Need divorce advice!
Q. I’m going through a divorce right now, we have a home that he was living for the past 5 months and didn’t make any payments on it. He moved out two weeks ago so now I’m at the home. I want to keep this house what should I do? I’m going to file for ...
A. 11 June 2009: Unfortunately you'll be stuck with owing 50% of the credit card bill too. Sorry, this is the reason that divorces are so difficult.
You need to contact an attorney immediately before he starts running up more debit. There is something that the... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about the pornography?
Q. OKay...so my boyfriend has been masturbating to porn alot when im away....and i find porn on the computer alot lately we have been having sex and stuff should i be worried?...
A. 10 June 2009: Nope don't be, he's a guy that's what we do.... (read in full...)
Questions about porn...
Q. I have some questions about porn: 1. Why do most (notice I said 'most') women in porn have HUGE breasts and are blonde? Those are obviously fake, and men always say they don't care about size, and that they hate implants, but is this a lie? I me...
A. 10 June 2009: LIERIN - You're funny I enjoyed your comments. :) I'm 37 year old married male so here are my two cents on your post. I like porn, duh, anyone fall over surprised by that statement? But it doesn't control my life and I don't watch it consta... (read in full...)
Affairs by email
Q. My husband has struck up an email relationship with a widow with a son of 16years because 'he felt sorry for her'. This has been going on for several months. They write pages to each other every few days. He has told me the gist of their emails - ...
A. 10 June 2009: To bad you can't "out" her, it worked very well in my situation.
Stop blaming yourself for this situation. I'm sure that you do or you would of stood up to him and confronted him about the affair.
People who cheat are weak liars with low m... (read in full...)
Love Triangle and what to do about Travis!
Q. I am currently in a love triangle. My 2yr old daughters father is my childhood sweetheat we have been together on and off for 13yrs. We were together for 5 years starting at age 12 I became pregnant at 15 then lost the child at 6mths pregnant. so ...
A. 9 June 2009: Being in prison doesn't automatically make you a bad person, and that's not why I mentioned it in my earlier post. It's just that something like that will hold him back in the job market. Every time he fills out an application there will be a spot ... (read in full...)
What is happening, I have never felt this before?
Q. Hey everyone i have a problem and i dont no how to react to it as it has never happend before it is really emmbarasing when im walking around or in school i feel like i just want to have sex all the time and i have this very uncomfortable fe...
A. 9 June 2009: Have you been sexually active before? I would talk to a doctor about the pain when you pee problem.... (read in full...)
Does it matter who drives to who's house? Am I exaggerating?
Q. Does it matter who drives to who's house? I've been dating this great guy..going on 5 months.:) At first he would always pick me up at my house..then little by little it was less and now it seems like I'm doing most of the driving to his p...
A. 9 June 2009: Maybe he can't face your parents because you're having a sexual relationship and he thinks they won't accept it.... (read in full...)
Do these actions mean he likes me?
Q. i've been having trouble with one of my guy friends because i'm having this gut feeling that he actually likes me. he usually is affectionate in a not-so-serious manner (once he blurted that he loved me right in the middle of teasing me). and he's ...
A. 9 June 2009: Yep, it sounds like he likes you. The bigger question is do you like him back?... (read in full...)
Medication to make pimple go away faster?
Q. Well, this isn't really a relationship question but anyway, I have a pimple right above my lip. It's touching a little part of my lip but it's not all the way on it. I don't want to pop it but I'm going to see my boyfriend tomorrow and I don't want ...
A. 9 June 2009: I know when I had bad acne in my younger years the Dr. prescribed Tetracycline, but I don't know if they do that anymore. You'll have to cover it up because your deadline is to short.... (read in full...)
Did he forget what he did? Game? or sincerity?
Q. My ex and I had an on and off relationship after the first 5 months of dating. I treated hims os good and he just seemed so unappreciative. On May 13 we hung out, slept together (pretty typical) and then he said he would come over the next night t...
A. 9 June 2009: He was probably just using you for the sex. It's good that you didn't answer his text, and the next time he comes knocking at your door tell him to take his penis elsewhere or go home and play with Rosy.... (read in full...)
I think I'm frigid
Q. Im very worried because i think im fridgid. All my life i hate it when people hugged me or touched me and im exteremly stiff, it never realy bothered me but then i relised something is very wrong with me. I dont want a boyfriend like everyone el...
A. 9 June 2009: Unfortunately past experiences can have a huge impact on your sex life so maybe. It also could be a chemical imbalance so I would consult your doctor as well. In your situation if it is your past that's making you this way then you'll just have... (read in full...)
I'm the other woman and I want out of the relationship
Q. I'm the other woman. I love my "boyfriend" and we have been together for 2 years I can't imagine being without him. He is always tellig me that he is going to leave his wife who he "visits" at there home about twice a month, but I don't believe him ...
A. 9 June 2009: At least you are aware that the relationship you are in is unhealthy. I'll never understand why women would want to "share" a man with his wife. Men I can understand, most are pigs, but women it always baffles me. Give him the heave ho, te... (read in full...)
Love Triangle and what to do about Travis!
Q. I am currently in a love triangle. My 2yr old daughters father is my childhood sweetheat we have been together on and off for 13yrs. We were together for 5 years starting at age 12 I became pregnant at 15 then lost the child at 6mths pregnant. so ...
A. 9 June 2009: I'm assuming that Travis doesn't have a criminal record. I would say Travis. Making a life and starting a family is difficult when one has been to prison, his worth as a provider has already been stunted because of what he did. Don't exclude ... (read in full...)
He kissed another girl and says he has a problem, do I forgive him again?
Q. I have a real problem and need some honest advice. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. During this time we have had problems a because he is a flirt and loves attention. I have never had proof that hes cheated, but often found flirty mes...
A. 9 June 2009: Nope, I don't think you're to blame in this at all. Cheaters are mentally weak and manipulative people. Don't lower yourself down to his level. I know, you already did it, we all have weak moments, but don't do it again, you're a better person ... (read in full...)
Need divorce advice!
Q. I’m going through a divorce right now, we have a home that he was living for the past 5 months and didn’t make any payments on it. He moved out two weeks ago so now I’m at the home. I want to keep this house what should I do? I’m going to file for ...
A. 9 June 2009: That's going to be pretty much impossible to get him to pay for the months that he was there that he didn't pay. Unfortunately everything is "marital assets", for your house what this means is that if you owe $100,000 and it appraises for $150,000 ... (read in full...)
I found Condoms in boyfriend's dresser drawer...is he cheating?!
Q. Okay, so I think my bf of a year and a half is cheating on me. I have thought this for sometime and even caught him in lies about phone calls and text conversations with other women. I confonted him on this and he told me that I am "perfect" and ...
A. 9 June 2009: Cheaters are liars, and unfortunately there is nothing you can do about that.
Yours is extremely sneaky, that's why he said he would tell you if he was cheating. He was trying to give you piece of mind that he wasn't cheating and that you were... (read in full...)
Teacher mystery. Please help!
Q. I know this is long, but I would really appreciate your help with this. This took place over years and I have to put everything in a few paragraphs... Like many of the cases mentioned on this site, mine also involves a teacher in high school. How...
A. 9 June 2009: Because even the slightest hint of impropriety can cause her to loose her teaching position.
Even if you just want to meet as friends, chat, talk about old times and nothing about starting a relationship it can still cause problems with her care... (read in full...)
My problem is that I am falling in love with my step son!
Q. my problem is...i recently got married and had a ba y. i'm 22 and my 19 yr old step son recently moved in with his father, myself and his new baby sister. withen the last few weeks i feel that i am falling in love with him. dont get me wrong i love ...
A. 9 June 2009: Ohh, Yuck!! Here's another one that needs to be hit with a rolled up newspaper on the nose. "Bad Stepmom, Bad Stepmom"
That relationship is not acceptable no matter what the health of your husband happens to be. He's 19, he can't be that mat... (read in full...)
If neither of us are committing to others but cannot commit to each other, where does that leave us?
Q. My perfect guy: He's smart and opinionated, good looking and not afraid to take control, the ultimate Alpha male but at the same time is sweet and sensitive, always making sure Im comfortable and happy......the one thing standing in the way of ...
A. 9 June 2009: Blowing in the wind, if he doesn't commit then you'll need to find someone else who fits your criteria for the perfect guy.
No amount of words or actions will make someone commit if they're not ready or going to.... (read in full...)
I am tired of guys I like not liking me back, what do I do to improve my likability?
Q. i dont feel pretty enough to deserve to be loved , they say its the inside that counts if that was true then i'd have someone by now right? im so lost and confused no one wants me the person i like just likes me as a friend sucha cliche. i need your ...
A. 9 June 2009: "Come naked, bring beer." - Jeff Foxworthy
Hopefully that got a laugh out of you.
I get so frustrated by the number of young people on this site who are stressing over the small stuff. Focus on your grades and career, trust me the rest will co... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to give him a hand job as I don't know how!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating since October of 2008 and I love him to pieces. In March, I lost my virginity to him and I don't regret it at all. When it comes to sexual things, he's fingered me, we've had sex(regular and doggy style), he's ...
A. 9 June 2009: First thing, make sure to use protection when you have sex. Too many young people are getting pregnant when they're not ready for the commitment. So use them!! They're easily found and there are plenty of Non-Profit Organizations that hand them ... (read in full...)
He kissed another girl and says he has a problem, do I forgive him again?
Q. I have a real problem and need some honest advice. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. During this time we have had problems a because he is a flirt and loves attention. I have never had proof that hes cheated, but often found flirty mes...
A. 9 June 2009: Remember every relationship will and does have problems. Cheating isn't a problem it's a disease and the only way to cure it is to separate from the cheater. And please don't try to excuse yourself because you slept with someone else. It was int... (read in full...)
Am I too you to propose marriage?
Q. I want to propose to my gf but i think i mite be too young im 19 and my girlfriend is to.i totally love her.I've just got 2 questions to ask. 1.Am I too young to propose? 2.How could I do it ?...
A. 9 June 2009: 1. Do you have a stable job or career? 2. Are you living on your own without roommates? If the answer to those questions are yes, then you're not too young to propose. But remember being married and living together is extremely different than... (read in full...)
Should my husband and I swap with my sister and her husband?
Q. hi i am 34 years old married woman and my husband is 36 years old working in multinational. we both like sex too much and we do sex daily morning and night 2-3 times. now we are thinking to have sex with other married couple and both are agree. he ...
A. 9 June 2009: Ooh, yuck. Have you ever heard of the saying that when you have sex with someone you've had sex with everyone they've had sex with? That means that technically you'll be sleeping with your sister. Not a good idea. If you and your husband wan... (read in full...)
I need to decide whether I want to marry this guy and I really can't make up my mind?
Q. Hey guys, just needed some advice on what to do. I met this guy on the net about a year ago, and we talked for months and months just over the phone, almost every night. I didn't really have the confidence to meet up with him for a while so I tried ...
A. 9 June 2009: Get out of the relationship now, change your number, and email address. Don't allow anyone to force you into marriage that's a sure fire way to know it'll end in divorce.
Also never, and I mean never marry someone that does not attract you phys... (read in full...)
Do you think he's serious about me?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about 3 weeks now. I'm not sure where we stand though. I dont know if he thinks of me as his gf or just someone he's dating or what? I dont know if we are 'exclusive' or not? He says things to me like 'your my baby, y...
A. 9 June 2009: You've been dating three weeks and you're looking for some sort of commitment. I think you need to relax, you really don't even know each other yet. He could be an axe murderer for all you know and you're looking for a solid commitment from him. ... (read in full...)
I'm still worried about losing my g/f!
Q. I am worried about losing my gf again i mean i lost her nearley to a guy before and then after that i nearley lost her to this girl and now i am just so worried about losing her AGAIN she means the world to me and now that we go back with each othe...
A. 9 June 2009: Find someone else, it's that simple. Put your priorities in perspective and realize that if she's almost always trying to leave you that she's not worth your time.... (read in full...)
Complicated family situation, I have a big weight on my shoulders, what should I do?
Q. Help, I'm overly overwhelmed with my life right know, this is the deal, I’ am 22 and I feel like I have the weight on the world on my shoulders…..1st…my dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, psychofrenia, I was 13-14. Growing up I saw my mom struggle ...
A. 9 June 2009: Make a list, it sounds like you've already done it anyway, it will help you put things into perspective. Taking care of family is a good thing, but it shouldn't idolize your time. This list should contain everything that you want to change about ... (read in full...)
Why do only older boys like me?
Q. Hi, i'm a 14 year old girl and i've never had a boyfriend. So now i want my 1st boyfriend cuz i'm starting high school this fall. I'm wondering how i could get a guy to like me. I'm overwieght and i think thats a reason. I'm 5'5'' and 180 lbs. But i ...
A. 9 June 2009: Whatever you do don't have sex with a boy to get them to like you. It doesn't work that way, they'll take what they want and move on, and they may start bad rumors about you in the process.
You're young, enjoy life, don't get caught up in the e... (read in full...)
My ex still wants to be friends but it's so hard as we are still attracted to each other.
Q. My ex boyfriend wants to be friends and I would like that too. He is a really great person. The problem we have this great attraction for each other and the last time we broke up and became friends we got back into a relationship but split again - ...
A. 9 June 2009: Again, you're another person who thinks that there is only one person in the world for them. Unless you live on a deserted island by yourself there are PLENTY of other guys out there. You need to separate from him so that you can move on, neither ... (read in full...)
Want to know if he still has feelings for me, what are the signs?
Q. me and my boyfriend broke up about 2-3 weeks ago because we never knew what to speak about. but now we're really close and speaking now. i think he still likes me but im not sure. what things would be obvious that he likes me? the other night me and ...
A. 9 June 2009: Splash cold water on your face, look in the mirror and repeat after me, "Who cares?". There are tons of other people out there who will love you and not put you through an emotional roller coaster. Find that other person, unless this is the only ... (read in full...)
Since she's fell pregnant she's become a different person!
Q. My ex gf is 3 months pregnant she told me she loved me next day she dumped me saying she cannot stand being with me and its not because she is pregnant well that hurt so i accepted it but said i want to see our baby when born and go to the scan she ...
A. 9 June 2009: Yep, hormones can be that bad. Luckily my wife wasn't like that when she was pregnant, but I've heard horror stories.
She's three months pregnant so abortion is out of the question at this time. Which means if she wants to get rid of the baby... (read in full...)
I feel like a fool! How do I forget him?
Q. I love a guy bcoz I always felt that he is very innocent and never can flirt with girls. A year later one of my friends told him that i love him. that time he did not said anything but a couple of days later he said that his first priorty is his ...
A. 9 June 2009: With friends like that who needs enemas? Sorry, little joke there. You're young, if the age you listed is correct, quit obsessing over one person.
Why is it that all young people today think that there is only one right person for them in the w... (read in full...)
Hymen problems...
Q. Dear Cupid, After a bit of reasearch, i found out that i have a septate hymen, which is really rare. While i attempted sexual intercourse, i started to bleed, but my hymen didnt break at all! What does this mean, am i not a virgin? Can i not have...
A. 9 June 2009: If you have had a penis in your vagina then you're not a virgin. It doesn't matter if your hymen breaks or not. This is a question better asked of a medical professional.... (read in full...)
Do I aske him where this relationship is going or is it too soon?
Q. Advice please.. I have been dating a 37 year old ( i am 28) for just under 2 months. We get on well, attracted to each other and go out on dates approx once or twice a week. He is a lovely affectionate guy, always holds my hand, cuddles,...
A. 9 June 2009: Yes, you're asking to much. You've only been together for two months, give it a little time. What's the big hurry??
Maybe he has a professional job and doesn't like to make personal calls while at work. Maybe he's a private person so he doesn... (read in full...)
I am getting tired of distrusting my husband!
Q. I am getting tired of distrusting my husband and he says he cannot stand more accusation as he has not done anything! Just a week ago I read a text message on his mobile: he had told a female work colleague that he would meet her for a run (that ...
A. 9 June 2009: Remember cheaters are liars, your husband is a cheater. Don't believe word one that comes out of his mouth.
If he's calling women in singles ad's then he's already hooked up with others or he's planning to do it real soon.
Put your foot down, ... (read in full...)
My family won't allow us to date again.
Q. I am 17 years old. I was in a relationship for almost 3 years. My ex-boyfriend was good to me in the beginning and the last year was bad. He tried to cheat on me with my best friend, he said mean things to me - he hated to touch my hand, he ...
A. 9 June 2009: Stop thinking that this is the only guy for you in the whole wide world. There are millions of others, and trust me some of them will treat you like you deserve to be treated.
Unless your parents have problems that you didn't provide they're ... (read in full...)
Being short...
Q. How do women feel having a short guy? To me it bothers me here or there. Has we are all the same lying down. But what if the guy has some hangups about his height being shorter than his partners how would you feel?...
A. 9 June 2009: Most short guy's have what I call "Short man's disease". It's where they like to puff up and out due everybody because they feel they need to compensate for their lack in stature.
Most wouldn't make a good long term relationship partner.... (read in full...)
Something has been missing for a long time, I cheated, but I'm miserable
Q. Im not really sure where to start with this mess that I am in. Im in a relationship and have been for a very long time but at the end of last year, even though I have never even looked in the direction of another man since we have been together I ...
A. 9 June 2009: I know what's missing....your morals. Leave your partner he's better off without you. And if he's a good father make sure not to keep the kids from him. Your children shouldn't suffer because you're a twisted cheater.
There was nothing wrong wi... (read in full...)
How do I avoid impure sexual relationships?
Q. I have a strong faith in Jesus Christ..but it just is getting harder and harder to stay away from sexual-like relationships that are impure. what to do??...
A. 9 June 2009: You're a little young to be having sexual like relationships. Even if you didn't have faith you should wait a little longer before you are more mature and can take the proper precautions.... (read in full...)
My negativity is pushing her away and I cant lose her!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend/best friend for close to a year. She is, by a long shot, the best thing to ever enter my life. Im 28 and I just now found love. The problem and my question is I get so paranoid that she will find someone else. I used to ...
A. 8 June 2009: She may be cheating on you and your subconscious is reacting that way. Or you could have change physically, gained weight, lost hair, or something. If that's the case then work on slimming down, or change hair styles.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my 11 year old cousin that I love her?
Q. Hi i am an 18 year old boy and last week i met my cousin who is 11years old actually i met her for the very first time...we had nice time and became really very close.but i have fallen in love with her i am too much attracted to her. What shall i ...
A. 8 June 2009: One word, YUCK! 11 seriously? She isn't even a teenager yet.
Keep your stuff in your pants and keep quiet. Don't confuse her in the sexual arena like someone obviously did to you.... (read in full...)
Teacher mystery. Please help!
Q. I know this is long, but I would really appreciate your help with this. This took place over years and I have to put everything in a few paragraphs... Like many of the cases mentioned on this site, mine also involves a teacher in high school. How...
A. 8 June 2009: Of course she acted "weird". SHE DIDN'T WANT TO LOOSE HER JOB. Having a sexual relationship with a minor student would cause her to loose her job, teaching credential, and lively hood. She would never be able to work as a teacher again, and if ... (read in full...)
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