Like what
she writes?
... Add *rs. Mom to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *rs. Mom a private message | | | *rs. Mom's profile:I'm a 51-year-old mom of two. I've been married for 18 years and lived with my boyfriend (now husband) for seven years before that. We've been through a lot together, including a near-breakup and a seriously ill child.
I think love and relationships make life worth living, even though they're very tricky at times. |
|
Why does a man change after getting married?
Q. hey guys,can any body tell me why man change after getting married.because i am sick of this life because of my husband.he was nice before marriage and care about me more than after . why this happening to me.sometimes i feel like i want just to ...
A. 12 March 2009: Sit your husband down and tell him exactly what you told us. Try to explain it from your own point of you without criticizing him. For example, "It bothers me that you don't wash yourself or want to have sex." Then tell him if this can't change, ... (read in full...)
Can my parents relationship affect mine?
Q. I was wondering if anyone else thinks that the type of relationship your parents have can affect the types of relationships a person has as they grow older. Like if your parents argued a lot when you were a kid if that will make you more prone to ...
A. 12 March 2009: You bet, honey! I'm glad I could be of help.... (read in full...)
What do you think she's honestly saying with that message????
Q. my ex-girlfriend and i have been apart for a little over 3 months. She kept leading me on the first few months after breaking up. She'd say she still loved me and missed me and would call and text quite often. Up until a few weeks ago did i ...
A. 22 February 2009: I think she's using you to make herself feel attractive. Cut off all contact until you're really over it. Give it a year at least.... (read in full...)
He fingered me..am I still a virgin?
Q. My boyfriend fingered me and I think he broke my hymen. Am I still a virgin?...
A. 22 February 2009: As far as I'm concerned, you're a virgin until a penis goes in there.
Don't let him finger you unless you really want it, okay? And if being a virgin is important to you, then maybe you should cool it with the sexual activity. You have lots of ... (read in full...)
My wife never lets me help with our son!
Q. My wife never lets me help her with our son (hes 7 weeks) because I almost I dropped him of course I didn't mean to. I was holding him to get him some milk and I almost trippped on something and he slipped from my arms but I caught him in time (and ...
A. 22 February 2009: Even a mother can drop a child! I did, when my son was about the age of yours! Man, did I feel bad. But my husband didn't say I couldn't take care of him anymore!
Your wife is so lucky you want to help! My husband was overwhelmed and said "He only... (read in full...)
How do I deal with being raped?
Q. How do I deal with being raped by my father constantly at 13-15? Ive been in counseling but it doesnt work for me I keep having images and flashbacks no matter what. And it doesnt help that ive been molested by my brother and cousins earlier on in ...
A. 22 February 2009: First, you have to be in a safe place where you won't be raped anymore. Do you have that? If not, call child protective services in your county and have them arrange for you to live someplace else.
Next, if you are physically safe, I recommen... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to think about sex every time you see a cute guy?
Q. Is it wrong to think about sex every time you see a cute guy or just a guy u see while your out walking ect...
A. 22 February 2009: Wrong? No,it's not wrong! Especially at certain parts of the menstrual cycle, it's normally to be extra-interested in sex.
However, if thoughts about sex become a preoccupation and keep you from spending time on important thing like studies,... (read in full...)
Why does a man change after getting married?
Q. hey guys,can any body tell me why man change after getting married.because i am sick of this life because of my husband.he was nice before marriage and care about me more than after . why this happening to me.sometimes i feel like i want just to ...
A. 22 February 2009: Women change after marriage, too.
When people are dating and looking for a prospective mate, they're on their best behavior and show their best side. In addition, the excitement of early love and trying to get a partner into bed can make everythi... (read in full...)
Can my parents relationship affect mine?
Q. I was wondering if anyone else thinks that the type of relationship your parents have can affect the types of relationships a person has as they grow older. Like if your parents argued a lot when you were a kid if that will make you more prone to ...
A. 22 February 2009: Yes, absolutely. This has been demonstrated over and over again. Your parents' relationship affects your own attitudes about relationships, and what they taught and showed you has an impact on your skills within a relationship.
That said, many man... (read in full...)
I think I'm sterile and have questions
Q. I am 19 years old. I know I am young but my boyfriend and I who have been together on and off. Have sex regularly sometimes twice a day. He almost always cums inside of me. Not saying that we want a baby so young or nothings its just we know how ...
A. 22 February 2009: Try getting a book about reproduction. You might get some good answers!
I have heard that if you have sex frequently, the quality of the semen decreases: that is, each orgasm results in fewer sperm, because the man's ejaculating faster than his... (read in full...)
Playing games, part two
Q. I have been going out with a 49 yr old man - am 28, things were great with him for the first six months, until he started to break up with me via txt for x, y reason etc - but mainly cos he doubted in me. Its now 7 months and well tonight he tried ...
A. 22 February 2009: I think the cutting sex off is very manipulative. Maybe not controlling per se, but a very unhealthy way of handling a relationship.
Why would he deliberately do something you told him had hurt you in the past? It's very troubling, but I have to ... (read in full...)
The antidepressants and alcohol problem are taking a toll on our sex life.
Q. My gf and I have been together for 7 years, and our sex life has been a problem for me most of that time. When we met, we were both very sexual people, which was one of the things I was attracted to about her. Over the years she has taken ...
A. 22 February 2009: I'm glad she's not still drinking. Antidepressants can have a negative effect on the sex drive.
I'm a little concerned about pushing hard with someone who may still be fragile, but I really think that this needs to be discussed between you and ... (read in full...)
I was picking myself up but now its back to a broken heart
Q. He accused me Of cheating when I wasn’t.. he didn’t contact me till 2 months and I told him 2 call me back cos I was out.. he called me back and asked about my BF and said I don’t know and he said he's not trying to get into my knickers he was just ...
A. 21 February 2009: Who knows why he did it? Maybe he takes pleasure in hurting people. Maybe he is merely inconsiderate.
Take it as a sign that you're better off without him, and move on!... (read in full...)
When I'm going to ejaculate it feels like I'm going to urinate!
Q. My name is greg, I am 18 years old. About three weeks ago this started happening. I did not masturbate or get oral or anything for about a month. Then about a week or 2 ago my girlfriend tried giving me oral but i pushed off because it felt like i ...
A. 21 February 2009: The only way you can address this problem is to go to the doctor! Do it, so you can get on with your life. :)... (read in full...)
Is is possible to fall in love with someone half way across the world?
Q. I am going to cut this as short as I possible can. I am in a long-distance relationship. I met this amazing guy almost 7 months ago when I was in the US, he is part of the same family as I, and we spent time together - it was an INSTANT attracti...
A. 21 February 2009: I think you are having a wonderful time getting to know this other person and getting to know yourself better as well as experiencing first love.
I agree with Gina that you have to spend time in person to really get to know a person, so I don't th... (read in full...)
The antidepressants and alcohol problem are taking a toll on our sex life.
Q. My gf and I have been together for 7 years, and our sex life has been a problem for me most of that time. When we met, we were both very sexual people, which was one of the things I was attracted to about her. Over the years she has taken ...
A. 20 February 2009: I suggest you attend Al-anon meetings in order to learn how to live with alcoholism. Alcoholics put their drinking ahead of anything else, so I think you'll have a tough time convincing your girlfriend to give up her drinking for the sake of your ... (read in full...)
I've kept my cheating a secret, but it's killing me!
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 9 months and we are soo close. Ive never felt so strongly towards someone and i'm extremely glad i'm with him. And he tells me he feels the same. But ages ago, when me and him were together for about 4 months, I ...
A. 20 February 2009: Of course you can not be with him. If you're going to deal with things like cheating, you have to try to be realistic about your own strengths and weaknesses and those of your mate, so don't start out with unrealistic statements like "I can't not be ... (read in full...)
If he's ever single again what should I do???
Q. Okay, so here goes. There is this guy, we'll call him bob. Bob claims to be straight, but he has also told me that he loves me. Bob and I are very good friends, and I think he means love in the friend way. He has come out before as "Bi" but take...
A. 17 February 2009: That's a hard one. His coming out as bi and taking it back and saying he loves you but not the same way you love him makes it sound like he's using you as a way to explore his own sexuality. That could end up being really bad for you, in lots of ... (read in full...)
I want to know if he still has feelings for me...
Q. I asked a question on this site awhile ago about my ex and if i should give him a letter and what not. I have another question about him and I. Lately,I have been having these reoccuring dreams about him and I getting back together and him...
A. 17 February 2009: Dreams are not about other people; they are about ourselves. In your dream, your ex represents something you would like to have in your life. It could be him, though I don't understand why you would want a cheating boyfriend back. More likely, in ... (read in full...)
Is excessive masturbation the cause of his lack of love-making?
Q. Hi, I have a sex problem. My boyfriend of five months is unable to have sex with me. We get to the stage, past all the foreplay, and then he loses his erection. Sometimes he fails to get one at all. I hate to sound sex mad but the lack of "action"...
A. 17 February 2009: It's possible that his masturbation is the cause, though if he's in the same range as you, it wouldn't be at all unusual for him to masturbate every day.
The fact that he loses his erection after foreplay (implying that he had one earlier)... (read in full...)
I'm contemplating an affair because my marriage is unfulfilling!
Q. I need some help. I have always been the kind of person that would not cheat under any condition. I have had opportunity and have never done it. I am once again in a very bad situation, my marriage is not fulfilling at all, I am really still ...
A. 17 February 2009: My answer is still to focus on working on things with your husband. Make that your goal rather than the decision about your colleague. You sound really vulnerable, so I think it would be best to keep it very casual with the colleague.
Good ... (read in full...)
I'm contemplating an affair because my marriage is unfulfilling!
Q. I need some help. I have always been the kind of person that would not cheat under any condition. I have had opportunity and have never done it. I am once again in a very bad situation, my marriage is not fulfilling at all, I am really still ...
A. 17 February 2009: I think you know the answer. Having an affair with this man would seriously undermine your marriage and possibly hurt your children. I don't think that's what you want, from what you've written.
People do sometimes have affairs in response... (read in full...)
Is this real love or does he enjoys making me happy for the record?
Q. I'm going out with this guy and recently I told him hurtful stuff about my past. The thing is since then he has try to make me happy. He completly changed his plans for school by coming to my school and now he wants to come and stay with me. He's ...
A. 17 February 2009: I'm not sure what you mean by "for the record," and it's impossible to tell what his motives are.
It's possible he wants to make up for your sad past. That's fine, but if you're not ready for him to move in with you, then say so. Be honest a... (read in full...)
Does he like receiving oral if he doesn't orgasm from it?
Q. My boyfriend said he has never come from a blow job before. I want to give him oral during times when I'm on my period, but usually after a while he would stop me and say it's okay. He never asks me to finish him with my hands and he never finishes ...
A. 17 February 2009: It's possible he enjoys it even if he can't have orgasm from it. But the best way to know is to ask him! Plus you'll get the side benefit of starting out being frank about sex early instead of getting to age 50 and still being shy about it, like me ... (read in full...)
I'm stuck in the middle of their affair, what should I do in this situation?
Q. well this is sort of for my friend(s)?? im a 18 year old bi sexual guy and my best friend is a 17 year old straight girl.. i will name her paige for this and she has been seeing a guy who is now 20 il call him micheal, well they have been seeing...
A. 17 February 2009: It's time for you to back out from between them. Telling Michael something so hurtful that Paige obviously didn't want him to know should be the signal to you that you were way out of your depth.
You're young, and this is your first experien... (read in full...)
Love of my life got a fling pregnant... now what do I do?
Q. hi...i'll try to keep it as brief as possible...4 year live in relationship, he moved out b/c of drug problem in april 08..supposed to be cleaning himself up and we start again in a new apt, new location. we opened the relationship to dating ...
A. 17 February 2009: Accept that he's gone. He sounds like a lot more trouble than he's worth. I hate to think of you sitting and waiting for him to become available again, when he did such a thing to you in the first place. This is life's way of getting you out of a ... (read in full...)
I find her attractive but I'm the shy type...
Q. So here's a question that is probably asked in different ways, countless times on here. There is a girl in my environmental studies class who I find attractive. We haven't talked to each other, and I'm not really sure if she thinks anything of me or ...
A. 17 February 2009: You sound really sweet!
Catch up with her after class and introduce yourself and invite her to coffee. Then write back and let me know how it went.... (read in full...)
Do men call to message parlours for a verbal thrill?
Q. Do men ever just call on "questionable" independent massage parlors for a verbal thrill? I am dating someone who makes frequent calls to these places from raunchy Backpage websites, but says he never actually goes to them. Sometimes the "masseuse" ...
A. 17 February 2009: I never knew one who did. Sounds like a slightly unsavory hobby. If you suspect he does more, find out more, and stop having sex with him until you're sure. I wouldn't want to risk catching an STD.... (read in full...)
How can I make him last longer than 20 minutes?
Q. Im 17 years old. i have a 17 year old boyfriend. when we have sex its good but its only for like 20 minutes.. then when he cums he doesnt want to do it anymore, or let me touch him down there, why is this? and how can i make him last longer? please ...
A. 17 February 2009: At seventeen, you're lucky he lasts 20 minutes! That's a long time, especially for a young guy.
With most guys, there is a recovery period before they can achieve erection again (or for even being interested). It's just nature's way!
If you ... (read in full...)
Staring and staring? Is he playing mind games?
Q. We used to flirt with each other and he used to act like he likes me but then he stopped. And there's this one girl who told him that she had a crush on him and he said that he liked her back. They're not dating or anything. But what pisses me o...
A. 17 February 2009: Approach him again in a non-threatening situation--like maybe walking to class or if he is alone at lunch time, and ask him "I noticed you looking at me a lot. It makes me wonder what you're thinking!"
If he's not ready to talk about it, there's ... (read in full...)
Is what I did (kissing an ex) any worse than his emotional cheating on me with his ex?
Q. I went clubbing with an ex-boyfriend of mine (once in January 08, another time in May 08), whom I have no feelings for whatsoever, but we ended up kissing and making out on both occasions. The last few times we met (August to November) were pure ...
A. 17 February 2009: I don't think it's about rights, or who was guiltier of cheating.
Your feelings of insecurity and jealousy matter, but they're not necessarily his responsibility. It sounds like he was honest with you about his feelings for his ex-girlf... (read in full...)
Our sex life is almost inexistent, I'm a very sexual person, should I leave?
Q. I have been married for 6 years and am not really sure what to do. My husband and I had a great sex life when we first met. We have been together for 8 years now. Our sex life started to go down hill about 2 years into the relationship. At first...
A. 17 February 2009: It's interesting that you mentioned that the sex and teh relationship seemed to go downhill after he lost rights to his daughter. It reminded me that the time I stopped having sex with my husband was right after my dad died. My husband and I both ... (read in full...)
Is my ejaculatory fluid normal in colour?
Q. Hi When I have ejaculated my cum isn't white like normal cum its more see through like its a bit white is this normal and iam 17...
A. 17 February 2009: I think that's within the normal range. If you're really concerned, you should talk to your doctor.... (read in full...)
What makes a boy want you even more then he already does?
Q. what makes a boy want you even more then he alredy does? before me and my boyfriend were dating he chased after me and i played hard to get ... he chased after me and showed me how muchh he wanted me.... now we are together and he feels like he has ...
A. 17 February 2009: People come to take each other for granted in every relationship. If you're in a long-term relationship, you're bound to lose the excitment of the pursuit.
Ideally, your partner should trust you and trust that you won't cheat on him; so really, ... (read in full...)
Playing games, part two
Q. I have been going out with a 49 yr old man - am 28, things were great with him for the first six months, until he started to break up with me via txt for x, y reason etc - but mainly cos he doubted in me. Its now 7 months and well tonight he tried ...
A. 17 February 2009: He sounds like he has some emotional problems, and he does sound controlling. He's definitely playing emotional games with you.
I say have a serious talk with him. Tell him he either has to trust you, or it's over.
By the way, cutting the sex ... (read in full...)
Should I go see a doctor about my asthma attack?
Q. My boyfriend and me (I'm 15 and and hes 16) were smoking together. I have asthma pretty much my whole life and I can keep it under control. Then I started having asthma attack (which was really embarrassing). And the weird part was that I have ...
A. 17 February 2009: Yes, see the doctor and tell him or her you were smoking. The doctor will probably tell you that smoking is not a good choice for someone with asthma. It's not. You obviously need to hear that from someone who you trust!
Asthma is bad enough. ... (read in full...)
What is a normal amount of sex a couple has in a week?
Q. Can anyone tell me what is a normal amount of sex or fooling around an average couple has in a week?...
A. 17 February 2009: I found an article on line stating that on average, married couples nowadays have sex less than twice a week, which corresponds to what I've read in the past:
http://family.jrank.org/pages/1102/Marital-Sex-Sexual-Frequency.html
"More recent ... (read in full...)
Our sex life is almost inexistent, I'm a very sexual person, should I leave?
Q. I have been married for 6 years and am not really sure what to do. My husband and I had a great sex life when we first met. We have been together for 8 years now. Our sex life started to go down hill about 2 years into the relationship. At first...
A. 17 February 2009: I don't know the answer of whether sex is so important that you should leave your husband even if other parts of your marriage are satisfactory. Only you can answer that.
I think you should sit down with your husband and explain to him sincerel... (read in full...)
I love him but I let other men kiss me!
Q. Ok this makes me sound bad on all levels and i'm finding it really hard to keep this from the person i love. I'm a uni student and me and my boyfriend spend weeks apart from each other, on two separte occasions i've cheated. Each time the cheatin...
A. 13 February 2009: Just continue the way you are with determination not to fool around behind his back. You don't need to confess to him--make amends by being faithful from now on.... (read in full...)
The ex came back, now he's confused & I'm not sure what to do?
Q. I just got out of a relationship with this man two days ago. Even though it was just a two month relationship, I feel like we flew threw all of the steps. We met at a Christmas party and hit it off. About a month into getting to know each other, we ...
A. 13 February 2009: You did the right thing not to let yourself in for the worry and jealousy of hanging around while he decided between his ex and you. Try to forget about him. Get involved in something to keep your mind off him.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Plenty of eye contact but no action! Interested? Or not?
Q. I am 21 and I go to college. There's this guy in one of my classes. Its been about 3 weeks. We've maintained plenty of eye contact and all. We haven't actually spoken to each other. He definitely notices that I have been looking at him. He's been ...
A. 13 February 2009: I agree with your friend. Don't use the girlfriend to get to him--that won't impress him. Just ask him out for coffee.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
He asked about my past and now says he can't be intimate because of the images he sees of me and my ex!
Q. My boyfriend and i are dating long distance. Things would be going great between us until he starts thinking about my past. i have had one boyfriend prior to him and one hook up. He says he can't even be intimate with me because everytime we do, he ...
A. 13 February 2009: I don't think you can. I think he has to do it. All you can do is persevere. I have to tell you it doesn't sound very appealing to me--waiting around until he gets over the fact that you've had sex in the past.
I think it's a mark of immaturi... (read in full...)
Is he protecting me from him? Or is he playing me?
Q. I am an 18 year old collage student. My friends consider me good looking and even knowing me do not believe that I am a virgin at times. I have everything, and everything that a teenage girl could want...except a serious relationship, I fear ...
A. 13 February 2009: I'd back off, and just treat him as a colleague, and here's why.
If he's playing you, that is, trying to manipulate you into a sexual relationship, then you don't want any part of that, right? You want someone who is serious and kind, I assume. ... (read in full...)
| *rs. Mom's friends
These are mutual friends, so *rs. Mom has
added them and they have added *rs. Mom!
|
