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writes:i don't get along with my boyfriends family or his ex wife. they are having a party for their son together, and i don't feel comfortable going. should i go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): hi
this is your personal choice and you may have solid reasons for not getting on with his family and ex but do you feel a little insecure and overwhelmed by the thought of them all together? it is a little difficult this one, sometimes ex partners remain very close as family and nothing more, and i agree why should they cut all ties if they are close. However sometimes other family members have secret motives even fooling the one in the center of it all. You have to recognize if the insecurity lies within you or him or them. i would go or you will come up with the same problem every so often such as when xmas arrives etc, better to find out now if you can relax and enjoy, after all it is his birthday and you are now his partner,if you do not celebrate it you may regret it later and his next birthday i would make early plans to go away on a short break for the two of you, or better still arrange your own party on your teritory and invite all of them,be the perfect hostess. i do wonder who would turn up.on this one time i would put your feelings aside and celebrate his birthday, you will only end up been accused of trying to spoil it.who knows you may enjoy yourself if not plan ahead in future.
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reader, elpasotexas  +, writes (12 July 2008):
 I would say it depends on how long you have known your boyfriend if it is a while and you are a part of his sons life then you should be there, if you intentions are honest and true to wishing this boy well then by all means go.
His parents and family are going to have to accept that you are part of their son / grandsons lives eventually so give them a helping hand and show them you are not scared of their oppinions.
Good luck xxx
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reader, LouLee +, writes (12 July 2008):
 Do you trust your boyfriend with his ex wife?
If you do, and your relationship with his son isn't exactly close it may be best not to go.
Just have a night out with the girls or something..
Much love.
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