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writes:Hello,I am 28 years old mother of a 10 year old daughter. MY past relationships haven't been all that great. My first husband cheated on me numerous times but I stayed with him to try and work things out. Well that was back in 2003 that we got our divorce. I am currently dating a 48 year old man (been dating 5 months) who is very successful attorney. I am rather mature for my age I own a home and I am a working professional. We are both in the same legal field. He is a great man and we have many things in common. Here is my confusion part. Recently a girl came to my door and said that she had followed me home and had something she had to get off her chest. She said that she had been seeing my boy friend since April of 2009 and that he was her man and for me to back off. She showed me some of his text messages that he had sent her. When I confronted him about it he said that he did not cheat on me that he never would that he loves me, and that he thinks its my ex boy friend trying to set him up. I talked to my ex boy friend who lives in Colorado I live in Florida. And he said he didn't didn't set my boy friend up. I have asked my friends about it and they said I should drop this guy like a bad habbit before any more time is invested in it. Please, please help with my confusion.Confused My friend
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (2 June 2009):
 Make sure you report the vandalism to the police. She could be a former client of his as well, someone who wasn't happy with the outcome of trial/case he worked on? Not sure what your BF i doing work-wise but I would definitely call the cops.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2009): Yeah, she is a bunny boiler. That said, she wouldn't be there if he isn't seeing her, too, however, so that should clear up any confusion on your part I would think. He is lying to you, that would be the main take away from this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): yep - sounds like a bunny boiler to me. They write rude things on cars when they're not happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): He got busted, she showed you the text messages, the evidence is in....the jury rests. He is a baaaaddd liar.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok well after this girl told me all this stuff my car was vandalised. Writing on the windshield saying " whore " " bitch "
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (29 May 2009):
Wow, not sure if he is cheating or what is going on, but it seems VERY odd.
First off, the fact that he "blamed" YOUR ex to try and set him up, that reeks of deflection. I honestly would talk to that woman again of possible and then go with your gut.
You have done great by yourself with your daughter, don't date someone if he isn't 100% worthy of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2009): this guy has been boning 2 woman from the same work place at the same time? even he himself should have seen this coming. your attorney lover just got busted and he makes a poor defense attorney, even just for himself.
yep, i also agree with q1605. run girl run!
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reader, Rogerramjet  +, writes (29 May 2009):
Eh, the guys a professional attorney, which makes me think he's probably a very effective liar.
I definitely get a funny vibe here. Also agree that that's an AWFUL lot of work for someone living so far away from you to try to set up...
I tend to think this guy is probably trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2009): I tend to think your friends have got the right idea because I can't imagine an ex who lives halfway across the country getting some female in Florida to come chasing after you to show you text messages from this man.
Before going off the deep end, if possible, get in touch with this woman again and ask her to prove to you that the messages are from his phone - I assume you have his mobile number.
If they are, I don't think there can be much doubt that he's either got two of you on the go or she's a 'bunny boiler'. The question is, which of you was he seeing first - you or her?
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