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writes: I am 19 years old (female) and am dating a 31 year old male. We really hit it off well and have a lot in common and he's a really nice guy. I was just wondering if 12 years is a big deal of a difference. I don't want to tell my family about him or they will freak. His age really doesn't matter to us because we are so into each other. What do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2007): If you are as into this guy as you say.. then go for it. I'm almost 18 and am seeing a 30 year old. We are totally comfortable with eachother, and hit it off from the moment we met. If you act mature beyond your years, your parents will appreciate your honesty in discussing this with them.
Best Wishes to you and your Partner.
Mona.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2007): I am also a 19 year old female and have had relations lately with a 32year old man. When I was with him we didnt really think of the age gap, althought some friends didnt approve. However I am alos worrying about telling my Parents, I just dont know what the reaction will be. I suspect it will be bad
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): Hi, I am 17 and seeing a 36 year old, although he acts like he's 18 still. I couldn't believe i was for a long time but the point is i love every second we spend together. Age is just a number. I think you have nothing to worry about. Go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006): hi i have the exact same problem im only 14 but im in love with a 26 year old man and the worse thing is he is my cousins ex boyfriend and hes the dad to my 2nd cousin Chloe but if you have a lot in common then why not.Theres a lot worse some people even have 25 year age gaps in their relationships like my dad was only 19 when i was born and my mum was 36 :) anyway i think you ahould tell your parents they may not like it but if they see you are happy they will soon come round danielle xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2006): You're over the age of consent. Do what you want. Also, 31 is by no standards old. Your parents may be apprehensive at first, but, if you care about him enough, it isn't a problem that can't be overlooked. However, if this man is in a power of position over you (i.e. he is your teacher, professor, doctor, etc) as is the case in many such relationships, this might not work out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2006): i believe that age dosn't really matter in any raltionship...if you truthly love eachother then it should matter to them and they will soon be allowed to accept it
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2006): Its not a big deal at all. me and my boyfriend have the most ''socially undesirable'' situation going yet were very much in love. im 16 and he is 23 and we both agree wer meant for each other. you are as mature as u act, not how old u are. he is also sperated from a marriage, but once u overcome all different factors, your love is all that matters and i couldnt be happier. i was scared to tell my mam expecially since he has a little girl to someone else and a wife, but my mam trusts my judgement
im sure yours will too.. good luck
Lisa xxxxxxxxx
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reader, becky05 +, writes (2 July 2005):
OK, 12 years is quite a big age gap and youre still young but then again, 31 isnt that old. If you are serious about him, introduce him to your parents. Take things slowly and see how it goes
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2005): Me and my husband have an age gap of 23 years and we are perfectly happy. He is almost the same age as my parents and they absolutely love him. If your parents are logical individuals, then they will trust that you know this man and that you are making the right decision. Age only becomes a problem if you let it. Good luck.
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reader, robinlovescena +, writes (21 June 2005):
 i think that you should tell them, they should be able to understand, ur dad will be the one freaking out most but he will learn to respect ur desision on who u date. age really does not mean ne thing. but he is a mature man, and mature men wants the girls to do mature things to you him. so if your all up for that thjen go ahead, but then i would really regret going out with this guy, and if you really really like him, invite him over for dinner, tell him to be nothing but himself. after he leaves ask ur parents what they think about him. good luck~Robin~aka advice gurl
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reader, pops +, writes (20 June 2005):
Take it slowly. Does your boyfriend have friends his age and does he relate to his agegroup well? If not, he may be in an psychological state of arrested development, and you will soon pass him by, maturity wise, and have little in common with him. The age difference does not mean as much after you are over 25-28 years of age. However, until then, you are still growing and learning, and he may not be the guy for you in 4-8 years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2005): if you are genuinely happy together then age doesn't matter, but if you keep worrying about what your parents will say it will just put strain on the relationship and it will end before it has really begun...so just relax and be happy, make sure he is the one you really want before you tell your parents..but don't leave it too long before you tell them as they might be more upset with the fact you thought you could not talk to them about it.
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reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (20 June 2005):
My advice to you about your romance with an older man is...Move SLOWLY & see how the 2 of you GROW together.After several months, if the relationship is solid, it's time to introduce him to your family.There are MANY relationships with vast age differences.Some of them work & some don't, for various reasons.When your family becomes aware that you have already been committed to this gentleman for quite awhile, their response may be alot more positive and supportive.If they choose to be negative & critical, Hold your Ground.Show them you are a mature, confident adult, quite capable of making your own decisions for choosing a suitable mate.Speaking from experience, maturity conflicts can be an issue, but if you're both on a stable wave length...Bravo !Also, make sure he does not become a "father image"Sometimes, younger women become attracted to older men because they did not receive what they needed from their fathers.Bless your dear heart...live and learn !
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