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writes:what should i do to help my boyfriend i think he is depressed and he wont see a shrink he says he hates himself in everyway and one time he left a party early and walk home which was miles away because (and this is what he sed) everyone else was so happy and look so good i could never fit in and he is always tryin to make him self look better when in truth he is actually very good lookin and i am not just saying that because i am his girlfriend its the truth so what can i do to help him.
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reader, Jager +, writes (14 March 2009):
You need to talk to someone on his behalf. It will help in the long run. Plus he will than you in the long run
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reader, Mrs. Mom  +, writes (13 March 2009):
 I'm sorry about the parents. That's sad, and it may contribute to his depression that his parents aren't really connecting with him.
Do consider telling an adult, if only to help you figure out what to do. You can always tell a teacher that you're speaking in confidence. I can't imagine a teacher or counselor who wouldn't want to respect a confidence like that. That would mean they aren't to speak to anyone else about it.
Your boyfriend needs help that you aren't able to provide. Whether he's happy about it or not, the best thing you can do for him is urge him to get some help with his depression.
Oh, another thought. Many cities have suicide hotlines. I think it would be okay for him to call and talk to someone. I don't think it would be a problem that he's not suicidal. The people who answer those phones can help him with resources.
Good luck, and please update again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHis mom doesnt live with him and his dad doesnt help him when ma bf told his dad about something and his dad didnt help him at all also if i talk to someone at school then he will know it was me who sed something and he will not be happy and what i dont want to happen is that he finds out it was me and doesnt tell me anything and keeps everything to himself which would make his situation work but thanks for the advice i might tell someone because i am really worried about him and all the advice my mom gives me is to break up with him as she thinks he is not worth it.
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reader, Mrs. Mom +, writes (13 March 2009):
You probably won't like this, but I think you should tell his parents you're worried about him. They can probably do a pretty good job of getting him to see a shrink.
Or if that is just totally out of the question, talk to a trusted adult at school. A counselor or teacher who you think will be compassionate.
Even if he chooses not to see a shrink, you deserve to have someone to tell your worries to. Being close to a depressed person and the worry that goes with it can be very stressful.
Good luck to you, and please update!
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