blamed for the fallout. Nearly killed in motorbike accident, knocked over by a motor bike, Moved to Spain for job that never existed, self harmed couple of times, found three lumps in my breast, not cancer but unable to remove too deep, family history problem medium risk of them turning cancerous. New partner cousin so whole family fell out with me, partner gets bowel cancer, has illiostomy bag, Now mrsa, His mother just died...The list is endless.. probably like many of us out here... but life goes on. It's all about how you handel it, do you fold or do you keep smiling and know that life has challenges. Good luck. p.s. I love my past the greatest teacher, and I look forward to the future.. but above all I love the MOMENT AND I'M 40.v.c.d.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008): You are not alone. Most of us have a lot of problems, we live a life, thing supposed to happen. At one point of my life I was so down, that couldn't live the house, only because I thought I was unfairely fired from my job.
Then my daughter, my only child grew up and left accross the country leaving me completely devastated. Then my mom got clinical depression and ended up in nursing home at the age of 64. Next year my husband lost his job, and for 2 years we didn't know how to pay bills. The year after I was in a really bad car accident and ended up completely terrified of driving.
And only after my childhood friend died of cancer at the age of 41 last year, I realized what a great life I have. I have a beatifull healthy child, that loves us very much and turned out to be a great human being, both of my parents are alive, my husband got his job back, I started driving again after few sessions with psychologist. I am healthy, I move, I breath, I travel, I go out, I have friends that love me, I have a place to live, I am not starving. I miss my friend very much, he is not a part of my life anymore, there is no more talks and laughs, no more happy hours after work together, no more picnics, no more birthday parties (we had birthdays one week apart), but the way I see life is different. I appreciate much more everything good I have, don't concentrate on my past that much.
I turned to spiritual activiies, like meditation, breathing technics. Kandolini yoga helped me a lot. self-help books, such as "The four agreements". Good luck
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reader, Serenity1  +, writes (26 November 2008):
 i sincerly apologize for your pain. i actually could feel it through your post. don't let your mind tell you that your a failure and that everything is bad or a problem in your life. what you son has was not in your control. some things are just not in our control. GOD, our Lord Jesus Christ is in control of everything. you are breathing and have a chance to start over brand new with job, marriage, forgive parents (and not let the abusive past hender your future), home, etc.
you are only in your early to mid 30's, life is NOT over for you. i suggest you pray and go to church, maybe find someone to pray with you. i can promise you the Jesus will restore you with joy and peace and contentment in your situation.
May God bless you
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reader, MisterPerky  +, writes (26 November 2008):
First of all, i'm sorry i have no idea how you must be feeling. All i know is that through the darkest tunnels there is always a light. And even if you stop or stumble there will always be a hand to guide you to the end. myself hidden to others i had an addiction to pornography i hated myself, trufully did not feel like i was worth more then dirt. Then i got into the alcohol and at first i thought it would cure all my problems but no. Then i met my girlfriend she was that hand to guide me. But also god was always there i just hadnt acknowledged him at all through these times. And i know that they will always be there for me. You can be there for you friend your son. You can forgive your parents for what they did to you. You can find someone that will truly love and provide for you. And between all that you can find you. Do not worry or fret. If you fall you WILL be picked up.
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reader, Asked Angel  +, writes (26 November 2008):
 I'm am truly sorry for all the terrible thigs that have happened. I can umderstand how easy it must be to feel so very very negative. The only way i have found to get though things that have happened to me is to try and focus on the postive. This can be incredibly hard. I really don't belive things are happening for a reason other than they are terrrible things that are all happening to you all at once.
I really don't know how to help, other than to say if you really feeling down and depressed maybe a professional councillar could help. Just having somebody to talk things though with really helped me. Especially because it was someone impatial who didn't judge.
I'm so sorry if i wasn't much help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008): some people are raised as slaves... things like child sex slaves
some are raped and then killed...
some are poor people in countries with no technlogy that live of plant roots and bath in mudholes...
some people are killed as babies and never got to live their life!
dont mean to sound stupid and all preachery or something but its totally true!
enjoy life! the air! the colours! the food! that you have a son! heaps of people have epilepsy and lead great lives! my friends younger sister has that and that isnt stopping her from being a successful graphic designer and have lots of great friends and a great boyfriend...
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