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writes:I'm 15 and I'm 30 weeks pregnant and I'm not with the father any more. We were together for about two and a half years then in Feb I moved away but he still came to see me, we ended up breaking up the day after I got pregnant. I was 14 when I got pregnant, I told him and my parents know but my problem is he doesn't believe it's his because of other people telling him things that aren't true. It upsets me because I don't want my daughter to grow up without a father, I wish he would be there for his kid but I guess he just doesn't care about her. He hasn't been to any appointments or ultrasounds and I haven't even seen him in 4 months what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (19 November 2008):
You can't force him.
This is the risk you take when you have underage sex, you get stuck with a little boy who is not ready to grow up.
Perhaps in a few years he will come back and take an interest. But until then you will just have to cope with the support of your parents and his parents.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell his mom is ganna be involved but she cant make him be in his daughters life but i am geting a DNA test after i have her and im doing child support but idk how to get him to want to have some thing to do with his kid
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reader, Ravenxx91 +, writes (18 November 2008):
 Maybe you and your parents can arrange a meeting place for you all sort of thing - make hsi parents make him go or something?DNA test might help but all it can do is prove hes the father, not make him care for his daughter.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 November 2008):
You'll have to get a DNA test once she is born.
It's understandable that he is scared and acting in this way, as he is a little boy, and in now way ready to way to grow up and be a dad.
What you have to do is get your parents and his parents together and work out what you are all going to do.
You are too young to handle this alone so you need help.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, wayblonde6 +, writes (18 November 2008):
Well if he doesn't believe that its his do a paternity tesr. And than even if he doesn't take care of it at least you know its his and u can set up a child support thing where he has to give you so much money a month. Some guys just don't care they say that the mom is a mom the momenT she knows she pregnant and a dad doesn't become a dad till he sees it. So I think you should talk to his parent maybe they want to be involved and maybe they can help him want to get involved..
Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): it's ok. i got pregnant at 13. i'm 14 now and my baby kayden is 6 months old. kayden doesn't see his daddy much but he's still happy and i'm happy being a single mum. he denied it was his but we had a DNA test done and it was proved it was his but he still walked away. DNA tests don't help! i think you'll just have to give him time! i gave my ex time and now kayden sees his daddy for 2 days on a weekend. he just sed he realised he was being stupid and that kayden looked like him when he looked at a photo. i hope he realises what a coward he's being and looks after your baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI moved back around where he lives when I was about 3 months pregnant but I still have no clue how to get him to want to have some thing to do with his kid.
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