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writes:I am gay and i love straight guy , i didn't want this to happened but i found myself failing in love with him.At the first i thought that he might be gay, there were many signs , therefore, i developed my feelings into him as he was very nice to me and wanted to see most of the time , but i found out that he is not gay i need to stop this but the thing is i cant , i have to see him everyday as he works with me in the same firm and he comes to my place sometimes and he invites me to his place , so if i stopped meeting him or avioding him , i will sound ignorant and rude and dont want this to happened too. how could i handle this ? i feel that i miss him but i need to move on and restart my life , i am weak , i truly loved him , this has to finish
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2012): Go to more gays bars etc. This straight guy will NOT be impressed Im afraid and you will only get hurt. Gay guys know who other gay guys are-do not embarass this man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2012): "I am gay and I love straight guy"
Very common for gay guys to have fantasies/crushes involving straight guys, hunky straight guys can seem so much hotter than hunky gay guys due to unattainability factor, given your discomfort with situation best for you to take initiative and diffuse it.
Not sure what you've told him about yourself but perhaps you can orchestrate a fake outing, "confess" to him that you're gay and in consideration for his feelings best that you end all contact outside work. If he protests and/or still wants to maintain friendship, then he may not be as 100% straight as you presume.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (29 June 2012):
 "I am gay and i love straight guy"
Does that mean you love straight guys in general, or this particular straight guy?
I think if you decide straight guys are the only ones you want to love, you will definitely fail in love, as in your typo here.
I don't believe you can love some one from afar, although you can be a secret admirer. This man is not the one for you, but you are far from broken because of this. You need to redirect your energies elsewhere. Go meet more guys in the gay part of town.
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reader, princessjasmine  +, writes (29 June 2012):
I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. I know what it's like to love someone who loves someone else or doesnt' love you back. It sucks the most that you have to see him...that's really going to be hard I think because it's harder to get over someone when you see them everyday. You know 100% that he's straiaght? How did you find out? Anyways, all you can do is keep him as a friend and know deep down that it will NEVER HAPPEN...that little hope left over is what makes you not get over someone, let that hope go....there's not a chance if he's straight so move on with it! Go out on dates with others and enjoy the single life!!
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