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writes:why does he think he can treat me like something he just scraped off the bottom of his shoe?everyday i leave the house at around half nine he will hit me with a nasty name or just try to star a conflict between us. after i have been out gone to see my mother, he meets me in town. so happy to see me "i wish"we will go home from there sit downstairs he's only not calling me names then bcoz his mother is there grrrr we will go upstairs more names. the non stop remarks and the fact he says iam cheating what do i do i want him to realise what he does and how it hurts ........... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2010): this guy shows total disrespect for you and your feelings end it before he destroys you
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reader, karen1989 +, writes (10 July 2010):
 Why does he think you are cheating? have you given him reason to think this? If so then he is hurt and is responding in the way that all men do when you've bruised there ego-hes being aggresive. Men arent like us they don't get frustration out in tears when things in relationships go wrong..they get angry instead. Has he always been like this? If not then there must be a reason hes acting this way,has he been stressed lately and is now taking it out on you? or maybe he genuinely has reasons to believe that you've been cheating? Either way you shouldnt have to put up with the name calling,this doesnt sound like a healthy relationship. If hes always treated you like this and is a bully in general then you should of never got together with him in the first place and you must leave him asap. for the sake of your own sanity. If however this is new behavior find out whats up and maybe you two can sort things out? Sit him down when hes nice and calm and talk to him about how hes making you feel-really get the point across that he is hurting you by behaving this way. If he cares he will give you an explanation and you two can go from there. Communication is key. Good luck
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 July 2010):
He will do it, because you are accepting it. That's how abusers start. A man (or woman) will be slightly abusive to test the waters and see how you respond. If you take it, they realize they can do more and more. That's what is happening in your relationship. This has been building up, and you've now seen that it's that bad. The problem is that you're not dealing with it the way you should be. You're hoping that he will change and notice that he's hurting you. He won't. He already knows what he's doing, and he does it because he can get away with it. Even if you said something now, you probably wouldn't get a response. The bottom line is, this guy is not worth your time. He won't suddenly change into that nice guy you want, because he doesn't want to be a nice guy. He just wants to have power over you. If you want this treatment to stop, you need to end it with him. If you don't, this will continue, and this will be your life.
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