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... Send *avenxx91 a private message | | | *avenxx91's profile:Hello. My name is Raven, Im 19 years old.
What qualifies you to help people?
I am a Qualified Health Care Professional and I am planning on becoming a Midwife and then a Midwife Consultant. Because of this on Dear Cupid I focus on pregnancy, sexual health and relationships. However I currently am a Customer Service Advisor and aim to be a Deputy Manager as soon as possible!
Where do you live?
I live in my own two bedroomed flat in Little Hulton which is a district within the City of Salford in England!
What makes you tick?
My Career Goals, Working well within my job. My Family and of course My Fiance.
Whats your relationship status?
I'm engaged and will be getting married 10th November 2012.
Anything else?
Ive noticed there are some aunts and uncles on this website who send very judgmental answers to people. However I give facts, the truth, a professional suggestion and I DO NOT pre-judge people at all. However I will say it as it is with all that above. So as regards the judgmental aunts and uncles that gives you the answer to my rating board in the poor section!
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Should I ask her if she slept with the other guy when drunk?
Q. Right, this is my "dilemma" I basically met a girl about 5 weeks ago at a party. From day one we've got on unbelievably well, to the point where we've never felt uncomfortable with eachother in anyway at all. We've been seeing eachother 3 or 4...
A. 27 July 2009: first of all its hearsay. you cant rely on it even if its a best friend who tells you. Look her in the eyes and ask her. but if you met 5 weeks ago and after 4 weeks made it offical you technically weren't together 3 weeks ago anyway tbh?
so even... (read in full...)
First dates at someones house? Yes or No?
Q. What would you people say about dates at someone's house when you're only getting to know that person? I met a guy online and our first date went well. He called me two days later and asked me if I wanted to come over to his place that night as he...
A. 27 July 2009: i haven't read the other answer however.
my first date was at the house of my now fiance =] I met my fiance online too so we had gotten to know eachothers personalities before anything. so yeah on our 'first date' we got takeaway and watched some... (read in full...)
I've been married 15 years and am having an affair
Q. I thought maybe it could have been just a one time incident, but now we have had sex three times sneaking away about once ever three weeks. I have been married for 15 years and never thought I would do this. I have always had men find me ...
A. 27 July 2009: End it. you may seem to love him but its most likely lust right now. If you got with this guy through cheating how do you know you wont do this again in another 15 years and go through pain and regret again? It all seems good now and you say you ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my wife I haven't really ended the affair?
Q. I have recently separated from my wife after I had an affair, I told my wife that I was no longer seeing the other woman, to save her any further upset, but I am still seeing her and want to be with her, my wife sends me malicious emails, texts and ...
A. 27 July 2009: If you want to be with your 'mistress' then i suggest a divorce because your just going to hurt your wife. You dont seem to no longer love her so save her on the hurt and apply for a divorce and be negotiable, provide for your kids and make sure ... (read in full...)
I don't want to sound mean. She doesn't exersice and shes putting on weight
Q. ok. i dont want this to sound horrible but it probably will. Im very very into fitness and working out. i have a very good body and feel its really important to stay in shape not just for myself but for my partner. my girlfriend however, with...
A. 27 July 2009: first of all i would like to say you shouldn't feel you have to look good for her she most likely loves you no matter how you look - vice versa.
As regards your partner maybe shes overworked or depressed due to routine (going work, coming in sitt... (read in full...)
Does anyone know why my periods are so irregular?
Q. I've never had regular periods. They usually are regular for about 3 months and then they come on a couple of days later. However, this month it's slightly different. I'm two weeks late. I've taken two pregnancy tests and they both said negative. ...
A. 27 July 2009: there could be many reasons and its obviously not pregnancy, it could (and probably is) something simple like stress - maybe too much school or college work? maybe even too much job work?
other things it could be is maybe being too underweight or o... (read in full...)
My husband isn't intrested in a sexual relationship!
Q. Hai, I am Mrs. V. MY husband is not interested in sexual relationship but he is a very good person He likes me very much. Out of great dfficulty I have a son ,he just comes to me very rarely, above all he is perfectly well at his health what should ...
A. 27 July 2009: I suggest you sit down with your husband and have a talk about it. he loves you so tell him how you feel, alot of relationships rely on communication, with no communication where is the realtionship?
Anyway sit down and ask him for his own reas... (read in full...)
Helpppp!!! Pregnant or not??????
Q. Hey, i badly need help. There might be a chance im pregnant. I havent had my period for about 4 weeks now and ive had all the signs , just not the actual thing. part of me thinks its to do with the pill since ive come off it and i had two light pe...
A. 24 June 2009: So many people say to me.. I think i might be pregnant what do i do...
same answer for all...
4 weeks after the missed period..
PREGNANCY TEST... (read in full...)
Period after morning after pill?
Q. Last week my bf and I had unprotected sex (it was the first time), he pulled out before he came, but I was still worried that there could be a chance that I could be pregnant. I had only just come off my period 2 days before then. I went to a clin...
A. 22 March 2009: thats normal. The fact you had a period is confirmation your not pregnant (plus i think the morning after pill basically makes the lining of the womb unable to emplant an egg which can result in a period.)... (read in full...)
Your sexual experience for the first time
Q. its a bit nosy but i was just wondering about peoples experiences of having sex for the first time, whats it like? did things get awkward afterwards? pain? how romantic was it? advice?...
A. 22 March 2009: mine was romantice. it was with my first love and my now fiance.
Spent the morning watching films in bed and then we kissed and kinda slowly got going.
pain for when he first went in *to put it politly* but after that there was no pain x... (read in full...)
Would you want to know if I masturbate?
Q. There is this boy i really like that constantly asks me if i masturbate in a jokey but serious way...well i do a lot for a girl of my age (i think) but i awlays say i don't. I just wanted a males opinion or anyones opinion actually, to know if i ...
A. 22 March 2009: he may be takign the piss....
maybe it woul be an idea - if hes doing this to get turned on - to maybe hint you want to know more about him sooo uhmmm heres a scenario
him - "do you masterbate"
you - "Hmmmmm, maybe spend more time with me an... (read in full...)
I just wanted to know whether gals look for a manly guy for marriage
Q. hi. i'm 22 yrs old. with just 52 kilograms weight which means i look lean. i just wanted to know whether gals look for a manly guy for marriage point of view? in other ways, i'm a fun loving, jovial character...
A. 22 March 2009: when a women wants to marry, she usually looks at the reasons of marriage which are the being able to be suppoorted and being helped with the children etc.
Personally im engaged. My fiance is both masculine nd feminine. Masculine because hes my p... (read in full...)
Is it possible I am pregnant? HELP
Q. im on the contriceptive pill and im 16 but on friday two days ago i had unprotected sex, and i have not been taking my pill since wednesday because im due to come on my period and suppose to be taking it again on thursday, but i still haven't come ...
A. 22 March 2009: the wednesday to the next thursday is your 7 day breakj for your period.
I doubt your pregnant. its only 2% likely.
wait for your period and then take a test if it doesn;t come... (read in full...)
I told her that he was cheating on her with me! Did I do the right thing?
Q. Did i do the right thing in telling her? I found out my 'boyfriend' has been seeing someone else. I obviously never want to see him again! He kept me a secret from everyone important in his life and he didn't with this other girl. So i guess I...
A. 22 March 2009: you did the right thing, it will help both you and the other girl in the long run.
if he does get agressive or makes you scared i suggest calling the police to get a restrainging order. ... (read in full...)
How do you become a 'posh totty"?
Q. Ive al ways wanted to have a love life like a posh totty... weird i know. Does anyone have any idea how to become one?...
A. 22 March 2009: uhm i assume this comes from the st trinnians film.
I dont think there is posh totty just the act of it.
To be posh totty you have to be
- in good contacts (i.e model photographers, agencies, celebritiy friends)
- weight controlled and t... (read in full...)
In 6 months I have only been with him alone once
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for six months and we are seemingly the 'perfect couple'. We both come from good backgrounds(private schools etc) and our parents have doing alot to keep us from being alone. In 6 months i have only been with him alon...
A. 22 March 2009: like the below answer a day out maybe, a bit more regular?
i also assume aside the being able to talk alone you mean sex as well?
Thats no so easy for parents to cope with you see..
Ive been in a realtionship with my fiance for a long time now,... (read in full...)
I look at and scrutinize everything she has done from then to now
Q. I have a live in girlfriend that I have been with for over a year now and I love her with all that I have. My problem is that 2 months into our relationship we were out having drinks and she drank too much and does not remember the events of that...
A. 22 March 2009: Hmm if it hasn't happened since or the problem of what happened has not happened then why stress yourself over it.
You were only two months in and that is very early on. She may of also have had her own problems that day or time and been extra st... (read in full...)
I havent had my period for about 6 weeks
Q. I havent had my period for about 6 weeks and im a virgin and never been with a boy more than a pull whats wrong with me ? (im only 15) and had my periods for about 18months...
A. 22 March 2009: hmmm 15 - mock exams?
stress can cause this, i used to have it all the time. Your not pregnant, as sperm as not been in contact with your vagina.
I think its probably stress, caused by mock exams, friends and family problems.
Pls you hav... (read in full...)
My partner wants us to have sex with other people.
Q. My partner wants us to have sex with other people. I like the idea for myself, but my skin crawls at the thought of him doing it. It scares me he won't come back and I would not be able to contain my jealosy. I know this is selfish, but has anyo...
A. 22 March 2009: The fact you have this jealousy should give you warning signs that it can damage or potentially be fatal to your relationship.
I think you should also be worried as to why he wants to do this.
You need to talk to him more and be clear of the ... (read in full...)
Questions about wedding etiquette...?
Q. Hello fellow agony aunts and uncles. I was wondering if you guys could answer me a small question? At a wedding, can it still be completely tradition and etiquette as if its a traditional church wedding - for example, is the bride still give...
A. 30 January 2009: hey thanks for the advice, basically a registry office has been chosen so no information needed and yeah thank you everyone the information is helpful - so basically it can be as unique as anything??
Thankyou's =]... (read in full...)
How long should I wait to get on birth control with a new relationship?
Q. My boyfriend of a few days ago wants me to get on birth control. I've gone on it before and it's great! But to me that a huge thing to be sleeping with someone and just relying on the pill. Plus, I have to look out for myself. How long should I wait ...
A. 29 January 2009: from this i would tell him to get an sti check first, and use condoms for now, and then go on teh pill from discussing it more and find out his truue reasons x... (read in full...)
Dry humping scare... could I be pregnant?
Q. I have a feeling the answer is going to be a definite 'no' here, but I thought I'd better check because I'm quite anxious about this. I spent the night at my boyfriend's and things got pretty heated in bed, he was wearing his shorts but I was stark ...
A. 29 January 2009: from whqat you said thers like 0.01% you could be pregnant, if there was no fluid contact then definatly not x... (read in full...)
Am I freaking myself out, or is pregnancy a possibility?
Q. Alright, so i was on birth control pills for a year, and towards the end totally lost track and screwed up, i stopped taking them for about a month and a half. my period lasted extremely long, [almost 2 weeks!] and 3 days later my boyfriend and i ...
A. 29 January 2009: Hey first off all you should have restarted taking your pill during the first day of your period.
Secondly give it three more weeks and get a home test, x... (read in full...)
Will being sick with a fever and strep throat hurt my baby?
Q. Will being sick with a fever and strep throat harm my baby? i am about 7 months pregnant.?? what can i take to feel better faster?...
A. 29 January 2009: due to being 7 months it shouldn;t harm your baby at all but maybe talk to your midwife about it? x... (read in full...)
How will I know if I'm having real labor pains?
Q. how will i know if i am having true labour pains instead of braxton hicks contractions??...
A. 29 January 2009: well, you'll know when its real labour pains espeshically when your waters break and you have your 'show' =] ... (read in full...)
Are condoms safe?
Q. If you can't use the pill is condoms very safe?? What are their success rate?...
A. 29 January 2009: condoms are 98% effective which means 2 in 100 women will get pregnant when using condoms correctly =] ... (read in full...)
The friend zone... is there a key to get out?
Q. Okay so most of you know me as the guy who tried and tried to get his ex wife back to no prevail. Well I've somewhat moved on and am talking to a friend of mine that I've known my whole life. Now she just broke up with her bf like a couple months ...
A. 15 December 2008: Hmm right now she just needs time to herself. Just let her knwo you are there for her, if you want her that much you will wait. Keep your feelings on the low until she is ready.... (read in full...)
Does he like me but not realize it
Q. Yes, this is the same old story. I really like my guy friend tom. I think we would be great together, but i can't be sure because i don't know everything about him. I'd like the opportunity to find out. However, he has a girlfriend, Sam....
A. 15 December 2008: Maybe he does actually want to be your friend and he is a naturally affectionate person. If he liked you back he would be worried of doign affectionate things with you in front of his gf.... (read in full...)
He says he feels inferior to me and that he's jealous of the way my body can react while orgasming!!
Q. my boyfriend and i are both each other's first serious relationship. along with that, we are both exploring each other's sexuality with each other. while i find it to be fun and exciting, he has such an issue with the fact that a woman can orgasm ...
A. 15 December 2008: Hmmm this guy seems quite controlling and from reading what you have said he has quite a low self esteem.
No one should have their orgasm's 'owned' or the time and amount they can and cannot play with themselves dictated to them. You need to give... (read in full...)
Am I thinking too much? Or we are simply over?
Q. Hi all. We haven't meet each other after a fight 3 weeks ago. Few days after the fight, I called her, she said it is over. When we met online, she is there talking to me. It isn't as much as before but from her saying, am still her bf. 2 we...
A. 15 December 2008: I think you two are over and it is time to let go. Ask her and get a plain answer thats all you can do. I suggest you tell her how you feel. If she says its over theres nothing that you can do and you will have to move on yourself. Try being offline ... (read in full...)
I can't squirt now!
Q. hi i have a quick question about female ejaculation. i am 18 and used to be able to 'squirt' and i did it once for my now ex boyfriend and his reaction was that of disgust even tho he said he thought it was hot, he said he didnt expect anywhere...
A. 15 December 2008: I would sugest to relax in your own time at home and try to do what you used to. But dont plan it just do it randomly and see what happens x... (read in full...)
Her boyfriend doesn't know she has a baby. Should she tell him?
Q. Have a friend of mine, who has been dating a guy for the past one year. My friend has a baby but she is afraid to tell her boyfriend because it might ruin their relationship please give any suggestions to help....
A. 15 December 2008: No matter what, if there relationship lasts then the true will come out no matter what. I would suggest to your friend to get things out of the open and follow the above suggestions as they are quite helpful. ... (read in full...)
If you swallow sperm, can you get pregnant?
Q. Hi, my question is really embarrassing and I know a lot of people will feel awkward answering it... but I have always wandered but I am to embarrassed to ask any one else... Ok so I'll cut to the chase... basically if cum (sperm) gets on or in any o...
A. 15 December 2008: You cannot get pregnant from swallowing sperm, however you can catch an sti - so if performing oral sex use a condom.
... (read in full...)
The father doesn't want to step up now that I'm pregnant!
Q. I'm 15 and I'm 30 weeks pregnant and I'm not with the father any more. We were together for about two and a half years then in Feb I moved away but he still came to see me, we ended up breaking up the day after I got pregnant. I was 14 when I got ...
A. 18 November 2008: Maybe you and your parents can arrange a meeting place for you all sort of thing - make hsi parents make him go or something? DNA test might help but all it can do is prove hes the father, not make him care for his daughter.... (read in full...)
A woman giving birth turned me on... am I a pervert?
Q. Hi, this is an odd thing. A few weeks ago i was flicking through the tv channels and there was a documentary on about women giving birth...normally this sort of thing chrns my stomach but on this occasion i decided to watch the programme and got ...
A. 18 November 2008: It is... different... but I would say this is more a fetish or the sounds remind you of sex or something =]... (read in full...)
I just had a baby, I hate my body and I think my husband does too.
Q. I have just had my first baby with my husband 5 months ago. I have always had a weight and body image problem and I hated the way I looked when I was pregnant. My body is in such a mess since having my baby and I have no confidence, especially when ...
A. 15 November 2008: I think you need to talk to your husband about this. You have had a baby and he has obviously loved and found you attractive. He's married you and probably loves you exactly how you are regardless off how you look. Maybe hes scared of rushing you ... (read in full...)
When the sperm enters the egg, does the girl still ovulate?
Q. when the sperm enters the egg, does the girl stop ovulating that day or do she still ovulates ......
A. 15 November 2008: Once ovulation has happened and fertilisation has happened the body releases a hormone called progesterone. This stops the ovaries from ovulating because there is already an egg in the womb that has been fertilised =]... (read in full...)
Is there a chance I could be pregnant?
Q. i slept with my fiance 4 days after i had my period. is there a chance i could be or get pregnant?...
A. 15 November 2008: well to put it simply, if no protection is used - no matter of what research says - you can get pregnant, simple as.... (read in full...)
Can you become pregnant while on birth control?
Q. Q. So, is it possible to be pregnant while taking birthcontrol? (Story) My boyfriend and I had sex back in mid-Oct. I'm taking birthcontrol, so we didn't think it was nec. to use a condom. I've missed my period, which is unusual. I've been sick v...
A. 15 November 2008: It depends whether you missed a pill or not and if you were taking anything like antibiotics which can lower the effect of the pill. I suggest you go and get a test to simply give you an answer, but make sure you do this to a date which would be at ... (read in full...)
I feel pain down there since I lost my virginity days ago, what does this mean?
Q. i think i lost my virginity but i'm not really sure because i still kind of feel my hymen just slightly down there when i move around my vagina hole.also there has been pain down there since it happened.does that mean it's still there because it ...
A. 15 November 2008: The only way you loose your virginity is from when you are first penetrated with a penis - and no OTHER thing.
You may feel pain for the first few days - or weeks, everyone is different. Juts give it time and it will ease up - if it doesn't ... (read in full...)
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