I'm looking for miss right but keep running into miss wrong!
Q. Dear Cupids, I know people have standards but I feel like I rule out woman by my dating pickyness. I am looking for someone who is around my stature(5'11). Someone a little shorter than me and skinny to big boned. I have graduated college(...
A. 14 January 2013: You might get some stick on here about being to prescriptive about the woman you want. Yet women draw up lists (mental or otherwise!) of the traits they need in a man. Then normally someone comes along who mostly fits the bill and the chemistr... (read in full...)
Will this work? I'm married and I recently accepted the offer of my (separated) boss, to be his Girlfriend/mistress
Q. I recently accepted the offer of my boss, to be his Girlfriend/mistress. He is separated with 3 kids living with his wife and family. I'm married, with an understanding husband and a 3 year old daughter. We hooked up 2 only and 1 to 2 hours only ...
A. 14 January 2013: Are you doing this for promotion/financial gain? Why on earth are you doing it? If your marriage is ok you are risking everything to keep the boss happy.
I think you should end it now before it gets discovered. ... (read in full...)
Is my body not compatible with the IUD?
Q. I realise this isnt entirely a relationship question but i do genuinly need some help on this one.... i had an IUD fitted about 2/3 months ago and since then my periods have been eratic. I have bleed for 9/10 days the past 2 months, had head...
A. 11 January 2013: I had the Mirena coil and although it worked, it stopped my periods and I didn't like it. And when I had it removed my skin errupted bigtime for weeks. I'm not sure whether you have the IUD with any hormonal component like the Mirena, but it seems ... (read in full...)
How can I retrain myself not to think of him so much? 2000 miles away and he broke up with me due to the distance.
Q. Dear Cupid, Now this is a situation I'm completely new in. During the summer last year I started going on a website and I met this guy and we hit it off and became friends. As the months went by we learned more about each other we began talking...
A. 11 January 2013: I absolutely know what it is like to have obsessive type thoughts about someone, especially someone you cannot have. You just miss those feelings it gave you, which is totally understandable. It has left a huge hole in your life. But you must ... (read in full...)
I'm having a hard time letting go... help!
Q. This guy and I went on and off for 8 months. We moved extremly fast, moved in 2 weeks of our relationship., the first time we split he said he wasn't ready to be in a commited relationship, and the pain felt unbearable. 2 weeks after I was just at ...
A. 28 September 2012: I'm so sorry to hear about all this. I think we tend to torture ourselves with how things might have been different if.... if only....(and a whole list of things that would have made a difference).
But nothing would have made a difference and you ... (read in full...)
Do these kind of men ever change???
Q. for about 6 months now, this married man and i have been fooled around. i have developed a lot of feeling for him. he lives away from me, so i only get to see him once or twice a month. recently ive learned that there are several other women hes ...
A. 28 September 2012: Yep. Let him go and don't get involved with this type again.
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I am going crazy obsessing over the thought of watching my wife with another woman.
Q. My wife and I have been together for over six years and have a wonderful family and life together. We are deeply in love and I would like to think be together forever. We have a great and fulfilling sex. One of the issues early in our relationship ...
A. 28 September 2012: I think, knowing your interest, she could easily have arranged to get together with a woman by now if she was that into the idea. Sounds to me like she likes to light your fire with these discussions and then reap the benefits without actually ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my ex-boyfriend leave me alone?
Q. Well, I have a problem in my life that's actually driving me crazy. I'm a gay man and I had a boyfriend. We were together for 5 years. I really loved him, but in the last year our relationships somehow became very tense, we were arguing often. ...
A. 28 September 2012: Once he has someone new his interest in your life will wane. Go round telling everyone how great HE is and someone will get matched up with him. They will be playing the happy couple and you will have some peace. Voila. ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to my boyfriend spending so much time taking care of his parents?
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and half. We are both adults. We both love each other and he has given me a ring. I have not met his parents yet, but I have met two of his siblings and his family is aware of our relation...
A. 28 September 2012: I think that you have been together long enough for you to have gone with him on one of his many trips. I'm wondering why that hasn't occured. If he has given you a ring to symbolise a long relationship with you, he would naturally be proud to ... (read in full...)
I need a way of telling my boyfriend that I want exclusivity and a serious relationship without him feeling like he has to give up his freedom
Q. I have been seeing this guy for about 5 weeks and one week ago we had a talk about where our relationship was going. He said he "cant commit" until college finishes up in one or so months because everything is so busy etc. and asked me what I would ...
A. 28 September 2012: No need to beat around the bush, this can be quickly sorted. You just explain the terms of any relationship you would like to have with him. If he wavers or struggles with that then let him go. Don't let him keep having his cake and eating it in the ... (read in full...)
I feel jealous of the man whom my partner has chosen to be our baby donor
Q. I am a lesbian who has been in a relationship for 7 months with a woman. Her best friend is a male, whom in the past, has declared he was in love with her! Nothing ever evenyuated and they remain extremely close. In the future she want's him to be ...
A. 28 September 2012: Is your girlfriend actually bisexual and harbouring feelings for this man? If he becomes the father I can see it being the three of you being parents with you feeling on the sidelines.
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Struggling to forget the threesome she had in the past....
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months now and we are still and I hope will always be together. I actually am wanting to marry her some day. In the beginning through general conversion we found out something about each other such ...
A. 27 September 2012: You can only consider the slate clean from the time she met you. Be honest with yourself about how much you like her. And trust your instincts about whether it is right for you to be together.... (read in full...)
From his message, does it seem like he is interested in me?
Q. I am a bit confused here. First of all pardon me if this is going to be long, but I actually need another mind to think with me and tell me if I'm reading too much into this or not. I am a 33 yo divorced woman with a kid, and I have this male c...
A. 27 September 2012: Right, well I think he sounds like someone patronising someone who is a bit insecure. I would say he has positive feelings towards you but that they are not romantically based.... (read in full...)
Girls love talking to me, but when they see me it all changes! Will it be like this for the rest of my life?
Q. I feel so down its unbelievable. Im a really positive person, even if i have major problems going on I can ignore them and still smile and be positive. But i cant avoid the truth though, i dont seem to ever feel like anyone is attracted to me. Im i...
A. 27 September 2012: I just think it's been an unfortunate succession of girls for you... and that you shouldn't get a complex about how you look. Anyway, you don't want to be the guy the girls go for just for image sake, because they are airheads. Someone with depth ... (read in full...)
The wedding is planned, I have even ordered my dress but I'm becoming more and more insecure in my relationship because of my boyfriend's actions
Q. Hi everyone, I really need some advice. I am 30 and engaged. We are supposed to be getting married mid next year. My fiancée and I have been together for nine years. However for the past year I have been feeling less and less secure in the relation...
A. 27 September 2012: You don't need any more examples, he is playing you bigtime. So now he probably thinks you are great wife material and potentially the mother of his kids, while he carries on behaving like bachelor boy behind your back.
DON'T BE TAKEN FOR A FOOL! ... (read in full...)
I've got her number, but I'm not sure what to do next!
Q. Hi, I like this girl. I told her that I wanted to be her friend and asked for her phone number. She said Yes and gave me her number. Now that I have her number, I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if she likes me more than a friend or gave me...
A. 26 September 2012: Don't delay or spend any more time analysing. Women love a keen man. Ring her now and arrange to go out. No need to say now on what basis. The best relationships start as friendships so no harm in starting out slowly and seeing how you feel as time ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex still keep letters and pictures of me, when he was the one that broke up with me?
Q. Well my ex and i were together for 7 months and i recently found out he still has a spot where he stores all of the letters and childhood pictures of me. i found out because his mom only knows im currently dating right now but why does he still have ...
A. 26 September 2012: Some people hoard things and some don't. It's just the different ways people behave. I'm always chucking stuff out and I don't have a single thing from any past relationship. I think it's a positive thing that he has these things, as looking at them ... (read in full...)
Why do I still feel embarrassed about queefing?
Q. Recently, while having intercourse, I queefed. I felt really embarrassed even though I know it's normal for that to happen. Yet my partner didn't seem to know and he actually asked if I farted. I explained to him it was a queef and he said he ...
A. 26 September 2012: Yeah, it is embarassing! But anyone grown up just laughs it off so the older you get and the more experienced your partners are, the better things will be. I imagine the vast majority of women have experienced this, and we know how you feel but ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend think I'm with him for his money?
Q. Hey everyone,I'v been dating a guy for 3 years now and I love to death,he means the world to me but he is a well known businessman of the city and I'm happy for him,he is constantly busy and whenever he can't make it he would send me these really ...
A. 26 September 2012: To me it sounds like you have different values. He is evidently used to women who ARE after his wealth/gifts etc. You are not his usual type, that's what I'm thinking.
Is he really YOUR type?... (read in full...)
Am I just suffering from the 'grass-is-greener' syndrome? I am so disappointed with myself for not being able to find a man that fits me.
Q. I have been in two long-term relationships for most of my adult life. In my first marriage, I was pretty much starved for conversation, as my husband wasn't much of a talker. When he got home at night I'd ask how his day went, he'd grunt without ...
A. 25 September 2012: Ok, so life is trial and error. And your life is by no means over. I don't think you need to beat yourself up over this, but I do think you could be "third time lucky" eventually.
That husband of yours (currently) is unlikely to change his outd... (read in full...)
Younger b/f ended relationship because of my face book friends?
Q. hi! am march 40 yrs and had a perfect relationship with a young man at 23. just 5 days ago this perfect relationship ended just because he discovered that i had a new account at fb. and i have male friends there too. we had been living-in together ...
A. 25 September 2012: It could be an excuse to end the relationship but if it looks like you have aspects of your life which you have been keeping secret from him, then that would explain why he is angry.
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I've decided not to speak to this guy anymore after he said when he's with me he feels like he's talking to a baboon. Am I right in deciding to do this?
Q. Before I go into details as to why I'm asking this question. Let me first ask the question aha, exactly how right am I for deciding this? You see, I am a sixteen year old girl, you know I'm young but a lot of people, well, grown ups say I'm matu...
A. 25 September 2012: You want him to like you and you know it can't be forced. Good.
I think he sounds somewhat rude and arrogant, with a high opinion of himself. So I question why you are so bothered about him.
You are quite right to focus on your studies and mix ... (read in full...)
B/f and I never get to see each other. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for around 7 months but we hardly ever see each other. We go to different schools and usually try and see each other once a week, but for the past couple of months we have barely had that. We have never had a ...
A. 25 September 2012: I'm sorry, but he would make time if he was really keen. I think the relationship might be gradually coming to an end. This is blunt of me I know, but it just sounds like you are more into it than he is.
x... (read in full...)
How to handle my disrespectful daughter?
Q. Hi all I need some advice on my daughter and I we stay in to it as a child growing up I had no problems out of her soon as she got her period at 14 she started to hate me .Now she is nineteen going out with this young punk he's twenty no job stays ...
A. 25 September 2012: My reaction is that she is still fairly young. But while she stays under your roof with you supporting her, she needs to play by your rules. She probably won't be with that guy for long, and hopefully it will be a learning curve for her and she will ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is struggling with work, how can I help him?
Q. My boyfriend is having a difficult time with work at the moment ~ he's stuck in a job that he really dislikes and he sometimes gets quite depressed over it. Basically his job is very repetitive and makes him feel unfulfilled ~ he's trying to break ...
A. 25 September 2012: Mostly it's the thought of the pay cheque at the end that keeps people going. Many if not most people are unfulfilled at work and stuck in some kind of rut. Underacheiving is common and has to be lived with to a certain extent. There is a painful ... (read in full...)
I saw a picture he had drawn for an ex and it hurt me, how do I feel more secure about the past?
Q. Me and my boyfriend use online art sites because we both love drawing and makings things and both of us have online galleries where we share our art with friends. I was looking through my boyfriends gallery and looked at a piece that was from 6 ...
A. 25 September 2012: I suppose people can't delete artwork just because of the thing that inspired them to do it is no longer current. Otherwise there would be no art in the world at all really, except stuff that is being done this week!
It's a picture. That's a... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend changed his relationship status from 'in a relationship' to 'single'. Is he cheating?
Q. I'm in long distance relationship with my boyfriend. He is Australian and I'm Indian. We both are sixteen years old. We met on facebook 2 months ago and he asked me for relationship after 1 month. I love him alot. Everything was going perfect ...
A. 25 September 2012: The other respondants obviously have more background knowledge of your situation than I do. When I read your post my reaction was that he is up to no good and a bit of a conman.
Someone closer to home who you really do trust will be a better b... (read in full...)
The love has faded in my current relationship, and there is a new guy who I am falling for....what should I do?
Q. Hi, I am currently in a relationship of seven years. We live together and have dogs. A few months ago my boyfriend told me he didn't think he wanted to marry me (maybe anyone) and it really upset me at the time. However now I feel like maybe he...
A. 25 September 2012: Your relationship is definitely on it's last legs by the sound of it.
The other man has made your heart race because there is genuine chemistry and lots in common.
So even if you don't end up with that new man, at least you know what has be... (read in full...)
We are excited about our future together, but I cant help feeling miserable because it wont be happening any time soon!
Q. I am in a great relationship with my boyfriend. We both have the same kind of aspirations and have talked about moving in together/getting married/having children and so on. Thing is, these similar aspirations make me impatient because we're no...
A. 25 September 2012: It's about enjoying the journey, not just the destination.
Know one knows what the future holds.
Things are going well NOW. Rejoice and enjoy. ... (read in full...)
Should we let our friend make the same mistake or bring our concerns to her attention?
Q. My sister in law and best friend was previously married to her high school sweetheart, but she had given him an ultimatum before he proposed and he asked for a divorce eighteen months later. No one liked him, friends or family, the unanimous ...
A. 24 September 2012: Understand that she is undoubtedly harbouring feelings of failure and rejection from her first marriage. She is in a vulnerable position. The relationship doesn't sound great but you need to approach any concerns with great tact and gentleness ... (read in full...)
Should I go and see him or write him off?
Q. I met a guy one night that I really liked and we arranged to meet up again. The date went well until he said that he wasn't looking for a relationship and he came on a little strong so I rejected him as I didn't feel ready to take such a step. I ...
A. 24 September 2012: He's looking for sex. Sorry, but you know that if he was geunuine for a relationship he wouldn't have behaved like he did. The respect isn't there and you are worried about being used. Leopards don't change their spots.
Even if he was confused... (read in full...)
Should I have another child or pursue a career?
Q. I just turned 36 and my husband is 50 and we have a 6 year’s old beautiful smart son together. Our marriage is not 100% perfect but it is ok. We have some financial issues at this moment but down the road we are in a good shape. My husband has a ...
A. 24 September 2012: We live in a small house and I stayed at home to bring up our two children. If I had worked and only had one child we would have a lot more materially by now. For me, one child is not an option. I think they benefit from being with siblings and ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my boss' wife
Q. i am a male, gemini, married but not happy after 5 years and i am in love with my boss wife who have problems with him ever so often and i think she has a crush on me and now he kind of suspects us any help ...
A. 24 September 2012: You are on track to lose your wife and your job all in one go.
Seek other solutions. Talk to your wife and try to resolve your difficulties.
If you do separate and you are looking for romance, do not mix business with pleasure. ... (read in full...)
Why hasn't real love come my way?
Q. I am looking for a committed relationship but I don't know how.. I am tired of the games,lies, cheating the whole nine yards. i mean I am getting older time is running thin, not that I'm older than dust, but I am 40 now and I think it's time to ...
A. 24 September 2012: I've got women friends who are single because they have given up based on a few bad experiences. Deep down they do want to meet someone but they are not being proactive.
It's just a matter of meeting enough people from which to choose. So that mean... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his child are a pair of spoilt brats!
Q. Okay, so i have been with my bf for two years now, he has a 4 yr old of his own and i have a 6 and 8 yr old. My bf takes his son every weekend and whenever his son is here i dread it, i know i sound horrible but i treat all children the same so if ...
A. 24 September 2012: You are best off without him honestly. Look at the stress and strain it's been giving you and your children. Your boyfriend does not seem to have any great qualities and if you are going to be bringing children up together, you need to be using the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend constantly talks about himself and has no interest in me
Q. My boyfriend seems to only talk about himself, there's the usual conversation of him asking me how I am, what I've been up to and that'll be it, he'll start to ramble on about his ridiculously large collection of games, or his passion for the ...
A. 22 May 2012: Get a new boyfriend.... (read in full...)
Ladies: I have some dating queries, please let me know what you think
Q. Hi, this is a post for the ladies (guys can def help too). I'm a guy and have been meeting the odd female here and there but I never actually get a formal relationship out of any of them. So I have been thinking of what may be the problem. It i...
A. 22 May 2012: All the factors you list are actually not that important. Wearing a shirt/jumper isn't going to be the thing that ruins it, and neither is turning up on a bus instead of a car or wearing/not wearing aftershave. The conversation thing is an issu... (read in full...)
I fear my vagina isnt good enough for my boyfriend
Q. So, my boyfriend and I have sexual relations. He isnt my first, and well I feel ashamed to have sex with him for that reason... We were watching this t.v show, with Wesley Snipes(black guy) and he was married to an Asian woman, they showed a scene ...
A. 18 May 2012: I am feeling angry on your behalf that your partner has managed to erode your sexual confidence to the extent that you do not want to have sex. How incredibly insensitive of him. You don't need to moan loudly to be enjoying yourself, what happens in ... (read in full...)
I'm married but I want a lady at work and she's playing hard to get!
Q. I am a married man and recently I found my self attracted to this beautiful lady at my workplace. She knows I am married and is playing hard to get, but I really want her badly. Please help me convince this lady to love me...
A. 18 May 2012: No, she may be flirting as she feels it's safe because you are married. Look at your marriage and see why you feel the need to stray. Work on what you have instead of being distracted by another woman.... (read in full...)
What have been your experiences with bad partners.
Q. I'm terrible in the sack! But this wasn't always the case. As a matter of fact, the first girl that I lost it too always loved our "encounters". To this day she says I am still the best she's had. And at the time she was my first, but I was ...
A. 18 May 2012: The amount of self awareness you show is excellent, and personally, I think you have the hallmarks of someone who would be a good lover but you have just lost your nerve a bit and got out of practice. So the more you do it, the more you will get ... (read in full...)
Why do I not respect myself ?
Q. This is so embarrassing: I am in my forties, a grown up woman, an excellent mother, I have been told my son is a credit to me, I raised him on my own. My problem: I dated a cheating lying man for 5 years on and off, on and off as I wanted to e...
A. 17 May 2012: As you were from a dysfunctional family you expect relationships to be difficult and stressful, that is your expectation based on previous experience.
Your posting shows bags of insight into your own situation, which is really excellent. I think ... (read in full...)
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