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writes:Hello all, I'm in a bit of a pickle. I have a problem with getting unnecessarily jealous of girls around my boyfriend. The girls I worry about most ARE ones who he has had feelings for in the past, or ones who have actively made efforts to break him and I up. I know he won't cheat or anything, but I still get territorial. It isn't because I don't trust him, it's because I don't think I'm good enough for him and I worry that he's going to realize it and leave me for one of these other girls... what should I do?
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reader, Laura555 +, writes (6 July 2012):
I think u should not feel your not good enought if his with you is because he thinks u have good qualities. Is normal to feel jealous specially around girls that he dated before, if u get territorial don't see nothing wrong with that because u have a reason. I think u should be a little more confident on your self
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reader, jinxx  +, writes (5 July 2012):
 First of all, stop putting yourself down like that! What makes you think you're not good enough for him?
Your insecurity will drive him away unless you deal with it. That is a reality. We all have insecure moments, some more than others, and it's up to you to decide whether or not you want to see the good in yourself.
Why he is still hanging around people who have actively tried to break you two up, I don't know. I wouldn't be comfortable with that myself, and it wouldn't be because I was jealous.
Girls he's had feelings for in the past are exactly that. We have all had feelings for other people before, just as I'm sure you have, and it doesn't change a thing! It's you he's with now, not them. He made that choice, and if he's still there, that means he's happy with his choice.
What you should do is discuss with him how you're feeling. Let him know you're having some issues with jealousy, and hopefully you guys can talk your way through it.
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