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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for four months now. After dating for one month, we planned a weekend trip. However it didn't work out because my mom was furious when she found out we were going on a trip alone. For that reason she still hates him to this day even though he's good to me. Although she doesn't know as I don't share anything about our relationship to her. She keeps asking me when I'm going to dump him, and calls me stupid all the time. He's three years older than me so she thinks he should've known better than to go on a trip AKA share the same hotel with a guy I'd "just met." I suppose she's right but that's not important. My question is, how do I make her turn around? Maybe we made a mistake but he's always been a good, caring boyfriend to me. How can I get her to accept our relationship? Please don't say "move out" as it doesn't answer my question. Also I can't financially. How do I get her to let us go out? We do but she yells at me all the time for it. She hates him! And she's restricting my freedom because of it. She doesn't want me to go on dates with him and gets mad when I refuse to show her photos for proof that we weren't alone. Sometimes we are and sometimes we're not. Either way I feel it's none of her business. She thinks he only wanted to get me in bed. We talked about it and we weren't going to do anything and we still haven't. He's absolutely respectful and we're still taking things slowly. Reply to this Question
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reader, braden  +, writes (18 June 2012):
Bring him around and let her see that he is a nice guy. Get him to talk to her so she can see how you mean to him. She loves you and only wants the best for you and thinks he is a one of those gusy that just wants to bed you but not all guys are bad guys
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reader, jinxx +, writes (18 June 2012):
 You're legally an adult, and are fully capable of making your own decisions. If your boyfriend treats you well, and you're happy, then you're in a good spot. It seems fair for me to assume he's not the problem here, so I'll go ahead and do that.
There could be a number of reasons your mom has reacted so negatively to your relationship. Is she over-protective? Possibly jealous?
I think you should start talking to her about your relationship. Tell her how happy you are and how well he treats you. Tell her you understand that she worries, but that he is a great guy who is very respectful of you. Tell her it's important to you that she gets to know him, and give him the fair chance he deserves.
I may be wrong, but I really think talking to her and being more open about your relationship with her would help. Good luck and I hope things work out for you!
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