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Well i'm LouLee, i've had quite a few ups and downs in my life and can usually very easily emphasise with people. I currently live in England and am hoping to be acheive all my ambitions and dreams before im 35 at least! The slightest thing can make me tick, i'm just a typical teen who suffers from extreme mood swings. At first i came on here to get advice but also like to give advice as it makes me happy to feel as if i may helped someone in desperate need.

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My parents are being extremely over protective!! Help!

Q.   hiya im 19 years old and the youngest in my family. my parents are extremely overprotective and they don't let me go out too much. i'm at a point where i dont keep in touch with too many people for fear they might ask me to come out and my parents ...

A.   26 September 2008: move out maybe?... (read in full...)

Should I Marry Someone That I Am Not 100% attracted to and may become fat in the future?

Q.   Should I marry a woman that I am not entirely attracted to and might get fat in the future? She is one of my best friends and has everything I want in a woman... but I can tell she does not work-out enough to maintain a healthy body and always finds ...

A.   26 September 2008: By what you've described her as, she seems like a lovely girl. noones perfect. Also, if she isn't fat now, chances are she might not be fat in the future. You dont HAVE to exercise to stay thin, some people are very lucky. ... (read in full...)

Am I too young for Electrolysis?

Q.   Hi. I have a problem with facial hair on my upper lip. I was wondering about Electrolysis treatment. Does anyone know anything about it? How much does it cost to get it done in a clinic? I'm only 14, so am I too young for Electrolysis? Any info...

A.   11 August 2008: Best bet would be to go to the doctors and talk to him/her about it. They're usually pretty good with any kind of problem.... (read in full...)

Shy, Inexperienced Guy Needs Answers

Q.   I'm a 21 year old guy, in school, and I've never had a girlfriend. I've never even been on date. I'm still a complete virgin, never even had a first kiss yet. I'm normal and intelligent. The thing is I am just really shy and nervous, especially ...

A.   11 August 2008: No, many girls like guys who are virgins. Quite a few girls save theirselves aswell you know. I think it's great you're a virgin because when you really do love someone and you want to have sex with them, you wont regret it the night later.... (read in full...)

What exactly does 'Reach out' mean?

Q.   Hi Aunts, I've read a lot about people 'reaching' out or wanting to reach out to their ex. What exactly does this mean? Does it mean you call and say ' hello' and just be friendly or do you call and i say i still love you or miss you etc...

A.   4 August 2008: I interpret 'reaching out' to be when you've learned to live without your ex but apart of you wants to say hello, see how theyre getting on and maybe sometimes go a little further with the miss you, yadda yadda. Hope i helped, i may be wrong. ... (read in full...)

He can be hilariously funny but other times acts like he cannot stand me. When I ask what's going on he changes the subject!?

Q.   Ok, so short backgroud story and question. There is this guy i know, i've known him for about a year. Sometimes we get on great, he has a very sarcastic manner, but it suits him if you know what i mean. He can be hilariously funny and really cheer...

A.   4 August 2008: Hmm, family problems? girl problems? It sounds like he just wants to let his hair down when he's with you. Just wants to have a laugh. So you bringing up this makes him want to change the subject to something good cos maybe he thinks you're di... (read in full...)

I wish to turn this "gorgeous" guy from a total stranger into a "boyfriend", only I'm not confident at all!

Q.   soo here goes....well ive seen this guy around my local village he doesnt know me i dont know him but i know where he hangs out with his group of friends and i do recognize him as he has very goood looks! anway im not confident at all and his ...

A.   4 August 2008: Wow, hate to crash your hopes but this seems like a really difficult situation.. but don't let this stop you. Lets see. do you have any friends that could know ANY of his friends or him even? I have no idea how you're going to go about... (read in full...)

I wish to turn this "gorgeous" guy from a total stranger into a "boyfriend", only I'm not confident at all!

Q.   soo here goes....well ive seen this guy around my local village he doesnt know me i dont know him but i know where he hangs out with his group of friends and i do recognize him as he has very goood looks! anway im not confident at all and his ...

A.   4 August 2008: Wow, hate to crash your hopes but this seems like a really difficult situation.. but don't let this stop you. Lets see. do you have any friends that could know ANY of his friends or him even? I have no idea how you're going to go about... (read in full...)

I feel weird to know that someone I dated turned out to be bisexual... any ideas?

Q.   I recently found out that my ex-boyfriend is bi. I'm not saying this is a bad thing at all. I couldn't care less what sexual preference people have. I have three lesbian friends and it doesn't bother me. It's just that when I met my ex, he wasn't ...

A.   4 August 2008: i understand how you feel, my aunt married someone who turned out to be gay. Imagine how she felt. Well alot of things, ashamed, confused, furious...but somehow i think she's overcome it. :) xxx... (read in full...)

I really, really like this girl, but I am unable to speak up and ask her out, please tell me how to go about it?

Q.   This is a bit long, sorry. So, there's this girl I know, and I really, -really- like her. We first started talking in one of our classes that was had together for half a school year. So each day, for a period in the day, we would sit together an...

A.   4 August 2008: Damn, i felt the pain just reading that. I know how it must of felt for you at that particular moment. Just be patient, someday somewhere you'll find her alone.. like coming out of the toilets or seeing her in the street and thats when u can say ... (read in full...)

I've been trying to get my girl back. Should I try to make her jealous?

Q.   So I've been a little too persistent and needy probably in trying to get this girl back (we only dated for a couple months afterall). There's this other girl that I used to be interested in and now we've kind of resumed talking a little bit. I ...

A.   13 July 2008: It probably wouldn't matter if she knew what you were doing. As long as you gave her lots of eye contact and smiled i'm sure she'd like what you're trying to do. Much love. ... (read in full...)

I was so mad I slapped her across the face!

Q.   My brother died couple of weeks ago because he had canner. I even missied a week of school because of it. When I told my best friend say I'm "obsessed" with him and need to forget about him. I was so mad I slapped her across the face1!! Why would ...

A.   13 July 2008: I don't blame you for slapping her, i probably would have reacted in the same way. It was very cruel and selfish to say this, it sounds like she doesn't want you talking about him. Do you talk about him alot?? Please, ditch this one and f... (read in full...)

I've been trying to get my girl back. Should I try to make her jealous?

Q.   So I've been a little too persistent and needy probably in trying to get this girl back (we only dated for a couple months afterall). There's this other girl that I used to be interested in and now we've kind of resumed talking a little bit. I ...

A.   13 July 2008:  This could be good or bad, if she doesn't like you still, she'll be happy for you. I suggest that if you are gonna go on this date, you have to be careful cos the lady you're with isn't gonna want to get hurt.. Much love.... (read in full...)

What should I do about a guy that likes me AND someone else?

Q.   I'm really close to this guy, I told him i like him and he said he likes me back! Brilliant i know.. but then he said he liked someone else too, but fancies me alot. I'm not sure what to do, I think about him all the time. Any advice on what to do, ...

A.   13 July 2008: Two choices, the easy- accept he likes you both, try to flirt with him alot more so he eventually likes you and you only. the hard- tell him he can't like you both or you'll forget him completely, if you ended up going out, you would probably alwa... (read in full...)

I don't feel comfortable with my boyfriend's family. Should I go to the party?

Q.   i don't get along with my boyfriends family or his ex wife. they are having a party for their son together, and i don't feel comfortable going. should i go?...

A.   12 July 2008: Do you trust your boyfriend with his ex wife? If you do, and your relationship with his son isn't exactly close it may be best not to go. Just have a night out with the girls or something.. Much love.... (read in full...)

Suddenly people are asking me if I have a boyfriend YET, I find that annoying!

Q.   I don't know how to say this...um well basically i think there is something oing on that i don' know about. Suddenly people are asking me if i have a boy friend YET and they always say YET, its really bugging me, like the other day i was talkin...

A.   12 July 2008: Have you had a boyfriend before? Maybe they're trying to hint you should get a boyfriend.. Thats how i'd interpret it anyway. Much love. ... (read in full...)

12 years old and I'm scared to even hold my boyfriends hand.

Q.   im only 12 but eveyone at school seems to be getting boyfriends. i have one but i dont know how to snog and im scared to hold his hand any everything. what should i do?...

A.   12 July 2008: Aww don't worry! I think i was at that age, with my boyfriend and he finally held my hand and my cheeks went red and my hands were shaking. Trust me it's all part of growing up. When i was 13 i had my first kiss, first snog in face so don't wo... (read in full...)

Me and my cousin are flirting a lot. I want to have sex with her...

Q.   okay i am 15 and my cousin is 14 and every time we're together i can't stop thinking about her and we always flirt every time we're together like at our family cottage me her and my sister slept in the top floor of our bunkhouse and me and her were ...

A.   6 July 2008: I agree with some of the things Emily has said. This may destroy your family. What'll happen if you get caught. If you want to make out with her and have sex do it, (only if she wants to too of course) but if you're parents find out, you've gott... (read in full...)

He just stares at me constantly, does he like me or does he just like to look?

Q.   is normal for a guy to be happy when a girl stands near him? Or stare at her like crazy. This guy just stares at me and when another hottie passes by he doesnt noticed his eyes are pratically glued to me. Whenever he sees me or me with my friends ...

A.   6 July 2008: sounds like he fancies you. or finds you really hot or something lol... (read in full...)

How do I spend more time with her, I like her a lot, but don't want to flirt around friends, help?

Q.   hi. i like this one girl a lot, and i feel like i have to spend more time with her to get her to like me, but whenever im with her and other friends, i dont really like to flirt with her or anything because everyone knows i like her and they always ...

A.   6 July 2008: if you really liked her, you wouldn't care what they thought or said.... (read in full...)

We pet heavily, but he stops, before going all the way, why, we are both 18?

Q.   Me and my bf are both 18 and we were fooling around on his bed the other night and he took off my bra and started fingering me. So i reached into his boxers and felt that he was hard. I tried to give him a hand job but before i could, he took my ...

A.   6 July 2008: he might possibly have an s.t.i? and doesn't want to give it to you? sorry for mentioning this, just came to my head.... (read in full...)

Fooling around with my older cousin...is it bad??

Q.   Well, first started 2yrs ago i think. i was trying to sleep at my cousin's house, Kristen, but then he came along and went in bed with me and started to sqyeeze my breast. It's hard to explain because it was long ago. One month ago we went to ...

A.   5 July 2008: By what you've said, it sounds like you're not completely ready and he sounds like a bit of a pr**k for not respecting you. Do what you want to do, not what he wants you to do. ... (read in full...)

He acted like he liked me and now he's ignoring me, help!!

Q.   I need a girl and a boy's view on this and sorry its kinda long... Well im 14 and i've known this boy whos 15 and is in the year above at school for about 9 years and for about 2 of those years i've fancied him (still do) Well we used to ...

A.   14 June 2008: That is really odd, is there anything you could've done to upset him? By what you've said, it sounds like he's lost interest either because you haven't made a move and he thinks you dont like him or he knows you like him and doesn't like you that... (read in full...)

How do I get over someone I truly love/

Q.   Hey Erm, i dont know what to do regarding this girl...who is my best friend and i have had a crush on for about 2 years now. It started as a crush and then escalated into true love. She is the one i want to spend my life with. However she does...

A.   14 June 2008: Oh my gosh, i thought my situation was bad. I really feel sorry for you. Well if it was me, i'd confess my love to her, tell her everything you're feeling at the moment and try to move as far away from her as possible, that way you know you've done... (read in full...)

Does his reply to my text mean he likes me or not?

Q.   hey, I like this guy, and I dont think he knows. I text him asking him a question ( general chit chat) and he just answered with the answer- I dont know if Im reading into this too much but is this a sign that he doesnt like me? He did put a ...

A.   11 May 2008: Yeah, a text with a 'x' could literally just be a friendly way of ending a text, many of my boy mates do it. But some don't because they might not want me to get the wrong idea. This isn't really much help, sorry.. =(... (read in full...)

Is this flirting? We have been friends for a very long time...

Q.   i am 15 years old. theres this guy that i have known since i was seven and we are good friends... Is he flirting with me or is he just being friendly. *he tickles me and pokes me *he always teases me and have special little nicknames fo...

A.   10 May 2008: your either the very very best of friends that flirt ALOT or he simply LOVES YOU By what you've said, it sounds like the second one.. =)... (read in full...)

I need kissing advice...

Q.   well you see im 14 and i have a crush on this guy firstly i dont no how to get him to notice me he is always (in a jkie wai) takin the mick out of me and secondly i think im frigid because i dont no how to french kiss a boy and im scared i will be ...

A.   10 May 2008: Don't worry hun, my first kiss was wen i was 13 Basically he was experienced so i was lucky, well you can imagine a kiss without tongues, you both go in for the kiss and on this occasion he slipped his tongue into my mouth if you get me? But if h... (read in full...)

I'm 24 and hugely in debt, any advice?

Q.   Im 24 and hugely in debt, around 13,500 pounds to various loan companies. I live at home with my mum but I cant stay for much longer. i work full time but dont earn alot to pay them all off so every month they dont all get paid, and then they start ...

A.   10 May 2008: Well, i would suggest that when you have to pay your loans off monthly, that you ring them up, tell them your circumstances and notify them that you'll give them the cash you can afford to pay back each month regularly.. Always make sure you give... (read in full...)

Are teenage girls so worried about pubic hair?

Q.   Hello I was talking to my girlfriend about "stuff" yesterday and turns out that herself and most of her friends are all a little worried about how their pubes look, like how they shave them or how they don't shave them. Can any other women ...

A.   10 May 2008: I was very worried about pubic hair in my younger years, because i was very flirtatious with the guys and started to wonder what they liked, shaved or hairy ? Anyhow, i decided shaving was alot cleaner so yeah, i made my own decision.. =) ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has a fetish for black haired girls!

Q.   Hi this is going to seem like an odd problem, but its been bothering me awhile. I've always known that my boyfriend of 3 years has had a fetish for black haired women. It's not a problem, until i begin to think about it, or find something, then it ...

A.   10 May 2008: Hmm, i wouldn't get too jelous about it. I mean, every guy has their preferences of women. And he just likes black hair, maybe just a little too much, but some things will never change. Thats life i'm afraid. ... (read in full...)

What does love mean to you?

Q.   This has more than likely been asked many times before but I don't feel like going through thousands of questions. Anyway I wanted to know what each of you thought love means to you....

A.   10 May 2008: Well.. you can have many types of love. Family love, forbidden love, narcissistic love.. But i dont think anyone really knows what love is. Love to me, is a very strong feeling of liking someone and them liking you back..feeling you can tr... (read in full...)

Boyfriend or girlfriend...who should I choose to please?

Q.   I currently live with a boyfriend who I love dearly and a girlfriend I also love dearly. We all share 1 bedroom for everything. My problem is My girlfriend wants me to dress more sexy like her. Our boyfriend gets kinda jelious from the attentio...

A.   10 May 2008: Don't 'please' either of them, be who you want to be, do what you want to do and you can't go wrong.... (read in full...)

Why did he go to the toilet and why did he stop if he's getting excited?

Q.   Hi, I'm 17 an me an my boyfriend of a year haven't slept together yet cos we both don't want me to get pregnant so we are going to wait. I don't know much about boys and erections and stuff so please can you explain: we were kissing on the bed the ...

A.   9 March 2008: He probably just wanted to masturbate. If he could have sex with you, he most likely wouldn't have stopped. ... (read in full...)

Will she give herself to me on her birthday which is in 20 days?

Q.   Well i have a question...i knew this girl since freshmen year and we got close and i loved her as a sister and she loved me as a brother... im 16 and my girlfriend is 15, and were both shopmores...we started going out on oct. 07 and we started ...

A.   9 March 2008: dont be a jerk, wait until she's ready, seeing as she pushed you off last time u wanted it, when she wants it, she'll show it. ... (read in full...)

I'm 12 and PREGANANT!!!

Q.   it all happened 1 week ago i was round my bfs freinds house and there were no adults so everyone started having sex and so me and my bf did to but he forgot to use a condom and now im pregnant should i get an abortion or not???...

A.   9 March 2008: Wow, shocking. Okay, despite the fact a few might disagree to this, i seriously suggest you have an abortion, you're 12 and theres no way you could look after a child on your own..and you need 2 have a life, good education before all this. P... (read in full...)

Would you take an ex back a second time, after they left you for the same person twice?

Q.   Would you take an ex back? If he left you after 6 years together and went off with someone else. A year later his relationship ended, he went back to you for a couple of weeks, then went back with the girl he went off with in the first place. A...

A.   2 March 2008: dont take him back, it seems he wants more but will settle for you.... (read in full...)

Has anybody else's children heard them during intercourse??

Q.   During intercourse the other night our son (6) heard me having an orgasm because he asked me next day what the noise was. I said it was a dream. Anybody else had a similar experience?...

A.   20 February 2008: when i was younger i heard my dad and his girlfriend having sex and i was revolted by it.. it's not a very nice situation for your child, believe me, i know.... (read in full...)

Poll question: how far have you gone (14 year olds)

Q.   hey everyone Me and my bestie are both 14. She is really worried that she hasn't done anything (sexualy) before. I'm not talking about fully having sex but even a hook up. So i want to start a poll for all the 14 year olds out there. How f...

A.   20 February 2008: Well, when i was 14, the furthest i went was... i kissed and later snogged a guy the year above me..he was my first kiss when i was 13. x ... (read in full...)

Why do I keep randomly thinking about my ex girlfriend?

Q.   I've been apart from my ex girlfriend for a long time now. Nearly a year. But it still doesn't take much for my mind to wander back to her. I was driving today, and while I'm sat in the car with nobody to talk to, and only the radio to listen to my ...

A.   20 February 2008: Aww, sounds like you're in the same situation as me, i always think of my boyfriend when it comes to our favourite tv programme etc. It's annoying huh?! Maybe you just crave to have a girlfriend again..but not necessarily her. x... (read in full...)

I'm scared of my ex...

Q.   I split up with my boyfriend in December, we had been together 13 months and he is being a absolute idiot, he has taken pictures of my house and put them on bebo, he is almost 14, I'm almost 13. What should I do? I don't want to get back with him ...

A.   20 February 2008: Okay it sounds like this boy is a complete Pr**k. Have you told Bebo that he's taken pictures of your house as if you do tell Bebo i know for a fact they can take the pictures off. Apart from telling a teacher, i don't really know what else you... (read in full...)

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