He doesn't feel the same, he still has a thing for his ex
Q. I have been dating this guy for 5 months and he warned me from day one that he didn't want to hurt me. I told him I wouldn't let him but I don't know anymore. He told me that he and his girlfriend broke up two months before and that he was still in ...
A. 23 March 2009: Sometimes, you're so close to a situation you can't see what's going on, that's what we're here for!
It's not that he still has feelings for his ex only, it's that he's still hurt over splitting from her.
If I'm right, he'll heal in time and ever... (read in full...)
Ranting about my life
Q. Just stressed out. Need no advice just a matter of waiting. I am one of they unemployed Rhode Islanders awaiting my unemployment benefits. Going back to school in the meantime..to finish. I am at my width end. I feel like since I got divorced...
A. 23 March 2009: Yep. Divorce will do that to you.
And even if the seeds of what's happening to you did not begin with your divorce, the divorce will make you think they did!
Divorce is A BLOW.
I know.
And, once it's through with knocking you silly, it can le... (read in full...)
Am I being silly to want my best friend?
Q. i've recently met up with one of my best friends after not seeing him for 5 years, i had such an amazing time with him and it felt really natural to spend time with him and his family. he lived on the otherside of the country and has gone bac...
A. 23 March 2009: Eh, NO! That is; don't mention HOW much you like him because you may need to back out and save face at some time in the future.
Instead, tell him that you have feelings for him but don't let him quiz you up about how much until he has reci... (read in full...)
My friend lied about her age!
Q. My friend is 14 she acts grown up. She told an 18 year old she was 17. Now the guy is calling her. She is afraid to tell him her real age. She said her mom knows but... What can I do to help her? Why does she act grown up?...
A. 23 March 2009: Sometimes people lie to get an advantage.
Other times to cover up for a lack of something.
Girls mature quicker than boys anyhows so she might be making a compensation.
But, she is still a minor so she needs to be completely away from any opportun... (read in full...)
A friend confessed that he has feelings for me, and I'm not sure what to do.
Q. My friend told me that he liked me more than just a friend and I didn't quite know what to say. I do like him back but i dont know if i want to take it anywhere becasue im scared. Ive never kissed a guy and hes going to want to do that but i know ...
A. 23 March 2009: Simple. Agree to go out with him and tell him the purpose of it is to see how you get along.
But tell him it's too soon for him to be making the moves on you so take a chill pill.
That way, you'll come across as cool, sophisticated and elegant ... (read in full...)
Could someone help me interpret a recurring dream?
Q. I'm really curious about a recurring dream that I have and I was wondering if there is anyone on this site who knows how to analyze dreams? It involves me and a friend from college (whom I'll call Fulano) This is a strange dream, I know. I k...
A. 23 March 2009: Well, you're iconifying the racial barrier through mythology.
He has intimated to you that the way to get with him is through an immediate sexual encounter.
But, you're way too smart a mermaid for that, so back to the sea of the multitudes for you!... (read in full...)
How long after you had unprotected sex do you know if your pregnant?
Q. How long after you had unprotected sex do you know if pregnant.If I got my period this month? I really don't want to be pregnant:/ because hopefully I'm going to graduate from high school this year:)...
A. 23 March 2009: Ew? Em, I think I'm right in saying that you (some) can have the period immediately after conception, I think also depending on how close to the act it was also.
But, some tests will work from either 2 or 3 days, others 2 weeks so, read the pack... (read in full...)
Parenting advice wanted!
Q. Hi everyone. i was wondering if anyone has parenting advice? i am 22 weeks pregnant and terrified. any advice about birth, raising a baby, names for the baby, or the portion of the pregnancy comming up would be greatly appreciated....
A. 23 March 2009: Mmm. I wondered about diet with my wife's five births.
I mean, I was super keen to make sure she had plenty of absolutely everything the baby and her needed.
But at the same time, she stopped short of going gorging mad for the simple reason t... (read in full...)
I lied about my debt problems so I wouldn't lose her! She left me...help!
Q. I have been with my fiance' for three years. She moved here from another state to be with me. Being recently divorced, I am broke. I did not want to lose her so I continued to spend money and shower her with "things". I charged more. Became more ...
A. 23 March 2009: Eh, dude! Did she leave you because you lied, or because the wonga dried up?
Be very clear in your mind about that!
I'm gonna say something a little cruel and I hope you'll forgive me.
I can't afford ANY woman (of course, I don't mean all...)
Per... (read in full...)
Do you think that taking a step back is a good thing?
Q. I just want to start out by letting you know my background. I am an American Army contractor working and living away from home here in Kuwait. I did 6 years in the U.S. Navy. I was in a technical job in the Navy and thats how I got the Job with...
A. 23 March 2009: Mmm. Interesting that she told you she was IN love with you, you merely told her you loved her too (not IN love with...) and then immediatedly everything went cool.
Just a thought....
In actual fact though, I think it would be more likely to marry... (read in full...)
He sneaks downstairs to watch porn when he thinks I'm asleep!
Q. I am having several problems with my fiance. Distance lying and now porn. When we first got together we would watch it every now and then as a couple and we have done that for almost 4 years. Well in the last 2 weeks since I have discovered all the ...
A. 23 March 2009: Well, unfortunately, by your own admission this problem is linked to the other problems which you describe as "distance lying."
The only thing I can suppose from that is that your fiancé is lying about his proximity to you, or where he's at.
It so... (read in full...)
Unusual bleeding...
Q. Wow, I'm pretty glad I found this site. This is really embarrassing, sorry but I'm not sure what to do. I've been sexually active with my boyfriend for about a month now; we always use condoms and I am also on the pill. But for the past few days my ...
A. 23 March 2009: Could be an acid/alkaline imbalance in your diet.
It's as common as chips sweetie.
Basically, you're supposed to eat only 10% acid foods but the average westerner eats 50% acid/50% alkaline.
Too much acid causes IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome) an... (read in full...)
How do you start up a long distance relationship?
Q. I met this girl on a cruise just this spring break. We hit it off really well, I had asked her at dinner if they were going to the club and they said they were. Right before they had shown up I asked for some salsa music so I could dance with my ...
A. 23 March 2009: Well, at risk of sounding rather predatory, I will say a few things.
Long distance relationships are expensive per se.
So, plenty of the cheap stuff (sms, e-mails, internet, letters), less of the medium stuff (phone calls) and fewer still of the e... (read in full...)
Tips on how to end my relationship?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now. It's the usual story, relationship started off wonderful and then gradually it's began to become unbearable. I have had a long think about what to do and have decided it's time to end it. My ...
A. 23 March 2009: Well, the art of hinting is alot better than too great a smack in the face.
Start by reducing your exposure to him by that other most famous of arts; avoidance.
Then let him down gently by giving him an opinion that "things are not working out" and... (read in full...)
Why did she jump and tell me to stop?
Q. Hey guys, Well I'm not that experienced in this so I came to this site to see if I could get some help. I have just started going down on my girlfriend and as I was doing it at one point she kind of got jumpy and told me to stop. She described it ...
A. 23 March 2009: Sounds like you "rummaged" upon this young lady's clitoris.
The underside of the tip of the clitoris to be exact.
They're the same as us mate!
It's a hyper-erogenous zone!... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was beaten and raped 8 months ago. Now can can't bear me to come near her...
Q. I have been dating my curent girlfriend for just over 2 years. 8 months ago she was beaten and raped. I have stood by her and tried to help any way I could. I love this girl and can honestly see her as the one. But after 8 months she still isn't ...
A. 23 March 2009: It's important to reassure her that you have no time limit as to when you expect her to "recover."
The opposite of force is "no force."
Consider, in six months time it will be the same amount of time since the incident than it was since you met ... (read in full...)
I want to call him just to say hello, and see if that connection is still there between us.
Q. I have a boyfriend who is relatively new. We get along great, and I have a lot of fun with him. Also our relationship has a lot of passion in it. But I have realized that passion is only temporary, and I'm starting to think What's going to ...
A. 23 March 2009: If you can have this amounts of variety for these two men, then there could also be a third; or more...
The teachers wrong because of various factors and the other guy you're not so keen on.
If I can give you some advice;
I'm not doubting tha... (read in full...)
Can using a vibrator ruin your vagina?
Q. would using a vibrator ruin my vagina? would it give me BV or would the vibrating make it look different than a regular vigina?...
A. 23 March 2009: When I was young, this guy with seven children told me that after 7 kids, his member flopped around like a loose cannon ball.
I was horrified.
After having five children of my own I was still very much enjoying the blisses of married life, though a... (read in full...)
He came on so strong in the beginning but then backed off??
Q. My ex and i broke up sort of mutually and then i wanted to work it out and he didn't think it was possible...for several weeks i tried (asked him out to dinner and he always accepted and we would talk but it always ended up the same with him not ...
A. 23 March 2009: Clearly, you are too nice for this fella.
You sound like a "full-on" kinda girl, but he sounds a little too emotionally cool for you.
Get yourself a passionate boyfriend and enjoy the sizzle!... (read in full...)
I found my boyfriend and his ex in bed together today!!!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 months (that I was really starting to fall for) cheated on me with his ex girlfriend. They are friends and have been since they broke up. I found them in bed together today. He said they went out and got really drunk, so drunk ...
A. 23 March 2009: Nothing's wrote in concrete about whether this could work out or not.
His story is feasable, alchohol is a terrible deinhibitor and we do terrible things when under it's influence.
The quickness with which he cheated on you is barely compensa... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to leave or should I stay for our youngest daughter, who also tells me to leave him.
Q. Hi I've been married for over 21 years to the same man we have 2 children one is 21 the other is 12. I've found several signs of my husband cheating on me and I'm ready to leave but I just don't know if it's the right thing to do. I guess because ...
A. 23 March 2009: I'm sure your daughter has your interests at heart, but at 12 she is no way mature enough to be impartial in her advice, but then that doesn't make her wrong either...
If your husband thinks that you pulling him up on unfaithfulness is getting up o... (read in full...)
I don't believe in god, how can I tell my parents?
Q. I've known that I don't believe in god for about 5 years now. At first I felt terrible about it, but then I found out that a few of my friends don't either and we talked and now I'm okay with it. The problem is I don't know how to tell my parents. ...
A. 23 March 2009: Begin by discussing freedom of choice.
Then, if you are getting an audience; move on to asking them how they would feel if you didn't believe.
Ultimately, it is your choice and no person should ever attempt to force you to believe anything against ... (read in full...)
My period only lasts 3 days and I never get cramp, is this normal?
Q. Hi, this isn't a relationship question, it's actually about my periods. I'm a 23 year old woman, have slept with three guys in the past, including the guy I am currently dating (we've been together for two years and seven months now). I've never ...
A. 23 March 2009: They certainly could be normal.
But, it might be worth examining whether you are getting sufficient iron in your diet.
Iron makes blood.
No wonder then that the majority of the top ten producing food stuffs have a proportion of blood in them.
On... (read in full...)
I'm straight but want to experiment with gay sex! How do I go about this?
Q. I am a straight, 20 year old, virgin male. I'm insanely horny but have been unsuccessful by all means. I have always been turned on by gay porn, but always was attracted just to the sexuality of it, not the fact that it was men, and I never had any ...
A. 23 March 2009: Exactly the same as you would with a straight relationship.
Get to know somebody.
Take it one step at a time.... (read in full...)
Met online, had great time but now he says it won't work?
Q. hi met this gut on line dating been out over past 5 weeks chemistry is there he said hed fallen in love with me from the moment he saw me now he says it wont work hes a lovely guy and id like it to work what advice can you give i miss him...
A. 23 March 2009: He's hiding a secret.
Confront him and caress out of him the truth.
... (read in full...)
He gave me permission to have sex with other guys! Does he love me?
Q. I'm in a long disatnce relationship and my boyfriend gave me permission to have sex with other guys. Is this a bad thing or does he love me? I love him very much...
A. 23 March 2009: Sounds alot like he's trying to give himself permission to do the same.
Sure he might love you, but would you do that to somebody you was "in love" with?
Well, you might. But it would probably involve a threesome or wife swapping etc.
If you lo... (read in full...)
My kids deserves a better dad who is there to support and confide in them who is not part time.
Q. I'm in the post pardum stage but not sure if my feelings have to do with any of the decisions I've made. My kids dad and I have been in and out of relationship. We are cool and one point and here we go... big blown argument. Past issues come up, ...
A. 23 March 2009: Firstly, as you yourself suspect; you can't make life altering decisions until your mind, body and soul has had a chance to recover from your recent birth. If I may be frank though, having a baby by somebody you can't even tell you love is using yo... (read in full...)
I still can't get my ex out of my head!
Q. Me and my ex boyfriend split up 3 years ago and I still cannot get over him. I've been with other men, but in the back of my mind it's always him. We still talk, and lately he's told me he still has feelings for me, but then after telling me he ig...
A. 23 March 2009: You are obviously a passionate person and I know how that can hurt. Imagine passion as a little camp fire out some place in a forest. Then imagine also a little cloud; lets call it emotional cool sitting above the fire, raining gently down and ... (read in full...)
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