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writes: My girlfriend and I are in a distance relationships, different colleges. Been together for 5 months. Been having some difficulties lately with school starting up again and not knowing when we are going to see each other next. Also, she is busy b/c she is a mentor of sorts for incoming freshman at her campus. She tells me how she wants to talk to me all the time and that she fears that I am drifting away from her. Though she is the busy one, I don't have too much going on besides classes. I feel sometimes like she puts me away in a "box" that she can pull out whenever she is free or has time. Last night I chewed her out a bit...I was having a rough day and wanted to talk to her at some point. She was dealing w/ orientation for incoming people and the hassles of being a mentor. Yet she still found time to hang out w/ some ppl and play some video games (though she apparently slept during some of that time) and then went to a concert later that night. Granted, I didn't call her till sometime after 7pm, but I still would have liked her calling earlier in the day if she had time, which it seems like she did or could easily have made some for a couple of minutes on the phone. When I called at 7, she told me she had a meeting and would be done in an hour or so. I was tired and wanted to go to bed but decided to wait up for her. I waited and waited and got a call around midnight, which was after she was all done w/ the concert. She had in fact 2 meetings that night, and then the concert. She told me she didn't call me during the concert time b/c she didn't want to leave her friends and risk not finding them again.This all leads up to the question, am I asking too much of her to call me when she has so many other things going on? I know she is a person that can get caught up in things going on and sometimes lose focus, but I don't want it to be me that she forgets about. She told me that she was thinking about me all day and the idea of calling me, so I asked her why she didn't and she said she didn't know. Then she started crying, saying she was a mean bitch and throwing the whole thing back at me. Telling me that I wanted to hurt her and make her feel bad when she has so much going on that she can't always control.I don't want to be taken for granted but I also don't want to be unfair to her and her situation of being busy. I haven't been able to stop thinking about this so I know there is a problem b/c part of me feels bad for chewing her out. We plan on being together in the future, but I also want her now. Is that too much to ask?
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reader, elitzabeth  +, writes (6 September 2007):
 It seems to me that you have a lot of time on your hands, and she doesn't. You better start doing some extra-activities at school or something 'cause you are going to drive yourself insane. Sign up for some Club or society. Think about what you like and spend time on doing that. You are too young to be stressing out out about your relationship, you have a whole life ahead. Enjoy life.. or you may miss out ..Hope it helps.. Stop overthinking..
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reader, ilikenight +, writes (4 September 2007):
 your question is too long.
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