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writes:my problem is...i recently got married and had a ba y. i'm 22 and my 19 yr old step son recently moved in with his father, myself and his new baby sister. withen the last few weeks i feel that i am falling in love with him. dont get me wrong i love his father more than all the stars. but maybe i feel this way because my husband is older and not in good health and i know when he leaves this word the only people i'll have is my daughter and his son.what do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): What th anonymous poster said a couple of posts below is right. He is your husband's son, who put trust in you over his family, ie. his son. Reverse the roles and see how wrong that is, how would you feel? You'd destroy their father and son relationship completely - not to mention the feelings of your husband (just becaue he's old his feelings are not to be treated like crap). It'd be massive inconsdieracy.
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reader, deelite007  +, writes (9 June 2009):
My exes sons were closer in age to me than I was to my ex and we all had fun together partying etc.
However you may be confusing your feelings. Your husband is your step sons daddy.Dont get carried away, as said in an earlier post your S.S is just a younger version of his DAD. Keep saying DAD, my husband is HIS Dad in your mind over and over! You dont want to go down that road as its going to break the family to pieces.
Hopefully it will all sort itself out soon. Good Luck.
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reader, holikdad +, writes (9 June 2009):
Ohh, Yuck!! Here's another one that needs to be hit with a rolled up newspaper on the nose. "Bad Stepmom, Bad Stepmom"
That relationship is not acceptable no matter what the health of your husband happens to be. He's 19, he can't be that mature, I remember how I was at that age and trust me he's not mature.
This is also what happens when someone marries someone WAY older than them. I'm assuming your husband is in his early 40's or late 30's.
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reader, rocknroll +, writes (9 June 2009):
Sounds like you have missed a part of your youth, and this step son might bring this feeling out. Apparently you have married a much older man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): Hi,I feel the best way to put this into percpective is this. How would you feel if when you were older and your baby daughter was 19- you married a younger man and he felt like he was "falling in love" with your daughter.Your husband has put you in a position and trust, you have become a guardian to that child and that is what he is a child. You are living in the same house because your husband trusts you as his wife not so you can contemplate a relationship with his son. In regards to your husband being old seeing as though you are 22 I am sure he was old when you married him.I think you married too soon and your feelings are completely misguided my advice to you is stay away from entertaining those feelings as the damage it will cause will be irrepairable.I know it is hard as emotions can be very powerful and a lot of the time not our choice at all, but you must ignore them and concentrate on creating a stable happy home for your husband, baby girl and son.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): why does your age say 13-15, but you said you are 22? Of course you are falling in love with him, he is the hotter younger version of your husband. Im sorry, I am no help on this one. All I can say is you obviously made a mistake in marrying your husband.
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