How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 5 April 2014: Yep, It's a tough one. The toughest. We're doing pretty well now, better, still together . . .... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 28 June 2010: Yos, thank you. I know you are correct about the choice, and your terms make sense. I won't analyze them, but I do have a question regarding what is not contained in them, what is outside of them, and the question, at least to my mind, is a question ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 24 June 2010: So, I considered starting a new post because my views and questions have changed so much since this original one, but so not to litter up DC with too much of my queries, I'll just stick to this one and see if anyone has any additional thoughts. I ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 23 June 2010: This has nothing to do with how we choose to conduct our present sex lives. It has everything to do with me feeling like there is a gap of understanding between my wife and I; that part of her is to me, completely other, unknown, undesirable. Your ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 22 June 2010: I don't feel that I'm sacrificing my ideals, but I do feel like she has sacrificed hers. What I feel I am sacrificing is the peace of mind during sex (as well as not during it) that I used to feel with my partners when I knew that what we were doing ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 21 June 2010: Dear anon (the last one), Yes, I know it is only up to me to decide, and like you would I feel very let down and disappointed for two reasons - that she did it and then that she lied about it to protect her interest. During the last few months,... (read in full...)
HIs fantasy freaks me out!
Q. I'm 18 and I'm having sex with a 40 year old man. We met on the Internet and met up in a hotel for the night, we stay in hotels most weekends and have for a while. its really amazing and we are both sexually attracted to each other and have amazing ...
A. 17 June 2010: It certainly is more complex than that. I hope I did an OK job of explaining what I consider to be the complexity. :)... (read in full...)
HIs fantasy freaks me out!
Q. I'm 18 and I'm having sex with a 40 year old man. We met on the Internet and met up in a hotel for the night, we stay in hotels most weekends and have for a while. its really amazing and we are both sexually attracted to each other and have amazing ...
A. 16 June 2010: West,
just a couple of respectful thoughts in response to yours:
blowjobs feel completely different than vaginal intercourse. So there is a purpose outside of being dominant: to be pleasured in a new way.
Your views are also basic in ... (read in full...)
HIs fantasy freaks me out!
Q. I'm 18 and I'm having sex with a 40 year old man. We met on the Internet and met up in a hotel for the night, we stay in hotels most weekends and have for a while. its really amazing and we are both sexually attracted to each other and have amazing ...
A. 15 June 2010: Everyone's got something to say, and all for various reasons. This is really a loaded topic. I'll tell you what I think. There is a lot of posturing and knowitallness on this site. There are a lot of lonely people feeling like they matter on this ... (read in full...)
I have been abuse for most of my life and don't know how to break this dreadful cycle
Q. Please help. I was involved with a man for three years. We had what I thought was a good relationship and I trusted him. As time went on and I began to invite this man to my house my ex, my daughter's Father started to cause a lot of problems ie: ...
A. 15 June 2010: Throughout my childhood and well into adult life my mother was constantly "rubbishing," as you say, my father, who she divorced when I was 8. It's hard to understand, to be objective when you're young. You believe what they say. It sounds like your ... (read in full...)
What you need versus what is the right thing to do?
Q. so doing what you feel like you need to do versus doing what you feel is the morally righteous thing to do? What is your outlook on this?...
A. 15 June 2010: You could mean anything by these words. I would ask you to look deeply into what you mean by "need" and by "morally righteous." Once you have a specific answer for both, ask the question again. Best,... (read in full...)
Are all guys straight forward or are some shy too?
Q. Hi i need some advice on guys! Most people say that guys are simple and straight forward, if they like you they will show it or they will tell you or tell someone (e.g your or his mate) People say they dont mess around and say they dont when they do ...
A. 15 June 2010: Guys are every bit as diverse as girls. Culture is most of what tells you they are not.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend had sex before we met!
Q. HEY. Me and my girlfriend is together for 2 years and got engaged some time ago [e-mail address removed]. My problem is that I cant deal with the fact that she slept with four guys before we started dating. When I think of this I get so angry th...
A. 15 June 2010: 4 people is not very many at all. Have you also slept with about that many?... (read in full...)
I'm scared to have sex, what should I do?
Q. my boyfriend wants to have sex with me but im still a virgin and scared. wht should I do?...
A. 12 June 2010: Protect yourself! Like the others are saying, there is a reason that you're gut is telling you to wait. You are very young, and many adults regret losing their virginity at a young age - there is NOTHING wrong with waiting until you know you are ... (read in full...)
I want to think about him not talk about my past sex life! Help!
Q. Haay, Im 16; And My Boyfriend is 14; He Recently found out that ive gone out with something like 3 chicks before him and that im Bi; He is pressuring me to hook up with a chick, btu i just want to be with him; He Knows i still have feelings f...
A. 11 June 2010: Glad you broke up - good for you... (read in full...)
How do I make him stop asking for something I'm not ready for?
Q. Im 16 and my boyfriend Really wants a blowjob. and he's younger than me, he's 14. i dont really wanna do that, just thiking about it makes me gag. everytime he brings it up i tell him im not ready and im not sure ill ever be. but i can see he's s...
A. 11 June 2010: Yep, what Timm said is perfect. Now you know what he wanted. You stand up for yourself girl, most boys are pigs. There are some good ones, but many of them are just interested in sex.... (read in full...)
I don't know what my destination should be when I've found it impossible to find romantic attachment to any other human being.
Q. Howdy everyone, 6 years ago I met someone who has consistently shown herself to be the most amazing human being to walk this earth. I love her, and all I want is for her to be happy. I am not pursuing her. I'm lost now though, I don't know what my ...
A. 10 June 2010: If you've given up pursuing this person, your next destination might be to find a bigger pool of people to experience. I've never been good at the single game, but I know there are a lot of ways to play it. I say get into contact with a larger ... (read in full...)
Why could I not cope with my partner's sexual past?
Q. I could not cope with the threesome my partner had with his ex wife and her female friend and have ended my relationship with him because of this. I could not get it out of my head and kept thinking of the three of them together. Now that I am ...
A. 10 June 2010: I don't see how you could put anything together in terms of why it happened. He's the only one that could guess at that. In my mind you aren't missing a thing. It happened, and that's that. What you choose to do in light of it is all up to you. I ... (read in full...)
Should I keep waiting?
Q. There is a pacific ocean between us. I dont have enough confidence to go on waiting for him cuz he has not call me lasts two days. He explained his mother is at home any how, i dont recieve his email neither. What can i do .The cross-area ...
A. 10 June 2010: He is the only person who can answer your question of whether or not he cares about you. A long distance relationship is a sacrifice. You are giving up sexual experiences that you could be having with another so that you can one day have it with ... (read in full...)
Is she losing interest in me?
Q. I've been dating this girl for almost a month, not a long time. The other night we had a serious talk, namely that she hasn't really date many people, and they they have all turned into long term relationships, and second that she is worried she ...
A. 10 June 2010: Only she can answer your question. She can't do so if you don't ask. ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 10 June 2010: Thank you Miamine, thank you Tisha.... (read in full...)
How long is it guna take he's 28 yrs old???
Q. Hi I need sum serious help I'm only 23 wit 1 son who's 4 yrs old. I've been wit his father for 4 years ...I wana let go bcuz I found numerous txt msg frm other females about sex,dating,being in his house and other shit...I even caught him in his car ...
A. 10 June 2010: You must leave this person, and I would talk to someone you trust, even a counselor, about why you have stayed with him for this long. it is not normal or healthy to be in a relationship like this - you are being abused, and you need psychological ... (read in full...)
How do I make him stop asking for something I'm not ready for?
Q. Im 16 and my boyfriend Really wants a blowjob. and he's younger than me, he's 14. i dont really wanna do that, just thiking about it makes me gag. everytime he brings it up i tell him im not ready and im not sure ill ever be. but i can see he's s...
A. 10 June 2010: You shouldn't have to do anything you're not ready for. Trust yourself. You are very young. If he doesn't respect you, leave him. No girl should be forced into sex, and a blowjob is sex. Protect yourself, protect yourself, protect yourself.... (read in full...)
How do I erase my memories and routine of my ex gf now that I'm single ??
Q. hello there well my ex broke up with me about a week ago. were been dating for about a year . We were very attracted and had strong feelings for each other . we would miss each other as soon well not see each other or we stop talking anyway....
A. 10 June 2010: You will never forget it, but time does help. The hurt is very strong now, and in the coming weeks could get worse. But it *will* get better. I made it through a split up with a girl I had been with for years and years, and I thought I might die. It ... (read in full...)
I want to think about him not talk about my past sex life! Help!
Q. Haay, Im 16; And My Boyfriend is 14; He Recently found out that ive gone out with something like 3 chicks before him and that im Bi; He is pressuring me to hook up with a chick, btu i just want to be with him; He Knows i still have feelings f...
A. 10 June 2010: Neither of you should get mad. That's the worst thing to do. It's not healthy to involve more than one person in your sex life, especially as young as you are. I have only seen people twice your age who work very hard have open relationships work. ... (read in full...)
Concerned about the man she slept with while on a break
Q. I have been married for a little over a month now and very happy. Previously I had dated her for almost 2 years. We are great together although I am significantly older (I’m 41 shes 27) I recently found something out…and I am just trying...
A. 10 June 2010: Insight is hard when the key info here is missing: why did you originally have the fight that lead to the split? Nonetheless, if the hardest part of this for you is the lying about the communication with the guy, I totally respect that. That would ... (read in full...)
Loving someone verses being loved...
Q. Me and my bf have been going out since last year January.(I'm 19 and he is 29) He is head over heals in love with me and I'm a bit colder. I didn't feel such a big spark in the beginning and I still don't actually but I love him, we have the same ...
A. 10 June 2010: Don't take my answer too seriously, but it sounds to me like you should break up with him. It is very unlikely that he is going to satisfy you emotionally or sexually based on what you say. You are a very young woman, and have your entire life ahead ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 9 June 2010: Tisha,
I am reading Yos' postings now. Thank you for your help.... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 9 June 2010: She does not have a personality disorder, and she is working through this with me. I still take the majority of the blame for this. Some of what R&B has speculated does not fit at all, but a lot of it does. Gottman's four Horsemen is also hugely ... (read in full...)
Why could I not cope with my partner's sexual past?
Q. I could not cope with the threesome my partner had with his ex wife and her female friend and have ended my relationship with him because of this. I could not get it out of my head and kept thinking of the three of them together. Now that I am ...
A. 8 June 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/obsessed-with-my-wifes-past.html
here is another string that has a lot of good ideas in it (not mine) You can also search for "sexual past" in the search option up there on DearCupid, and come up with more thi... (read in full...)
Why could I not cope with my partner's sexual past?
Q. I could not cope with the threesome my partner had with his ex wife and her female friend and have ended my relationship with him because of this. I could not get it out of my head and kept thinking of the three of them together. Now that I am ...
A. 8 June 2010: I am going through something pretty similar, but I am trying not to divorce over it. A lot of the responses I have gotten have not been helpful, but some have. It's a lot to read, but you may find some of it applies to you and your situation. All I ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: It means to listen. To not get mad. To pay attention to. To care. To be involved with. To understand. Taking a moment to recognize that my feelings matter. Taking several moments to do that. Maybe even going out of the way to show that she doesn't ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: R&B,
Thanks for the tips about psychologists. We had gone to see a graduate student about this, but she ended up dealing more with our larger patterns of misunderstanding one another in social situations (which was on my wife's mind more than min... (read in full...)
Confused over marriage, please help?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 8 years. We are 27. Both of our parents have been divorced. Regardless, I feel the need to get married someday! He doesn't. He thinks marriage is a piece of paper, a legal document only and doesn't mean anything. He ...
A. 8 June 2010: A marriage, in essence, is a piece of paper. But it can be a lot more in terms of ritual. If you want the ritual enough to consider asking for it repeatedly, I think you have the right to do so. Pester that boy if you want to get married! Make him ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: Just to clarify my position R&B, I don't appeal to God or Country in order to feel very relieved by your words, but I do to Family. I just wanted you to know that. :)... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: Rhythm, You also said:
"You married your wife because of your strong sexual attraction to her, you discounted the less desirable aspects of her character and decided she ticked all the boxes and you married her. As long as she has been able to grow... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: Miamine,
Don't feel like you have to do me any favors. It's alright to just say what you mean.
Ryhtemandblues2,
I don't know how to thank you enough; your words are especially valuable to me because you are a woman. In a lot of ways you are ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to cheat if he isn't satisfying me sexually.
Q. Is it ok to cheat if he isn't satisfying me sexually. I love him but we don't have sparks. but I am settling because we have a baby together and I'm 19 he is 25 and he knows I am settling but he is so in love with me he is ok with it. I want to have ...
A. 8 June 2010: It's not OK. You need to get out of the relationship and then go and do what you want. Cheating is never OK, unless the two people agree that it is (a very rare case!)... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 7 June 2010: Nope, then in my book, you are not an abuser. The label doesn't work.... (read in full...)
How important is the "spark"? Can a relationship work without it?
Q. I have a question about the "spark." For those of you who are in good stable happy relationship, do you still feel a spark after years and years of being together? I am wondering how important this spark is. I'm with a guy and we have admitted...
A. 7 June 2010: Overall, though, a relationship cannot work without it, at least I don't think it can.... (read in full...)
How important is the "spark"? Can a relationship work without it?
Q. I have a question about the "spark." For those of you who are in good stable happy relationship, do you still feel a spark after years and years of being together? I am wondering how important this spark is. I'm with a guy and we have admitted...
A. 7 June 2010: is the spark your talking about emotional or sexual or both? They're both important, but the sexual one is usually the first to go. They're certainly not mutually exclusive, either, but anyway, if you're talking about the sexual spark, I'd say it's ... (read in full...)
I feel more comfortable dressing like a guy
Q. Hi. Um, I hope this question is appropriate for this kind of forum, but it's the only site I can really find that seems reliable. Anyway... I'm confused. I'm a 19 year old girl and consider myself as such. I have crushes on boys, though I've only...
A. 7 June 2010: Seems completely normal to me. Gender is only a concept - invent yourself as you want to. You can be straight and dress like a man. You can be gay and dress like a woman. None of this makes you any which way. ... (read in full...)
I'm gutted after learning my wife has been cheating for years
Q. just found out my wife has been cheating for years i feel everything i held to be true is false too many feelings she blames me could that be true...
A. 7 June 2010: I also agree with what anon just said. In my experience, this is true - in my best judgment.... (read in full...)
How many is too many? She's had 10 sexual partners in 3 years
Q. Hi all, I am 21 yrs old and I'm seeing a new girl right now. We've been dating for quite a while now, but she said something that concerned me. She is 21 also and lost her virginity at age 18 and has since gone off and had 10 sexual partners since ...
A. 6 June 2010: If she's willing to be all about you, and you can accept her past sex life, that's really not that many. Just a quick answer here... (read in full...)
I'm gutted after learning my wife has been cheating for years
Q. just found out my wife has been cheating for years i feel everything i held to be true is false too many feelings she blames me could that be true...
A. 6 June 2010: No. It is not your fault. It's never that easy. Both partners have a responsibility to one another. She has betrayed you; for her to say it is your fault is straight bullshit.... (read in full...)
I have to wait for him for 5 years, is it worth the wait? And should I tell my family about him?
Q. I have a boyfriend.We made acquaintance in my country. We are the same nation, but his identity is another country. Now,he is going to leave for his country. He asked me to keep waiting for him one year, he will back to my country next year. He is ...
A. 6 June 2010: If the love is very strong, maybe you should wait. If the love is just there, and not very strong, maybe you should refuse to wait. One thing is certain: that is a LOT of your sex life to sacrifice for someone. I don't understand your cultural ... (read in full...)
I'm referred to as the "place holder" until the ex wants my bf back! What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. My best friend is my ex, and his best friend is his ex. Things between me and my ex are completely over, and there is nothing but friendship there. I thought the same thing for my boyfriend and his ...
A. 6 June 2010: Keep your eye on that boy. Well done!!... (read in full...)
Why won't she tell me her real number of sexual partners if she loves me?
Q. I am involved in my first relationship since divorcing my wife of 20 years. I have been in it for 9 months, and it has been wonderful. However, there was an instance a month into our relationship where I caught her in a bit of a lie and it made me ...
A. 6 June 2010: Anon said:
"Silly man. You think you have the right to know who you are marrying! This is 2010. You don't have the right to protect yourself from the emotional or physical damage her sexual past may bring your marriage. Not when it might cause a ... (read in full...)
What was a condom doing in my boyfriend's wallet?
Q. I was snooping through my boyfriend of 2 years wallet (yes I know that's wrong but I was looking gore a business card he has) and I saw a condom in there. this kind of bothers me because its the kind of ...
A. 6 June 2010: Since he's still going out without you, I would be suspicious for sure. It could be innocent, but it may not be. I'd confront him directly.... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 6 June 2010: Celia and Miamine,
It is very true that there are a lot of people who don't quite understand gender on this site, those who can't see that if the gender roles were reversed, they would behave and judge differently. If you ask me, they should b... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 6 June 2010: He was scaring you and didn't back off. That's not good. He may be abusive, but it's hard to tell from this. Slapping him was a bit of abuse from you, but you were also being provoked, and we scared. If he or you repeats this behavior a lot, get ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 6 June 2010: Gabrielle,
You may, if you still feel you would like to.
Miamine,
My wife was rejected by a couple of men in her life, one in particular, that she claims sort of set off this behavior, so you are again insightful. She says that she was so... (read in full...)
I'm referred to as the "place holder" until the ex wants my bf back! What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. My best friend is my ex, and his best friend is his ex. Things between me and my ex are completely over, and there is nothing but friendship there. I thought the same thing for my boyfriend and his ...
A. 6 June 2010: Good for you! You have the right to know if he is being honest!... (read in full...)
Why won't she tell me her real number of sexual partners if she loves me?
Q. I am involved in my first relationship since divorcing my wife of 20 years. I have been in it for 9 months, and it has been wonderful. However, there was an instance a month into our relationship where I caught her in a bit of a lie and it made me ...
A. 4 June 2010: And Anon is brilliant, allow me to quote:
"Silly man. You think you have the right to know who you are marrying!
This is 2010. You don't have the right to protect yourself from the emotional or physical damage her sexual past may bring your m... (read in full...)
Why won't she tell me her real number of sexual partners if she loves me?
Q. I am involved in my first relationship since divorcing my wife of 20 years. I have been in it for 9 months, and it has been wonderful. However, there was an instance a month into our relationship where I caught her in a bit of a lie and it made me ...
A. 4 June 2010: No. It is not asking too much. What they're saying is all sarcasm and presumption. If you want to know, know. Two people should be able to look each other in the eyes and tell the truth. ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 4 June 2010: Star888
appreciated. peace. (!)... (read in full...)
I'm referred to as the "place holder" until the ex wants my bf back! What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. My best friend is my ex, and his best friend is his ex. Things between me and my ex are completely over, and there is nothing but friendship there. I thought the same thing for my boyfriend and his ...
A. 4 June 2010: Use every trick you can think of to get him to admit to you that you are a place holder. If he doesn't get real with you, leave him, but before you go, tell him you don't want to be a placeholder. Personally, I find that to be more than offensive. ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 4 June 2010: Microphone check. Just testing to see if anyone has anything else to add. I appreciated your responses so much - If not, thank you. ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 2 June 2010: I realized after reading my last post that it would help people to understand what I mean by "trashy," which seems more and more to me what this is all about in some Fed up way.
Trashy = being with men (and women) whose sole interest in you is to h... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 2 June 2010: I'm still completely bogged down with work responsibilities, but really want to get back to this, if even in a short way. This evening, I am free to actually respond in full, and I am looking forward to it. These are going to be quick responses - ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 1 June 2010: I've got work day from hell right now, but I'm really honored that people are responding - it makes me feel quite honored to have your ears, even if just for a moment. I will respond back to each of you asap. Thank you so much, all of you.... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 1 June 2010: YouWish,
I don't believe in unconditional love. All love has conditions. I see through your response that you envision me as a self loving puritan. I don't. I can answer yes to all of your questions and still feel relatively fine while admittin... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 1 June 2010: Starmonster888, "Your respect and affection for her and her integrity is contributing to your dilemma because you can't understand why she abused it" Do you think I should *want* to understand it? That's some insightful sh**. Outside p... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 1 June 2010: Starmonster888,
I real appreciate the initial response *and the boiled down version a lot. When you say substance, do you mean emotional or sexual, or both? What's your take? Can you have both at the same time? Is monkey face kinky sex possible... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 31 May 2010: Gabrielle,
Thanks so much. I know she doesn't want to repeat it; I trust that. For a smart man, that might be enough, but I am irrationally compelled to understand it, like (absorb?) it in a mental capacity, and answers like yours (and hers, of c... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 31 May 2010: I would still love to hear other responses too!... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 31 May 2010: Thank you anonymous. I think I've just spent so much time feeling like a failure when it comes to this that I have sort of adopted the role. In a world where nearly everyone just resorts to some tired cliche (let sleeping dogs lie, the past is the ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 30 May 2010: Dear Truth,
I suspect that you'll be surprised to find that my wife did not cheat on me; she had this experience about 1 year before we were together. I'm a pretty insecure guy, at least in the psycho-sexual way, and I have had a tough time for... (read in full...)
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