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writes:I've been dating this girl for almost a month, not a long time. The other night we had a serious talk, namely that she hasn't really date many people, and they they have all turned into long term relationships, and second that she is worried she will get a job in another place and have to move. I assurred her that we could cross that bridge when we came to it, and thatI would do what I could to make it work if thats what she wanted. Now she has a job in my town, and she let me know. We have continued dating. She went to see her family this week, and magically stopped returning my calls. finally she texted me saying she would try to call me to catch up tomorrow, that she has been really busy with family matters(has HUGE family issues). She did call me and said she was home. She also had some other stuff to do that night, and might be going back home to take her nephew to camp. She said that she was going to try to text or call me later, she didn't say when but I got the feeling that she meant later that night. I didn't hear from her, and I know she's really busy, and we haven't been seeing eachother long. But..... Is she losing interest or still interested, but really busy? She said she does want to see me again, and that we can see eachother either when she has time this weekend or next week, I'm just not sure whether I'm getting my chain pulled or not.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2010): You are wasting your time with this girl. She does not seem interested in the relationship. Do you really want to be with someone who already has huge family issues-- this could effect your future relationship big time! You need to assess what values you are looking for in a partner, and stop wasting your time with someone who doesn't have those qualities and doesn't care.
The beginning of a relationship should be soo exciting, where you can't wait to find out more about the other person and want to spend time together. Everyone may say that they are busy, but that doesn't mean that they cannot take 5 minutes out of their day to make or return a phone call. She just has excuses and is trying to keep you around for some reason. Don't let this girl take advantage of you.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (10 June 2010):
 If she does indeed have huge family issues, perhaps you're jumping the gun a bit too soon? I'd recommend taking her at her word until such time she gives you concrete reason not to. That's only fair, don't you think? You may not be in full possession of all the facts, yet. I see nothing in what you've said here that convinces me you should pull the plug. Let it play out for a respectable amount of time. It may prove to be a worthwhile investment on your part.
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reader, Kama  +, writes (10 June 2010):
 Only she can answer your question. She can't do so if you don't ask.
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