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... Send *loveblue a private message | | | *loveblue's profile:I first stumbled upon this website when I was having a broken heart from a failed relationship. I didn't want the people around me to sermon on me as I never listened to them but I was desperate for an advise. I'd say, this was the best that I could find when it comes to relationship problems. You know why, because our dear aunts will respond to your post based on their experiences and knowledge. I do agree that experience is the best teacher. You are free to follow their advise or not. And not everyone will give the same formula, the same answers, so imagine how much knowledge you will get.
Ofcourse some will be frank some will be nice, but that's the beauty of it, you get to be responded by people with varying personalities. You will feel there is life in this website.
Anyway, I can honestly say that this site has helped me mature so fast. When I first started here, my view of relationships are shallow, immature and I don't know how to read guys behavior. About sex too, I was so naive. I feel I know only 10% before, now I feel like I know some 60% already about relationships. I like to learn more from reading about people's posts and problems. I do give advise at some posts where I know I can relate to. It may not be the best advise but it's based on experience and based on early posts from since I became a member here. Coz I do make a lot of observations from people who post here over and over, it seems there is a pattern for exes, FWBs or some basic teen age sex questions. These stories are from different people but they are basically similar to each other.
Also, it feels nice to share your views and help people learn from your mistakes. Do not let them learn their mistake, make them learn form yours so they can avoid the mistake as early as possible.
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She moved on while I got more infatuated, how can I move on?
Q. [Mod Note: OP's suggested title taken] This girl and I liked each other last year and were going to go out, but I couldn't decide if i liked her that much and I ended up hurting her and she says she has lost those feelings for me. As time as passed ...
A. 29 September 2010: I suggest asking her for a talk and tell her how you feel about her. I do not encourage keeping it to yourself because this will consume you and will give you the psychological feeling that your feelings get more intense.
If you say what's o... (read in full...)
When I see her I get angry, when she's not around I miss her a lot. she makes marilyn monroe look like a virgin
Q. (I have a question. It's a bit long so please bare with I.) I started going out with this girl in Jan 2008. I had known her for some time before then. Infact she had just been dumped her boyfriend. I believed in her and completely ...
A. 27 July 2010: Hi. I really understand your situation and emphatize with you. Really there are people who have no problem doing that, sleeping here and there while seemingly committed with you. It is understandable that you feel that way...that you wish her ill ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to conceive a child without ejaculating or going in?
Q. Dear Cupid, my girlfriend is 4 weeks late, and we're obviously quite worried and we've back tracked what we've done over the last month or so. We've done everything other then sex, we're both virgins. We can only put it down to that we've been doi...
A. 17 July 2010: The Realist is right, it is unlikely..but then it is possible. I hope I am not scaring you if I say that this happened to one girl I knew in college. She and her bf did some stuff together without penetration and they were unlucky.
Now they are... (read in full...)
Why do you men act like this the morning after?
Q. I am so sad. This is what happened yesterday. I am traveling now, in a small town, where i only know one person. He took me out to this upscale place. We are just friends, i know him for 15 years, so when we are out we can do whatever we want. ...
A. 17 July 2010: Hi, I have read all the responses in this post and really this one became a hot topic huh.
To the OP, no one can blame you of what you feel. I feel the same way too coz I had experienced it. Your story is very similar to mine but I have known th... (read in full...)
Is loving two people ok?
Q. My Ex fiance admits shes in love with a co worker and me. But she wants me to try and work to see if we can get back together after she ended our engagement, canceled our wedding and moved out because of this guy. She said now that she loves me ...
A. 13 July 2010: There are some people who can really love 2 people at the same time, I have seen that happen to someone and she really does love 2 people sincerely...but one of them she loves more.
Anyway, no you're not unrealistic, loving 2 is unrealis... (read in full...)
Pregnant, but who is the father?
Q. I had a one night stand with a guy about 2-3 weeks ago (on the mon 21st june )which was a huge mistake, I then started seeing my ex again on the saturday and we slept together (on the 1st July) I am now pregnant and im worried about what to do.. i ...
A. 9 July 2010: Best to consult a doctor but my guess is the one night stand. You know why? It was only less than 10 days ago you slept with your ex, the positive PT wont show that quickly. Well, this is based on my own knowledge about conception.
I agree wi... (read in full...)
Did I handle this situation correctly?
Q. I was just on this dating website chatting to another user, everything was going fine and then he saw me on FACEBOOK, after that he just went cold and blokced me. I sent him a curt email telling him he was immature shallow and not all that attract...
A. 7 July 2010: I know a guy who does that. The FB thing is just a way to make you feel like he trusts you and would allow you access to his personal details. Just a way for them to look like a nice guy, but the truth is, once they see a glimpse of your personal ... (read in full...)
From "Too Good to be True" to not answering my calls. Help!
Q. I have been dateing this guy of the late 3 months. when i met him I questioned why he wanted to date me. He has dated lots of beautiful women and is Friends with pro football players and nba players Me im just the girl from the neigborhood. I just ...
A. 30 June 2010: To be honest, there are guys like that. Their interest level on you is good only for a certain period of time. It's not what you did, it's the way he thinks.
I suggest that you just accept that this thing happened and there's no way for you to g... (read in full...)
29 years old, never had a relationship
Q. In a nutshell, this is my situation: I'm 29 years old and I've never had a relationship with a girl, never been kissed, never held hands, never been on a date, never even asked one out, and it's suddenly just hit me that I've basically wasted my ...
A. 12 June 2010: Oh boy, if your post is true, then it means I am not alone. Well, not in the sense that I never had a relationship. I did have and am myself getting over a break-up right now. But I feel I haven't much experience like the rest of the girls around me ... (read in full...)
What was he trying to say in this text?
Q. hello, i recently went on a date (first time) with a man who i met online, on the date he treated me very well, we got along great and he checked that i got home ok and also text the next day to say that he had a great time and would like to go out ...
A. 8 May 2010: For me, his text message can be rephrased as: "Look, if you don't want me to score up a sex with you, then we might as well end this as I don't want to waste my time anymore" It's good you did not reply, delete his text and and forget that you... (read in full...)
My husband will not have sex with me
Q. This is difficult for me to accept because I have always consider myself a hot person, very confident, and very comfortable with my physique, but in the past year my confidence level has gone done a notch. I'm married and I am sexual and I wan...
A. 7 May 2010: Well, I can't help but agree with the first 2 posts here. And to be honest, your post reminds me too of the pain. Based on my experience, my relationship with my bf started to become problematic when a change such as yours started existing. My bf ... (read in full...)
I don't classify this as cheating but my boyfriend will!
Q. Okay, Ive been dating a guy for about 2 months and I told him I would never cheat. But recently I was out with friends (1 girl and 2guys) one of the guys is an ex boyfriend. When we were leaving, i hugged him goodbye and I turned to kiss him on ...
A. 1 May 2010: Actually, it's only you and how you feel about it that says if its cheating or not. Would you be posting a question here if let's say it was another guy friend or even a girl? Maybe there's a guilt feeling on your part as it was an ex and maybe ... (read in full...)
I had sex the day I was supposed to start my period. Could I be pregnant?
Q. Could I be pregnant if I had sex the day I was supposed to start period but it never came? I'm 16 please help...
A. 24 April 2010: We never know for sure but it is unlikely. If you are supposed to have your period, then it means you had your ovulation 14 days ago if your cycle is a 28-day cycle. So if you had sex during this day, your ovulation period is over and no egg cell ... (read in full...)
Would handsome Hollywood ask out normal pretty girl or woman who is not actress
Q. i have fairy tale question would Hollywood actor go out with normal average pretty girl or woman real or would prefer Hollywood actress who is fake and plastic or real person...
A. 9 April 2010: I agree 100% with Not My Name. I think the reason why the celebrities hook up with their own kind is obvious, because they work around these people. They share the same interests such as their profession. Give them a new career or an environment ... (read in full...)
I only want sex once with a girl then I want to move on!
Q. I'm a guy. I don't really think I have a problem but I'm getting into a situation. My thing is I can only have sex with a girl once. After that, I'm not interested anymore and I just move on to the next one. This one girl that I did is no...
A. 3 April 2010: Whether you like it or not, you will be branded a user because of how you think about these girls..just a one-time sex partner, nothing more, nothing less.
Actually, even if you tell them you only want them for a one time sex, it's true still yo... (read in full...)
Could these things be complications from thrush?
Q. A couple of months ago, I had thrush. I got it treated and since then it's been fine. But I've noticed a few things which have started to happen, that never happened before I got thrush. The first thing I noticed was after my boyfriend and I ...
A. 27 March 2010: Are you taking birth control pills? It could be one reason. I had exactly like that before and when I stopped the pills, the thrush stopped too.
Another thing, while you are on medication, don't sleep with your boyfriend. If you do this, you will... (read in full...)
Am I being old fashioned? Is sex is necessary when it comes to relationship?
Q. i had a bf,a very first bf. he asked for sex.when i refused immediately he cursed me and said i'm boring and old fashion. i talked to my friend.they said it's my fault for reject his offer. she said it's normal to have sex when they're in relat...
A. 27 March 2010: The more you shouldn't give in to your boyfriend, the nerve for him to tell you you are boring! In fact dump him, clearly he is just after the sex, obviously he just wants to use you. If he loves you, he will respect you and will wait till you're ... (read in full...)
Relationship sucks!
Q. Hi, My boyfriend got married recently to another girl. I think he is happy with his marriage, he still wants to continue a relationship with me and wants to have sex. Not sure if he loves me truly. Can you help to advise me?...
A. 24 March 2010: One advise you can always count on, never have a relationship with a married man.
It will cause you nothing but heartache and misery in the long run. I have never heard of any mistress say that they are truly honestly happy with their married ... (read in full...)
He called me a 'dog', should I accept his friendship proposal?
Q. my ex boyfriend cheated with me...and abused me infront of his new girlfriend. He told me he loves his new girlfriend alot and can not afford to lose her. He also said he'l marry her in future. Infront of his new girlfriend he called me DOG. Now ...
A. 23 March 2010: This is your time to get even, girl. He disrespected you before by showing you his new gf, put you to the lowest level to say you are a dog. What is the reason you will want to consider him as a friend?
Prove to him that the girl he disrespe... (read in full...)
Why can't I get over my wife leaving me?
Q. So I'm nearing my divorce. It's been almost 2 yares since I woke up one morning and my wife told me it was over. She was seeing some one else at the time . She has dated a few guys since then.Me no one. Why can't I ever get her off my mind.When will ...
A. 22 March 2010: Well, I really really feel for you. Sometimes I don't get why in a relationship, there is always one side who is unfair. Yeah, there maybe some lucky couples who equally feel the same way to each other but most of the time, there is one who is not ... (read in full...)
4 months into his marriage and he started dating me... how do you see my future?
Q. He asked me out and i said no for a whole year because i thought he wasnt serious. Then he got married but didnt stop, i thought my feelings would disappear but they havent. 4 months into his marriage we started dating and i have never been ...
A. 20 March 2010: Before any tragic thing happens, stop seeing this guy. The future with him is heartache, lost years and wasted effort. Believe me, a guy who is only married for a short 4 months who doesn't mind having an extramarital affair is not the type of guy ... (read in full...)
Will she sleep with him when she gets married?
Q. my girlfriend is being forced to get maried to someone else and she has no other choice. she had planned to get a divorce after she gets married. I just asked for a promise of not sleeping with him and i will always stay with you. Now she is scared ...
A. 19 March 2010: I don't think you can do anything about that, you have to accept it. Marriage is not marriage if it's without sex. The husband has the right to have sex with his wife, especially if you are Arabic. Family is very important in your culture, so how ... (read in full...)
Married but have been seeing someone else for 8 years and I just can't let her go...
Q. I am married, happily married with a baby, i know.. i know it is very easy to say if you are so happily married why do you cheat? I met this wonderful girl, that is gonna make any guy very happy one day, we have been together for 8 years and are ...
A. 19 March 2010: It is true you can't let her go. You can't let go. But what about the others involved? Is it just ok with you to be happy, only YOU? How would your wife and child feel? What about the mistress? Instead of her spending her time with someone she can ... (read in full...)
I am in college again and I have noticed younger students can understand quicker, how can I catch up with them?
Q. I've been unemployed and or underemployed for a long time. I have diagnosed myself with a light clinical depression. I know I have it because I had been diagnosed before and because I have studied psychology enough to know. I'm trying to stay ...
A. 18 March 2010: I think it's because you're not used to studying again. Just be patient and slowly you will find yourself being the student that you were before. It's just a matter of getting used to it.
I, too am planning to take post graduate courses this yea... (read in full...)
How do I tell my ex about my new boyfriend without hurting his feelings?
Q. I've got a great boyfriend thats there for me all the time and i can talk to him about any thing. I've even told him that i still stay in contact with my ex what he's fine with that as he knows nothing will happen. My ex on the other hand dont know ...
A. 18 March 2010: Fine, then tell him the truth. What will you lose anyway if he wont talk to you again, you've got your boyfriend now. It is even better to let him know so he won't be hoping you could get back to him and that will make him stop keeping in touch with ... (read in full...)
Am I right to keep my distance from my ex?
Q. Hi Ive been dumped twice by the same person , 3 years ago and again last year, since then 8 months ago ,Ive met someone else and really get on well with her, my ex is coming to live on my street again, Im not really that bothered, but I do want to ...
A. 17 March 2010: Yes, if you ask me, it is right that you continue keeping your distance from her. In fact don't even consider also that one day you will bump on each other and become friends again. Maybe after 20 years you can do that but not in the near future. ... (read in full...)
We talk all the time but she makes excuses not to see me.
Q. I started a relationship with a girl going through divorce back in November. Things were going great, she was coming over every night, we had sex for a week straight, she said I turned her on. After 3 months she suddenly stopped coming over, still ...
A. 12 March 2010: I think you should believe your gut feelings. In my opinion, a woman will always want to spend time with her man if she's into him. She likes you or has feelings for you, yes...but not as much as to see you and have sex with you. Chances are, she... (read in full...)
One ring and he hung up but from the caller ID it was HIM!
Q. Okay here it is I haven't heard from him for over a year and last time I told him I still loved him he kind of got really annoyed. Then I sent him various text messages till six months ago when I stopped coz he would either not reply or reply l...
A. 10 March 2010: I think Angzw is right. This is probably just one ego booster for him. Remember, he ignored you for months..and now just a single ring will make you call him back? He is expecting you to maybe panic and call him back. DON'T!
Come to think of it, h... (read in full...)
Life after my affair...
Q. I had an affair with a man 20 years my senior. We were caught by my husband. yes, I know it was wrong. Long story. Anyway, its been almost three months since we were caught. In the initial weeks after the affair there were lots of texts back and ...
A. 9 March 2010: To be honest, the reason why relationship like this is never a good idea is because it never ends happily. People get hurt..innocent people at that.
Understandably, you are hurt but for sure you knew it will hurt like this. Ofcourse you knew tha... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has another girlfriend
Q. I'm really in a very confusing situation I have been seeing this guy for almost two years off and on we were dating, we broke up, he met someone else moved in with her, things didn't work out and came back to my town! the whole time I waited ...
A. 9 March 2010: Wow, I was like you with my ex. Good thing and I am so glad I am over this.
Well, I cannot blame you entirely why you allow this to happen. It's not like you wanted to be that way. It's not like a switch when you could just turn off your feelings... (read in full...)
I just want my stuff back, why wont he answer?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for about a month but we have only hungout 3 times because he says he always has his daughter. I have never hungout with him on a weekend its always been on a Monday or Tuesday. We always just get take out n watch a movie ...
A. 7 March 2010: My best bet would be, he is busy right now with something as a potential partner as you so that is why he is putting you on hold.
I have experienced same thing with my recent ex and my gut feeling was always right. They just wont tell you to get l... (read in full...)
How can I make them pay for what they did to me?
Q. i recently broke up with ma guy because he cheated on me with my best friend.they both denied it and it hurt me so much because he took our love for granted and she also took our friendship for granted. what can i do 2 make them pay and see the pain ...
A. 1 March 2010: My brother's girlfriend and his bestfriend did this to him. It was one of the most difficult times in our family as my brother is a very ideal, nice guy. We just couldn't believe it was happening to him. And he went into depression and locked ... (read in full...)
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