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... Send *avenxx91 a private message | | | *avenxx91's profile:Hello. My name is Raven, Im 19 years old.
What qualifies you to help people?
I am a Qualified Health Care Professional and I am planning on becoming a Midwife and then a Midwife Consultant. Because of this on Dear Cupid I focus on pregnancy, sexual health and relationships. However I currently am a Customer Service Advisor and aim to be a Deputy Manager as soon as possible!
Where do you live?
I live in my own two bedroomed flat in Little Hulton which is a district within the City of Salford in England!
What makes you tick?
My Career Goals, Working well within my job. My Family and of course My Fiance.
Whats your relationship status?
I'm engaged and will be getting married 10th November 2012.
Anything else?
Ive noticed there are some aunts and uncles on this website who send very judgmental answers to people. However I give facts, the truth, a professional suggestion and I DO NOT pre-judge people at all. However I will say it as it is with all that above. So as regards the judgmental aunts and uncles that gives you the answer to my rating board in the poor section!
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He's very big, I'm very small, I'm worried he tore something inside me
Q. I am head over heels for my boyfriend, and today we did it for the first time. We were a little rushed so there wasn't any foreplay, and he is very big, and after we finished I was bleeding a lot. I am a really small girl and I am worried he tore ...
A. 10 January 2010: No worries x ... (read in full...)
Ladies: do you think guys that are virgins are cute?
Q. Do ladies around my age (17-23 I guess) think it's cute for a guy that's 19 to be a virgin? I know a few girls, one is 18 now, and she said she wants a guy with experience. But on the other end, one day when I was in class these "experienced" (lol) ...
A. 7 January 2010: I kind of cant see what your getting at there rhythmandblues2 ? Mainly probably cause its nearly 2am...hmm ill work it out.
"And Ravenxx91 is 18 and giving all the youngsters on this site advice about how to lose their virginity"
Correct..... (read in full...)
Are there certain times of the month where she might not get pregnant?
Q. Ok I really need to know. My girlfriend told me she was on the pill so we decided not to use condoms because she doesnt like the fell of them or something. Wel anyway a few days after we did it my girlfriend confessed to me that she had forgot to ...
A. 7 January 2010: A woman can get pregnant at any time of the month but it is more likely around day 13 onwards of their menstrual cycle. x... (read in full...)
He's very big, I'm very small, I'm worried he tore something inside me
Q. I am head over heels for my boyfriend, and today we did it for the first time. We were a little rushed so there wasn't any foreplay, and he is very big, and after we finished I was bleeding a lot. I am a really small girl and I am worried he tore ...
A. 7 January 2010: To be honest. As it was your first time and there was no foreplay i would assume this was your hymen. The bleeding should stop within 12-24 hours. If it hasnt, go to your doc and explain everything to them but i think they will say the same as i ... (read in full...)
If I am a virgin, am I able to have an orgasm?
Q. What if he says no? I really like this guy and want to take it further than friendship but what if he does not like me more than a friend? I feel like I am falling in love with him but he does not like me. He gives me a hug everyday but only if I ...
A. 28 October 2009: As for the start dont hold off for him, tell him your feelings, if hes not interested dont beat yourself up about it.
second question
I can happyily say you can orgasm AND remain a virgin pretty simply...
Its called recieving Oral Sex, or Mas... (read in full...)
If I have my girlfriend finger me am I still a virgin?
Q. If I have my girlfriend finger me am I still a virgin?...
A. 28 October 2009: Ok uhm, from my perspective and theoretically you would still remain a virgin. If you are not just experimenting and want to always be in a lesbian relationship i think it could possibly count if your girlfriend uses a dildo/strap on with you? ... (read in full...)
We are planning on losing our virginity together!
Q. hey all my girlfriend and i are planning on having sex soon, it will be the first time for both of us. what are some recommended positions for first time, aside from standard missionary which will make it fun and enjoyable?...
A. 28 October 2009: first of all PROTECTION..
glad thats over with.
anyway. ok well listen to the others advice... *now tries to think of positions*
I personally think missionary is the best and less painful for the girl
*i would like to inform you, as your ... (read in full...)
He's still not listening when I tell him to slow down!
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend last year because I did not want to lose my virginity and he is used to sleeping with his ex-girlfriend (I have now found out he has a reputation for being more interested in sleeping with his girlfriends than the ...
A. 28 October 2009: This guy seems to have no respect x Dump him adn go see if hsi amte is still available x... (read in full...)
Ladies: do you think guys that are virgins are cute?
Q. Do ladies around my age (17-23 I guess) think it's cute for a guy that's 19 to be a virgin? I know a few girls, one is 18 now, and she said she wants a guy with experience. But on the other end, one day when I was in class these "experienced" (lol) ...
A. 28 October 2009: Im 18!
And i would say, if i was single now, i prefer it! Mainly because as a girl i wouldnt feel compared to previous sexual partners if that makes sense? x I guess im weird like that. =] x
Btw its nice to hear there is a boy your age saying t... (read in full...)
I've been an emotional zombie ever since my fiance passed away.
Q. 3 years ago during the summer of 2006 I met my fiance at a family get together she was friends with one of my sisters and we hit it of great. We got engaged in Spetember 2008. we got in to a car accident coming home froma news years eve party 2008 ...
A. 28 October 2009: Your still greiving... i would go and see a cousellor to help. But give it time, you may not be ready yet x... (read in full...)
Help, I need information about losing my virginity!
Q. My new bf has been wanting me to have sex with him, but im still not too sure that i want to. I dont no if it will hurt or if i will get caught by my parents but they are never there tho. I'm still a virgin and i don't no about how anything feels. ...
A. 28 October 2009: TYbh i disagree with everything rhythmandblues2 said. Shes not trying to go against her parents shes scared and worried. This site is to get advice from not lectures from!
Anyway, well done for asking someone!
Ok, first of all i would sugges... (read in full...)
What should I say to get him to really understand?
Q. my fiance is sneaking and talking to his ex behind my back. i've confronted him about it but he still does it anyways. what should i do to get him to understand how much this bothers me?...
A. 28 October 2009: Tbh i would just sit him down and tell him how you are feeling. And ask him to take your feelings into consideration. If he cant do that, then I cant see the marriage lasting long x... (read in full...)
What do you do if someone wants to control and own you?
Q. I would like to know what people think about this if possible. If someone wants to control and own you - what do you do?? and they say things like - you do what I say or am gone...which I think is a form of emotional manipulation.. Anyway do you ...
A. 28 October 2009: I'd tell him where he could shove it and next time he says "you do what I say or am gone" I'd wave at him and say "Missing you already...NOT". Anyway you derseve someone better x... (read in full...)
What gift can I get my online boyfriend?
Q. I have an online boyfriend, the only problem is I want to get him something for his birthday, and he's isn't comfortable giving me his adress. Any ideas for what I can get him? ...
A. 28 October 2009: Haha email him a poem? Tbh why have an online relationship then be uncomfortable about giving you his address... Sorry its a bit sad.. Go find someoen from school to date maybe? x... (read in full...)
What is so gross about breast feeding?
Q. Why do other girls give me looks when i say im breast feeding my baby? why does people think its gross? i mean thats way babys are ment to be feed. i think with it being flu season and babys die from the flu it would be selfish for me not to breast ...
A. 28 October 2009: Oh my goodness Ignore them idiots!! and well done for breastfeeding! It's good for your baby! Its so nice to hear someone is proud they are breast feeding!! Natural all the way!! x... (read in full...)
Is it possible that I can be pregnant even though I'm irregular?
Q. ok i need help. im 2 months late and i dont know if im pregnant or not. i had unprotected sex a couple of days after my last period. my periods are irregular so im thinking thats the reason why im late but then again i could be wrong. i havent t...
A. 28 October 2009: There isevery possible chance. If you have been having unprotected sex is the main thing? If so, go get a test? If its negative test again in 4 weeks x... (read in full...)
14 and pregnant...Help!!
Q. Okay im 14 and I just found out im pregnant. I dont know what to do because i dont want an abortion because im 100% against that. And i want to keep it but i have school.! i want to finish school but i want to have my baby.! PLEASE HELP...
A. 28 October 2009: ok well only thing i can say if you want want to abort is adoption. Your going to need to choose one day, and it will be sooner rather then later, Im against abortion. In my opinion you made your bed you should lie in it yada yada yada. What abou... (read in full...)
Would a baby be good for our relationship?
Q. I'm 19, and my boyfriend's 45, and he wants a baby now. I've told him no, but he's insistent again and again that I have one with him. He says he doesn't want a baby to "trap" me, but because he feels it will be good for our relationship. I'v...
A. 28 October 2009: I'd tell him its over and find someon more in ym age range who wants a life first. x... (read in full...)
What is the difference between pre-cum and cum?
Q. what is the difference between pre-cum and cum?...
A. 26 October 2009: Ones before male orgasm and ejaculation takes place the other is during...
pre = premature
premature = before proper time.
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She wants to leave him. Is there a chance for me?
Q. Ok recently, she messaged me around 3am, sayin I have put some magic spell on her and made her attracted to me haha. But she wants to keep a distance and she's worried what if we never get together because she's still with her bf but he just wont ...
A. 26 October 2009: Just encourage her and let her know you will protect her, keep her safe and love her... shes scared. x... (read in full...)
We are best mates so how do I not ruin things?
Q. I went out with someone 5 months ago. He was my first real love, i'd never loved anyone like i loved him! We was only together a month, we hardly ever seen each other, he got excluded for a week, and i went on holiday for 2 weeks. So we had only ...
A. 26 October 2009: To be honest i would tell him how you feel but tell him if he doesnt reciprocate the same feelings you will understand, just let him know that. But if he doesnt, then move on and tell him you will move on and find love yourself and his chance will ... (read in full...)
Are my parents doing the right thing?
Q. Hello. My mum and dad are currently breaking up, although I have the feeling that they shouldn't be. Basically, my dad gave up smoking a year and a half back, but his job has gotten really stressfull. My mum had this happen two times before and...
A. 26 October 2009: tbh this isn;t your battle. Your in my age range, get out and go live for yourselve and leave them to their own choices.
At the end of the day im on your dads side on this, she had an affair, was stupid enought to not use protection and get preg... (read in full...)
Should I propose to her or tell her how I feel first?
Q. Hi! I want to ask that i love a girl from a year but i haven't told it to her. I think she also loves me so should i propose her? Plz help me Thanks!!...
A. 26 October 2009: I would...subtly tell her how you feel first and see what her response is like.. If serious and positive then go for it...
..but buy a ring first. ... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about my mom sexually
Q. My parents got divorced 13 years ago, and so i was forced to live at my mums during the week and my dads at the weekends. About 8 years ago, i needed to get a glass from the cupboard, but my mum was standing on the worktop in the way cleaning the ...
A. 26 October 2009: The Oedipus Complex... heres where your problem is... you never passed that phase as a child (Mummy's Boy is a good rxample of Oedipus Complex)
Anyway this could have been due to not having your dad around and not being able to solely have your mum ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex not adding me back on MSN?
Q. why is my ex not adding me back on msn because about a week ago we kind of had an argument but then she deletes me from msn. then about 4 days later i asked her why she deleted me and she says that i was getting on her nerves. but i apologised and ...
A. 26 October 2009: Move on dude. Shes not adding you back because maybe she has had enough and wants to move on to the next chapter of her life x... (read in full...)
How to tell my pregnant mother that I might be pregnant too?
Q. My mom is 4 months pregnant, and I think I might be pregnant also.. I'm 18 and live on my own but she still supports me a lot! I dont know how to tell her that I am pregnant, or that I think I might be. Help, please?...
A. 26 October 2009: I think the best thing you can do (we are the same age btw) Is wait until you can confirm your pregnant, then if you are close to your mum, if confirmed positive, then sit her down and tll her, you wont be able to hide it for long, so you guys might ... (read in full...)
How can we make anal sex better?
Q. Ok my boyfriend wonts anal sex and we tried but it hurt real bad. what can i do to make it feel better. we tried changing position but was the same....
A. 25 October 2009: Uhm. Well If its ALSO your choice to WANT to do it (dont do it just because your boyfriend wants it. If thats why your doing it, it will be alot harder for you to do)
Ok so if you are willing there are two good ways to do it, it sounds silly. ... (read in full...)
Condom came off...could I be pregnant?
Q. Hello, My name is jayde and im only 16 and i need help on a question i got to ask okay well me and my boyfriend had sex 2 nights ago and the condom came off inside me and it all went every were is there a possible chance that could make ...
A. 25 October 2009: All i can say is dont stress too much about it (hard i know)
take each day at a time, track when your next period is due (from what you said its 10-12 days away) Then if you still havent had your period in four weeks then test.
x... (read in full...)
Instant Love: what should I do about it?
Q. When i first joined my high school in 2006, i met this girl that i instantly fell in love with(lets call her A), however, since then, i have discovered that one of my best friends also likes her(lets call him B). My other friend (lets call him C) ...
A. 25 October 2009: Go and talk to A hun just give it time though! Dont worry about B, if he is your friend he will understand, if not then hes not worth it! x... (read in full...)
I know this is long, but I really need help. any advice or insight will be incredibly appreciated
Q. This is the backstory to the question. My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost 2 years. We love each other very much. We have a stunning amount in common and a very powerful connection ie ( knowing what each other is thinking) calling ...
A. 25 October 2009: Ok here comes the answer from the rather blunt 18 year old who acts like shes 40.
Ok im simple terms. Your in love with her. She knows that, so she uses that. She also gained ammo when you falsy admitted. (That was a mistake wasn't it)
Its har... (read in full...)
I can't tell if I'm pregnant and I'm afraid to tell my parents!
Q. I had my period for the first three months and missed the fouth and got it the fifth month. Could i be pregnant? I havent had any symptoms and my periods are usually irregualar. HELP!!! Im scared that i was pregnant and that i had sex for the first ...
A. 25 October 2009: If it was 5 months ago... you should be able to tell by now!
Everyone generally worries about this!
I heavily doubt you are pregnant. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible I can get pregnant?
Q. hi i need some idea. i have sex with my boy friend 3 days after my minstration and he forget to withdraw it. is it possible that i can get pregnant? thanks...
A. 25 October 2009: You can get pregnant at any time of your cycle. so yes, test in 4 weeks if you haven't had a period ... (read in full...)
How can I unborn a baby?
Q. how can i unborn a baby i am 2 month of pregnat and if i tellmy dad he willkilll me and send him to jell i dient know i was pregnat me and him was pretecting are self but i dont know what happing and when plz help me dont tell me to go to a clinic ...
A. 25 October 2009: Ok ok... none of us are here to judge you at all.
Im kind of confused as to what you were writing. From what i gather you are 2 months (8 weeks) pregnant, aged 13-15 and scared of telling your parent.
The rest confused me.
"if i tellmy ... (read in full...)
How can I convice my daughter that she'd be aborting for the wrong reasons?
Q. My 17 year old daughter is pregnant. We have always talked openly about keeping the baby should she ever become pregnant. Her boyfriend does not want her to keep the baby. I am so upset she is now considering abortion. We took her down to her ...
A. 8 August 2009: Well in the other end of the scale, if i was in your daughters situation with a mother wanting to support me and if my boyfriend suddenly said such a thing i would be as upset but i would eventually think about all sides. Cause think about it if he ... (read in full...)
What are the chances of me being pregnant?
Q. had sex with my boyfriend on sunday and have been expecting my periods between tuesday and this coming saturday. he tells me that there has been a 20% chance that he PARTLY "came on me". how lots are the chances of me becoming pregnant? please ...
A. 8 August 2009: Yes easily there is a chance you could be pregnant. Even if he just came in you a little bit theres still the risk of pre cum so get tested, courage has noting to do with it.... (read in full...)
Years of unprotected sex and never got pregnant?
Q. For a few years now I've been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend. The odd thing is I never got pregent once. That's always makes wonder is something wrong with me or is it him? I am thinking of getting myself checked out. You advice wou...
A. 8 August 2009: If you want to try then go and get checked out for fertility. Also i have noticed that if you think you really want a baby while having unprotected sex you dont get pregnant, then you stop 'trying' but still having unprotected sex and fall pregnant.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mom I want to go on birth control?
Q. Okay so im 16 and thinking about having sex for the frsit time. i wanna get on birth control. i just dont know how to tell my mom becuase i dont want her to think its for sex when im going to be safe. condoms and everything. how do i t...
A. 27 July 2009: if you want to tell your mother go for it. say something like "well mum im 16 now and i may get in a serious relationship so i am going on birth control"
and yes btw you dont even have to tell her, just go to a local brook center or family p... (read in full...)
Why does she keep turning me down after claiming that she wants sex with me?
Q. im so confused about this girl im seeing!!! Ive startd seeing a girl the last few weeks that has really fancied me for about 2 years. Anyway the thing is we havent had sex yet but have had plenty of oppertunities to, but she keeps making excuses...
A. 27 July 2009: maybe she just wants it to be perfect the first time she has sex with you and aint comfortable until it is?... (read in full...)
Have I lost my virginity or not? And does my boyfriend love me?
Q. I need help i dont no if i have lost my virginity or not because i dont no what its like, so someone help me. How do i know n i also want to know does my boy friend love me cos we've been together for five months now and he's been tellin me he love ...
A. 27 July 2009: how can we answer when the question you ask does not involve what has happened.
loosing virginity = when a penis has entered you.
love = at your age you may think your in love or he loves you but your young, i doubt its love right now after ju... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gave up prostitution for me but I think she's gone back to it! What should I do?
Q. She use to walk on the streets and her mates did it to. but when we started dating she said she would stop and she did and it was fine until she ask me to sleep with her but i didnt want to and we had the fight about how she was giving up everything ...
A. 27 July 2009: Tell her your nervous about sex but i cant see this lasting personally due to how it started and how she acts. if she really lies you she would give you time ... (read in full...)
We rarely have sex and it's been this way since day one. What should I do?
Q. My problem is my boyfriend, ever since we've started dating he hasn't been interested in sex. We're lucky if we do it once every 2 or 3 months. We've been together for almost 3 years now, and this is something I've been trying to resolve with him...
A. 27 July 2009: well ther could be other answers to this does he have erectile dysfunction - this seems to be the case of i cant keep it up dammit. from this he may have lost confidence? tell him to see the doctor about it. If its not AD or anything like that i ... (read in full...)
He won't see his daughter when shes menstruates!
Q. Hi there, I have been divorced for some years now and since my daughter started her period, her Dad has refused to see her the weekends she menstruates. I was wondering if any Father's or other Mother's have had the same experience so so...
A. 27 July 2009: There is two times i have heard of this. one normal and one bad... (i apologise first off btw)
The first one was religion, my friend is hindu and her father wouldn't let her come to school, go out or socialise during days she was on her period. ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her if she slept with the other guy when drunk?
Q. Right, this is my "dilemma" I basically met a girl about 5 weeks ago at a party. From day one we've got on unbelievably well, to the point where we've never felt uncomfortable with eachother in anyway at all. We've been seeing eachother 3 or 4...
A. 27 July 2009: first of all its hearsay. you cant rely on it even if its a best friend who tells you. Look her in the eyes and ask her. but if you met 5 weeks ago and after 4 weeks made it offical you technically weren't together 3 weeks ago anyway tbh?
so even... (read in full...)
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