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I try to speak from the heart and give advice that makes sense, comes from personal experience and that you can hopefully relate to your situation.
I'm not perfect, I don't think anyone but Jesus was or is. If I make a mistake in my comment to you, let me know through feedback or a message and I can learn from it.
I counsel a few clients and friends with life issues, faith based issues and anything they need just a welcome shoulder to cry on or talk to.
If I could give one piece of advice to anyone who comes here it would be:
*Be yourself
*Don't let anyone else put you down
*No one can live your life for you
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What's up with this old friend?
Q. What is up with my childhood friend? He has a girlfriend but has always been very protective of me with other guys i went out with saying they arent good enough and giving them dirty looks. Hes in his 30s im nearly 30 he seems to have put his ...
A. 3 May 2014: Hi,
"I don't wan't to tell him I love him", do you love him?
Some of his actions sound like an older brother figure (protecting you) , but then others make him appear jealous and playing love songs (unless a joke or to make you smile) is out of... (read in full...)
Is it weird that my boyfriend of a year and a half had pictures of him and his ex girlfriends on a hard drive that he bought after we started going out?
Q. I'm keeping my question short and sweet really. Is it weird that my boyfriend of a year and a half had pictures of him and his ex girlfriends on a hard drive that he bought after we started going out? Bearing in mind he's been broken up with o...
A. 1 May 2014: Hi, I think if they are still friends, having pictures (depending on the content) are ok. You for instance wouldn't burn an entire photo album, because you had fallen out with one person in a few of the pictures. If he constantly looks at them... (read in full...)
Should I try and get back with him? Will it be different the second time round? How do I know if he wants to make it work with me?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of two years, a year ago and I'm still in love with him. A few months after we broke up I left home to travel Europe and live in London. I'm still in London, and will return home in August this year. Since I left, I have ...
A. 1 May 2014: Hi, Unless both of you have suddenly changed or grown into different people, then it will be exactly the same. I think by constantly talking to him, you haven't given yourself time to get over him. You are young and that crush you are feeling, ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy because of lack of sexual release? Or is "craziness" determined by genetics alone?
Q. I am far too embarrassed to ask anyone I know about this, so here it is: Can you go crazy from never getting sexual relief? I'm a 25 year old virgin, and I've also never had an orgasm. A long time ago, I believed you didn't need to have...
A. 1 May 2014: Hi, I've counselled a number of men and women who seemed to be exactly in your situation, they too thought they were going nuts because they weren't getting off. Some people can go a day, week, month without sex (others need it every day). Ther... (read in full...)
What sexuality am I?
Q. Okay this isn't a major problem but I just wondered. I have always wondered about my sexuality, and when I was 15 I was pretty sure I was bisexual, but since then its kinda changed as I presumed that was just...
A. 1 May 2014: Hi there,
I don't think you need to pigeon hole yourself into a label, you are only young and starting out. You are going to be attracted to both men and women, there is honestly no hard and fast rules when it comes to orientation.
You can... (read in full...)
I love her but she played with my mind
Q. Hi guys, I have a long story, that I'll try to sum up. I'm 23 and I was talking to my manager at work who is 26. We texted and talked all day and all night, flirting, dirty talk, etc. He asked me to meet him privately and I said no, cuz I wanted...
A. 1 May 2014: Hi,
It's a hard thing to judge when it comes to colleagues who work together. But for certain he shouldn't have been flirting if he had a girlfriend, especially one who you were also friends with.
I would always err on the side of caution and n... (read in full...)
My husband never touches or kisses me during sex
Q. I love my husband very much. We get along great. Sex is my only complaint. I'm very sexual and enjoy sex. My husband doesn't kiss or touch me at all when we have sex. Even when I go down on him, nothing...he says he likes it but never touches me or ...
A. 1 May 2014: Hi Taurusgal, I have a few males I counsel about sexual issues in their relationship. From what you describe it could be that he has a low sex drive and is just giving you sex because he loves you and that makes him just want to get it over and ... (read in full...)
Is porn getting in the way of our relationship?
Q. My bf is 22 and I am 24. He watches porn A LOT. As in, a few times a day. I know that most men look at porn, but is this like normal? Our sex life is ok but I feel it sometimes comes to a point where he prefers watching porn over having sex. (He, ...
A. 30 April 2014: Hi, I think that sometimes as a young man or woman you don't really know what to expect from a partner, what they like in the bedroom etc. It's all about exploring together and finding what you both like, what you can compromise on etc. I wou... (read in full...)
How much does porn influence a mans expectations of how a woman should look naked?
Q. Ok please help aunts and uncles .... I'm single and ready to date again after a lengthy marriage. I have met a few guys but one really nice one and I'm pretty sure things will become physical soon I'm just a little worried thought as I know he has...
A. 30 April 2014: Hi, It's a good question and one not easily answered. I would say that you can't tar all men with the likes porn brush. Some people, women included use porn as a heightener to sexual intercourse. For instance a couple I regularly see, watch po... (read in full...)
Help, my dreams are making me paranoid!
Q. Hey, aunts and uncles, Just a quick question, lately I've been dreaming about my boyfriend cheating he's never cheated, but my dreams are making me think he is, I've had some wheres married and my best friend new I have children with him and.he'...
A. 30 April 2014: Hi,
If you ever happen to look at a dream meaning book, you will see that they don't correlate to what happens in the dream.
For instance death in a dream, actually means something like a time of change. So your partner cheating though ... (read in full...)
His focus is not on me anymore. Is this the beginning of the end of our relationship?
Q. I need to start by saying i feel like a stupid teenager for feeling the way i do bout the changes in my relationship. Like i'm being a whiney, clingy, insecure, jealous teeny-bopper. But, this is how I feel, so here goes. We've been together 10 ...
A. 27 April 2014: Hi, Thank you for the question. I don't think you are clingy or whiney, these things can affect us at any age and has nothing to do with being a teenager. (We just get more used to it as we get older). From what you describe, when you got a job... (read in full...)
Sex/Intercourse with a partner versus Head/Fellatio with a partner? Why can't I orgasm from the latter and prefer Intercourse instead?
Q. So is something wrong with me that I can't seem to come from getting head? I've only ever gotten it from my girlfriend (she's my first) and I never come from it, I got close once but generally it doesn't feel as good as sex. Is this normal? I me...
A. 27 April 2014: Hi, I think it comes down to personal preference a lot of the time, some men can only get off from penetration and others have to help themselves get off. I don't think it means anything bad, most of the time climaxing is a result of a numbe... (read in full...)
How do I handle this? My long term Bf cannot look me in the eye. He is also sleeping a lot. What could be wrong?
Q. I need some people to talk to please.. Ok now today my boyfriend wouldn't look at me all day. We been together half our life's i know something is wrong. But finding out what it is will be hard. He just keeps saying everything is fine nothing is w...
A. 27 April 2014: Hi,
Men are for the most part just as insecure as women. It could be that for one reason or another, he doesn't like himself at the moment. This can lead to depression and anxiety, which could be the reason he is sleeping a lot.
You don't men... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of my relationships failing once the "spark" dies!
Q. Hi everyone, my question is about infatuation or the "spark", and about my fears of getting into relationships. My last boyfriend dumped me a few months ago. We were together for a year. I really did love him but always had this bad feeling in my gu...
A. 25 April 2014: Hi there, Relationships don't just happen and work out perfectly (that is only in fairy tales). Some days in a relationship, you or your partner are going to have a bad day at work, hard day at college or just someone cuts past you in the queue... (read in full...)
Sex isn't what I thought it would be!
Q. So I've recently lost my virginity to my lovely boyfriend, and we have sex when we can but we both have house mates which makes the situation slightly awkward! He made my first time great, and although it was still uncomfortable, he was very swe...
A. 25 April 2014: Hi, Thank you for the great question. Penetrative sex (penis in vagina) is normally more pleasurable for the man that the woman I would say. What makes it into making love instead of just sex is the added attention. It may be a great sta... (read in full...)
I want to keep this private. What should I say if classmates ask about my absence, without sounding rude and mean?
Q. Hi I'm 14 and need advice on what to tell people when I go to the therapist. I will go on Monday for the first time. It is weekly and will fall on the same day, time and lesson. The teachers know but I'm unsure about what I'll say to my 'class...
A. 25 April 2014: Hi, Thank you for the question. I would say the best thing to do is have a small "white lie" that you can say. Something that sounds plausible and people won't bat an eyelid. "Oh I sprained my ankle at home and going to a physio" something lik... (read in full...)
Dating just 3 weeks, I'm discovering more and more things about him that don't match what I'm looking for. Am I right to ask?
Q. I've been dating a guy whomImet online for about 3 weeks now and I'm finding that as we're getting to know each other, I'm discovering more and more things about him that don't match what I'm looking for. I'm a fairly private, reserved woman a...
A. 25 April 2014: As with anything where you create your own persona online, there is always going to be some white lies, some falsehoods etc. You have to ask yourself, and I believe you are starting to, "Can I cope with the truths?". As people get older and find t... (read in full...)
New guy I'm seeing admits to having herpes, should I continue seeing him?!
Q. Let me start off with giving you some background information; I just got out of a three year relationship (like early this month!) with my first boyfriend. he confessed to cheating on me 1 time 6 months ago, we broke up. I recently got tested and ...
A. 25 April 2014: If you love someone, you can and I've friends who do, because of other STD's have a life without a sex life. There are lots of things to do without having penetrative sex. Have you seen any test results to confirm herpes? I know it sounds stupid... (read in full...)
I'm gay, but my family are worried about possible abuse I might get. Any advice? Should I try to ease their concerns?
Q. I quickly want to point out that this is not a complaint about my family, I completely understand what they're saying and why, but just wanted to hear some other views on the matter. I am gay, it's no secret, I've always known and my friends a...
A. 25 April 2014: You may find that small towns, which are usually mostly elderly are some of the most understanding places. As an example, an elderly grandfather I know who's grandson is gay stood up to the boys mother when the mother kicked him out of her house... (read in full...)
Should I ask her about her sexual past?
Q. I have been dating a new girl for about 6 months now. Recently we were at the grocery store together when we passed a bottle of chocolate syrup. My girlfriend laughed and said: "I haven't had that stuff since I licked it off some guy's d*ck." M...
A. 20 April 2014: Unless you are both virgins when you get together, everyone has a sexual past. Like someone mentioned getting into a conversation is a slippery slope to somewhere you don't really want to go.
I find wiping the slate clean is always a good policy. ... (read in full...)
Our passion led to unprotected sex!
Q. Before I get to my question, I realize there are steps I need to do instead typing my question on this site. I am already ensuring to take them as far as seeking them, but I do have to wait one more week in order for detectable antibodies to begin ...
A. 20 April 2014: You mention that prior to this you also had unprotected sex at least another 1 time. I would say that self control and self discipline is going to be the one thing you need to learn.
I also don't understand how it can just up and happen, there is... (read in full...)
Husband says he feels like a prostitute because I want him to have sex with me? What can I do?
Q. My husband does not have a sex drive anymore. We are both young in our mid-twenties. We have been together for nearly 10 years. Our sex life has been at times amazing and at times sparse. I always seem to want it more than him. In the past he has u...
A. 20 April 2014: I have seen this time and time again and I often ask the hard question "do you think he may be bisexual or gay?".
I get the feeling that if given the choice, he would rather be a good friend to you, than anything else. The fact you go on dates, t... (read in full...)
Break up because I sent him to work?
Q. Met this guy six months ago. Before that he was working but resigned from his job due to a disagreement with his boss. Six months later and he is still unemployed. Talking all this crap on marriage and having kids which i see it as a sacrifice. I ...
A. 20 April 2014: Sex before marriage is not a slap in the face. Once over that was the way it was done, you waited to find the right person and then once you were married you had 'sex'. From reading your question, I feel that sometimes you are getting angry wi... (read in full...)
A true friend?
Q. Hi Any advice/support would be grateful. So since my friend got herself a boyfriend (they have been together over a year now) she just does not bother with me or any of her other friends. This is going to sound pathetic, but she used to...
A. 31 March 2014: Let her go, don't take it personally as there is always that new relationship stage where you spend every second on each other.
However if she is really dissing her friends, then leave her to it. Enjoy friends who want to be friends with you.... (read in full...)
We get so little time together that distance is creeping in
Q. I have been with my boyfriend almost 8 years however the older we're getting the less time we're spending together. we both live with our parents, but we are in the process of getting a house. he lives away during and comes home at weekends. he has ...
A. 31 March 2014: I would tend to think that it is only going to get worse if you move in together. It seems to me that he is putting his families wishes and thoughts above yours.
That is a really good indication of how things will always be. You don't want to ... (read in full...)
Do you my find it appropriate for a woman to sit on your husband's lap?
Q. My husband and I were with friends last night. We were playing a party game and my husband drew a card which made him "Santa Claus." Two of our male friends sat on his lap as a joke and I also sat on my husband's lap. But then one of our friends ...
A. 31 March 2014: It was a game and everyone was sitting on everyone else's laps. Now if you were at an event or pub and a woman sat on your husband's lap then yes.
I've seen office parties, functions etc where one woman or man who has had too much to drink, w... (read in full...)
We've hooked up twice but have yet to make it past second base, and now I'm wondering if she's not that into me!
Q. So I'm in college as is the girl I've been very interested in for over a year. I've been working hard at getting on her good side, texting her almost every day "randomly" running into her between classes. If I had to guess it's been pretty obvious ...
A. 31 March 2014: I would be very careful that you aren't being used as a booty call. If the girl is like that, and she knows you are into her she will always string you along.
I know guys are exactly the same (not everyone just a handful). If it's readily on tap t... (read in full...)
I don't know if I want this relationship any more...
Q. My boyfriend of a year and a half,and i broke up. We broke up about 3 days ago. We went through each others phone and he saw my fb messages.where guys would hit on me and flirt and i would go along.i would always end up blocking them or cutting ties ...
A. 31 March 2014: To be honest I don't see what you did as a bad thing, Facebook and sites of it's kind are an open source. People post random bits of tat, they take funny pictures and post it.
Now, if you had intentionally decided to use it as a hookup site the... (read in full...)
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