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writes:I've got a great boyfriend thats there for me all the time and i can talk to him about any thing. I've even told him that i still stay in contact with my ex what he's fine with that as he knows nothing will happen. My ex on the other hand dont know that ive got a new boyfriend and keeps saying he dont want to talk to me again if i have. how do i tell my ex about my boyfriend with out hurting his feelings? please help xxx
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reader, GFOK  +, writes (1 August 2010):
You demonstrate that you are a good person by caring about your ex's feelings. You seem to respect him, too. That's a formula that increases your chances for a good post-relationship friendship. Go ahead and tell him about the new guy. Then, what I would suggest most of all is that you and your ex agree to stay away from each other for a couple of months. I learned all of this the hard way. An uncaring ex can cause lasting damage.
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reader, mischieviousangel916 +, writes (18 March 2010):
Your new boyfriend is not your ex boyfriends business. Let your ex tuck his tail in between his legs and walk if he finds out and can't accept it.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 March 2010):
Just leave him to it. He says he doesn't ever want to talk to you again? Fine. Don't. Refrain from living in the past and move on towards your future.
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reader, iloveblue  +, writes (18 March 2010):
 Fine, then tell him the truth. What will you lose anyway if he wont talk to you again, you've got your boyfriend now. It is even better to let him know so he won't be hoping you could get back to him and that will make him stop keeping in touch with you. Besides, if you wont tell him and he learns from other people, it will sound like you were the one stringing him along. If you are happy with your boyfriend now, I don't think it will be a big loss to you if your ex wont talk to you anymore. That is meant to be for exes anyway
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 March 2010):
 There is no need to tell your ex about your new b/f. Let him find out himself .
If he does not want to talk to you ,so be it. He is not anymore your b/f and he is just an ordinary friend .
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (18 March 2010):
 Hun, he is your ex - you have moved on with your life - did your ex expect you to sit pining for him??
If he is so childish that he wont talk to you again when he finds out you have a new man in your life... well then you are lucky to be rid of him.
There is no way of sugar-coating telling the ex...
One question.... why are you so concerned about the ex? Sounds like you are still a little in love with him......
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reader, rambini +, writes (18 March 2010):
 In my opinion, the best thing to do is to be honest. Since you and your ex are no longer together you are entitled to go out with anyone you choose. If he finds that hard to accept and doesnt want to talk to you over it thats his problem, he cant keep u on a string and stop you dating people, but im sure he would rather hear it from you sooner rather than later, and not find out by gossip or by someone else,
good luck xx
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