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writes:Hey well my bf used to always say "morning babe" or "morning beautiful" but lately he hasnt been he just says "morning". I miss him calling me that stuff do you think it would be ok if i asked why he stoped? Its only been like 3 or 4 days but i still miss it. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, Maggie Arana +, writes (3 October 2010):
You shouldn't be calling each other any kind of pet name, whether it's "babe, honey, pookie" or anything other than your name. Why? Because you lose your sexuality and your individuality when you give up your names - which is what attracted you to each other in the first place. I've talked to women about this for years and I've written a book called "Stop Calling Him Honey and Start Having SEX!" as a result. Terms of endearment are one of many bad habits that couples fall into that unknowingly sabotages their sex lives every day. You have to get rid of these habits if you ever want to get back to where your sex life was in the beginning. It's not that hard either! Trust me, I've done it. Maggie Arana
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (14 July 2010):
 Start calling him cute, silly names and maybe he will get the hint, now if you TELL him to call you nick names it's just not cute, know what I mean?
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reader, raiders +, writes (14 July 2010):
 you can call him honey, cutie, daddy, boo, you can actually adopt a pet name that only you call him by, this will make it extra special. For example pooh, booger, piggy, it could be anything as long as you say it with love, and not when your angry.
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reader, Manya +, writes (14 July 2010):
HI! I don't think I would say anything yet, if it's only been a few days. I like anonymous' idea of calling him "handsome" or saying "mornin' sexy" (maybe you are doing this already). If you take the ball and interject some humor, then I'll bet he'll come up with those words you long to hear very soon!
also, in a similar vein, men have a history of not wanting to say "I love you" as much as women would like... maybe it's genetic!
At some point, if he still seems less tender with words, you could say, wistfully, "I really miss when you said, 'morning babe'!"
I know what you mean, those kind of greetings can make your day!
Best of luck,
Love,
Manya
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys :) and i usually call him handsome i cant think of any other pet name for him cause alot of them sound girly. Also we have been dating for half a year so its sorta long but we have been bestfriends for 2 years. I think he got the hint cause he called me babe a little while ago thanks again.
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reader, karen1989  +, writes (13 July 2010):
 guys always make more effort to begin with-in the early stages of the relationship. After a while though they become more comfortable around us and this then leads them to being more relaxed and laid back in our company, they feel that theres no need to make that extra bit of effort anymore. You'll find this with a lot of men. Doesnt mean hes gone off you or anything.
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reader, anonymous818 +, writes (13 July 2010):
hmm well this issue depends on how long you have been going out for because if it has been for a long time, it may be odd to hear someone talk to you or txt you with a different tone. but if it really hasnt been a long time, maybe he is losing that feeling, or he just thinks that saying "morning" is suitable enough because hes getting to be more comfortable..good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): Have you ever tried calling him handsome or sexy? A lot of times girls get wrapped up in getting their ego's stroked they think the guy doesn't need it.
well, we do. So try spicing things up on your end and maybe he will go back to calling you that stuff.
If you do, then just tell him you miss him calling you that. but just mention it in passing don't make a big deal about it. he should take the hint.
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (13 July 2010):
 It's possible that he felt like it had become his duty to stroke your ego and got tired of it. This does not mean that he loves you any less, just that he wants to be more real. You shouldn't need to rely on compliments to feel good.................if you want reassurance that he cares for you look at how he treats you and if he is respectful with you. I don't think you should ask him why he stopped calling you those tgings because you will look needy and turn him off. You can however express how YOU feel by saying something like..........I really liked it when you called me blah blah but I wouldn't go there either
Good luck hun:)
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