Should I try to initiate a relationship with him even though he isn't a fan of such?
Q. I have always had a thing for my best friend and he recently told me that he likes me. He isn't a player but he doesn't like having a girlfriend because in the past they have always gotten clingy and caused drama. I feel a really connection between ...
A. 17 February 2013: "would it be best to test it out and see if he will change his mind if we start doing things" I think this isn't a good idea. That sounds like a friends with benefits relationship to me, which actually seems like what he wants. Good for him but bad ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is emotionally abusive but I keep crawling back to him!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years is lately being emotionally abusive towards me, never spends time with me, always blames me for verything. Whenever he get angry and yells at me, says he need to yell cause i was stupid enough not to understand him. ...
A. 15 February 2013: He doesn't want a girlfriend, he wants a punching bag. He's emotionally abusive now and it seems like he's capable of becoming physically abusive in the future. Yes, you should leave him. I think you should seek help from your friends and family in ... (read in full...)
Married man at work bought me dozen roses after I told him I only liked him as friend!
Q. I've been workin at a place for about 4 years and in the past two years had a flirty relationship with a married man, nothing serious as he obviously loves his wife, but at the Xmas do he tried to make a pass at me I told him I wasn't interested in ...
A. 15 February 2013: Good on you for rejecting his advances! The fact that he loves his wife but is still making passes at you just makes it seem like he's trying to get that little bit of extra on the side. If he is so persistent, maybe you should have another ... (read in full...)
Do women date guys they have only met once or twice?
Q. Is it reasonable to date women if you have only met them once or twice? I ask this because I'm tired of "hanging out" in mixed sex groups and making friends with women instead of pursuing a relationship. I find this form of courtship useles...
A. 15 February 2013: Women do date guys they've met once or twice :) Better to ask them out as soon as you know you like them, otherwise you might find yourself in the situation where they've 'friend-zoned' you.... (read in full...)
How do I let my wife know its ok for her to have a vibrator?
Q. I am a construction worker in Australia, which at the moment means working away from home. A lot. Recently i came home while my wife was out, and my curiosity got the better of me, and i looked in my wifes' bedside table top drawer where i found a ...
A. 15 February 2013: You're so sweet :) Anyway, if you want this vibrator be in on the action between you and your wife, you might suggest to her that it's a real turn on for you. If she still feels uneasy about it then you just don't mention it again. But do let her ... (read in full...)
My wife wants everything but doesn't want to work for it!
Q. Is it rong for me to won't my wife to want my wife to work ther no kids at home she wants house she like to go out to diner she wants every thing I told her get a job and we Will work on getting a home I don't no if we are right for each orther any ...
A. 15 February 2013: You're not wrong for your wife to be more considerate of you and actually pull her weight. If you've discussed this with her and she still refuses to contribute then it's time to leave. If you haven't discussed this with her then you definitely ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my ex that the baby I'm carrying isn't his?
Q. Hi, I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 25. His ex is four months pregnant with his baby and I'm one month pregnant with his too. My problem is, he doesn't seem to be happy for our baby but promise that he will take care of the baby once born. Now, the thing ...
A. 15 February 2013: Wow. Before you dig yourself into a deeper hole, you should tell your ex immediately. You are being extremely cruel and selfish to him if the only reason you want to keep up this charade is to feel like you're being loved and cared for.
And i... (read in full...)
My highschool sweetheart cheated on me while Drunk
Q. i have been with my girlfriend for 15 years we are high school sweethearts. ROck solid relationship for 15 fun years. On new years eve she got really really drunk and cheated on me. she was so drunk she hopped in a car with her new slutty manip...
A. 15 February 2013: She was drunk. She behaved very inappropriately and with a lack of respect for you, but I'd say it's not because she has no respect or love for you but because her wits were addled with drink. She didn't go through with the deed the whole way and ... (read in full...)
I think this married man is ogling me....
Q. I could be totally imagining this, so put me in my place if you think I'm wrong. There is an older man I work with who is definitely married but he doesn't wear his ring (you work in an office - wear the ring, right?!) He is very high ranking so ...
A. 15 February 2013: Act professionally. It's not a good idea to start a relationship at work and with a married man at that. You'll be subject to snide gossip because he has a higher position in the company than you and oh, cause he's married. If all the attention is ... (read in full...)
How to deal with my sex-addict girlfriend?
Q. I never thought this would be an issue, but my girlfriends is sex addict. She wants to have sex at least two times a day or as much as possible. I mean our record is 8 times a night. So to my problem. I really enjoyed this in the first few moths ...
A. 15 February 2013: Talking to her about reducing the amount of sex is good. You need to have valid reasons (which you seem to have). You might suggest that you're happy just to watch her while she pleasures herself. You might help her out without actually needing to ... (read in full...)
Should we have oral sex if I have a cold?
Q. This seems silly to ask but curious minds want to know. I have a bad cold right now, but my boyfriend and I will probably please each other at some point soon before I am better. Will me giving him head give issues to his dick? Funny I know......
A. 15 February 2013: Um it probably isn't a good idea. Even if you weren't giving him oral, you're still getting quite close to him and you might pass on your sickness. In addition to this, you're sick. You should be resting. He should be making you rest so you don't ... (read in full...)
Eight years of marriage and my husband never surprises me with gifts
Q. My husband and I have been married for almost 8 yrs. He never gets me gifts for anything. Not anything when i gave birth to our child! As a matter of fact this year for valentines day we were at a store and as we passed the cards he tol dme if I...
A. 15 February 2013: Wow. If ever a partner starts to name call, you should reassess your relationship because your partner has just shown you that they don't respect you at all. The fact that he hasn't bought anything for you just because he wants to shows that he has ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend didnt get me anything for valentines day, am I wrong for being upset?
Q. The father of my child , did not put the effort to get me anything for valentines day . Yes we are together and have been for 3 years . He doesnt give me anything for my birthday nor our anniversary ,which he forgot about . Today is valentines day ...
A. 15 February 2013: Forgetting Valentine's day or just not giving a care for it? Understandable.
Forgetting anniversaries? Understandable. You don't usually put the effort into remembering when all your first dates happen because most of the time they lead to nothi... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't seem to want anything to do with me on Valentines Day. what should I do?
Q. Ever since I turned 12, I have always dreamed of celebrating Valentines Day with someone special. I never even had a boyfriend until I was 18. I never thought it would take seven years to be able to spend the day with someone I love. Now I'm marr...
A. 15 February 2013: If you've never told him how important Valentine's day is to you, then he might just be brushing it off as an inconsequential day where only businesses benefit. If you have told him and he refuses to acknowledge the day then he is inconsiderate of ... (read in full...)
Should I be upset that he wants to go out for our Valentines dinner at the weekend?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for about 6 months. Now its valentines day..i know he is trying to save money for a house and i am not materialistic in the sense where i expect us to go out to dinners all the time..i even contribute towar...
A. 14 February 2013: Overreacting I think. I don't think you should be angry about how he spent the day before because that's his time. It's unfortunate that it affected your together time but he's making it up to you giving you the bonus of going out to watch a movie. ... (read in full...)
My partner cheated on me 6 months ago and I cant get over it, will the pain ever go away?
Q. hi my partner of 20 years cheated on me with a woman he met on the internet, we live in Australia she lives in America. they used to play cards i would walk past and they would be chatting i would try and look at what they were saying but when i ...
A. 14 February 2013: All the points by Honeypie are very good. I just want to add that he isn't sorry. The affair wasn't an accident if he planned a 6 day trip to be with her. You don't even have a chance to get over this if he doesn't regret what he's done. That isn't ... (read in full...)
Am I right to be upset that my BF is going to be roommates with a girl he used to date?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have our up and down in our relationship. We have just recent got back together and this time it really feels like things are going great and it's really working. However the timing is bad. Just yesterday he told me that his...
A. 14 February 2013: If you are feeling bad about it and all he can do is scream "inconsiderate" then he's a pretty poor boyfriend. I'm sure even if he didn't move out, you guys can still hangout at your place. If he really wants to move out, he can find a rent buddy ... (read in full...)
After his friends bailed on him, b/f decided to spend Valentine's Day with me. I'm hurt that I'm his 2nd choice!
Q. My boyfriend made plans for valentines with his friends, and forgot to tell me. I found out, and asked him to re-schedule. He said he is busy with friends the whole week. I got upset. He said we could do it next week. Then he called, saying h...
A. 14 February 2013: Just because HE doesn't like Valentine's day doesn't mean that you don't deserve to have the day you want. Even if he doesn't like it, he should acknowledge that you like it. It shouldn't be a chore for him to spend the day with you. It's like a d... (read in full...)
How do I wow my fiance sexually when his mom is living in the house with us?
Q. hi guys. my fiance is in the navy and is coming home next week. to have a nice suprise i am cooking a 4 course romantic meal.for him. well its not so much of a suprise as he does know about it. however i do want to suprise him and wow him.sexually ...
A. 14 February 2013: Hotel time!
I imagine that his mum will also be enjoying this 4 course romantic meal with you and your fiance? That could definitely make the romantic aspect of the meal a bit awkward. As it's his mother's house, you can't ask her to leave so... (read in full...)
Is this a "no harm, no foul" situation or is this the kind of thing I'll probably end up regretting?
Q. So, here's the situation. While I welcome any opinion I would very much like some female input. There's this girl I was working with (we both got laid off very recently) who I'm quite attracted to and really enjoy spending time with her. She ha...
A. 14 February 2013: Rather than speculating you should just ask her. Maybe something like "I enjoy spending time with you but I noticed that we've been spending a lot of time together. Is your boyfriend bothered by this?". Making a move on her while she is still in a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend found out I cheated on him while he was in prison and now our relationship is a mess!
Q. My man went to prison.I have been with him for ten years. I fell short I made the worst mistake ever an cheated on him. I was goin through alot of things when he was locked up along with a drug addiction. When he finally got out he came seen me ...
A. 14 February 2013: He doesn't seem like he'll forgive you even though you regret your decision. He likes to hold your mistake over your head. I think he will continue to do so and I can't see that the relationship will get better if he can't let go of your mistake. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is so jealous its absolutely crazy!
Q. Hi!!! Please some one help me. I'm engaged to my girlfriend of 3 years. She's soo jealous it's not even funny. We have had our issues in the past mainly because she's goes crazy when I look at girls. Or a movie with a sex scene in it...not a porno...
A. 14 February 2013: I think you would be wrong to marry her. This is obviously causing you a lot of grief and marriage isn't going to change that! There is nothing wrong with appreciating how other people look and it especially isn't your fault if a movie happens ... (read in full...)
Would you help your ex raise a child from another woman? He says we can't get back together except as friends
Q. ok, has anyone ever encountered this before? my husband, well ex now once asked if he went and got someone pregnant would i help him raise it? i told him no im too old i have already raised my children. oh we could not have any together because of a ...
A. 14 February 2013: Personally, if he did come back I'd say no to taking him back and no to taking care of the child. It's really his and the mother's responsibility to sort it out between them as they have made this choice themselves. It's just unfortunate that the ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend stood me up for dinner but is giving me the silent treatment saying I didn't text him back "I love you".
Q. My 28 year-old boyfriend was here to dine with me. He got a call from his mother, who asked him to meet her to give her something. He left and said he'd come back very soon. So I left his food on the table and waited. He didn't show up. An h...
A. 14 February 2013: Wow I'm sorry, but no matter how great your relationship is, this just makes him sound like a tool. If he has any respect for you at all, it's his responsibility to contact you first when he changes his plans after telling you that he'll be back.... (read in full...)
Was I being shady or is he overreacting?
Q. My boyfriend and I got in a big fight tonight and I need some advice. So he's seemed a little distant for the last few days, even though he told me nothing was wrong. Maybe he just needed some space, I don't know. Anyway, I was supposed to ...
A. 14 February 2013: Well I think you should have called him just because he was waiting for you and might have been worried. Also, if you are aware that he might not be as trusting because of what you have done in the past, then you should have called, otherwise his ... (read in full...)
I am inexperienced in sex but boyfriend is comparing me to his ex, who was better in bed.
Q. Last night me and my boyfriend had sex for the second time. I told him to take things slow and pace what we were doing, he suggested we tried some positions, I agreed to see what was best for me. Although it didn't end up going so great, he was ...
A. 14 February 2013: Well he definitely isn't the one for you! If he's criticising you when you're meant to be sharing an intimate moment, then he doesn't care about you or your feelings. Looks to me like he is only in it for the sex and you are giving in to him too ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to spend the night on our special St Valentine's date?
Q. So this old high school classmate of mine that was never more then an acquaintance and Facebook friend recently came into my life by way of working at my job once a week... We ended up talking more on FB which lead to us exchanging numbers....
A. 13 February 2013: Too soon! Is the whole Valentine's day going to be at his place? Does the fact you might have to stay at his place bother you? If it does, you should tell him because one hour away is not too far for him to drive you home if he respects you and your ... (read in full...)
How important is a mans height in society
Q. I have an acquaintance who is a few centimeters from being 6 feet tall and he believes he is short and worthless because of it. He brought up a lot of articles and facts about how being short is the worst thing a guy can be and that being 6 feet ...
A. 13 February 2013: I think height is nowhere near as important as how you hold yourself. I see some tall people out there but they don't walk confidently or they just slouch, which makes them seem shorter then they actually are. And then I see some short people out ... (read in full...)
I found out accidentally that my friend is transgender. How can I help her?
Q. This is more of a question on friendships rather than relationships, but I didn't know where else to go to for advice. Basically tonight I done something I shouldn't have, I went on to my friends email account- totally innocently to resend an email...
A. 13 February 2013: I think just try to behave as normally as you can, but try to let her know you are there for her if she needs you (in a not obvious way if you can). Just wait until she is ready to tell you. If she trusts you enough to let you access her email ... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong? Am I the only 18 year old who has never been kissed?
Q. I am 18 and i have never had a stable boyfriend. i am really nice and fairly pretty. Im a little over weight (170lbs) andd i feel like that holds me back a bit. I have had a lot of guys interested in me over the years but they are creepy and no ...
A. 12 February 2013: It's OK to be 18 and not have had your first kiss yet. Don't worry about this OP, you're still young and you've got plenty of time. I know many people who are older than you and have never had a partner or been kissed before so your situation isn't ... (read in full...)
We are fighting over our on and off sex drive
Q. My girlfriend and I have gotten in alot of fights over sex. We used to do something every night but now its maybe once or twice? She wouldn't be turned on and I wouldn't be turned on as well. We got in a fight once a really bad fight. She told me ...
A. 12 February 2013: Be positive! If you let yourself feel really anxious about this, it makes it harder for you to feel in the mood. Are there any underlying problems within your relationship? If you and/or your girlfriend are feeling any misgivings about each other, ... (read in full...)
Will alcohol make you sick the first time you drink it even if it is just a small amount?
Q. My new boyfriend wants to bring over some champagne or wine for our romantic Valentine's dinner at my house. The problem is I have never drank alcohol in my life, just was never interested or associated with people who drink. Of course I would l...
A. 12 February 2013: I've never heard of anyone getting sick form alcohol, but maybe you should ask your boyfriend to bring something with less alcohol content for your first time. Wines and champagnes taste very strange the first time you have it, so you might not like ... (read in full...)
My sister wants us to be something we're not to impress her boyfriend
Q. I am having issues with my younger sister at the moment. She has been going out with her new boyfriend for about a year (she left her boyfriend of 6 years for him), and since then she has completely changed. He is from quite a well off family ...
A. 11 February 2013: Ooo well if he likes you guys and you guys like him then just carry on like you normally would :D Eventually your sister will realise nothing is really gonna change and just ease up a bit. My sis came back from her travels and also started to ... (read in full...)
Are there men who voluntarily don't look at pornography?
Q. Is there any women here whose boyfriend/husband doesn't look at porn? If they don't do you know for sure? Where did you find them? Did you have to tell them to stop? Are there any men here who don't use it in a relationship? If they d...
A. 11 February 2013: How much does pornography use by your SO affect you? If it's really important to you, you're better off finding someone who shares your views of not watching pornography because trying to change someone from a porn user to a non-user is pret... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend of 7 years hasn't given me a promise ring yet
Q. Hello all! Let's see if I can sum this up and make it short and sweet and to the point. I am 22 and my boyfriend is 23. We have been together for 7 years. I am ready to take the relationship to the next step. Unfortuntely, because of financial ...
A. 11 February 2013: *consumerism
my bad... (read in full...)
Are there men who voluntarily don't look at pornography?
Q. Is there any women here whose boyfriend/husband doesn't look at porn? If they don't do you know for sure? Where did you find them? Did you have to tell them to stop? Are there any men here who don't use it in a relationship? If they d...
A. 11 February 2013: I have a man who used to watch porn but he hasn't since we've been together. I know for sure because I have asked him. I found this man at a university. I didn't tell him to stop, in fact, I told him I'm more than OK if he wants to watch porn and ... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend of 7 years hasn't given me a promise ring yet
Q. Hello all! Let's see if I can sum this up and make it short and sweet and to the point. I am 22 and my boyfriend is 23. We have been together for 7 years. I am ready to take the relationship to the next step. Unfortuntely, because of financial ...
A. 11 February 2013: Um, what's a promise ring? Is it really necessary to have so many rings? You want a promise ring, then you want an engagement ring and then when you get married, you'll have a wedding ring and then a few years down the track you'll probably... (read in full...)
My sister wants us to be something we're not to impress her boyfriend
Q. I am having issues with my younger sister at the moment. She has been going out with her new boyfriend for about a year (she left her boyfriend of 6 years for him), and since then she has completely changed. He is from quite a well off family ...
A. 10 February 2013: If this boyfriend is really gonna become a member of your family, then your sister has got to understand that he's gonna have to take you guys as you are! If he's not comfortable with that, then obviously he has no qualms about forcing a girl to ... (read in full...)
I've cut off my jealous relatives because they bad talked about me and my parents. Why are they like this?
Q. Hey everyone, HATE is strong word but here I want to use this word and say I absolutely HaTe my relatives! They want everyone to act like their slaves, for 15 years I didn't say anything they would trash talk my dad soo much, my family put us do...
A. 10 February 2013: Just know that the only people whose opinions actually matter are those people you actually respect. It's time to forget about them and move on because they aren't worth your time.... (read in full...)
How can I convince her to give up her sex toys? And consider a real guy like me for sex?
Q. I a year a 25 year old male with a new girlfriend who is 21 years old. We have been going out for about three months. After the first week of dating the subject of sex came up She told me that she had bad sexual experiences with her last boyfrie...
A. 10 February 2013: I think you should let her keep her toys, and use them when you have intercourse. It'll probably make her feel more confident. Plus, if she really needs them (like a lot of girls do), then you should definitely let her keep them or else she'll be ... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend says I'm boring and I "mother" him. How can I regain his interest?
Q. my boyfriend recently told me that hes bored with me and that i dont "challenge" him enough. After 2 years together he thinks we have nothing to talk about and that i mother him too much. i was shocked. I thought he was happy with how things ...
A. 10 February 2013: I think this is what they might call "emerging from the honeymoon period". I had this with my partner around 2 years into the relationship except I was the one having the crisis :P I told him I thought the relationship wasn't exciting enough, but I ... (read in full...)
| *havetoomanythoughts's friends
These are mutual friends, so *havetoomanythoughts has
added them and they have added *havetoomanythoughts!
|
