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writes:I want to propose to my gf but i think i mite be too young im 19 and my girlfriend is to.i totally love her.I've just got 2 questions to ask.1.Am I too young to propose?2.How could I do it ? Reply to this Question
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (15 June 2009):
 aaawww yeah that's cute :)very smart and decent of you until you actually decide what to do in the future and get the money to do a great big wedding together :)very sweet.best of luck
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reader, SRJ +, writes (14 June 2009):
SRJ is verified as being by the original poster of the question I have decided that im gonna get her an eternity ring instead.
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reader, daletom  +, writes (9 June 2009):
Read the threads "Should we get engaged?" at [ http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-we-get-engaged.html ] and "Is three years long enough to have been together before getting engaged?" at [ http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-three-years-long-enough-to-have-been.html ]. There is plenty of good advice there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): why dont you give her a special ring, but not an engagement ring
just dont rush into it, it could end in tears x
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reader, swardson10 +, writes (9 June 2009):
Please please wait a couple more years, yes its true that there isnt a age requirement for marriage but im 21 and ive been engaged twice and both have failed. You never know who someone is completely until you have lived far away from each other for a little while and have lived together.
My first engagement was to a girl i didnt completely love and i didnt see that until i was out of the relationship, and my second engagement was to a girl i loved with all my heart, she was it for me and she was the perfect girlfriend, and then she moved to go to college and things started to go downward because of the distance and she couldnt handle it and broke up with me.
Not everyone goes through these similar situations but i think its better to wait just a couple more years with this girl before popping the question. If god forbid you two break up after being engaged you are stuck with paying off a large Ring bill, you cant return those things.
Good luck
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reader, holikdad +, writes (9 June 2009):
1. Do you have a stable job or career?2. Are you living on your own without roommates?If the answer to those questions are yes, then you're not too young to propose. But remember being married and living together is extremely different than dating and going out on weekends. You have to take the good and the bad, you have to wake up in the morning and look at this person and say in your head that you love her and you'll always be there to support her.How do you propose? Easy, take her to her favorite place, it could be a restaurant, it could be the top of some mountain with a view it doesn't have to cost $$$. Then get down on one knee and say something like this "I love you, you make me happier than any other woman in this world has. I want to spend the rest of my life with you, have children with you. Will you be my wife?".If she say's no then she's a skank and doesn't deserve you anyway. Just kidding, wanted to end on a funny note.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): There is no age requirement for proposals.
Your age doesn't define your state of readiness as your maturity, quailty of life, financial situation, etc. does.
But just becuase you're engaged doesn't mean you have to be immediately ready for the wedding and moving in together. You may just want to finalize your relationship. People are engaged for years without being married.
I am 19 and married, however, he is in the army, currently deplyed and therefor has a lot of money coming in.
As for what you can do..
Make it special for her. You know the places that she loves. Where did you first meet, fir instance? Where do you hang out the most? Where do you have the best memoried? My suggestion is to take her back to one of those places, get her in a happy, romantic state of mind, and just pop it, without worrying or caring who is around.
Best of luck!
~SY.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (9 June 2009):
i guess you aren't young but as Armymedic says
can you really afford it all?
the dress the food the music everything to go with it.
and do you actually have the money to support you both through all of that.
do you both actually have steady jobs?
you need to really plan with this really need steady jobs that you know can keep you getting money through out.
if not then perhaps start a savings account keep a bit away each month and it'll mount up and then see what happens then.
but don't rush into this if you've not got the money or steadiness of a job to support you guys.
Hope this helps.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (9 June 2009):
 You are not too young, but can you afford a nice ring (£600-£1000) a wedding(£10,000+), and a place for you both to live (£90,000+ or £350-£900 per month)?
If your answer is: I want a long engagement or I don't want to get married yet, don't propose! Long engagements can get stale very quickly, if you want to tell her you'll love her forever get her an eternity ring and make sure she knows you haven't proposed.
If you answer YES to all those questions your next step is to ask her Dad's permission (old fashioned I know but it always helps to have the future in-laws on your side)
Now is the difficult bit asking her (the asking is easy: get down on one knee tell her you love her, and ask her to marry you.) you have to find a suitably romantic time and place and try and make it spontaneous otherwise she'll guess what's going on and ruin your surprise.
I suggest you talk to her about your future and her dreams, don't blurt out what ring size are you and where would you like me to propose, but get some hints from her. Because if you do it in the way she hasn't dreamed about, since she was 4, she will think that you aren't soulmates and won't last forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): All you have to say is "will you marry me ONE day"
Like when your 25 or something.
I dont doubt that you love each other but 19 is very young to be thinking about marriage ,in my culture at least.
Dont forget you can be commited without being legally bound.
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reader, *problems* +, writes (9 June 2009):
 if you feel ready then why not!! theres no perfect age to propose,, if you love trust and respect her and have an honest and happy relationship ,, why not!, There are loads of young people who rush in to marraige,, so before you do , tihnk about it and make sure its what you really want! i no im no expert but if you have any doubt then your not ready! think about what your life is like with her!! its a lifetime commitment hope ive helped ,, hope it all works out for you and goodluck x :D
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