He broke up with me, wanting us to remain "friends", but I don't think I can deal with that. Should I?
Q. My boyfriend , of six weeks, called me a little over 2 weeks ago and said that he thought "maybe we should break up." So, I said okay fine we're broken up and left it like that. The next day he came by my house, apologized profusely and wanted t...
A. 21 June 2005: Dear Young & in Love, I read your story & I believe you are a VERY intelligent young lady ! You have this guy ALMOST figured out...Bravo for you ! I have witnessed relationships similar to what you experienced. It sounds to me, as if this guy is ... (read in full...)
He's 20 and she's 13, but she's interested. What should she do?
Q. If a 13 year old girl like a 20 year old guy,and he smiles and stares at her,and she to afraid to talk to him, and she loves him, what should she do?...
A. 21 June 2005: Sweetie pie...you are way too young to have a romance with an older man. If this guy has sex with you, he will be arrested and charged with Statutory Rape....that's the Law ! If he KNOWS you are 13 & he pursues you...then something is really wrong ... (read in full...)
We've been attracted for 12 years & he lives in another country. What next?
Q. I have a very difficult problem. Twelve years ago I met a man who was a tourist in my country. We liked each other very much but didn't have a relationship. When he left for his country we spoke on the phone and corresponded regularly. Two year...
A. 21 June 2005: Sweetie...you need to define LOVE. It's difficult to Love someone you hardly know. You haven't spent any REAL time with this guy, other than emails & phone calls...you have not dated on a regular basis or lived together so you see his TRUE COLOURS... (read in full...)
Things with my current bf are getting dull. Should I leave or try to make it work?
Q. I am only 18 and I have been with the same guy for 2 years. Things are now getting boring, we have nothing in common and our sex life is non exsistant. I really like another guy and want to get to know him better. Do I try and make things work with ...
A. 21 June 2005: Communicatrix gave you some excellent advice ! You are only 18 years old & have MUCH to learn about love and relationships. Treasure what you have learned from your current boyfriend, savour the wonderful memories of the past, but since you have b... (read in full...)
My girlfriend spends too much time flirting with other guys!
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for a year and a half and recently things havent seemed right. She spends a lot of time with a 'friend' but I have met the guy and don't trust him. A few days ago my girlfriend swapped sim cards in to my phone an...
A. 21 June 2005: The fact that your girlfriend spends time with a male friend should not alarm you, if you trust her, but knowing that he texted her "begging her to kiss him" and she kept this truth from you...is valid ground for you to be alarmed. The 2 of you need... (read in full...)
My gf can't seem to move on from her ex... and I can't move on from her!
Q. Hi everyone,. I hope some of you agony aunts and uncles can give me some advise. Last year I met a wonderful girl, she is a lot younger than me and we both had a few problems of our own, she had just come out of a relationship, although she ass...
A. 20 June 2005: My heart goes out to you concerning this situation. I have known females like your girlfriend. She is in love with the "notion" of Love. Her life is full of drama. If she can't find drama...she will CREATE IT. You stated she was back with her ... (read in full...)
After she told me that we have sex "wrong", I was at a total loss...
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now. Recently though, she has told me that I have sex wrong. Maybe not "wrong" but that it's just sex to me. I love the girl to death. To be honest, I feel I love her more than she me, but this is ...
A. 20 June 2005: If you really TRULY love this girl, then push your male pride aside & have a heart to heart...EYE TO EYE conversation with her about this issue. Yu've been dating 2 years & she FINALLY told you that you don't show her love during sex...that took cou... (read in full...)
I trusted my boyfriend to lose the one-night-stand, but he's been seeing her for months!
Q. About 8 months ago by boyfriend had a one night stand with another girl. I forgave him and we have now been going out for a year. The girl was, at the time, one of his friends but after this happened I told him never to talk to her again, and I was ...
A. 20 June 2005: Honey, you answered your own question. You can never trust this scoundrel again. You will never forget about his affair with that girl. He lies to you & sneaks around behind your back. Now that you KNOW the truth...let it set you free. Gr... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and recovering from surgery, but my husband demands more sex when I can't give it!
Q. I have a big problem, at least for me it is big. My husband is supposed to love me, but now he is behaving strangely. He insults me all the time, but he wants sex more then before and when I say no he gets upset. I'm pregnant for six months. ...
A. 20 June 2005: Darling lady...oh sweet suffering soul. Your stupid selfish husband needs to be horse whipped ! If he went through major back surgery & endured the pain you are going through....how would he like it if you jumped his bones & rattled his spin... (read in full...)
Can I have one last fling with an incredible guy on my way to the altar, or not?
Q. I am getting married in August to a man I love very much and we are in a very happy relationship. However I met a man through work, and we made a heart stopping connection. There is a chemistry between us and I can't stop thinking about him. I rece...
A. 20 June 2005: There's a HUGE difference between Love & Lust. If the guy you just met is INCREDIBLE...what does that make your fiancee? Is he...wonderful...great...nice...boring...lower on the scale? You mention the word ALTAR...a holy place where you take vow... (read in full...)
I can't last five minutes during sex. Help!
Q. Im a 21 year old male who suffers from premature ejaculations. I dont know what is wrong, I lost my last relationship because of it! Take masturbation as an example, I dont enjaculate quickly but if I have sex I don't last 5 minutes! How do I ...
A. 20 June 2005: Go to your local video store & rent a movie called Bliss. It's a story of a husband & wife who have sex problems. He struggled with the same problem as you & she was distant (due to other issues) Long story short...he saw a sex therapist (relucta... (read in full...)
My current girlfriend read my messages from my ex. Now she doesn't trust me!
Q. My g/f of 4 months read the Messenger history that I had for the past 3 months with an ex of mine in which on several occasions we had cyber sex. Me and my ex had also discussed the problems that me and my current g/f were having, in which my ex had ...
A. 20 June 2005: Dude, if you're having cybersex with your ex & sharing personal info about your girlfriend...no wonder your girlfriend doesn't trust you. She needs to tell you where to go...& it's not the bedroom! Grow up !... (read in full...)
Masturbation gives me reliable orgasms, but sex... not.
Q. I can easily have orgasms when I am masturbating, but when I am having sex with my boyfriend I haven't ever had an orgasm. Do you know what I can do to solve this?...
A. 20 June 2005: Alot of folks are not aware that a female is capable of 3 types or orgasms. 1) clitoral 2) labia 3) G-Spot When I masturbate with a toy...I enjoy labia & clitoral orgasms. When my boyfriend is inside me (fingers or penis) I enjoy G-spot orgasm... (read in full...)
Can someone tell us some sex positions we can use, so he doesn't keep slipping out?
Q. Hi, I am in a very loving relationship that seems soon headed for marriage. My question is this... My guy is not all that well endowed and when we try it "doggie style", he keeps slipping out. Can you recommend postions that might make this adv...
A. 20 June 2005: Great advice from online folks. You go girl !... (read in full...)
I think he needs to shower more than he has been. How can I tell him without hurting his feelings?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together over a year now. He is the first uncircumcised guy I've ever been with and I have had more yeast infections than normal over the past year (which I've heard is common with uncircumcised guys). My question...
A. 20 June 2005: My daughter had the same problem with a boyfriend in the past. She tried every GENTLE approach to tell him how much it turned her off because he was uncircumcised & collected alot of hair & grit in the folds of his penis head. ( plus the smell wa... (read in full...)
We've been married for 4 years, but we can't have sex because it hurts too much!
Q. Dear Cupid I am 27, and I've been married for 4 years. I have tried to have sex with my partner but had no luck. Every time my partner tries to insert his penis it does not go in, we tried everything, I be in so much pain as though someone is cutti...
A. 20 June 2005: Honey, you need to see a gynecologist & he will help you. I suspect what the problem may be...but a professional will give you a quick exam & diagnose it accurately. Get this taken care of PRONTO, because sex is Great !... (read in full...)
We're getting close to having sex for the first time, and I'm not confident at all!
Q. I'm a 24 year old female and I've been with my boyfriend who's 25 for 6 weeks now. I really feel like we're at the stage where we are about to have sex for the first time. I really do want this to happen but at the same time I'm scared. I have sle...
A. 20 June 2005: NEVER feel pressured to have sex with someone, just to gain their approval or be afraid of losing them. When you REALLY want someone...it comes naturally. You will know when the time is right...with the right guy. You will desire him SO INTENSE... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't swallow. Can I talk her around to seeing it my way?
Q. hiya, I was just wondering. I have been going out with my gilfriend for 3 years and I really want her to swallow my cum. Are there any ways in whichI can get her to do this? Thanx...
A. 20 June 2005: If the girl says no....then NO means NO ! There is an episode on Sex & the City about swallowing cum. Kim Cattrall dates a guy who wants her to swallow his cum but she says "his spunk tastes like javex & fish" Swallow a shooter of your own spun... (read in full...)
He only ever sees me when he needs something, otherwise he's anxious to leave...
Q. Dear cupid, I have a boyfriend who claims to love me so much but seemingly he has something up his sleeve. He calls me only when he needs to see me and that is after months or so. When I call him, he gives excuses to hang up. I need your advic...
A. 20 June 2005: Honey if he's your boyfriend & he waits MONTHS to see you...then he is NOT a boyfriend...he's a player & a user ! Move on sweetie pie...find someone who adores you and wants to be with you every chance he gets. It's time to "take out the garbage!... (read in full...)
Are there any circumstances where it's OK to hit someone?
Q. Can anyone please tell me if there are ever circumstances where it is understandable to hit a woman? Picture a scene of a grump, overweight and lazy woman who constantly nags her husband when he comes in from work, shattered. She won't leave hi...
A. 20 June 2005: I agree with Caribgal...she says it all. You claim your wife sits around & never does anything. You are guilty of something SIMILAR. You've been on the fence for years... Get off the damn Fence & take action ! LOVE HER OR LEAVE HER.... (read in full...)
Remaining a virgin is seriously important to me, but how can I find a partner who shares this feeling?
Q. Dear Cupid: I started going to college late, but now I am attending UCLA, a famous university. I want to remain a virgin until I find my one and true love, but she must also be a virgin. No one that I know is a virgin, and if I tell someone,...
A. 20 June 2005: Wow...where should I start? Number 1..if you choose to remain a Virgin (which is a great choice) then change your attitude...CELEBRATE IT ! Modify your thinking patterns...you sound like a strong man who is capable of controlling his thoughts. A... (read in full...)
I'm willing to go down on her, but she doesn't return the favour!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for a few years now. I am more than willing to, and do, go down on her pretty often. The problem is that she refuses to give me head. I've tried talking to her about it, but she hasn't ever really given me an ...
A. 20 June 2005: Perhaps she had a negative experience with "giving head" in the past...or had a religious upbringing that conditioned her to believe she's BAD if she performs oral. Since you have tried talking to her & she refuses to give you an answer, it's obv... (read in full...)
My man loses his erection every time we try to have full sex!
Q. Question: involved an in love w wonderful man who is leaving his wife-everything between us perfect except sex...kissing, cuddling, etc all perfect-but he loses his erection each time we try to have full sex. He says it is emotional and I believe it ...
A. 20 June 2005: The answer is crystal clear. The man you are having an affair with is suffering from Guilt...that is why he loses his erection. You state he is a decent man & cannot handle the duplicity. If you TRULY love this man...release him so he can sort... (read in full...)
Will things get more awkward if I tell her how I've fallen for her?
Q. I've just finished my first year at university where I’ve made some absolutely brilliant new friends. Particularly, I’ve met a girl who, to put it plainly, I’ve fallen head-over-heels in love with. Recently we’ve spent a lot of time together and we ...
A. 20 June 2005: Dear confused, It's obvious this lady has found a place in your heart but you need to examine the values in your life. If she was YOUR girlfriend, would you want her to be close friends with another man who had fallen in love with her? Would you ... (read in full...)
I hit him first and I didn't want him locked up. Am I kidding myself that we can stay together as a couple?
Q. My question is this, my boyfriend and I had a fight recently in which he called the police to lock me up cause i shoved him and hit him. He in turn got locked up. Police didn't like him and his attitude so they thought he go to jail for domestic ...
A. 20 June 2005: Oh my, what a situation you are in sweet lady ! Number one...there needs to be ZERO TOLERANCE for violence. No one has a right to strike another person, unless they are in a life threatening situation. Your boyfriend says he needs his space, so g... (read in full...)
She says there's no chance of her going out with my mate... ever. But I still get worried!
Q. Hi.... Ok here's my question. I've been dating this girl for 2 months now.... it's been all good and I love her very much. Just before we got started we had a mutual close friend. He'd known the girl longer than I had so I thought I'd get some ins...
A. 20 June 2005: Dear worried heart, I believe your girlfriend GENUINELY cares for you and she is worthy of your trust, but you need to be honest with her about your worries concerning the other man. You don't need to go into alot of detail about your fears, but ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if she likes me, but I'm very attracted to her. What can I say? What if she rejects me?
Q. Hello I am at presently passing through a very disturbed state of mind and I want a help from you. The reason is that I am in love with a girl whom I have started liking. I am in very deep love with this girl but she seem to never think abou...
A. 20 June 2005: Dear Kartik, It's obvious you are a shy man but have a tender spot in your heart for this young lady. My advice is to TAKE ACTION soon ! Many people have to make brave decisions concerning our careers and other areas of our lives. So make a DE... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's fantasies are all about me and other guys... and he wants me to talk about the ones in porn mags!
Q. Advice please, need opinion: My b/f & I watch porn. He says he's not interested in the women. He wants me to see other men, then asks my opinion on them bodywise(?). He buys magazines with men in them. He looks at them even when I'm not there, a...
A. 20 June 2005: Speaking from experience, I believe too much porn will damage a healthy sex relationship. On the RARE OCCASION, it's fun & kinky to watch porn together & share each other's fantasies, but if it becomes an Obsession or an Addiction..it's time to ... (read in full...)
When my husband admitted he'll always love his old g/f, it make me insecure...
Q. I asked my husband if he still loved his old girlfriend and he replied he will always love her but only in a caring way. This makes me feel insecure. Should I feel threatened and/or insecure that he will always love her? Thanks....
A. 20 June 2005: Your husband was being truly honest with you about his feelings for his ex girlfriend. That means he trusts & respects you as a person. What if he lied & said he hated her, then bumped into her one day & you saw them perhaps hug, chat & laugh tog... (read in full...)
My family will freak about a 12-years age gap, but it doesn't really matter to us...
Q. I am 19 years old (female) and am dating a 31 year old male. We really hit it off well and have a lot in common and he's a really nice guy. I was just wondering if 12 years is a big deal of a difference. I don't want to tell my family about him or ...
A. 20 June 2005: My advice to you about your romance with an older man is... Move SLOWLY & see how the 2 of you GROW together. After several months, if the relationship is solid, it's time to introduce him to your family. There are MANY relationships with vast ... (read in full...)
Involved with a married guy who says he sees himself divorced in the next 5 to 10 years...
Q. I'm having a affair with a married man for 2 months now. I'm in love with him, I'm also in a long term relationship but not married. I'm not sure if it will go anywhere. He's unhappy at home and tells me he's only staying there for his child. H...
A. 20 June 2005: It's obvious you are seeking your IDENTITY in this man. You are unhappy until he phones or texts you messages. I would suggest you rent the movie "Waiting to Exhale." It will give you the answers you seek. If you REFUSE to compromise your values... (read in full...)
My dream guy seems to have a lot of not-too-innocent messages on his phone. Is he cheating?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together now for almost 20 months. When i first met him i was obsessed with him and i still am. I used to make myself be at the same places he was so we could talk but not in a stalker way. LOL. I finally got the chance ...
A. 20 June 2005: This is another classic case of a guy wanting his cake & eating it too. He met you when he was in a relationship with another woman & texted you romantic messages. Now he's in a relationship with you but he is texting other women with romantic me... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's friend is more my type, but I'm getting mixed signals from her...
Q. Have been seeing a girl for three months now. I do care for her, although there's not much physical attraction on my behalf towards her any more. To be honest, she's becoming very clingy towards me and I don't particularly want to take things ...
A. 20 June 2005: My answer to you is plain & simple. You're a naughty boy who wants his cake & eat it too ! Your present girlfriend is being clingy because she SENSES your attraction to her friend...women have built in Radar. Obviously you do not care for her very... (read in full...)
I left my husband for a woman who I love. But do I have to sacrifice my relationship with my daughters?
Q. I am 47 and have 2 children one 18 and one 14. Three years ago I fell in love with another woman. I left my husband and two children for her. I saw my daughters at least 4 times a week but obviously my ex hates me. 3 years on, my eldest will not...
A. 20 June 2005: Same sex relationships can cause tension within a family, but if you truly love this woman, you must not compromise. You need to set boundaries with your family. Continue to assure them that you love them, but they also need to love you back...... (read in full...)
Don't want to come between brothers, but do I give up on the man I have feelings for?
Q. I need advice. I have been friends with this guy (J) for a long time, and recently we both confessed that we have feelings for each other. The problem is that i dated his brother (R) 3 1/2 years ago and he found out about us. (R) was furious, ...
A. 20 June 2005: Many folks believe there is a Cardinal rule in dating. Don't date blood relatives of your ex ! If you continue in your relationship with your ex's brother, your life will be filled with tension & conflict. Relationships are tough enough WITHOUT... (read in full...)
He didn't want a relationship, which is OK. But he said he'd call me and he hasn't!
Q. I was talking to this guy who I liked very much. We were not dating yet, even though it felt like it. I thought everything was going fine until he stopped talking to me. Finally I got him to tell me what was wrong, and he said he didnt want a ...
A. 20 June 2005: If you want a relationship with this man, but he acts like he does NOT want a relationship with you...what message do you think he's trying to give you? If he says he's going to call, but he doesn't call, what message do you think he's trying t... (read in full...)
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