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I came to this site in desperate need of relationship advice and found myself wanting to help others whenever i can.
People may think im young, but im mature. Family issues have taught me to be dependant on myself and mature quicker then other people around me.
I have learnt from past experiences with men and made many mistakes im only just learning about now. I have lived with low self esteem and no self confidence due to the way i was raised and how my parents treated us but i have now learned to depend on myself and be confident and love the person i am. |
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I've just found out she had a threesome and this is eating away at me!
Q. I really need some help here. Me and my girlfriend broke up a couple months ago. I had sex with one girl, shortly after the relationship ended and again two weeks later. She found out about both as i admided to it. She then procieded to have sex ...
A. 17 July 2009: pfft you had sex with another girl when you apparently love her. you told her you had sex with someone else, so OBVIOUSLY she takes this as "i moved on". i agree 100% with satin desire.
who cares if it was a 3some, maybe that was a fantasy ... (read in full...)
My ex has a new GF but we still have sex. Should I keep trying?
Q. My ex and i broke up 4 months ago. Even though we broke up, the sex hasn't stopped. He has moved on and it kills me. Because we still talk and have sex I'm still attached. I still love him and want to be with him. He tells me he still cares but he ...
A. 17 July 2009: think about this - if he is cheating with you what would stop him from cheating on you? once a cheater always!... (read in full...)
I am insecure and paranoid that she would leave me for someone better
Q. hi, recently my girlfriend and i have been talkin and i learned she was still physically attracted 2 him..as he is her usuall type...tall head full of hair 6 pack etc....while i am short around 5 6 and built but stocky ...i am kind of feeling a ...
A. 17 July 2009: i personally do not have a 'type'. i love my boyfriend completely and i think he is extremely good looking, but yes i still think people from my past are good looking. Think about it, when he was her boyfriend, she would have obviously been ... (read in full...)
Is my husband cheating?
Q. Hello all.I would like to get feedback from both men and women on this one. I am in a marriage crisis right now and at this point, I am leaning towards a seperation. My husband of 10 years looks at porn all the time. One day he left a porn clip on ...
A. 17 July 2009: i would definitely be suspicious about the phone thing, if you say you are ok with him looking at porn then he shouldn't have panicked so much, unless he was looking at some weird kind of kinky porn he doesn't want you to know about.
And as for t... (read in full...)
Am I too old to express an interest in her sexually?
Q. I just want to get some peoples thoughts on this one. At what "age" does it become "unacceptable" for a man (Aged 46) to have lewd thoughts about a young woman (i.e 18). Thanks ...
A. 11 July 2009: what the others have said, you would be too old to actually act on them but thoughts are ok... (read in full...)
Summer time FUN!
Q. This is just an observation, as I am not currently in a relationship of any sorts and haven't been for a long long while, can all the young women from ages 18 to 65, please stop dressing so provocatively. It's bad enough my hormones are in ...
A. 11 July 2009: haha i love the age gap, 18 - 65 not a picky man!... (read in full...)
Will guys find this thing disgusting?
Q. i've had this thing around my rectal opening for quiet a time , protruded hemorrhoids , it is in an early stage from the pictures i saw online ,i'm really embaressed by it and can't go to a doc , is it normal or common , do guys find it disgusting ...
A. 10 July 2009: insensitive? its plain stupid when someone knows they need to see a doctor and wont... (read in full...)
Will guys find this thing disgusting?
Q. i've had this thing around my rectal opening for quiet a time , protruded hemorrhoids , it is in an early stage from the pictures i saw online ,i'm really embaressed by it and can't go to a doc , is it normal or common , do guys find it disgusting ...
A. 10 July 2009: go see a doctor or dont complain... (read in full...)
Why is he so mean to me when we've broken up?
Q. Hi, me and my boyfriend broke up a few weeks ago, I'm feeling really down and depressed, because we ended up in ugly terms, he was so mean and rude to me, telling me things like these: - I don't wanna talk to you, whats the part you dont get? -...
A. 10 July 2009: This must be hard but you have to let him go. Dont contact him again, best to delete his number and move on. Its obvious he doesnt love you anymore or he wouldnt be saying he hates you. He doesnt want to be with you, so you need to let him go. ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure and I wish he wouldn't talk to her anymore.
Q. Hi i've been in a relationship for over 3 yrs with a guy i really really love. He loves me as well. We live in different cities and cant meet on a daily basis but talk for over 3 hrs a day..... I do not have any past-he's the first guy in my life....
A. 9 July 2009: you have been with him for 3 years, and he was with her for 8 months. obviously there was a reason they are not together and why he has stayed with you for so long. if it bothers you so much tell him how much it would mean to you if he would not ... (read in full...)
How can I help my best friend?
Q. Ok my Best friend in the whole wide world i knew her since 2nd grade she is 2 months odlder than me and he is into drugs and sex she has pretty big boobs(double d) and that is why alot of the guys she dates (wich most of them are 17-20)like her and ...
A. 9 July 2009: in my experience, telling someone they are doing the wrong thing and they have to stop doesn't work at all, as long as they want to keep doing it they will.... (read in full...)
My friends make fun of me and call me fat...but I'M NOT FAT!
Q. ok so. Pretty much all of my friends are non stop making fun of me for being fat. BUT IM NOT FAT! When im not there they talk about how fat i am and draw pictures of how fat i am. dont say theyre jealous cus theyre all skinnier than me. but im still ...
A. 9 July 2009: your not even close to being a little bit fat. ditch these girls they are not friends!... (read in full...)
I'm dating a younger girl and want to do the right thing for a respectful relationship...
Q. Please tell me what to do. I have been chatting with a girl who is lovely, mature and beautiful. she is 15 years younger and im not worried about that. we connect meaningfully over several (shes not in the same town) lengthy (3h+ phone calls) con...
A. 9 July 2009: if she is being disrespectful and only talking to you when it suits you then you need to step up and not be a pushover or she will think she can do whatever she wants and loose interest. be upfront with her, dont play games. just say what you want ... (read in full...)
I'm just scared to death he's going to rip me apart again like he did just seven months ago!
Q. Hi, my ex and I broke up seven months ago for the second and final time after a two-year relationship. We broke up because he was a douche who emotionally abused me and I just couldn't take it anymore. But at the same time, we had some really nice ...
A. 9 July 2009: My boyfriend used to emotionally abuse me all the time, we broke up and he was begging for me back saying he would change and do anything for me and honestly he is slipping back to his old ways and im about to break it off for good now. its so hard ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, want to marry, but he's unsure!
Q. ok so 3 days ago i found out im pregnant with my ex boyfriends baby and we dont really know what to do! i think we should get married and so do many of my family members. my gramma says she will drive and pay for the whole thing but we are scared ...
A. 9 July 2009: This sounds like the same situation my boyfriend was in with his ex. He broke up with her when she was pregnant because they were not getting along anymore and she persisted to call and beg for him back to give it another shot even when he didn't ... (read in full...)
Should I stay? Or get rid of the hoe?
Q. Ok here is the story I have been dating this girl for two yrs and she hasn't ever spent any real time wit me. if im lucky I get to see her lik 5 hrs every 2 weeks and she says she is busy but she will cancel or plans to make time for her friends and ...
A. 29 June 2009: it seems like you both have no respect for each other. You referred to her as a hoe, so there is your answer break up. If my bf called me that i would dump his ass... (read in full...)
She's trying to win my trust again, but this feeling is eating me alive from the inside!
Q. I have to start by saying that i can't believe i'm doing this. But i can't sleep, so i need advices... I've been with this girl for almost a year now. And we love each other so much and want to have a future together. But as with any relation...
A. 29 June 2009: are you giving the full story here? Seems to me like your dulling down your behaviour. And i say this because my bf is the same. We had a fight a few months ago and didnt talk for a week, i went out with my friends but i did not cheat on him. I had ... (read in full...)
Scared to death..to tell my Mom, I am pregnant!
Q. I turn 16 last month and five months ago, I was raped by a masked man. I was a virgin before it happened and then three months ago, I found out I'm pregnant. Nobody knows anything except for my best friend (he's a guy) and he tells me that if I ...
A. 29 June 2009: i resent the fact that people are asking you why you didnt go to the police. When i was 15 and a virgin i was raped and didnt tell anyone. I was so scared and didnt want people thinking badly. I regret that decision to this day almost five years ... (read in full...)
He drools over other girls every time we go out!
Q. I am so angry with my boyfriend. He takes me out then drools over another lady looking straight past my face into hers. He has been making remarks at other ladies in front of me and I tried to brush it off, but this time it was too much. He says I ...
A. 29 June 2009: my bf was similar, he still is but i have asked him not to make those comments anymore. I know he talks like that around his friends and it drives me crazy, but i guess its guy talk, thats how they are. But if he isnt respecting what you want then ... (read in full...)
Help! Struggling with abusive partner and it's making me ill.
Q. Hi I really need some advice about my partner. We've been together for about 5 years during which time he was going through a divorce from his estranged wife. Over the years I noticed more and more that he can be verbally abusive. He said that ...
A. 15 April 2009: my boyfriend was the same. After two years of counselling and me trying my hardest to make it work we broke up. Only now does he want to change, only now does he realise he treated me like crap and wants to be better.... (read in full...)
How can I lessen my period pains each month?
Q. Does anyone know a good remedy for period pains as I get it really bad. I'm no good with pills and that's all the doctor precribed but she didn't listen to the fact that I CANNOT swallow pills. It's just I'm on really heavy and for ages as well and...
A. 15 April 2009: birth control pills are really small. Once you start taking them for a while you can hardly notice. And come on, dont you ever take a panadol? Im sure in your life your going to have to swallow a pill sometime... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for staying with her?
Q. Anyone please help me I think she's cheating still and lying. First I'm 24 years old and my girlfriend (and hope to be wife) is 19. We have been dating for 6 months. I know seems kind of short but I know without any doubt that I love her with al...
A. 15 April 2009: She's too young for you.. you need someone mature who shares the same values and wants the same things as you. Good luck... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I flirt too much!
Q. hi, my bf thinks i flirt to much but i dont think i do, he thinks laughing with some other guy is flirtying, flirting is oart of my personaily, i am trying hard to work not flirt, so can you help me please, what should i do...
A. 15 April 2009: ok my bf is the same and were actually breaking up over it. He wont let me go out because he is too insecure and thinks im going to find someone else when really i just want to go dance with the girls. On new years eve he was playing guitar h... (read in full...)
Is this normal? Am I just too selfish?
Q. My ex and I broke up a little over four months ago after a two-year relationship. The reasons we broke up are because he not only cheated on me but he physically and emotionally abused me on a near daily basis. Obviously wasn't having it anymore. ...
A. 15 April 2009: can i just say thankyou so much! I havent spoken to my boyfriend for a week and were breaking up i know i have to do it because he also is emotionally and on the verge of physically abusive at me all the time. The past week i have been going out w... (read in full...)
Why didn't you give in to temptation?
Q. Has anyone ever been tempted to cheat? If so- how didn't you give into the temptation?...
A. 14 April 2009: my relationship is practically over were fighting all the time and i have known for a while now things arent going to work out, its just a matter of having that talk. Even given the circumstances, when faced with the opportunity of cheating i would ... (read in full...)
Does getting raped affect your muscles "down there"...
Q. I asked this same sort of question and didn't get the response I was looking for. Well long story short when I was about 15 I was raped and after that I noticed that I was pretty loose "down there" Does getting raped affect your muscles "down there" ...
A. 14 April 2009: im going to tell you something else, but don't get freaked out. Rape at a young age can cause abrasions on your cervix, because it is not properly formed and due to the rough and violent nature of the rape. These can cause major problems (cervical ... (read in full...)
My bf is 7 yrs older than me and I know it's illegal for us to date. Is he worth it?? Please read xxx
Q. i am currently going out with a 21 year old and im only 13 (he was 20 when we started seeing eachother) the thing is he hasnt pressured me into anything and ive never felt this way before. i know about his past and everything ive spoken 2 his cous...
A. 13 April 2009: you came to this site to ask for advice but your not willing to take it. Everyone is telling you the best things you can do for your situation but you lack the maturity to act upon them? Dont meet up with him, the sooner you stop talking to him the ... (read in full...)
Has anyone tried Lybrel? Experiences?
Q. Hello, I'm on a birth control (Lybrel) with the only purpose to end my periods. That is the function of Lybrel. However, I've been taking the pill for almost four months now and I've been bleeding/staining EVERYDAY eversince. I want to know if anyon...
A. 13 April 2009: definitely see your doctor! You should probably even stop taking it, there is no way you should be bleeding everyday. Everyone reacts different to different pills and you will probably have to switch maybe to a low dose pill that dont cause side ... (read in full...)
My bf is 7 yrs older than me and I know it's illegal for us to date. Is he worth it?? Please read xxx
Q. i am currently going out with a 21 year old and im only 13 (he was 20 when we started seeing eachother) the thing is he hasnt pressured me into anything and ive never felt this way before. i know about his past and everything ive spoken 2 his cous...
A. 13 April 2009: honestly you dont need this drama.. U need to be having sleepovers and doing normal things girls do not dealing with this loser. Im sure your friends are worried... (read in full...)
My bf is 7 yrs older than me and I know it's illegal for us to date. Is he worth it?? Please read xxx
Q. i am currently going out with a 21 year old and im only 13 (he was 20 when we started seeing eachother) the thing is he hasnt pressured me into anything and ive never felt this way before. i know about his past and everything ive spoken 2 his cous...
A. 13 April 2009: i agree and think this is really unhealthy for both of you. Your too young for any of this (you probably dont want to hear it but too young for sex) and if you want to date you should be with a boy your age not a 21 year old man who knows better. I ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and I'm a sex addict
Q. ok im gana get down to the question i love having sex i just do its a part of me but am i over doing it i mean i wana have sex 24/7 im an addict i need a woman's oppinion how do i stop cuz i wana have sex 24/7 with my fiance all the time and im only ...
A. 13 April 2009: just think, you want to spend the rest of your life with her, you dont want to burn out by 18 and be over making love to her. Making love is a special thing and i think lots of people take it for granted. Plus i think its better when u wait maybe a ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to salvage a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship?
Q. is there a way to salvage a relationship once it has gotten to the point where the person your with is continuously disrespecting you? my boyfriend is always calling me a slut, whore even a cunt. He is overly jealous and tries to make me feel guilty ...
A. 13 April 2009: he definitely has issues but theres no excuse for taking them out on me. im just trying to be mature about the situation and i know that sometimes love isnt enough, especially if its one sided. I know he will call in a few days, he is probably wond... (read in full...)
Is there a way to salvage a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship?
Q. is there a way to salvage a relationship once it has gotten to the point where the person your with is continuously disrespecting you? my boyfriend is always calling me a slut, whore even a cunt. He is overly jealous and tries to make me feel guilty ...
A. 13 April 2009: thanks, the more i think about the situation the more i know what i have to do. We broke up a month ago for a week and i was so upset i stupidly went back to him but right now i haven't spoken to him for 3 days and i actually dont care, so i guess ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him, or just stay away from their business?
Q. i like this guy whose girlfriend is most likely cheating on him he asked me advice but ive known the girl for 2 yrs she's never stayed in a relationship for long should i tell him or just stay out of it I really don't want him hurt....
A. 13 April 2009: you say most likely cheating, so if there is no evidence then dont even bring that up. Dont fabricate the truth because you like him. Its not your place to suggest he break up with her, he has to go with his heart.... (read in full...)
Ideas for our one month anniversary please!
Q. hi guys me and my new boyfriend has been together for about a month and i am looking to celebrate a one month anniversary with him, i dont have any clue what to do for him or what to buy for him can u plz help with some advice. thank you...
A. 13 April 2009: i dont think gifts for a one month anniversary are necessary.. Just think that means every month u will buy them? They will lose meaning. Me and my bf only really celebrate year anniversaries. We go out somewhere nice for dinner, something simple. I ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my ex and move on with new lady? What about our son?
Q. I have been together with my girlfriend for about 4 years im 23 and she 22, on and off, throughout the relationship it has not been perfect. A year into the relationship she was pregnant, 6 months after we broke up after constant arguments, she has ...
A. 13 April 2009: you have to realise that its probably not going to change, even though you want it to. The best thing to do for your son is to leave, if you know your always going to be there for him no matter what and fulfil your role as a father it wont matter. I... (read in full...)
I'm not ready to be acting like I'm a mum!
Q. I really need some advice from someone who has been in the same situation.. My bf has a one and a half year old daughter to his ex and we have been together since she was 2 months old. I have been there through everything but I find it so hard to ...
A. 30 March 2009: thankyou.. It feels good to just know that someone out there understands. some of the things you said its the exact way i feel. I try to help him out, i play with her and sometimes dress her make her bottle bath her just to help out, he has said ... (read in full...)
I don't want him to think of me as a child because of our age difference...
Q. I am almost 17, and I met a guy at the place I work. I instantly felt a connection with him, and I think I really like him. He's a freshman in college, so he's probably about 19. We were talking a lot and he seemed to be interested but I couldn't ...
A. 16 January 2009: Women are usually more mature then men anyway. I am 18 and my boyfriend is 23 and there is no problems with the age difference, sometime i even feel like i am more mature then him! And 2 years is nothing anyway.... (read in full...)
He's keeping me a secret from his pregnant ex!
Q. My boy friend found out his ex girlfriend was pregnant about 2 weeks ago, she is now 3 months along. It has been hard, but he wants to be with me and is going to have a baby with his ex. He won't tell her about me, he says he's afraid she will get ...
A. 27 November 2008: i just have to add that my bfs ex rang him one night in feb (they broke up in august) and we had been going out for a month and she was begging for him back!... (read in full...)
Guys say I'm beautiful, but I have a lot of stretch marks, will this make a difference?
Q. Ok guys say I'm beautiful all the time but what they don't no is I have stretch marks EVERYWHERE!I really wanna be intimate but I think my stretch marks will drive guys away.I'm wondering if guys will still b interested after they see my horrible ...
A. 27 November 2008: there are so many things about my body that i dont like. my previous bf i went out with for about 8 months and never let him see my body. when i started going out with my current bf i never showed him my body an then he told me it made him feel bad ... (read in full...)
How can I tell when he's ready to ejaculate?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a while now and I know he wants more than what we have currently done in the past (furthest we have gone is with the hand). I want to give him a bj but for some reason I can't stand the idea of him cumming in my ...
A. 27 November 2008: Just get him to let you know! ... (read in full...)
He's keeping me a secret from his pregnant ex!
Q. My boy friend found out his ex girlfriend was pregnant about 2 weeks ago, she is now 3 months along. It has been hard, but he wants to be with me and is going to have a baby with his ex. He won't tell her about me, he says he's afraid she will get ...
A. 26 November 2008: I have been in the exact same position. When i met my bf he had a 2 month old baby and his crazy ex would never let him see her. when she finally started he wouldnt tell her about me because he was scared she wouldnt let him see his daughter, so ... (read in full...)
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