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I'm straight but want to experiment with gay sex! How do I go about this?

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Question - (23 March 2009) 9 Answers - (Newest, 2 May 2009)
A male United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I am a straight, 20 year old, virgin male. I'm insanely horny but have been unsuccessful by all means. I have always been turned on by gay porn, but always was attracted just to the sexuality of it, not the fact that it was men, and I never had any intention of acting on it. Now I've been thinking about it, and want to act on it very much. I have no problem with people who are gay, but until I've experimented I want to keep it private. How can I(and should I) go about experimenting quietly?

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A male reader, zxc India +, writes (2 May 2009):

please contact me bcoz im also going through same problem please fast please tell me the place where u are living

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A male reader, zxc India +, writes (2 May 2009):

please contact me bcoz im also going through same problem please fast please tell me the place where u are living

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A male reader, zxc India +, writes (2 May 2009):

please contact me bcoz im also going through same problem please fast please tell me the place where u are living

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2009):

I would say to do it quitely because your not sure if you'd actually like it. And If you dont like it, it may hinder a future relationship with a girl, or they may not care because there bi curous too. I would keep it on the down low, if I were going to go through with it atleast until I was sure about where I stood in my sexual orintation. If its just a one time deal

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2009):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Just to clarify, I've never been emotionally attracted to a man, I'm just attracted to one part of the anatomy

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A male reader, moose061970 United States +, writes (23 March 2009):

I have done both. I would read up on Safer sex and STD prevention with males. Make sure the man you go with is 100% safe. With the 2 men we did a lot of MASTERBATING each other, a little oral sex but not cuming in the mouth and never did any of us in the ass. I found this off a web site and really says more that I can ....The best way to protect your body (remember HIV and Syphilis are still alive and well) is to know the status of your sexual partner. Some men lie about their HIV status. Warning signs are refusal to answer the question, ambiguity about the date of their last STD tests, ambiguity about the number of partners they've been with, and willingness to have sex without a condom among others. Protect yourself by assuming your partner is positive until proven otherwise..... Both men I was with were BI males. We started with my wife and move out from there. I have been married for 28 years. I still love sex with my wife almost more than with the men. Something about a man MASTERBATING you, it is just different. He knows what feels good to him and goes from there. There is nothing in the world better than a very wet vagina when you put your hard penis in and start to have sex. When it time for you to cum, she feels you penis get bigger and she can do things with her vagina that will effect your oragsam in ways no mouth or ass could ever do. TRUST ME I am a 57 year old BIMALE and you are a straight, 20 year old, virgin male.

If you feel like it write back and let me know if I help or hurt your wishes.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009):

I would say it sounds exactly likey me, like a reflection through word. I'm 20 a guy who is a virgin and I also watch gay porn. I think if you were going to do it with a guy you could go to a gay club and pick up a guy. If you know gay guys you could ask one of them thats open to having sex to lend you a hand. Or you could get a dildo and see if you like the feeling, put a condom on it and loub gel and try it out. Then you could see if you like it without doing it, and you may have to massage first before trying it out down there. I really personually would like to be with a guy but my future obligations hold me back. I put my future job and disires in front of doing that, but thats me not you. I noticed that you said in the beginning that you are "straight" , are you straight then, do you want to be with a girl or are you bisexual. Theres a lot of woman that like a guy who like dildos for future reference.

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A male reader, Jason means Healer United Kingdom +, writes (23 March 2009):

Exactly the same as you would with a straight relationship.

Get to know somebody.

Take it one step at a time.

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A female reader, TasteofIndia United States +, writes (23 March 2009):

TasteofIndia agony auntIn all my years giving advice on this site, I don't think I've ever recommended anonymous sex. It can be dangerous (you don't know where strangers have been!! Disease central!), and you never know when you'll get mixed up with shady folks. However, it's not like this scene doesn't exist and there aren't ways to experiment totally discreetly.

Try craiglist.org, Casual Encounters. You can definitely find anonymous guys who might be interested in one time (or more) hook ups, discreetly. Or, you might be able to find someone who you can just hang out with until you feel comfortable.

I urge you to really try to get the information you need out of these guys, make sure that they want to "play safe" - a.k.a. use a condom, RESPECT YOUR BOUNDARIES (even if tat means no sex), and be sure that they're going to keep things quiet.

Make sure that this is what you really want. You're a virgin after all, maybe you want to save it for someone special? And not just some guy off the internet? Really think about this before you go for it!

Good luck!

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