What should I do about my girlfriend? She won't tell me what's wrong!
Q. My GF had on and off mood swings which I can not figure out, sometime when I'm with her shes really hyper and happy and that but when I'm at work and she is at home I call her on the phone and she just goes quiet and doesn't really talk. I sa...
A. 15 July 2009: About the phone thing: Some people are just not good on the phone. I've actually had women complain to ME about this because i'm a completely different person in PERSON then i am on the phone. I blame it on the way i was raised.. My grandfather ... (read in full...)
Did she want to talk to me?
Q. I go 3 times a week with my mum to the hospital so she can have her dialysis. There's this girl in the dialysis unit she runs a exercise program she keeps looking at me and when i look back she turns away (i asked on here before about her doing ...
A. 15 July 2009: The only way to know is to ask. Think about it this way: If you ask her, and she says she's not interested, at least you know. Of course, there's also the chance that she IS Interested and you've got a date! If you don't ask, you're stu... (read in full...)
Am I just a way to get over his girlfriend?
Q. i have feeling for one of my best male friends. we a re very flirty and there is a strong chemistry. he has a gf but we have kissed quite a few times recently, without anyone knowing. i want to know if he has feelings for me or i am just a way to ...
A. 15 July 2009: Yeah, i agree with Samii. Most guys are quite happy to have their cake and eat it too. Do you really want to be "The other girl" in a relationship?... (read in full...)
We've been married 29 years and never fight, Is that common?
Q. me and my husand (mod note: named removed! please do not include full names in your posts) have been married for 23 years and been together for 29 years and i want to know if its common if we never fight i mean we talk about problems but really we ...
A. 15 July 2009: I have to say it's NOT normal, but i don't think that it is in anyway a bad thing. I have never known a couple that didn't fight at least once in a blue moon. You are very lucky indeed!... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't like sex and can't be bothered with it!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now. He is the most wonderful boyfriend and most amazing person I've ever been with. When I'm with him I feel happy and content. I adore this guy and I hope to be with him for a long time. The problem ...
A. 15 July 2009: Hmm, have you told him (and really convinced him) that you REALLY don't mind not being able to orgasm? I have to say that I could understand dreading sex if he's not able to get you to orgasm. I think wanting to insure that your partner is FULLY... (read in full...)
I think she still has deep feelings for her ex. Should I prepare for the worst?
Q. I've been dating this wonderful girl for about a year and eight months. She used to screw around with another guy before we got together, even occasionally when she was in a relationship. When we started dating, she said that was over. So did he...
A. 14 July 2009: I think you have to talk to her about this. Don't bring up that you're reading through her stuff, but i would tell her that you can "just tell" that she's obessesing over him. This isn't fair to you. ... (read in full...)
My best friends BF has been cracking onto me, what to do?
Q. I love my boyfriend. I love my bff as well, but her boyfriend kissed me. He also flirts with me when my bff and my boyfriend aren't around. He's always touching me and trying to hug me. I want to tell my boyfriend, but I'm too afraid that he'll ...
A. 14 July 2009: Yeah, in this situation....I mean if you really care about your friend, you HAVE to warn her about what kind of guy she's dealing with here.. Even if you don't want to tell your boyfriend, i would tell your friend..... (read in full...)
He visits chat rooms and dating sites, yet he accuses me of hiding things!
Q. I have been with my bloke for 3 years. for the last two he has developed a habit of visiting chat rooms and dating sites. we broke up time and time again. i get denial,aggressive behaviour,or blame. he says things like how do i know you dont go on ...
A. 14 July 2009: Okay, playing a bit of Devil's Advocate here: I am someone who i have to admit that when i'm in a relationship, i sometimes tend to find my way onto a dating website and look around a bit... I find i do this when i'm at a point in the relat... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to give me a handjob, and I'm a bit unsure of what to do
Q. Hey, I've been seeing this girl for not too long now. we've just been kissing and thats about it. I've been out with loads of girls before, but have not done anything but kissing and rubbing. She said she is going to give me a handjob next week. Bu...
A. 14 July 2009: Yep, i would sit back and enjoy it... Hope that she knows what she's doing... (I've had many girls try to give me handjobs, but not many of them have been successful at getting me off!) If you're going to cum, I would let her know... Not only w... (read in full...)
Are relationships with younger guys doomed from the start?
Q. hey im 28 and i always seem to attract younger guys. i am young looking myself but is it going to work ou with guys that ar 23 cause so far it hasnt. or is it the fact im in love with sumone already that is spoken for but yet i can see it in his ...
A. 14 July 2009: Yeah, i think alot of it depends on the maturity level of the guy... I've seen it go both ways.. Some younger guys with older women work out REALLY well, and other younger guys use older women until they reach point where they figured out what they ... (read in full...)
Rumors are swirling around at work about us and we aren't together!
Q. hi hope someone can maybe shed some light on what could be going on here. A few months ago a new guy joined my work and we seemed to get on ok. Over the last 2 - 3 months or so he has been talking to me more and we seemed to have a connection. my ...
A. 14 July 2009: I was in a bit of a similar situation. It really is an amazing thing when you see true chemistry between 2 people. There's something electric in the air. A girl i worked with and i...Everytime we were working together on ANYTHING we would have ... (read in full...)
I've got a new boyfriend, but I still think and dream about my ex. Why can't I move on?
Q. Dear Cupid, i keep dreamin and thinkin aut my ex. I think about him a lot more than i do my current boyfriend. I dont know why though, my ex treated me like shit and is a horibble person but iwas in love wit him. It ended about two months ago and...
A. 14 July 2009: I'm 6 years later, 3 years happily married, and i still have the occasional dream about my ex girlfriend. She was my first true love. I think it's one of those situations where if you truly did love someone, you just might never forget the... (read in full...)
I'm so frustrated! I put a lot of effort in with this girl and it was a waste of time!
Q. I went out with this girl I met online. I really liked her and we went out three more times after that. She was really cold and despite going out with me a few times, it looked like she wasn’t interested. I was frustrated but each time I would ...
A. 14 July 2009: Eh, it's all a learning experience. Part of the trick of finding "the right girl" in a dating situation is finding someone who is at the same place as you and looking for the same things in a relationship. I think it's also important to rem... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so ugly all the time?
Q. Why do I feel so ugly all the time? It's not like I'm disfigured or anything, I'm normal, but nothing special. My friends have always been prettier than me though, got all the attention, etc. Sometimes I feel OK, but the minute I'll watch TV an...
A. 9 July 2009: Eh, you're at an age right now where physical beauty still takes precedence over emotional beauty...
Give it a couple more years, and you'll start to find that more and more people recognize the brand of your beauty, and really start to apprecia... (read in full...)
How to get my abusive fiance to leave me??
Q. i got engaged 4 months ago to a guy 5 years older than me who neither my family nor i knew. His family were friends with some of my parents relatives. It wasn't quite arranged - my family arent quite the typical muslim family - I grew up in ...
A. 9 July 2009: I'm with Satindesire. You can say "engagements are ironclad", but seriously.. Think about this.. You will be living with this guy for the rest of your life. Do you really want that? Make it stop NOW. Take a stand. It's time you have to realize ... (read in full...)
I called her a random celebrity name while having sex!
Q. I was making love with my fiance and by mistake I call her an random celebrity name. She got really upset, then angry she threw her engagement ring at me then she went her friend's. I called her friend (my fiance wouldn`t pick up) and ask her to ...
A. 8 July 2009: Wow, see to me a random celebrity name would not bother me at all. I was having sex with a girl and she called me by her ex-bf's name.. THAT one stung. But a celebrity? Eh, i would laugh that one off and probably play it up :P Still, t... (read in full...)
I can feel his erection when we hug! How do I let him know in the right way?
Q. First off, my boyfriend and I work together. We don't have a lot of days off together, so we see eachother at work most of the time. Coworkers aren't allowed to date, so we act like everythings normal when people are around, so naturally there's ...
A. 7 July 2009: ...well, i don't know how far or crazy you want to take it, but you'd probably blow his mind if you touched it... Otherwise, i might just kind of rub yourself against it as you embrace (if you're comfortable with that.) There are ways to co... (read in full...)
I'm not a leper am I?
Q. I'm a 20 year old girl. My parents are pretty old fashioned and conservative, especially my mom. She's spent my whole life telling me what I can wear, who I can hang out with, ect. My mom has even told me she doesn't want me dating.....
A. 7 July 2009: I'm 30 now, and remember feeling the very same way back when i was 19... I had never dated, and worried that i probably never would...
As a result, i started forcing the issue, and got myself into a bunch of relationships that i truly regrette... (read in full...)
Can 2 different religions work in a relationship?
Q. hi there, what do you think of relationship between two of with different religion can such a relationship work? is it difficult? what's your views about it??...
A. 7 July 2009: It really depends on the individuals. My mom is an atheist, and my dad a staunch catholic, but they managed to work it out. Myself, on the flipside, was in a relationship with a very hardcore baptist (i teeter on the agnostic side of things, ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to date your best friends brother?
Q. Hi, needing some advice. Nothing has happened yet but I want to get some advice before it does so that maybe I have a better idea of what I'm doing. A few months ago my best friend went away abroad for a year - shes studying abroad. We're r...
A. 7 July 2009: Eh, i had a bit of a reverse situation.. I started dating my best friend's sister. I fell head over heels for her, and we dated for 2 years. It wound up ending VERY badly, and i was so hurt by the experience that i just could not continue h... (read in full...)
Why would she text me after telling me to forget about her?
Q. I went through this painful breakup with my now EXGF about a month and a half ago. Two weeks ago we ran into each other at the store and I said Hi and she said hi back without making too much eye contact. the next day I sent her a text just saying ...
A. 7 July 2009: Women are complicated creatures. I had a similar issue in a breakup. They don't want you to get over them. They want you to miss them and want them. I was dumped by a girl, and stayed out of her life for 4 months without a peep. I then ran int... (read in full...)
Living together is a nightmare! I feel too young to be bogged down with all this
Q. Basically this is a rant and a rave about my boyfriend cos hes pissing me off lately. I'm 19 years old and never lived away from home until three months ago when i moved in with my boyfriend. It was a totally irrational decision and wasnt though...
A. 19 June 2009: Eh, to me it sounds like you're not ready to be out on your own. I think you need to move back home with your parents. I'm not sure where you're at on the 18-21 scale, but you're reaching that point where you almost need to start working at least... (read in full...)
I have a crush on this actor--help me understand what he may think of me?
Q. I met an actor, who i have a crush on, after a show I saw him in. We are the same age. Me and my friend went for a drink with him afterwards. Some of the other cast members were in the pub too, but most of them left before he did. At one point,he ...
A. 19 June 2009: Not much to add to that hasn't already been said, other then just a general warning:
I hate to generalize, but there are an AWFUL lot of male actors out there who are gay. Be prepared for that possibility.
I know the that in the one drama co... (read in full...)
Why don't men get it?
Q. Why dont men understand? If men were the ones who had the babies and their bodies stretched and scarred how would they feel if their women were masturbating over buffed men 20 years younger than them...? I still don't get how men seem to think ...
A. 19 June 2009: Eh, i'm a guy who kinda felt the same way when my wife used to be unable to with-hold comments on the attractiveness of men that we would see when we were out and about.. One night in particular we were out at a restaurant, and my wife felt the ne... (read in full...)
Why are the majority of men bad in bed?
Q. If all men supposedly view porn (which seems to be the consensus on this site) and it is supposed to give you hints and tips to spice up your sex life (isn't this what all guys say), then why is it the majority of men are crap in bed. This was a ...
A. 16 June 2009: Eh, i don't know anyone who watches porn for tips... Getting "good" at sex takes practice and experimentation. I was lucky enough, back when i was 18, to hook up with a girl who was more then willing to put the time in...We spent literally hours ... (read in full...)
She starts chasing me after I stopped caring
Q. Hi I'm a 28 year old man. I was pursuing this girl, she is a bank teller, very pretty. One day I just walked up to her booth and gave her my phone #. She called me a few dys later and we started going out, got along real well. it all lasted about a ...
A. 15 June 2009: Your story is basically the story of my entire life!
I find many women don't like to be pursued, they like a challenge.. It has always seemed like the less i seem to care for a woman, the more in love they are with me. The second i start to r... (read in full...)
Please help me. Is my boyfriend cheating? He says this is a set up.
Q. Hello, I am 28 years old mother of a 10 year old daughter. MY past relationships haven't been all that great. My first husband cheated on me numerous times but I stayed with him to try and work things out. Well that was back in 2003 that we got...
A. 29 May 2009: Eh, the guys a professional attorney, which makes me think he's probably a very effective liar.
I definitely get a funny vibe here. Also agree that that's an AWFUL lot of work for someone living so far away from you to try to set up...
I... (read in full...)
How reliable are home pregnancy tests?
Q. I'm having a problem af now 2 months late I made a docs appointment for June 2 or 3rd I cant remember But I took a number of hpts and the epts were very faint while the first response showed negative I wanted to know how many pregnancies weren't ...
A. 29 May 2009: Well, i have a funny story about that....
My girlfriend dropped this bomb on me one day: "I took a home pregnancy test, and guess what? I'm pregnant!"
I freaked out, and immediately got her into the car and to the doctors to get this confirm... (read in full...)
He seems genuine, but my friends think he is just after sex! Tell me what you think.
Q. Let me apologize in advance for the long posting. I met a guy through some mutual friends about a year ago. We were paired up in their wedding. That was the first time we had met in person. He seemed like a nice guy. We talked for a while at the ...
A. 27 May 2009: I don't know many guys just looking for sex who would bring flowers for your dad at the hospital. This guy sounds like he could be a good one!... (read in full...)
I don't like being on top, its grosses me out!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a while now and we have sex on a regular basis but the problem isn't him...it's me! I'm ok with the having sex part but I hate going on top and I don't like giving blow jobs or hand jobs either...the thought of it ...
A. 27 May 2009: Hmm..i've always looked at being on top as being more beneficial to the girl then to the guy.. You're in complete control, and able to insure that you get off, ya know? I've always found that when the girl is on top, she goes till she gets off, and ... (read in full...)
Addicted to porn
Q. About a month ago my boyfriend and I talked about how much his watching porn bothered me, he said he would stop because of how much it bothered me. After several weeks of assuring me he had not watched any porn, yesterday I found out he was lying...
A. 26 May 2009: Eh, i can definitely understand lying about watching porn. I don't think alot of people realize just HOW common it is for guys to watch porn.. It's just not something alot of us talk about, and so when we are found out i think we're just really ... (read in full...)
He's sweet and lovely and caring... and cheating on his girlfriend with me.
Q. I'm in a bit of a mess... I met a man through one of my male friends. He has a girlfriend of 2months. He has text me day and night for the past week and a half and even when she is there with him he does it, he seems so caring and nice espcially i...
A. 26 May 2009: EH, you'd be surprised how far a guy will go if it means sex.
So he's only been going with his friend's sister for 2 months and is already regretting it? I think he's got to man up and break it off with her.. It's not like it's that hard at ... (read in full...)
I feel awful that I know he's having an affair. Do I tell his wife?
Q. I have been struggling with a large amount of guilt for many years. I was very aware that one of my mutual friend's husband "Dan" was having an affair while their children were quite young and I never had the nerve to tell her. The longer it went ...
A. 26 May 2009: Hmm....I dunno if there is any way that you could anonymously deliver the info? That way you don't have to deal with the personal issues of "Why didn't you tell me before?" I know at one point in my life when i was a kid...Someone was obviousl... (read in full...)
Date will be without alcohol this time and I'm nervous!
Q. I have a date tonight with a man ive seen 3 times but each time we was drunk and was out partying...tonight have to meet him from work with no alcohol....im so scared he will take one look at me and be like yuck....im so nervous to the point my ...
A. 26 May 2009: Just remember: Confidence is sexy! If you've seen each other 3 times (drunk or not!) and are going ahead with a meeting, i think it's safe to say he sees something there that he likes..
Go in, and have fun with it.... (read in full...)
Trip of a lifetime planned with ex but don't know if I should go!
Q. I recently split from my partner of 2 years because i felt he did not treat me right and i gave him multiple chances to change. When we split, i wasnt sure if it were for good or to see if he'd actually change because i had left him. However, i ...
A. 26 May 2009: He's playing you, because he obviously knows how to manipulate you.
This is one thing i've never understood: Why would you go on a trip with someone you just broke up with? That can only bring trouble and heartache, can't it? ... (read in full...)
Would you try to clear up the rumor?
Q. Just a quick question. If you thought that someone you know had heard a stupid rumour, which involved you and them, and it wasn't true, would you try and put things right? I don't know if this person i know has ever heard the rumour, but as t...
A. 25 May 2009: Eh, i would say try to talk to them one time. Give it one chance. They may believe you, they may not.
All you can do is tell them "look, i know this is out there, and it's NOT TRUE."
From there they have to make a decision on whether they bel... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is blaming me for becoming pregnant, but he didnt wear a condom so arent we both equally to blame?
Q. I feel like my boyfriend is blaming me for becoming pregnant but as much as i should have asked him to put a condom on, he didnt think to either. I'm mature about it and i understand that we were both absolute imbociles and we BOTH made the mistake ...
A. 25 May 2009: Eh, speaking as someone who was in a similar situation, he's just scared right no. Scared and...well, no one likes to be that "you should have used protection" guy...
It's tough having to go to your family and friends and say "Yeah....uh, she's pr... (read in full...)
I slept with my ex-gf, but she says she's in love with another guy, should I believe her?
Q. Last Week I had sex with my now ex-gf. it's been a month since she broke up, because she told me she didnt love me, but she had feelings for another guy. She gets mad when I tell her she doesn't love this dude even though she slept with me and she's ...
A. 21 May 2009: Some girls are funny like that after a breakup. They like to play games. The best thing for you is to sever all ties and keep her out of your life for a couple of months.
I had a girl who dumped me, but then was incredibly concerned that i m... (read in full...)
Are accidental burps/farts a turn off to guys?
Q. a bit of a strange question i know, but is it completely off putting for a guy when your girlfriend accidentally burps/farts while they're with them? and i dont mean on a regular basis, just a once off thing where its just loud and undeniably came ...
A. 21 May 2009: ..Hehe, speaking from experience.. My wife is an absolutely drop dead gorgeous beauty who, every so often, will take you by surprise with the most ridiculous burps or farts that you could ever imagine..
I actually find it quite endearin... (read in full...)
What do I do in bed?
Q. Ok so im new to this whole sex thing, ive had sex once with my boyfriend so far, and we have messed around a lot in bed, hes given me oral a few times, hes fingered me a lot and i have given him a hand job a few times. However i cant help but thin...
A. 19 May 2009: Eh, what i learned was: When in doubt, just do what feels good.
In the act of sexual intercourse, it's amazing how often just doing what feels good is the RIGHT thing to do for both parties...
Just give yourself over to your instincts. ... (read in full...)
Had sex on second date and now he is making excuses!
Q. Hello. I am 23 year old. I met this guy in the university, he is 29. He didn’t know how to approach me so he started talking with my friend and that is how he got my email. We chatted and invite me to a friend's party, of course with my friend too. ...
A. 19 May 2009: Yep, i think you were the rebound girl. Speaking as someone that did something very similar to a girl after a breakup, I would definitely recommend moving on. ... (read in full...)
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