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I came to this site in desperate need of relationship advice and found myself wanting to help others whenever i can.
People may think im young, but im mature. Family issues have taught me to be dependant on myself and mature quicker then other people around me.
I have learnt from past experiences with men and made many mistakes im only just learning about now. I have lived with low self esteem and no self confidence due to the way i was raised and how my parents treated us but i have now learned to depend on myself and be confident and love the person i am. |
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He's keeping me a secret from his pregnant ex!
Q. My boy friend found out his ex girlfriend was pregnant about 2 weeks ago, she is now 3 months along. It has been hard, but he wants to be with me and is going to have a baby with his ex. He won't tell her about me, he says he's afraid she will get ...
A. 27 November 2008: i just have to add that my bfs ex rang him one night in feb (they broke up in august) and we had been going out for a month and she was begging for him back!... (read in full...)
How can I tell when he's ready to ejaculate?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a while now and I know he wants more than what we have currently done in the past (furthest we have gone is with the hand). I want to give him a bj but for some reason I can't stand the idea of him cumming in my ...
A. 27 November 2008: Just get him to let you know! ... (read in full...)
Is kissing considered cheating?
Q. Is kissing cheating? Just how bad is it to kiss (make out with) someone else when in a VERY serious relationship?...
A. 27 November 2008: if its happening on many occasions i would say yes break up with her. I can understand if she kissed him once when she was drunk, was very regretful about it then you may stay with her but if she is doing it again then you need to really think about ... (read in full...)
What do call clean sex & dirty sex??
Q. In sex,what do call a clean sex and dirty sex?? Does blowjob/licking a girl's vagina important in sex? ...
A. 26 November 2008: everyone has their own oppinion but i am going to say to me foreplay is very important. If my bf wants to just rush into sex with no foreplay i dont get turned on at all. I think him going down on me is very important and he loves it when i do it to ... (read in full...)
How can I pleasure him without having sex with him?
Q. Ok so me and my bf have been going out for about 2 months. I wanna get him excited or pleasure but i dont wanna have sex, so is there any thing i could do?...
A. 26 November 2008: Well there are things you could do, use your hands, use your mouth, but honestly i think you a bit too young to do anything sexual. Its good that your not going to have sex so young and you should keep that attitude. Kissing is fine and it can ... (read in full...)
He's keeping me a secret from his pregnant ex!
Q. My boy friend found out his ex girlfriend was pregnant about 2 weeks ago, she is now 3 months along. It has been hard, but he wants to be with me and is going to have a baby with his ex. He won't tell her about me, he says he's afraid she will get ...
A. 26 November 2008: I have been in the exact same position. When i met my bf he had a 2 month old baby and his crazy ex would never let him see her. when she finally started he wouldnt tell her about me because he was scared she wouldnt let him see his daughter, so ... (read in full...)
I'm growing increasingly resentful about my boyfriend's daughter!
Q. When me and my boyfriend met his baby was 2 months old but because things had turned ugly with the ex he had no contact with his daughter and had only ever seen her twice. One night he broke down to me telling me he cried everynight over it and he ...
A. 30 October 2008: Thankyou both, great answers! Ill keep you up to date after the weekend about how it goes.... (read in full...)
Breaking up with her didn't go as planned!
Q. I wanted to break up with my girlfriend for a while. I went to my ex (who is was first my gf) for advice tips for breaking up (nicely) and she told to call my gf. I called my girlfriend to ask her for a ride home. When she got to the house my ex ...
A. 29 October 2008: That girl is not your friend. Stop talking to her. She is stupid and inconsiderate, and might i add that because you went along with it you were pretty stupid and mean to your girl too.... (read in full...)
Experience Gap
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for over two years now. She is a few years older than me and had a few partners before we met. I was a virgin when we met. It came out a while ago that she was unhappy with our sexual relationship and...
A. 29 October 2008: There are so many threads on here about the same thing. Honestly, i dont know if you can. My boyfriend cant, but what i have noticed is he is getting better at controlling his thoughts. Men always feel insecure about measuring up to their ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her how I feel so early on in the relationship or should I wait?
Q. When beginning a relationship is it ok to talk about how one another feels about them, or should i just wait it out and let things run its course? I've been dating my girlfriend for 3 weeks and I know from past relationships and my feelings that...
A. 29 October 2008: No it wont scare her. Talk about what happened with your past relationships(not going into any details about the girls of course, but letting her know how you felt at the time and what happened). She will most likely want to know how your feeling. ... (read in full...)
My parents think it's wrong for me to date a black guy, is this racist?
Q. My mom and dad are soo protective. i like this black guy...alot and he likes me. but my parents think it is wrong for a white girl to date a black boy. i think thats racsism. but me and this boy have been talking for a year and we tell each other ...
A. 29 October 2008: Omg! i cant belive what some people have said. You have to date in your race? thats ridiculous! Im australian/dutch and my bf is chilean. Is that wrong is it? pffft some people need to get out there and discover there is more then your own color.... (read in full...)
Is there more going on with my boyfriend and his female best friend?
Q. My boyfriend has a best friend that is female. Which is fine with me, my best friend is male. Heres the thing.They dated about 8 years ago and now are best friends. When me and him first met(not knowing we would be together) he sad if there was ...
A. 29 October 2008: Well good on your for having such will power! You sound like a strong woman who knows when she is not getting treated right so good for you. You deserve to be number one to your man.... (read in full...)
Is there more going on with my boyfriend and his female best friend?
Q. My boyfriend has a best friend that is female. Which is fine with me, my best friend is male. Heres the thing.They dated about 8 years ago and now are best friends. When me and him first met(not knowing we would be together) he sad if there was ...
A. 28 October 2008: Wow that must be really hard. Have you spoken to him about it? I dont think thats normal at all, because you are saying he still has feelings for her and he would want to be with her. It must be very hurtful for you. You seem to be handling this ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I KNOW???
Q. I really need some advice recently I went threw my boyfriend's fone (I know I shouldn't have) and found that when he had gone out he had met a girl and now hes been texting her asking her to send pictures of herself and things like that. It's kil...
A. 28 October 2008: Dr reality check You have no need to go through your partners phone because you know she has nothing to hide, i have no reason to go through my boyfriends phone because i know that to. This girl was obviously doubtful, doesnt she have the right to... (read in full...)
Would he still want to go out with me after I played his best friend?
Q. The guy that I am in love with just found out that I am in love with him, he loves me too but I also used to chat with him using someone else`s identity not mine, he also told my friend that he has a feeling am the one he was chatting to. The ...
A. 28 October 2008: What do you mean you are going out with his best friend? I thought you were in love with the other guy? Why are you using a different identity to talk to these guys? ... (read in full...)
Sticky water comes from my penis.
Q. When I get erect, sticky water comes from my penis, is this sperm? I am so much upset with that. Please Help ...
A. 28 October 2008: From what your describing im going to say that is cum. It is what happens to every man when they ejaculate. It is the substance that contains to sperm to fertilize eggs and make babies. It is perfectly normal, why does this upset you?... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I KNOW???
Q. I really need some advice recently I went threw my boyfriend's fone (I know I shouldn't have) and found that when he had gone out he had met a girl and now hes been texting her asking her to send pictures of herself and things like that. It's kil...
A. 28 October 2008: If he has something to hide, you have the right to go through his phone. Dont worry that you were doing the wrong thing, because it is perfectly normal to go through your partners phone, because you dont expect to find anything bad. You have a right ... (read in full...)
I've had boyfriends but have never been kissed properly and he thinks I have.
Q. I've been good friends with this guy for a while and recently he's asked me out and I said yes but there is a a small problem. I've had boyfriends but have never been kissed properly and he thinks I have. If I kissed him would he realise I'd not ...
A. 28 October 2008: If a guy can be your first kiss he will feel so special. He will respect the fact that you havent before and he will be very lucky. Tell him.... (read in full...)
I'm growing increasingly resentful about my boyfriend's daughter!
Q. When me and my boyfriend met his baby was 2 months old but because things had turned ugly with the ex he had no contact with his daughter and had only ever seen her twice. One night he broke down to me telling me he cried everynight over it and he ...
A. 28 October 2008: Thankyou so much for taking the time to post that you have some really helpful information. This weekend is his weekend to have her but i am going to stay home until saturday and then go over for the rest of the weekend.... (read in full...)
I feel so completely insecure sexually with her now, and suspicious of her reasons of being with me.
Q. Dear everyone. I think I am at a about to end my relationship with my girlfriend, but I really wish I could just get over this problem instead. I have become uncontrollably jealous and insecure in this relationship and regardless of what it takes, ...
A. 28 October 2008: My boyfriend has issues with my past (altough that consists of only 4 other guys) and i understand how even though it is to me not a big deal, it hurts him. The reason it hurts him so much is because of how much he loves me. The more you love ... (read in full...)
Is it legal to have sex with him?
Q. Hi, I am a 17 year old girl and seriously in love with a 27 year old. Is it legal if I have sex with him as I love him so much and hes been saying no to me. Pls help. anonymous....
A. 28 October 2008: I dont know if its the same in the UK but in Australia the legal age is 16, BUT if you are over 18 it is illegal for you to have sex with someone under 18! So if your 16 or 17 you can only have sex with someone 16 or 17... (read in full...)
My gf needs time to think as she still misses her ex bf! Do I give her the space?
Q. So my girlfriend says she needs time to think about things because she still misses her ex. She says she loves me more than she has loved anyone but she still thinks we can't be together. I just found out that she has been calling him and meeting ...
A. 28 October 2008: give her the space, that way she will have time to clear her head and think about what she wants. it will give her time to miss you. ... (read in full...)
I'm terrified of losing my virginity.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year, and everything is going so well. It couldn't be going better except for one thing; I'm a virgin and am still scared of losing my virginity. My boyfriend has been so understanding, and we ...
A. 24 October 2008: I think the advice everyone has given you is really good and i just want to add you have a really good guy there to be so understanding.... (read in full...)
It feels as if we're in a relationship... but we're not! We broke up.
Q. Where do i begin.? I'm 17 and me and my boyfriend split up about 7 months ago, and it took me soo long to get over him but with the help of my best male mate i did it. BUT ive got a problem, i think im falling for him. Hes 19 lives with his dad an...
A. 24 October 2008: Your not friends, you are sleeping together. Babe it sounds like your already in a relationship He has helped you get through a tough time and it has made you realise your feelings. Talk about his feelings and if your both ready for a relationship. ... (read in full...)
Secret Love
Q. well um im in love with someone right now. But the thing is that we are going out secretly and they are still in a relationship. i dont know if i should stay or go i always say i dont wanna talk to them as long as they are together and they just beg ...
A. 24 October 2008: Think about this, what kind of guy cheats on his girlfriend to be with someone else, and if he is doing this to his current girlfriend (not you) then wouldnt he just do it to you to? Also, he is cheating on you too. So he is cheating on two people ... (read in full...)
I think he thinks I'm not interested, but I am. What should I do?.
Q. I'm very confused and have no idea what this man wants. I met a guy a month a go and we went on couple of dates. First date was perfect but the second he acted like a jerk. I stopped talking to him because i didnt want someone like that in my life. ...
A. 24 October 2008: Well if you want to hang out then thats a good thing, but i would not stay over. Tell him that you dont think you should sleep over but you want to hang out and see what he says, if he gets angry that is not a good sign! Or if you do want to sleep ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to move past the condom thing?
Q. Hi All - I've been dating my gf for a little over a year. We love each other deeply, live together, and I know from various sources she wants to marry me one day. Even though she is on the pill, I wear a condom every time we have sex. I hate w...
A. 24 October 2008: I dont think you should be scared to ask her that, its something thats on your mind, you shouldnt have to hide it. The more you leave things on your mind and dont discuss them the more they pile up and turn into resentment. It should really be the ... (read in full...)
We can't stop fighting, how can we get better?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 9 months now and i am completely in love and i know that he is too, but we fight almost every couple of days, and not little fights, most of the time we say we are going to break up (even though we both know we wont ...
A. 24 October 2008: Thankyou all for your advice, even though its not what i want to hear but deep down i knew this is what is probably the best. At the moment im just going to see how things go, i have started reading books that i think will be helpful, i am reading ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to move past the condom thing?
Q. Hi All - I've been dating my gf for a little over a year. We love each other deeply, live together, and I know from various sources she wants to marry me one day. Even though she is on the pill, I wear a condom every time we have sex. I hate w...
A. 22 October 2008: Trust me if your already having these thoughts its only going to get worse. if you want to sleep with other women its not going to work out.
but in relation to the condom thing, i think its strange that she woul have done it before but not now.... (read in full...)
How many women out there enjoy sex as much as their mates do?
Q. Last week my girlfriend was told by her doctor that she needed to wait at least a week before having sex again. This was the first time since we started dating that we've gone more than a three days without it. The funny thing is, I think she had ...
A. 22 October 2008: before my current bf, i didnt enjoy sex as much as i do now. i cant get enough and i think its becasue of how we feel about each other. also because hes really good at it haha!... (read in full...)
I want to be his first but I'm terrified I'll lose him if I have sex with him!
Q. There's a guy on my school's football team and his body is close to perfect and he is absolutely gorgeous!!! I've liked him for a while (I've had band with him for 2 years, I see him everyday) He's 17 and I'm about 2-3 years younger than him. A lot ...
A. 22 October 2008: He does not want this to be special. you have to think about what his intentions are. he gets mad when you dont meet him to have sex? thats how you know he is not serious. he does just want to f*** you. he is not interested in a relationship trust ... (read in full...)
Girls... -what are your views on male virginity?
Q. A question for females only, what are your views on male virginity?...
A. 22 October 2008: wow thats great! i hate it when guys think they deserve a virgin girl when they themselves are not a virgin! trust me girls DO NOT CARE about your sexual experience, penis size etc. if a woman loves you she loves you for you not that stuff. If a ... (read in full...)
We are having a baby through incest - what can I do?
Q. To everyone that doesnt understand, this will seem really wrong but i've been in love with my brother (no not step, my actual brother) for the past 2 years after he helped me get over my cheating ex. At the start i thought it was just an admiration ...
A. 22 October 2008: It unfair to the child to bring it into this world in this situation. You cannot be with your brother. The humiliation and problems this child will face will be unbearable. You need to take responsibility. your young, do you know what love is? how ... (read in full...)
My teacher liked me and is now being prosecuted! How can I help him save his job?
Q. hi i have just been reading all the student teacher relationship questions and answers...and i really need help one of my teachers has told me he really cares about me and that he could imagine us spending the rest of our lives together i ...
A. 22 October 2008: THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT
he is in the position of responsibility and given the way he has acted he deserves to lose his job. You need to leave it alone nothing good can come out of this. Even if you were aloud to be together, a 33 year old with a 16 y... (read in full...)
Are they jealous that I was getting all the attention or was I really behaving slutty?
Q. I went to this party with my girlfriends. There were about 5 guys there that I used to be friends with and havent seen in a long time. I said hi and started drinking and dancing with them, while they were hugging me and flirting with me but I ...
A. 22 October 2008: Just think, what would have happened if you were single? If you were dismissing your girls to flirt (which you must have been doing or they would not have got the idea to take you to their room or feel you up) then it doesnt mean your a slut but ... (read in full...)
I can't get the graphic details of her sexual past out of my head!
Q. Hi after reading different problems on this site it has given me courage to seek help. I'm 33 and my partner is 25, we met nearly two years ago and things were very confusing for me. She was very open in how she would talk about her sexual past - ...
A. 22 October 2008: My boyfriend is exactly the same. Although you do not seem to put her down for it, so you should know that you are doing alot better then most people with this problem. Know that out of all the people she has been with, you are the winner who gets ... (read in full...)
Does he disrespect me because I was a lap dancer?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together 6 months. Well before i met my boyfriend i was a lapdancer which he has always known from the start of our relationship. I made an innocent comment about dancing the other day, which led him to call me a slag, a ...
A. 22 October 2008: He is jealous. He doesnt want you to have done that for any other man. I know because my boyfriend of 9 months is exactly the same about my past and the guys i have been with. We get into arguments and he calls me the worst things then apologises ... (read in full...)
Chosing between my friend and this guy I like...what should I do?
Q. my problem is that there is this guy who my friend likes. but the thing is that she knows i like him too, and have liked him for two years since i was in the seventh grade and he was in the eighth grade. now i'm a freshman and he's a sophmore. well ...
A. 22 October 2008: talk to her. But honestly its probably not worth it. Your young, and remember you are probably a few years more mature then this boy, but on the same level as your friend and even if you do have a relationship with him harshly true but it will not ... (read in full...)
I think he thinks I'm not interested, but I am. What should I do?.
Q. I'm very confused and have no idea what this man wants. I met a guy a month a go and we went on couple of dates. First date was perfect but the second he acted like a jerk. I stopped talking to him because i didnt want someone like that in my life. ...
A. 22 October 2008: I have been in this situation many times, and from my experience i have learned that these types of guys do not want to be your boyfriend. They want to have sex with you, then never speak to you again. Something i have learned is the way to find out ... (read in full...)
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