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writes: I have a big problem, at least for me it is big. My husband is supposed to love me, but now he is behaving strangely. He insults me all the time, but he wants sex more then before and when I say no he gets upset.I'm pregnant for six months. I need his love, coz he wanted a baby so desperately. I had a surgery of the back bone and the doc said you can have the baby but you should take care of yourself. But I now I feel myself very alone. I can't beg him for love me. I get very angry now and I don't want to see him. I cry all the time. I feel my self dead.I don't know what to do. For him, love is sex. He doesn't see my reports; he doesn't take interest. We have a daughter. He loves her the same, but for me his attitude is totally changed. Plz tell me what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (20 June 2005):
Darling lady...oh sweet suffering soul.Your stupid selfish husband needs to be horse whipped !If he went through major back surgery & endured the pain you are going through....how would he like it if you jumped his bones & rattled his spine?He is an insensitive barbaric abusive Neanderthal !Does he think INSULTING you will make you desire him sexually?He is BULLYING you into sex.In my books, that makes him an abuser & a control freak.You need to leave him & take care of your children and the growing baby in your womb....YOUR HEALTH IS PRIORITY !Obviously he does not care about your suffering & pain. Is this the kind of man you want to be the father of your children? Your babies are precious gems...PROTECT THEIR FUTURE !You said you see yourself DEAD.Honey...that is not good...you need to see a doctor IMMEDIATELY & tell him how you feel.He will give you special medication to help you.Please call friends or family & ask for assistance !God be with you, dear heart.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (3 June 2005):
 You need to get someone to help explain this to your husband. Do you have a close family friend, or a relative (like your mother or a sister) who would be willing to help?Your husband needs to understand that he needs to make a sacrifice at this time, that you can't have sex every time he wants it right now, because of your surgery and your baby. Maybe a friend could sit with you and insist that your husband listens to you.You might also try asking your husband to come with you to your doctor to hear the doctor tell him the same thing. Or maybe your doctor will write it in a letter to your husband, so he understands that you must take care of yourself.You need to protect your own health and your baby's health, so you need to be strong and make sure your husband treats you well, so that you can recover. Do whatever you have to, so that you can get well and stay healthy, even if your husband doesn't get sex. This is important.Remind your husband that women who are heavily pregnant cannot always have sex and that this is his baby that you are carrying. He may not know that pregnancy can make sex uncomfortable.Take care of yourself. Do what your doctor says and be sure you stay healthy and well.
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