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French kissing and oral sex
Q. If a man french kisses does that mean that he will be receptive to oral sex for both female and male. Or does one have anything to do with the other. Also, why would a man want oral sex but doesn't want to give it? If he is born in 1938 would th...
A. 17 March 2009: I don't think French kissing is a good predictor of whether someone will enjoy giving or receiving oral sex. Well--if they dislike French kissing because it's gross, they'll probably think oral sex is even more so, but it doesn't necessarily work ... (read in full...)
I confront him and he just lies to me more
Q. My boyfriend of almost 8 years is lying to me about were he met this girl on his myspace. We have had our problems in the past yet I have stayed with him. I feel like this is the last draw I don't know what to do I confront him and he just lies...
A. 17 March 2009: I think you need to stand up for yourself and your own happiness and leave him. How can you have a good life with someone who lies to you?... (read in full...)
I need some sort of action plan!
Q. Before anything, I'd like to clarify my real age which is 13, not 18+ I currently have a crush on this guy. Let's call him Tom. I used to love this guy, let's call him Sam. Well basically, Sam was perfect, he was hot, cute, nice and sweet. I...
A. 16 March 2009: You're welcome sweetie. You're smart for asking. Good luck finding someone fun to hang out with! :)... (read in full...)
I don't know what to believe from her anymore?
Q. i've been in a serious relationship with this really amazing girl for almost an year now. when i started this relationship with her we made our respective past lives as transparent to each other as possible. i assured her that i had no problems with ...
A. 16 March 2009: Oops Osito! I accidentally clicked "vote to remove unhelpful or hurtful answer" under your last reply! Oh well I'm sure the site will read your reply and say "That's not hurtful!" :D Sorry.
Yes, PM me with the details if you like. I hope I can he... (read in full...)
Gay?Or just trying to be a loyal friend?
Q. hey guys .... well anyways/...im a 14 year old striaght guy and i have alot of close guy friends... but this one guy J.D is getting reallly too close to me...he's always tryin to make me laugh and allways touchy feely like a pat on the bac...
A. 14 March 2009: I can't really tell. I doubt I could tell even if I met J.D.! Some people are just more "touchy" than others. Look at his family. Do they touch each other a lot? That could explain it.
If he tells you he's gay, do you know what you'll say? Or ... (read in full...)
Hard times and parents saving money!
Q. My parents are trying to save money. I'm starting to grow out of my jeans, so I want to buy a couple pairs of skinny-jeans. Whenever I ask my mom, she always says something, like, "You always want something, do you? Times are tough, and we don't wa...
A. 14 March 2009: I'm laughing, because I sympathize with both of you. This bad economy sucks! Remember that your parents are trying to keep the whole family afloat.
I have an idea. Tonight, why don't you say to your mom, "You keep telling me how tough times ar... (read in full...)
Am I being unfair to my family?
Q. It has been some time since i have sought advice. I just can't seem to get on with my parents. There is quite a history but for the last 2 years things had improved but things are increasingly frought of late. My dad isn't a touchy feely dad and ...
A. 14 March 2009: Oh boy. Well, your parents sound pretty negative. Neither of them can respect a confidence or has a clue how to support you in your endeavors (except for that nice handshake at your wedding, so your Dad isn't a complete loss!). They do sound like ... (read in full...)
Need Help,Wife spoketo ex lover and its killing me!
Q. Hello everyone and thanks in advance for the help....I am a 36 yr old male and my wife of 12 years (been married 12-together 17) is also 36. We have two kids and up until last week i thought a very good realationship. Here is my situation. I ca...
A. 14 March 2009: It sounds to me like she handled the phone call just fine. He kept bringing it up, and she said "I don't want to remember. It makes me feel old." That is shutting him down. She wasn't heavy-handed, but she said nothing improper, and she didn't ... (read in full...)
He made me feel like a dirty little slut
Q. Hello Friends! I have a scenario that I would like your opinion on. I was having a nice conversation with my boyfriend last night, and the topic turned to Hollywood actors. I was telling him who my favorites were. And then I said, Johnny Depp is ...
A. 14 March 2009: I think you have to take your partners feelings into account. I try to be discreet about saying stuff like "Oh my God that Sting is SO HOT!" because I'm not sure whether my husband will feel insecure or not. As it turns out, he doesn't really mind, ... (read in full...)
My best friends ex wants me what should I do?
Q. Hi, This girl just broke up with my best friend now she is calling me frequently that i should visìt her and to buy something for her while coming. I tried to avoid her but she kept persuading me to come and visit her she îs staying alone. ...
A. 14 March 2009: She always wants you to bring her something? Like a present? She sounds kind of greedy. From that point of view, I would avoid her.
However, if you don't mind that, it doesn't really seem like your friend minds at all. And as long as there ar... (read in full...)
I'm tired of people talking about religion in a bad light!
Q. I'm really tired of people talking about my religion in a bad way. I'll be sitting at school and the someone says something about how my religion doesn't celebrate any holidays. They say stuff like "that's really stupid" and they don't even know ...
A. 14 March 2009: I wonder if you can arrange to do a presentation in your class about it, as a way of educating other kids about the truth about your religion. If that's not a possibility, when you hear these things being said, could you calmly say, "Well, I'm a ... (read in full...)
She keeps talking about how big this guy was
Q. Hi' I have a little insecurity issue occuring lately. On New Years Eve my wife and I attended a party at a friends place. A while after we got there my wife said she had to go to the bathroom. When she came back she was all horned up. I asked what ...
A. 14 March 2009: Oh geez! She's being really insensitive! Just tell her straight out you don't want to hear about Bill's big dick anymore. If you don't want to sound like a pussy, be manlike about it. ... (read in full...)
I've put my name down for a charitable game... But I'm nervous. Is it a good idea?
Q. Hi, My university is holding an event for Comic Relief tomorrow. This event requires some volunteers who will then stand in line while people place bids to go on a date with them, with the funds going to charity. I thought it would be fun so ...
A. 14 March 2009: Hey, you did something you never did before, and you got through it successfully! And you made money for charity! And you met a nice lesbian who must think you're cute! :) Maybe she has some nice straight friends :D... (read in full...)
I don't know what to believe from her anymore?
Q. i've been in a serious relationship with this really amazing girl for almost an year now. when i started this relationship with her we made our respective past lives as transparent to each other as possible. i assured her that i had no problems with ...
A. 14 March 2009: AWWW! What you said was really loving. I think that would work.
Okay, say "I have something important I want to talk to you about. Can we sit down for a few minutes?" Then you can say what you just wrote about how you love her and don't care abo... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is depressed and won't see anyone about it!
Q. what should i do to help my boyfriend i think he is depressed and he wont see a shrink he says he hates himself in everyway and one time he left a party early and walk home which was miles away because (and this is what he sed) everyone else was so ...
A. 13 March 2009: I'm sorry about the parents. That's sad, and it may contribute to his depression that his parents aren't really connecting with him.
Do consider telling an adult, if only to help you figure out what to do. You can always tell a teacher that you... (read in full...)
She thinks I'm trying to change her, but I'm just concerned for her, and now she's broken up with me! Help!
Q. hi im 15 and goin through a hard time. okay heres how it all went down. my girlfriend who is 15 but older than me still told me she smokes i was shocked cause she said she hates people who smoke which doesnt make any cents. anyway i asked her why ...
A. 13 March 2009: Oh dear. You made two BIG mistakes. You got your sister involved, and your sister, rather than just being sympathetic and saying "There there" stuck her nose in. That's a real mistake. And the other was saying "If you loved me, you'd quit."
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Tormented woman needs coaching
Q. Can someone help me think of the right words to say now that I have decided to take a painful step? I have known a man through work for a little more than a year now. From the moment we met I felt that unbelievable chemistry you always hear about, ...
A. 13 March 2009: I agree completely with the first, anonymous poster. I'm not very outgoing, but I've always set great store on expressing emotions. However, in this case, you will achieve your goals better if you follow anon's advice.
If this man has any sensitiv... (read in full...)
Trying for a second child after the death of our baby...
Q. Trying for a second after the death of our baby. My husband and I were high school sweet hearts and both knew we wanted to have children. Sortly after we got married we tried to get pregnant after 3 years and many tries we finally got pregnant...
A. 13 March 2009: Oh bless you. I read your update.
Different people grieve differently. But it's been 18 months, and you guys have to move out of this stalemate. Suggest seeing a grief counselor. In fact, you might insist on it. If your heart is set on having a... (read in full...)
My friend KNEW I liked him and now she's with him! I feel betrayed.
Q. I'm going throuh some stuff, ok here it goes, my best friend let's call her hannah, well a while ago I told hannah that I was crushing on this guy, well she understood and we became good friends with him. A couple of days I heard that he liked ...
A. 13 March 2009: These things definitely happen. Just count it as one of life's experiences.
It's possible that "Hannah" didn't mean to betray you, but didn't have the strength of character to resist the temptation. I know that's happened to much older people t... (read in full...)
How can I ask my parents for birth control?
Q. I'm 15 years old and I want birth control. I'm not a virgin but I'm not having sex regulary, I just want it just in case something ever comes up. Also, to help regulate my period. The problem is I don't know how to ask my parents for them because my ...
A. 13 March 2009: Hmmm. That's a tough one! I think you can just go to Planned Parenthood, and they will help you get birth control. I don't believe you need your parents' consent, but that may vary from state to state. Call them up and find out!
If this isn't an... (read in full...)
My vagina always smells like fish!
Q. My vagina always smells like fish, especially after athletic activities. Is there something that will help get rid of it without going to a doctor for help and if im under 18? ...
A. 13 March 2009: There's no reason you shouldn't go to a doctor! Go to the doctor and let him or her check you for infection!
If it's happening after sports, it's probably just a lot of sweat. At the age you are, you may be having lots of hormones coursing... (read in full...)
Is she getting bored with me?
Q. I feel like shit... I'm 15 and my girlfrend is 16. When we started going out it was perfect but now I'm really mad... I'm a nice sweet guy, totally not a jerk and a really good and caring boyfriend... I love her and I thought she did tooo... but ...
A. 13 March 2009: Ask her what's up. If she tells you nothing is wrong, then tell her yes there is. You don't treat me the same way as you used to.
If she's not prepared to do anything to make you feel better about the relationship. You're young, and this is the t... (read in full...)
Should I tell Adam what I did?
Q. Hi guys, I need some help... and I dont know what to do. I did something really bad and I'm ashamed. Well me and my buddy Adam are like two peas in a pod... we're the best of friends we're really close and nothing could tear us apart, we get along ...
A. 13 March 2009: I agree that you should tell him and be prepared for the consequences. If he's angry with you, don't argue with him or make excuses for yourself. Your friendship might not survive the truth, but it certainly won't survive the lie.... (read in full...)
I feel I deserve better...
Q. I have been in a relationship for almost two and a half years. I am with a guy who truly loves me and will do anything for me. But I am going for an accounting degree and he does not even have a high school diploma. I just feel like I should ...
A. 13 March 2009: Oh, my! I wouldn't reject him just because of his education if he has qualities that you admire and if you enjoy spending time with him! He may be the yin to your yang, after all. That is, you may be dissimilar in a way that is complementary, rather ... (read in full...)
Possible to be pregnant even though I had period the last 2 months?
Q. i dont really know how to start so im going to just say it: On december 31st and january 1st i had sex [using a condom both times] then i got my period a few days later because i always get it around the 9th. In febuary i got it the 6th which was a ...
A. 13 March 2009: There may be an appearance of a period for the first couple of months of a pregnancy. Get a pregnancy test and find out for sure!... (read in full...)
We broke up because he didn't believe me but now he wants us to be together?
Q. Hello I work in a fruit shop and my employers friend from school is my ex boy friend of five weeks, the reason that we broke up is that one day when i was feeling low after working another day in the fruit shop, we met up for a drink and my ex boyfr...
A. 13 March 2009: If you don't mind his moods, then I say give him another chance. You were taking quite a risk being so forthright about his longtime friend, and it doesn't surprise me too much that he reacted badly. Of course it wounded you that he believed his ... (read in full...)
My family freaked out when they found out my guy is bi!
Q. Hi im 22 years old and I am bi sexually. When I was 19 I told my parents and they were totally fine with it. Last year I started dating a guy "Josh" my parents LOVED him. But they didnt know that "Josh" was also bi. We have experimented in our ...
A. 13 March 2009: There's not much you can do but give them a chance to get over it. Let them know you're having a baby and would love to see them. Their desire to connect with the new baby may help them overcome their misgivings. However, be prepared to tell them at ... (read in full...)
Any way to find out his sexual preferences?
Q. I feel really awkward asking for advice about this; I'm 22 for goodness sake! I should know how to handle this!! Okay, so here's the thing: There's this guy that I like. Really, really like! But even though I get to see him most days, I neve...
A. 13 March 2009: Ask him out for coffee! Then if that goes well, ask him out for a movie, and then dinner, and see how things go!
If he says no at any point, then it doesn't matter if he likes guys or girls...and you'll have done your best to connect with an inter... (read in full...)
Are we drifting apart even though we meet up often?
Q. I've got a pretty good friend from my final years of high school whom I have gotten on well with since we met. We live near each other and hang out quite often. However, lately, she hasn't messaged me back as often as she used to and often refuses ...
A. 13 March 2009: Ask her if there's something you did to upset her. Give her a chance to talk about it, if there's anything. If there is, then you have a chance to make it better.
If she says there isn't anything, then it may just be time for your relation... (read in full...)
She wants to move on..how can I change her decision?
Q. i have loved this girl with everything i've got for years, we've been through hard times and she wants to move on after all our time together. any suggestions on what i can say to make her change her decision? because now she acts like she hates me ...
A. 13 March 2009: You can't change her mind. I'm sorry. Let her go, and move on as best you can.... (read in full...)
What does "slow down"mean?
Q. I am 33. I have been dating a 27 year old guy for about two months. We have gotten along wonderfully untill yesturday. I was in a funk and I started trying to break up with him. and he instantly started ignoring my phone calls, and blowing me off. ...
A. 13 March 2009: I think he has some responsibility to ask himself what he means by "slow down" and explain it to you. It sounds like he doesn't really understand his own feelings, though, and you should probably cut him a little slack (keeping in mind that a ... (read in full...)
Why am I attracted to the "alpha dog"..powerful, often bad men all the time?
Q. Why am i attracted to 'alpha dog' males all the time? All my life I have gone for the same sort of men:Criminals, gangsters, policemen, bikers, bouncers, prison oficers...etc, they even have a similar look- muscles, shaven head, tattoos....
A. 13 March 2009: I think it's natural to be attracted to powerful men. After all, they're the ones that can protect you against the predators. However, what's natural isn't always what's healthiest, and the fact that you've been exposed to unsavory things proves ... (read in full...)
I need some sort of action plan!
Q. Before anything, I'd like to clarify my real age which is 13, not 18+ I currently have a crush on this guy. Let's call him Tom. I used to love this guy, let's call him Sam. Well basically, Sam was perfect, he was hot, cute, nice and sweet. I...
A. 13 March 2009: "Not really nice" means "not nice." That is a negative recommendation. Even if guys your age are immature, this guy is too old for you.
Try going out with groups of friends and getting to know guys that way. ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to believe from her anymore?
Q. i've been in a serious relationship with this really amazing girl for almost an year now. when i started this relationship with her we made our respective past lives as transparent to each other as possible. i assured her that i had no problems with ...
A. 13 March 2009: The only way out of this is through. So though you fear you're not mature enough to face it head on, give it a try. I bet you can do it.
Sit down with her and tell her what you told us. Make it as neutral as possible. Don't accuse her of anything... (read in full...)
Why can't I be a sissy in public
Q. Well I'm a Sissy Transvestite and I've been going out in public dressed as a normal female since I was 13, I'm 50 now and I've been expressing a very deep part of my personality for the last 10 years. I love dressing up like a 4 or 5 year old little ...
A. 13 March 2009: At the mall and the park, you may be more likely to run into people who will have a negative reaction to your dress. When I go to the mall, there are usually lots of teenagers and families, and lots of people from ethnic groups where crossdressing ... (read in full...)
G/f smokes weed and I'm worried about her
Q. last night my girlfriend and i were talking and she randomly asked if i like people who smoke and my answer was it depends but more importantly why did you just ask me that. she said cause i smoke. i was in complete shock and worried about her but ...
A. 13 March 2009: I'm so sorry. I know it must hurt a lot. Life with someone who places substance use over relationships is a very hard life indeed, though.... (read in full...)
I can't keep living in the past but I don't like the present either!
Q. 18 years ago, I fell in love hard with someone I graduated with in High School. I was so afraid that he was going to hurt me that I cheated on him...and broke it off with him after 5 years of relationship. He then would call me to tell me about ...
A. 13 March 2009: Get into therapy for yourself and lay all of this out for your therapist. Your assignment is to find out what you really want to do with your life at this point with the support of a compassionate therapist.
In couples counseling, make sure you... (read in full...)
I want him, but then I want to push him away and make him suffer!
Q. okay so i sorta in a way kinda like this guy i am like 100% sure he likes me but.. ive been feeling weird lately and confused like i want him to suffer and wanna push him away forever but then i wanna hug him and see his right happy smile w...
A. 13 March 2009: Is there something about this guy that aggravates you? Does he share an annoying characteristic with someone in your family or with you?
Or is it possible that the fact that you're 100% sure of him is bringing out a cruel side in you? That's d... (read in full...)
Making out for the first time..
Q. heyy there. me and my boyfriend have been together for a month and half and he wants to make out except...i've never made out before. i just dont know what im suppose to do with my tongue and everything. advice please? ...
A. 13 March 2009: Let yourself get carried away by your feelings and sensations. That's the best way to have a great kiss.
Good luck and have fun!... (read in full...)
Walking away from someone I love so much..
Q. hey, i wrote in a cuple weeks ago asking should i stay or walk away from my married boyfriend, the thing is. i got 1 reply saying stay, i saying leave and 1 saying run. Ok here I go I lovge my boyfriend we are both Libras crazy. we havee ...
A. 13 March 2009: One thing you can do is face up to reality. The guy is married, and now you think he has yet another girlfriend. He's not treating you right. And you're not treating yourself right by living in this false position; not only are you sleeping with ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is depressed and won't see anyone about it!
Q. what should i do to help my boyfriend i think he is depressed and he wont see a shrink he says he hates himself in everyway and one time he left a party early and walk home which was miles away because (and this is what he sed) everyone else was so ...
A. 13 March 2009: You probably won't like this, but I think you should tell his parents you're worried about him. They can probably do a pretty good job of getting him to see a shrink.
Or if that is just totally out of the question, talk to a trusted adult at schoo... (read in full...)
G/f smokes weed and I'm worried about her
Q. last night my girlfriend and i were talking and she randomly asked if i like people who smoke and my answer was it depends but more importantly why did you just ask me that. she said cause i smoke. i was in complete shock and worried about her but ...
A. 13 March 2009: Be honest with her and tell her what you don't like about her smoking weed. Make your best case for why it's a bad idea. In the end, the decision is up to her. In the end, you may have to let her go. I can't imagine you could have a very happy ... (read in full...)
I've put my name down for a charitable game... But I'm nervous. Is it a good idea?
Q. Hi, My university is holding an event for Comic Relief tomorrow. This event requires some volunteers who will then stand in line while people place bids to go on a date with them, with the funds going to charity. I thought it would be fun so ...
A. 12 March 2009: I haven't been to an ordinary one, but I attended one at a convention, and it was great fun!
Definitely dress up! Wear something revealing, but put your personality out there. Don't be afraid to ham it up a little.
After all, you're doing thi... (read in full...)
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