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writes:I'm the other woman. I love my "boyfriend" and we have been together for 2 years I can't imagine being without him. He is always tellig me that he is going to leave his wife who he "visits" at there home about twice a month, but I don't believe him anymore because he has been saying that for about a year. Long story short I want to try to move on and let go any advice for getting out of an unhealthy relationship that I want to be in?
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reader, rcn +, writes (9 June 2009):
 Let me ask you this complicated question.....Why don't you love yourself?
I ask this because I wonder why you feel like your only good to be second in his life. Why can't you be first in someone's life????? You set yourself up in a relationship which is causing you to be played. He's married, so you don't have any right to him, and it doesn't seem as if he's hurrying to change this position. YOU DESERVE BETTER. You deserve to be the one that someone can't wait to see you in the morning and wants to be the last person they see before falling asleep. You need someone who calls you just to hear your voice, where every day you feel appreciated because they feel blessed for finding you.
These relationships exist, but I haven't seen them when one person is married. I want you to have the best, and stop settling. Decide what you want in someone, and don't hook up until you know that's the person you're looking for.
I hope this helps, take care.
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reader, holikdad +, writes (9 June 2009):
At least you are aware that the relationship you are in is unhealthy.I'll never understand why women would want to "share" a man with his wife. Men I can understand, most are pigs, but women it always baffles me.Give him the heave ho, tell him to go back to his family and start being a husband. In general I despise cheaters so don't be the other woman. I would think that if he hasn't divorced his wife probably doesn't know the details of your relationship. And men like that never will leave them, it's a security they enjoy and the sex they get from you.Remember, don't be the other woman. It's not a title that you can carry with pride.
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