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female
age
30-35,
*aime90
writes:I am an event management student, and our teacher organises frequent visits to exhibitions and conferences. this is a great way for us to network with industry professionals. today was the australian event business expo and was a great opportunity for me to network, so i did and got a few business cards for future reference and for work experience opportunities. I told my bf how it was good, how we spoke to CEOS of event management companies, got contacts for work etc. and all he says was so you were flirting and chatting up guys all day. i tried to explain to him this is the industry i will be working in, i am going to have to speak to men my whole career, i am not flirting with them, i am trying to get my foot in somewhere, but he just continues and says things like "you got numbers".yeah i got business cards! then he says bye on the phone and i was like what? and he said i'm really going so i said fine cya and hung up. he didn't call back or anything. what the hell? do any guys feel this way? am i right in thinking its absurd to expect a woman to never speak to other men? especially work related! even at uni, he doesn't want me talking to guys in my class. I don't want to be controlled like this! i want to be able to have friendships with who ever i want, man or woman. Will this kind of man change?
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reader, jaime90 +, writes (22 July 2009):
jaime90 is verified as being by the original poster of the question your friend - yep thats the one, should have gone, it was good fun! :-)
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reader, jaime90 +, writes (22 July 2009):
jaime90 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks alot. whenever im talking about things like that i always tell him these are old men etc like NO WAY i am attracted to them! he just thinks i am friendly by nature and this means im flirting? but i am not going to stop being friendly, i know whats flirting and not!
and yeah i know the friends thing is pretty annoying - especially seeing as though his best friend at uni is a girl - who asks him questions like what is your tongue technique like? and tell him she shaves her vag, loves deepthroat details sex life etc! im not cool with her at all, but i dont tell him he cant talk to girls cos of it.
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reader, Luaris  +, writes (22 July 2009):
 Yea Im the same way as this guy. He probably cares a lot about you and doesnt like thinking about you talking to successful attractive guys all the time. I think I would just let him go though because he probably wont change. Although if you do break up and he sincerely apologizes and wants to work it out after that then give him a chance to.
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reader, Your friend +, writes (22 July 2009):
 You need to find another boyfriend who doesn't have insecurity issues. No point staying with him as he is unlikely to change and will continue to cause you grief your whole life. (Was that the expo at the convention centre, I was thinking of going to that).
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reader, superbunny  +, writes (22 July 2009):
 He's just jealous - sweetie!!
When he gets used to the idea he'll probably come round a bit, jealousy can often be a sign of insecurity. Just make sure you make him feel secure that HE'S the want that you want - even talk down a bit about the people you met to him, like how they were all a bit or something just to give him a little indication that there is no attraction and you purely have a working relationship with them.
Put your feet in his shoes, if he was networking with lots of powerful women you might feel a bit intimidated.
However, with the classmates thing you'll have to crack the whip a bit. He cannot control you and he needs to know this; ask him if he'd rather you have friends and him, or just friends - say that's the only two ways about it - and I bet you can guess what his answer'll be.
Hope this helps.
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