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I came to this site in desperate need of relationship advice and found myself wanting to help others whenever i can.
People may think im young, but im mature. Family issues have taught me to be dependant on myself and mature quicker then other people around me.
I have learnt from past experiences with men and made many mistakes im only just learning about now. I have lived with low self esteem and no self confidence due to the way i was raised and how my parents treated us but i have now learned to depend on myself and be confident and love the person i am. |
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This is the last thing I want...but I feel jealous of his 3 year old daughter!
Q. I NEED HELP!!!! Seriously!! ok, im 21, and my bf is 23 Ok im gonna try n not make this too long.. But My situaton, me and my fiance are getting married next year, and we currently just got house together and its me, him and his 3 year old daughter...
A. 14 April 2010: i think you are handling this really well and dont feel too bad about the jealousy because its natural you want to have him to yourself. Congrats on the engagement! Hope you have seriously thought it through because you still seem to have doubts. ... (read in full...)
Would you stay with someone who has issues and try to repair things or leave?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, I'm really hoping for some help because my situation is distressing me and I'm lost and need guidance on how to proceed. I was in a long term relationship since 2003 then we split up in Spring 2008 but spoke to each other ...
A. 3 March 2010: Is he seeking professional help? If the answer is no i would say yes you are fighting a loosing battle. I know this because of my boyfriend of 2 years. He has all the problems you listed, anger issues, insecurities, ALOT of these strange issues that ... (read in full...)
It bothers me when my girlfriend masturbates. Can you help me understand why?
Q. Preface: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. We've been sexually active for slightly longer than we've dated. That aside. My problem: It bothers me when she masturbates. But the problem is, I can't pin point why. Its the "hear...
A. 25 February 2010: My bf doesn't want me to do it to myself, but the reason is because he thinks i will be thinking of some other guys or celebrities or something when i do.. which i think is completely ridiculous. i don't need to think about anyone! do you masturb... (read in full...)
I hate my surname! Is there any solution to this?
Q. I know this problem is lighthearted compared to some of the other stuff people are going through, but it's been bugging me for a long time. I can accpet an honest answer but please don't judge me as shallow. I love my family, but I absolutely hat...
A. 17 February 2010: why don't you add in a middle name.. i know people who go by their first and middle names instead of the last.. you could use a latin name there. you don't have to legally change it, just write your original name on formal documents but get people ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to watch a sex video of his friend, is this bad or not?
Q. i m in a long distance and committed relationship.recently i and my bf were chatting through sms and when we were talking,he was telling me that how he knows some guys who cheat their gf by keeping hidden cameras and taking video and selling them.i ...
A. 17 February 2010: it is bad.. its terrible that his friends tape these girls doing such intimate things without there consent, and im sure they could get into a whole lot of trouble for it. you need to decide if you want a bf who thinks thats ok... (read in full...)
This is the last thing I want...but I feel jealous of his 3 year old daughter!
Q. I NEED HELP!!!! Seriously!! ok, im 21, and my bf is 23 Ok im gonna try n not make this too long.. But My situaton, me and my fiance are getting married next year, and we currently just got house together and its me, him and his 3 year old daughter...
A. 17 February 2010: i really feel for you here, im in the same situation, although my boyfriend has part time custody. it is a hard situation, and i haven't found it easier the past 2 years, but the daughters mother is very hard to deal with also, and you are lucky you ... (read in full...)
Mutual friend does not approve
Q. There is a guy that I like and I am pretty sure he likes me back too. We have a mutual friend whom I just told that I like said guy. This friend says that she does not approve of this because he is too complicated. She has known him longer than I ...
A. 8 February 2010: ask her specifically, why don't you think i should be with him? find out the reason she has for not wanting it.
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Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 8 February 2010: Thanks for replying, i honestly dont know.. its been 2 years and i feel kind of like im stuck in a rut. i guess what has made me hope for change is that he is seeing a psychologist, and it makes me hopeful that in the future things will be b... (read in full...)
Mutual friend does not approve
Q. There is a guy that I like and I am pretty sure he likes me back too. We have a mutual friend whom I just told that I like said guy. This friend says that she does not approve of this because he is too complicated. She has known him longer than I ...
A. 8 February 2010: talk to him about it.. seems like she doesnt want anyone to be with him!... (read in full...)
Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 8 February 2010: Yes i guess that pretty much sums it up..
you can understand no why i was trying to defend myself before.
And now im left wondering what i do next?
i sent him a message last night saying i was upset he didnt bother to call back and he wrot... (read in full...)
Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 8 February 2010: no he is 24, not an older man. most definitely more immature then i am. he plays computer games 16 hours a day, thats the level of his maturity.
i honestly think your being judgmental, thinking im only 20, just a kid and because he is a parent t... (read in full...)
Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 7 February 2010: "From the way the guy reacted, I think he's disgusted with the level of your self-absorption and immaturity."
how could he be disgusted with me wanting to go to dinner with my friends for my birthday? i dont get that.. i NEVER winged to him and ... (read in full...)
Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 7 February 2010: And one thing you are choosing to ignore is i tried to rearrange my plans so he could come and he said no.
and just because he couldn't come to my dinner when he had other things to do doesnt mean he had to ignore me on my birthday? how do you j... (read in full...)
Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 7 February 2010: Its funny you say "shes not a toy"
if he has things he wants to do like - a snow trip with his mates the whole weekend, playing computer games he will palm her off to his mum to look after her the whole weekend.
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His ex is ruining our relationship...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year and a half. Prior to our relationship he was in a very intense relationship with a girl named Erin*, their relationship ended, six months later we got together however she will not leave him ...
A. 7 February 2010: OK WOW! no way you are being over emotional!
he is acting like she is still his gf with you on the side like a joke. he is completely disrespectful! i dont know how you have put up with it!
if you have tried to talk to him and he simply wont l... (read in full...)
Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 7 February 2010: i told him days in advance i had checked the weather and it was going to rain, and that i would want to have a dinner with my friends if it did. he never mentioned he would have to take his daughter home at that time, am i meant to ask? i would say ... (read in full...)
Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 7 February 2010: the visits are completely random, nothing legal is arranged. he could be dropping her off at5pm, 8pm, 12 pm the next day i would never know... (read in full...)
Have to go swimming but have my period!
Q. Hello. I have a minor problem that isn't life changing but it currently feels like a big problem! Tomorrow I have to go swimming. I really have no choice in it. But I woke up this morning and my period had started unexpectedly. I don't know what ...
A. 7 February 2010: you will be able to get them in time.. any chemist, supermarket, convenience store will have them.
without using a tampon you wont be able to go swimming, so you either have to wear one or not swim.
since its your first time using one get a ... (read in full...)
The last thing I want is babies but that's all he wants!
Q. Hi, Im 27 and been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. About 2 years ago the topic of children has come up and i am 110% sure i never want to have them-i dont like children and i made it very clear to him. He however wants children and being the on...
A. 6 February 2010: i have never experienced anything like this, but it seems like you truly do want different things.. its not fair for him to push you into having kids if you don't want to and its not fair to hold onto him knowing he definitely wants children and you ... (read in full...)
Do "mansluts" ever change or will he always be like that
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles Ok so, last night i was at a party, i had my eye on a guy on the guestlist. I went too the party and actually met him he seemed nice and after a few drinks we pulled. He is however what one may class as a "manslut" but i ...
A. 6 February 2010: your age says 16-17.. if he is the same age probably wont change for a few years.. thats my experience anyway!... (read in full...)
6 years later she realised she hadn't forgiven me and left
Q. About 6 years ago on a lad's holiday I cheated on my girlfriend with a prostitute. (we had been going out for 4mths) It's the worst thing I've ever done and I instantly regretted it. I came home and confessed to her and thankfully she forgave me and ...
A. 6 February 2010: its one thing to cheat on your girlfriend, but with a prostitute? i honestly would have said good bye the minute you told and never looked back, i wouldn't be able to stand having sex with someone after they had been with a whore.
6 years is a lon... (read in full...)
Golden shower fantasy
Q. I have this fantasy of having a girl urinate on me (Golden shower) I am single at the moment, But I worry that if I meet a girl she might think I was weird asking her to do such a thing. I don't want to scare anyone off. What should I do. Can some ...
A. 9 August 2009: ill be honest and say it probably would scare me off if you said that to me. i think it would be a good idea to keep that one to yourself, or at least wait until your comfortable that you wont scare the girl off.... (read in full...)
Relationship ruined because of a picture of his parts??
Q. Okay. Here is my situation. My girlfriend and I have been friends for almost 3 years now. In those 3 years we have been the type of friends who talk about their relationships with one another. This is my situation. Before we started dating I...
A. 27 July 2009: well ill start by saying your guy friends are not real friends. Its Nothing your girlfriend has done, so why should you leave her? Its your problem not hers! Obviously thats a hard thing to deal with but still she hasn't done anything wrong h... (read in full...)
Having her cake and eating it too...
Q. my wife works at a small buisness run bye a close friend of the family. i think she is having her cake and eating it with the bosses son who is working with my wife she comes home from work and does not shut up about this person when i ask her about ...
A. 27 July 2009: I agree, if she was cheating she wouldn't be talking about him so much. And as for the skirts, maybe she feels more confident? Im not sure, maybe you could casually bring up the fact that she never used to wear them? but not in an angry way or she... (read in full...)
I can't stay in a relationship where I'm not trusted!
Q. I'll try and keep this short, but there is so much to the story. My boyfriend is extremely jealous, insecure and controlling. This is all getting better since he has been seeing a therapist, but one thing that has gotten worse it his trust problems. ...
A. 26 July 2009: Well we did break up a few months ago, then got back together because he wanted to give it another chance and see the therapist, but i feel like he doesn't even want to talk to me about what happens with her. He doesnt tell me how to help fix this ... (read in full...)
Tired of being the housekeeper!
Q. I am sick of doing everything in my house. I am 19, i live with my mum dad and 4yo brother. I cook dinner EVERY night, while i dont mind cooking because i do live rent free, it would be nice for someone to at least help me out, or cook for one ...
A. 26 July 2009: thanks.. i cant afford to move out yet because im still studying but as soon as i can afford it i am going to, im actually looking forward to having a clean house and knowing i have food ready for me to make dinner. I dont mind playing with my broth... (read in full...)
His controlling behavior is tearing us apart
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about eight months now. We haven't had a steady eight months, we have been on and off numerous times. Sometimes he can be the most loving boyfriend ever. Some days he will treat me good, and other days he won't. ...
A. 26 July 2009: Its not going to change unless he wants to, and by the way you keep running back he is going to know he can get away with it and you will be back. you need to stand up for yourself. he wont change if you ask him to, he wont change if others ask him, ... (read in full...)
I've got a bad feeling about my daughter's boyfriend!
Q. I have always had a great relationship with my 18 year old daughter. But lately |I feel liek I dont even know her any more. She started dating Jason about 6 months ago, he seem like a good kid but something just doesnt seem right with him. He ...
A. 25 July 2009: please dont be one of those mothers who pries into their childrens relationships.. trust me my mum did it to me and i still resent her for it, i cannot forgive her, she screwed things up for me and for no reason.
If your daughter is making a... (read in full...)
I just found out she slept with another guy 2 weeks after we split! I feel like he took advantage of her...
Q. ok in need of advice. i just found out last night that my ex slept with a 26 year old guy 2 weeks after we broke up and shes only 20... i never liked this guy, he was a guy she met at her new job and in the last six months of our relation...
A. 25 July 2009: your broken up for a reason.. you cant act like shes cheating on you - shes single. i can imagine its hard to see someone you love like that, but there is nothing you can do. if you want to remain friends with her you are going to have to accept her ... (read in full...)
Should I go see the doctor for this?
Q. my girlfriend wants to touch my penis but i feel something uneasy my heartbeats gets high and my blood pressure rises when she tries touch i feel awkward please help what should i do should i go to doctor...
A. 25 July 2009: i think your just nervous.. have you done anything sexual before? try and relax! your probably over thinking this.. but if your worried then it wont hurt to see a doctor... (read in full...)
He's a perfect gentlemen, only problem is he's 21 and I'm 16 going on 17!
Q. Hi. I really need some help here. i recently met this guy who seems perfect for me. we're both really into art and the outdoors, and he's a perfect gentleman. the only problem is, i'm 16 (about to be 17) and he's 21. i feel really iffy about this ...
A. 25 July 2009: i was 17 when me and my bf got together, and he was 22. we waited until i was 18 to do anything sexual, the age difference isnt significant with us because i am mature and he well isnt haha! ... (read in full...)
Am I jealous? Am I moving on? Or just tired?
Q. hello well ok me an my ex botfriend have been broken up for about a month now hes a jail bird an hes in another relationship. He called me recently trying to be my friend or something an that really confused me because i didnt want to hear from ...
A. 25 July 2009: i don't know what your thinking, but honestly don't talk to him! he sounds like no catch at all. and he has another girlfriend a month after you broke up? thats pretty soon! you don't want a relationship with someone like that.. understandably its ... (read in full...)
We have an agreement so my wife can have sex with another man, but now he has started to be abusive to her!
Q. I have a new question . My wife has had sex with another guy while we are married. And thats ok with me because i have medical problems that prevent me from getting an erection .AND we both are in agreement about this arrangement so dont preach to ...
A. 24 July 2009: you need to have a talk to her about this, its not ok! Your trying to do something for her so she can have a fulfilling sex life (which is pretty incredible) this is never what you intended.. how is your wife connected to his daughter? i think the ... (read in full...)
Is there such thing as a perm to straighten wavy hair?
Q. Hi everyone I have wavy hair and want it to be straight without having to straighten it everyday. So I know that there is such thing as a perm to straighten hair but I dont know if it works on wavy hair. Does it? How long would it last? About ...
A. 24 July 2009: you can get your hair chemically straightened, it lasts until the hair grows out. i don't know how much it will be where you live, but in australia its around $150 depending where you go. as for your mum i don't know what she is like, i don't know ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks she has a horrible body!
Q. i need help, i have been with my girlfriend for around three years now and she still wont let me see her body, she wont take her top off when we have sex and she wont even get changed around me. i have tryed soo many times to tell her she has a ni...
A. 24 July 2009: i was like this when i first got together with my boyfriend, then one night we were going to bed and i got changed away from him and he got really upset. he told me he feels like i don't trust him, and it makes him upset that i don't feel ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend accuses me of flirting when I was at an industry networking event! Will this type of man ever change?
Q. I am an event management student, and our teacher organises frequent visits to exhibitions and conferences. this is a great way for us to network with industry professionals. today was the australian event business expo and was a great opportunity ...
A. 22 July 2009: your friend - yep thats the one, should have gone, it was good fun! :-)... (read in full...)
My boyfriend accuses me of flirting when I was at an industry networking event! Will this type of man ever change?
Q. I am an event management student, and our teacher organises frequent visits to exhibitions and conferences. this is a great way for us to network with industry professionals. today was the australian event business expo and was a great opportunity ...
A. 22 July 2009: thanks alot. whenever im talking about things like that i always tell him these are old men etc like NO WAY i am attracted to them! he just thinks i am friendly by nature and this means im flirting? but i am not going to stop being friendly, i know ... (read in full...)
Does this seem like an overreaction?
Q. Okay, so here's the deal. Around late June, my girlfriend asked me to hold onto a piece of sheet music for her because she didn't want to lose it. She would ask for it a few times to practice, seeing as how her choir class would be performing the s...
A. 21 July 2009: i think this is a complete over reaction. it seems like there may be some resentment there? have similar things happened before? to me it kind of seems like she was looking for an excuse to get out of your relationship. But its likely she doesn't ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong? Is he? Is my relationship over??
Q. Last night I came home to my man and told him that I was considering taking a pole dancing fitness class with a workmate who asked me to join her. It has always looked like a bit of cheeky fun and I really wanted to do it. He didn't like the idea, ...
A. 21 July 2009: this is the same as me and my bf used to be. he wouldnt let me do anything i wanted, but expected to do everything he wanted. He would always text me saying i dont want u , lets break up etc and stupidly i would always cry to him and call him and ... (read in full...)
He's planned to get his wisdom teeth out just before our holiday
Q. It seems like my boyfriend of three years just doesn't care when things are planned out. He and I are planning to take a romantic weekend trip to a nearby city. Today he went to the dentist to make an appointment to have his wisdom teeth taken out. ...
A. 21 July 2009: i would feel annoyed and hurt too. Although, depending on the circumstances. How long have you been planning this trip? was he well aware of the dates? is it urgent he gets his wisdom teeth out? maybe there was only one appointment left and this ... (read in full...)
For the Ladies: What do you mean when you say, "Hey, you're cute!"
Q. Dear Ladies and Girls, Would you please enlighten me, and many other men no doubt, as to what you ACTUALLY mean when you say to a guy the following:- "Hey you're cute". Thanks. ...
A. 17 July 2009: it could mean your cute, it could mean i dont want to be mean , i dont think your hot so ill say cute... (read in full...)
I've just found out she had a threesome and this is eating away at me!
Q. I really need some help here. Me and my girlfriend broke up a couple months ago. I had sex with one girl, shortly after the relationship ended and again two weeks later. She found out about both as i admided to it. She then procieded to have sex ...
A. 17 July 2009: pfft you had sex with another girl when you apparently love her. you told her you had sex with someone else, so OBVIOUSLY she takes this as "i moved on". i agree 100% with satin desire.
who cares if it was a 3some, maybe that was a fantasy ... (read in full...)
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