Do you think I might still have a chance with him?
Q. I have a friend who I've known about four years. A few years ago he said he had feelings for me. I said I had previously liked him, but at that time i saw us more as just friends. We kept in touch very close, until I got into a relationship...
A. 12 June 2015: Dear OP,
Instead of answering your question if you still have a chance with him - would you WANT that chance?
I mean, so far your feelings have only been friendly. Do you think you could truly love him, as a partner? If he gave you his heart, w... (read in full...)
Almost 18 years married: Should I stay or should I go?
Q. I have been married for almost 18 years. We have 5 children ages 6 to 16. We only dated 6 weeks before we decided to get married because we were having sex, it was great, and we knew, being Christians and having met in church, that it was wrong. So ...
A. 8 June 2015: Dear OP,
I admire your strength and courage!
Wish you all the best for this step that is no doubt a difficult, but necessary one.
... (read in full...)
Almost 18 years married: Should I stay or should I go?
Q. I have been married for almost 18 years. We have 5 children ages 6 to 16. We only dated 6 weeks before we decided to get married because we were having sex, it was great, and we knew, being Christians and having met in church, that it was wrong. So ...
A. 7 June 2015: Dear OP, There is a quote by Konfuzius, going a little like: If you make a mistake and don't correct it, you are making a second one. You married a man that you don't love and that acts in a way that makes it impossible for you to develop lo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated in a past relationship! Should I leave him before he cheats on me?
Q. If my boyfriend cheated on his ex girlfriend (this was before he knew me or was dating me) would he also cheat on me? As far as I know (from what he has told me) he only cheated once. Do you think I should end our relationship now because he WILL ...
A. 6 June 2015: Dear OP, I can only advise you to accept the complexity of human beings, men and women alike. And to avoid simplifications that have tried and failed to make love and dating a safe and easy thing. I am sure your friends mean well, but when it c... (read in full...)
I seem to have outgrown my circle of friends ....
Q. I don't particularly like any of my friend group anymore. They still act like teenagers. I rarely reply to group WhatsApp conversations because I just can't relate to it it's usually so childish. When I do respond... I'm usually ignored. I don't ...
A. 4 June 2015: Dear OP,
My advice would be as follows (I know the problem of suddenly not fitting into your group of friends anymore):
- Keep your old friends on a more superficial, occasional level. Remember important days like birthdays for instance.
... (read in full...)
Can women realistically start a family past 30?
Q. I suppose the purpose of this question is to hear from women who have started a family after the age of 30. Those of you in the UK might have seen that a top fertility doctor has just said publicly that women who want kids should try before t...
A. 2 June 2015: Dear OP,
I am 32 and I know more women that became mothers in their thirties than I know women who became mothers in their twenties. All of the babies are healthy.
Give yourself some time to digest the breakup, calm down, there's no reaso... (read in full...)
Is my sister's mental illness a reason for me to not have children?
Q. So, I'm at the age (early 30's) where my partner and I are thinking it's probably time we look at starting a family. But we're undecided as to what to do. I've always been a maternal person. I've always been excited about the idea of becoming a mu...
A. 1 June 2015: Dear OP, I feel very sorry for your family situation. The heredity of bipolar disorder and schizophrenia are there, to a certain degree, but there may have been some triggers that caused the disorder to start. Also, there are many possible ... (read in full...)
He's dragging his feet over a second meeting?
Q. About a month ago I met this great man online. He had some health problems and we weren't able to meet in person for a while but we'd spend long hours texting on Skype or talking on the phone. Finally, the day came in which we met. We spent the ...
A. 31 May 2015: Dear OP,
I agree with the other agony aunts.
IF he was interested in you, he would make time. Sure, entrepreneurs work a lot, but remember, he was able to spend a whole afternoon with you on the first date.
AND if he was really too busy to have... (read in full...)
Two years and I'm still not over him?
Q. My life is just miserable. My ex dumped me about 2 years ago. I'm moving on very very slowly. I blocked his Facebook page, deleted all the pictures, put away everything that would remind me of him. I even moved abroad and focused on myself only. ...
A. 31 May 2015: Dear OP, I've read once a brilliant passage about moving on, in an otherwise quite mediocre book (Mars and Venus Starting Over, by John Gray). It says that to get over a relationship, you need to allow all the feelings that belong to a separa... (read in full...)
Should I let go now or forgive him since we weren't officially dating?
Q. Should I let go now or forgive him since we weren't officially dating? ok so I need some advice , so me and this guy have been talking for about eight months now but we are not officially together he and I both decided that until I moved then we ...
A. 30 May 2015: Dear OP,
Maybe I am too old to understand this "label" thing, but for me, when you say you love someone and introduce them to your family, and you also get jealous, it's clear somehow that this is a relationship and is meant to be exclusiv... (read in full...)
It makes me sick that I keep visiting prostitutes but I can't stop. Please help!
Q. i:am lonely an can"t stop picking up prostitues. it makes me sick and I don't no what to do.please,please help me...
A. 29 May 2015: Dear OP, When you are doing something that's not good for you, but you can't stop, it's an addiction. You need professional help for that. You need to find ways to get out of your loneliness, which means learning new things about spending your ... (read in full...)
I'm considering plastic surgery as I hate my jaw - advice?
Q. I'm in my early twenties. I'm not bad looking otherwise and do get attention but I have a huge jaw and chin (think Olivia Wilde but my chin is really wide too) I am not fat its just genetics. It means smiling with my mouth open looks horrible (I have...
A. 29 May 2015: Dear OP, As far as your environment goes, I don't think this should hold you back. If you can stand behind this decision, then those people who really love you will still love you, with or without the surgery. BUT I would encourage you to d... (read in full...)
2 years of sleeping with ex who is married. Do I walk away?
Q. Been sleeping with ex for almost 2 years. He's married. I said to him "when you get divorced we can spend more time together". He said, "you'll find someone" I said so will you, since he's been saying he's getting divorced. He responded, "I have ...
A. 26 May 2015: Dear OP,
"You'll find someone" translates into: You'll find someone else than me. He also told you he already has someone.
He couldn't be any clearer. He's saying that if you keep sleeping with him, it's 100% your own risk of breaking your he... (read in full...)
How do I impress a woman in 5 minutes during a Speed Dating event?
Q. This question is mainly for men but the ladies can chime in as well. If you meet a woman for the first time and have only 5 minutes to talk what will you ask or say to her that would leave an impression on her? I am wondering what topics I can tal...
A. 24 May 2015: Dear OP, As a woman who has already done speed dating events, here are my two cents on how to impress the ladies: 1) Look your best! How you look is at least 70% of the success of a speed dating event, because you don't have much time for tal... (read in full...)
What are my options, because I feel trapped? He shouts and becomes abusive. I want to pack my bags and go with our child.
Q. I've been with my husband for almost 11 years, married for 5. We have a little boy who is 2 and a half. I'm really stuck as to whether I should leave my husband. I haven't been in love with him for a while. However we are good friends and bein...
A. 24 May 2015: Dear OP,
No, I don't think you're overreacting.
This has clearly gotten out of hand and he's not willing to change. Your impulse to run away seems like the best way to be safe. I hope Abellas' links will prove useful.
... (read in full...)
Why does my ex blame me for his failed conquests?
Q. Why does my ex blame me for his failed conquests? I fell out with a guy I had a brief fling with. He is one of these smooth talkers, who likes to chat the women up - so I said I couldn't cope with his flirting around etc anymore. So anyway, we fi...
A. 23 May 2015: Dear OP,
He is blaming you, so he doesn't have to blame himself. He feels better thinking, that somewhere out there, there is an evil woman who takes away his conquests, rather than admitting he's not as charming as he used to be.
Yes, so... (read in full...)
Life after swinging?
Q. Hi Just wondered how people that have swung return to normal monogamous sex with their partners? I'm a gangbang host and just worry sex will bore me after if I ever return to normal sex....
A. 23 May 2015: Dear OP,
Personally, I've tried threesomes and other things like that, but I have a preference for intimate sex with one partner.
So it has never been a problem to "go back".. I actually enjoy relationship sex the most. There's somethin... (read in full...)
I'm being pushed into a marriage that I don't want! I want out but don't want to hurt anyone
Q. My parents have seen a guy for me to get married.That guy is my relative. he is 10 years older to me.i felt it as so odd.Im 23 and he is 32.We never really talked or met much.All my relatives and my parents forced and brainwashed me to accept that ...
A. 23 May 2015: Dear OP, I read a bit about arranged marriages in India, before answering this post. In my country, we have a different process of finding a partner. Intuitively, I would advise you to try again and change your parents' mind. Ask them why they... (read in full...)
My husband has been very ill and now has depression. But his anger is affecting me. How am I supposed to put up with all his changed behaviour?
Q. 6 months ago my husband has emergency surgery. He had been suffering with ulcerative colitis and it had gotten so bad it was life threatening. He had a horrendous recovery and now has a ileostomy at 26 and a surgical hernia. He suffers badly wi...
A. 21 May 2015: Dear OP, I am so very sorry for you and your family. It sounds like an awful lot to go through. There's no easy and smart advice I could give you, because no matter what, you have hard times behind you and you are also facing difficult times a... (read in full...)
I think my GF has a romance phobia. Should I give my gf some more time, or how best to handle the situation?
Q. I have been dating my girl friend for just over a year now. We have an excellent relationship and we are happy together. I am in my thirties and she is in mid twenties and we have a 10 years of difference. I love everything about her. She is a lo...
A. 21 May 2015: Dear OP, Your girlfriend is not really in love with you, maybe hasn't really been in love with anybody else so far (she might be lying about that to make you feel better), or is secretly afraid to commit. But no matter what is true, we can sti... (read in full...)
How to cope with a girlfriend who cheated on you and then left you for someone else?
Q. How to cope with a girlfriend who cheated on you and then left you for someone else? Please help. I was with my ex and I thought everything was great. She blindsided me by cheating. Before I found out about it, she broke up with me what felt lik...
A. 18 May 2015: Dear OP, According to your ex's best friend, you are an intelligent, respectful man who treats his girlfriend well. A true gentleman in the best sense of the word. Your ex doesn't seem to be happy, and I am sure she is NOT, if she has to r... (read in full...)
Why am I still single at 25?
Q. Hi all, So my dilemma is that I'm 25 and still single. A little about me: I'm a design student and working and I also practice fine arts. I'm considered very attractive and I'm a classic introvert. Usually, I work/study from morning to night...
A. 18 May 2015: Dear OP, You are attractive, BUT an introvert pessimist and you don't go out very much. You answered your question perfectly. That's why you're single in a nutshell. Boyfriends don't just happen just because you are attractive and deep ... (read in full...)
Always young and physically perfect: Why do the porn mags and sites predominately use these type of women?
Q. Lots of questions from women worried that they don't meet mens beauty standards and the usual answers say something along the lines of men are forgiving of flaws, women are their own worst enemies etc But when one looks at the images men consume ...
A. 17 May 2015: Dear OP,
I am under the impression that you are masking an accusation towards men as a question, which is a passive-aggressive thing to do.
You have been given good answers to your question, but I am not sure they are answering the de... (read in full...)
Dating, yet I often feel lonely. How do I rid myself of this feeling? Or will it always be with me?
Q. My boyfriend of nearly three years opened a business at the start of the year and it's going really well.. I'm so proud of him. My selfish problem is that I feel quite lonely these days. He's working 6am to 9.30pm Monday to Friday and until 4p...
A. 15 May 2015: Dear OP, I totally understand this situation, it feels familiar to me. It sounds that your boyfriend, as a business owner, can't really work any less at the moment.. or can he? So, sure it's great to try and support him in that. While he made... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's place turns me off and I don't want to have sex with him
Q. Im struggling with my feelings toward my boyfriend of a little over a year. I feel we only see each other once a week at best, and its a dull patern of food, tv/movies, sex, sleep. I feel he doesn't listen to me talk and that we aren't really ...
A. 15 May 2015: Dear OP,
I feel that you are settling for a relationship with a guy that doesn't really appreciate you and who you are not really compatible with. Intimacy should be the goal of the relationship, not something that you are afraid or annoyed ... (read in full...)
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