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... Send *aren1989 a private message | | | *aren1989's profile:Hi there i'm karen and i'm 21 from wales(united kingdom).I set up an account with dear cupid because I like helping people. 21 is quite a young age to be lecturing people older than myself on there relationships and the mistakes I feel there making. At the age of 21 i'm really not going to have much life experience. However in the short amount of time i've spent on this planet I have experienced hurt,pain,guilt and all other emotions associated with relationships and break ups. Due to my age I am still very naive,but I am learning that not everyone in this world has my best interests at heart and that my first few boyfriends may not be life long companions. After all you have to get through the rain to reach that rainbow right?..meaning that you have to experience some hurt before you find mr right. I'm not amazing at giving advice but I do know right from wrong and I have a big heart. I just hope that i'll be to shed some light on certain situations for fellow dear cupid users. x |
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Is he too old for me or should I continue to pursue him?
Q. Hi, I'm 14 in May and i really really like this guy in my school but he's 18 in August so there's four years between us, plus he's leaving school soon. I asked him out once and he said he would - IF i was his age. We're really good friends already ...
A. 17 July 2010: Age gaps work in relationships if both parties are at a mature age. Your 14 still going through puberty, he is a young adult. If you were 20 and he was 26 it wouldnt be as bad because your both adults.
Funnily enough the first person i fell for ... (read in full...)
Why is he sending another woman text messages saying "hey beautiful"
Q. i have been living with my boyfriend for a year and lately he has been distant. Not ass affectionate and attentive as before. I just felt like something was off so i checked his text messages (up until now i have never felt a need to) and saw ...
A. 15 July 2010: Your not stupid so don't let him play you for a fool!
Obviously if theres photos of another women on his phone and hes sent her msgs saying 'hey beautiful' theres something not quite right. 'Hey beautiful' is something men say when they are tryi... (read in full...)
Adoring my workmate from afar
Q. Hi there everyone OK, here goes. I am in LUST with a man at work. This isn't going away. I have lusted after him for over a year. I sit in meetings and look at things like... the tiny little hairs on his arms. Or his lovely eyes. Or his beautiful...
A. 15 July 2010: Ok you fancy him, you fancy him badd.
BUT you love your husband right? Whats more important? The lust you feel for this guy or the love you share with your husband?
Too many people give into lust and end up runining happy relationships and marr... (read in full...)
I don't know how our relationship can succeed?
Q. I'm with a guy that i known for a year and some months. When ever we aren't talking through webcamming (because he lives in another state, 10 years older than me, and we neva met physically except through the internet and webcam)I feel like our ...
A. 15 July 2010: You need to meet in person,its been over a year and you still havent seen met eachother in the flesh?
If its going to work you need to be seeing eachother in person,theres only so far a relationship can go when u only see eachother through the webc... (read in full...)
He never tells me something is wrong until we start fighting!
Q. Okayy so me and this kid have been going out for about two months. And yesterday for example, we were talking all day and he was acting totally fine. And then that night i asked him how his game went...and he said that they won and so on. After that ...
A. 14 July 2010: I think he was just a bit insulted that you said he hadnt hit any homeruns in a while even if you didnt mean it to upset him and were just saying.
Guys take their sports very seriously. I think you might of just hit a nerve thats all. he'll get ... (read in full...)
Does this happen to women too?
Q. I wish to know if girls do get aroused at night the way boys do get erections at night and in the mornings or if they are different?...
A. 14 July 2010: I think that everyone male or female is more likely to get aroused late at night more than at any other point during the day. I think that men feel it a lot more than women though.
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I think about him constantly, and him about me..but he is with someone else!!
Q. My ex and I have been broken up since End of Nov. 2009. He immediately started dating someone and after 6 months of no contact shows up to my work and says he still cares for me and that he can't stop thinking of me. Well he is still with the same ...
A. 14 July 2010: Your both still thinking about eachother obviously still crazy about eachother. couples who are like this should never of broken up in the first place.
What you need to find out now is if he means what hes claimed 'i can't stop thinking about you'... (read in full...)
My verbally abusive husband!
Q. My husband had been verbally abusive and physically abusive by way of grabbing my arm and restraining me and even a push. I moved out about 6 weeks ago and over that time he's continued to show signs of his abuse ways except for our last phone ...
A. 13 July 2010: I'm a big believer in that everything happens for a reason. Your not having these dreams just for the sake of it. Ok there not events that have actually happened and there not necessarily going to happen. However these dreams are your minds way of t... (read in full...)
Is she "double" cheating now?
Q. So I have met this girl. I actually knew her before but we ran into each other and we were instantly attracted to one another. When i was checking my phone she grabbed it from me and put her number in it. So we started talking. I found that she h...
A. 13 July 2010: Just like men women cheat and women LIE. You say that she doesnt want to leave him because she is worried he will hurt himself, if he really treats her that badly then she wouldnt care. She'd run a mile. Unless she still has feelings for him desp... (read in full...)
Should I ask him why he stop calling me beautiful or babe?
Q. Hey well my bf used to always say "morning babe" or "morning beautiful" but lately he hasnt been he just says "morning". I miss him calling me that stuff do you think it would be ok if i asked why he stoped? Its only been like 3 or 4 days but i ...
A. 13 July 2010: guys always make more effort to begin with-in the early stages of the relationship. After a while though they become more comfortable around us and this then leads them to being more relaxed and laid back in our company, they feel that theres no ... (read in full...)
How do I let him down without hurting his feelings?
Q. I spend a lot of time giving advice on here but am yet to take some myself. I thought it was about time that i got things of my chest...any advice on this dilema would be much appreciated! About 5 or 6 months ago i stopped seeing somebody who had...
A. 13 July 2010: Thanks guys. And a goodbye BJ lol...it wouldnt happen.
Only thing is this guy comes across a little sensitive,i really don't want to hurt anyone i know how that feels. maybe i havent given him a proper chance yet, i think i can't feel anything towa... (read in full...)
Married but fantasising about sex with a woman.....
Q. im happily married but there one thing on my mind when im alone i watch lesbian porn it really turns me on and i masterbate when i watch it i dont watch it that often but does this mean im a lesbian? i have always wonder what it be like to have sex ...
A. 12 July 2010: Your curious thats all. Theres a first time for everything why not bring those lesbian fantasies into action? your husband will think his christmases and birthdays have all come at once. ... (read in full...)
Is there anything romantic about having sex with a prostitute?
Q. I'm not going to lie. I have made love to prostitutes before. I have tried to be gentle with them (women of course). But I want to know...is there anything romantic or beautiful about making love to prostitutes? I need to get it off my conscience. I ...
A. 11 July 2010: No i don't think theres anything romantic about having sex with a prostitute. If its romantic sex i.e 'making love' that your looking for then i would recomend that you start looking for a girlfriend.
As for as prostitutes go, you don't know her ... (read in full...)
Why would he post this song as his away message?
Q. If a guy talks about how relaxing and sweet this song is on a Friday late at night (not to you, just his AIM away status), is he in love with someone new? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p-Z3YrHJ1sU and feature=related Lyrics...
A. 11 July 2010: Relax he probably just likes the song. :) Try not to over analyze things like this. ... (read in full...)
He went on a vacation, cheated, then left me! Now I am an emotional mess with low esteem!
Q. So me and my now ex boyfriend dated for seven months. I was totally in love with him, and he told me that he loved me too. Five months into the relationship, he went on vacation, and when he came back, he was different. He wouldn't text me, or hang ...
A. 11 July 2010: He went on holiday and experienced time away from you, and instead time around other girls-temptation kicked in and he cheated on you, he had a taste of what it would be like to get with different girls on holiday and then probably realised... (read in full...)
How do I stop thinking about her?
Q. I had a bestfriend for 2 years. We have gotten in so many fights in 1 year. It was all me. I dont know why, but we always had a fight over stupid stuff. So i got mad at her again, but this time it hurt me and the next day she told me she didnt want ...
A. 10 July 2010: Swallow your pride and apologize. its the only way,beg if u have too. shes your best friend your pride doesnt matter. ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me, but also loves his girlfriend? Help please!
Q. hey guys, hope you can help me in my situation.??Basically me and this guy have known each other for 4 years, we always liked each other, but knew we couldnt do anything about our feelings. We were always very very close mates and always there for ...
A. 10 July 2010: Leave him be. If he loves you as much as he says he does then he would of let her for you by now. i doubt hes planning on leaving her anytime soon aswell?
Find someone new. Plenty of fish in the sea and all that!
Your young and you think your in ... (read in full...)
How do I express the things I didn't get to say to my ex?
Q. I still have some anger and things i left unsaid to my ex. My mom suggested writing a letter. I'm considering writing a facebook message and sending it to him, just to express how I feel so I don't have to bottle the emotions up. Does it seem like a ...
A. 10 July 2010: If you send him a letter or a msg on facebook, hes going to think you still care even if that message is just giving him abuse. Love and hate are two very linked emotions. If you hate somebody thats still holding a strong feeling towards them. You ... (read in full...)
Why does he think he can treat me like something he just scraped off the bottom of his shoe?
Q. why does he think he can treat me like something he just scraped off the bottom of his shoe? everyday i leave the house at around half nine he will hit me with a nasty name or just try to star a conflict between us. after i have been out gone to ...
A. 10 July 2010: Why does he think you are cheating? have you given him reason to think this? If so then he is hurt and is responding in the way that all men do when you've bruised there ego-hes being aggresive. Men arent like us they don't get frustration out in ... (read in full...)
Is he secretly holding a grudge, or is he really over what I've done?
Q. I have been with my partner for three years now, and in that time he has been perfect. He is loyal, respectful, loving and kind. However, I myself havent not been an angel. Although I didn't do anything obviously wrong I have sometimes crossed the ...
A. 10 July 2010: Ask yourself why you have to visit theses websites? is there something missing in your relationship?
Have you ever been cheated on?..or has a man ever behaved innapropriately with another women whilst being in a relationship with you? if so how d... (read in full...)
She keeps requesting me as a friend on Facebook, and I keep denying her, but she's persisting! What is she thinking?
Q. Alright to make this short and quick as possible, my ex dragged me on with her for 6months. I basically waited for her. I decided to move on and so I'm like alright imma just delete her off facebook and I did this was like a week ago, and like a ...
A. 10 July 2010: She still wants you basically.
Ignoring her friend requests isnt solving anything,shes obviously not the type to give up easily..make it clear to her that u don't want her anymore,ur moving on. Be blunt about it and if she ends up feeling hurt by y... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on me 4 times, and I kissed another boy. Can we still work out?
Q. [Moderator note: the age posted is probably incorrect. Aunts and uncles please respond to this as you would someone younger.] hi, me and this boy had a thing going on (we werent out)but this boy from italy came over for an exchange visit. he li...
A. 9 July 2010: you should of let him the first time he cheated on you. if a man is cheating on you he does not love you. end of.
Leave him hun he doesnt love you surely the 3rd,4th time he cheated on you you realised this. Don't be foolish,your wasting your... (read in full...)
Is he committed to the relationship or not?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for about 10 months. I just don't feel like he's committed to the relationship. I haven't met his parents, he has never given me a gift (he sent me a text message for my birthday), and he doesn't invite me to meet his ...
A. 9 July 2010: your my relationship twin! lol. i had a boyfriend like this, and finished it 4 or 5 months ago. trust me things arent about to get any better. everything you've described: you don't see eachother much (only in the evenings) and wen you confront... (read in full...)
How far can Christians go sexually without violating our faith?
Q. I'm 17 years old and have been with my bf 6 months. I am a Christian and am unsure how far sexually it is ok to go. He has fingered me and I've given him a handjob but have began to think this is wrong and so my question is, how far, as a Christian, ...
A. 9 July 2010: your 16-17 years of age therefore you have hormones honey! You have to be very strong willed if your gona live the way in which god would approve,follow all the commandments etc. I'm no christian yet no athiest-lets just say i'm undecided i don'... (read in full...)
Will he ever be ready for a relationship with me?
Q. Hi there I was wondering if anyone had an opinions about my situation Im 21 years old and am head over heels for a guy the same age as me. He has been messaging me all day ever day for atleast a month now. I spend a couple of nights a week wi...
A. 7 July 2010: i came out of a situation like this not long ago. i was seeing him for a year and a half and was not aware that he was also seeing another girl and having a lot of one night stands. I pressured him for a relationship after about a year and he said ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend loves his 11yr old daughter more than me!
Q. [Mod note: Two questions by the same poster have been combined into one.] My Boyfriend is 35, i am 23 we have known each other for 7 years and have only got together 7 months ago. We have been in our own apartment for 2 months. He has a 11 yr old d...
A. 7 July 2010: His daughter is blood,he feels a love for her which is unconditional. but he also loves you but in a COMPLETELY different way. it doesnt mean that he doesnt love you. a parent's child is always going to first priority in thier life. If you had ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant? I'm afraid to ask my mother!
Q. Hi. My name is Quinn and i have been experiancing some weird things. I have been to many websites and nothing has helped. Could you please help me? Okay so this is what's happeneing, I have missed my period for 1 month and 1/2... but i have NOT h...
A. 7 July 2010: no your not pregnant,100% sure on that one. you have to of had sex to be pregnant,end of. Your going through puberty at the moment which is why your experiencing these changes, Your fine DON'T WORRY! EVERY girl goes through these changes at some ... (read in full...)
My 18 year old son is dating someone my age!!
Q. My 18 year old son has started dating a 35 year old woman, which is my age, I am having alot of different feeings, from near break down to breaking her in half. I don't want to do the wrong thing and push him closer to her. I can't imagine dating ...
A. 7 July 2010: Your son is 18 hes basically an adult! let him make his own decisions and his own MISTAKES (which YES he will learn from) hes experiencing life at the moment,trying new things-even if one of those things is dating a woman twice his age.
he is an a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend ignores me, should I just break up with him?
Q. My boyfriend neglects me. He ignores me on facebook and doesnt reply to my texts ALOT. He always gives stupid excuses which I find hard to believe. I still love him and I'm willing to give him a second chance. Thing is, he hasn't asked for it. ...
A. 7 July 2010: Don't break up straight away. Sit him down and talk to him about how he's making you feel. Letting him no how serious a problem its getting..your going to break up with him if he carries on,and you want to know the real reason why hes been ignoring ... (read in full...)
I feel like the romance in our relationship is fading. Help!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for six years, we are 20, we live together, we study, we get along really great, we always laugh and have a great time together, we're best friends. For the last few years he doesn't put effort in to make me feel spe...
A. 7 July 2010: Men always make more effort at the start of a relationship,this is because they want to make sure we're theres. once they know your not going anywhere they slowly begin to make less effort.
All relationships need a spruce up after a while.
some ... (read in full...)
Is 8 years too big of a difference?
Q. Hello, all I want to know is if anyone thinks that 8 years is a big difference? I honestly don't think it is. But I'm 18 and I like a 26 year old who likes me back. I just wanna know if you think 8 years is too much....
A. 7 July 2010: Age is just a number. Remember that if you and this 26 year old click then go for it! it shouldnt be different from any other relationship. except he'll be more mature! and have more experience ;). The age gap is a good thing if anything. I think ... (read in full...)
It seems my partner is possesive, forceful and wants me to have a baby even though I'm not ready, what should I do?
Q. hi... am really in need for some advice ...have slept with my b/f who is 23 years older then me and actually enjoyed it but since then he is forcing me to move in with him ....when he first asked.. i asked him to give me some time but he is forcing ...
A. 4 July 2010: I think you should end this then cut all ties with him..he sounds very intimidating, and controlling. your young you should be enjoying yourself rather than getting involved with people that just bring stress into your life. good luck x... (read in full...)
He says the problems in our relationship are my fault!
Q. Last night my partner really made me feel like a terrible person. We have had a lot of stress since we moved back in together, his son, money, lack of job (on his part) his mother being an alcoholic, my own chronic illness. He has seemed to just get...
A. 4 July 2010: sounds a bit like hes living off of you to be honest, don't let him! if hes not prepared to get a job (or even try) kick him to the curb. you sound like a strong person don't let him bring you down. good luck x... (read in full...)
Can we still be friends after we've broken up?
Q. So, me and my boyfriend of a year and 3 months broke up today. Well, I told him we should just be friends which I want to do, I just don't want to be in a relationship right now because I feel too young for that, I'm only 16. Anyways, he got mad ...
A. 4 July 2010: You started a relationship with your boyfriend a year and a few months ago,when you were younger than you are now. And now you've decided that you feel your too young for a relationship..what were you thinking wen u were 15? if your too young now ... (read in full...)
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