What happens when your lover asks you to be just friends?
Q. SInce the time I started dating to now I've never per say had a successful relationship. I have never broken up with a guy but every guy I have been with has broken up with me. I've never been able to figure out why but I have thought of some ...
A. 22 March 2010: I really believe you can do without someone like him in you life in any capacity, he really doesn't deserve your friendship let alone anything more than that.
I'd cut any ties you have with him and move on the best you can.... (read in full...)
How could he forget me so easily?
Q. how could he forget all about me so easy? my ex left me 3 years ago.we were married for 15 years and have 2 children. my son was only 8 weeks old when I found out that he has been cheating on me with his nurse while I was pregnant. He sai...
A. 21 March 2010: He might do but you never know or he could continue his life and never really realise or think he's done wrong.
You need to try your best to move past all this and concentrate on only building a relationship with him for the sake of the children... (read in full...)
Is my jealousy uncalled for?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 1/2 years, we have been through a lot of terrible things together, most of them my fault, however we have gotten through those things..mostly... and are trying to make things work. We have a son that is ...
A. 21 March 2010: I feel you really do need to talk to her, if she can behave badly when you are out with her I can't imagine how she behaves when you're not.
She seems to be acting and doing the same kind of things she did when you weren't together, the not answ... (read in full...)
Is it really wrong of me to talk to his mate?
Q. Hi all, I just need to get your views on this stupid situation I am in. I've been seeing this guy for a few months. He introduced me to his friends a few months ago. I clicked with one of his friends straight away. Anyway this week, I saw m...
A. 21 March 2010: I'm actually not surprised your boyfriend is feeling like this, you say you that you spoke to his friend about how you don't see your boyfriend as much as you'd like to yet you pick chatting on the phone to his friend when you could be on the phone ... (read in full...)
How can I say what I mean to him without getting all tongue tied?
Q. I have seen this guy for about two weeks. He seems like a good guy and I would like it to work out for us. Unfortunately, I am not very good at reading people's character and know about them deep down. I can have a good laugh but when it comes to ...
A. 21 March 2010: If you really feel you can't do this in spoken words because you don't think you'll be able to express or get the right words together to do so then try writing it, least that way you can get your words down and read them back to yourself, make ... (read in full...)
Is it time for a break?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months. The first 3 months were like the moon and stars aligned and it was made of things that novels are written about. At the beginning of the new year, our blissfulness wore off. His future ex (he is ...
A. 21 March 2010: If you really feel a break is what is needed and what you want then that's exactly what you should do, although I do feel talking your feelings through with him first can't do any harm and if nothing can be solved through talking to him about your ... (read in full...)
What happens when your lover asks you to be just friends?
Q. SInce the time I started dating to now I've never per say had a successful relationship. I have never broken up with a guy but every guy I have been with has broken up with me. I've never been able to figure out why but I have thought of some ...
A. 21 March 2010: I don't think trying to be friends with someone so soon after the relationship ending is a good idea as it can feel and slip into seeming like the relationship never ended and feelings continue and people get hurt.
I would distance yourself... (read in full...)
He told me dreamed about kissing me - why won't he actually do it?
Q. My relationship with my friend is driving me crazy. We met a little over a month ago through a mutual friend while he was still dating a girl who is now his ex. Lately we have been spending a lot of time together going out, hanging out at my ...
A. 21 March 2010: He's openly told you he's not ready to date anyone right now so I'm sure he's not made a move because he knows he can't take that move onto anything else right now so making a move would probably just complicate things or force something he's not ... (read in full...)
Is my jealousy uncalled for?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 1/2 years, we have been through a lot of terrible things together, most of them my fault, however we have gotten through those things..mostly... and are trying to make things work. We have a son that is ...
A. 20 March 2010: I don't think your jealousy is uncalled for, I would be and I'm sure alot of people would be the same in the same situation, she's behaving and doing things she did when you weren't together and openly confessed at those times she was messing around ... (read in full...)
Should I be jealous here?
Q. My girlfriend and I met online. At the time she had a boyfriend in real life and we were just talking as friends. About a week after she dumped her boyfriend, we both admitted having feelings for each other. We met this last winter and say we ...
A. 20 March 2010: I don't think shes doing anything wrong, she doesn't flirt back just ignores his flirting but I do feel she could have asked him to calm the flirting down as they're just friends but she hasn't, although flirting never hurt anyone especially if its ... (read in full...)
Is it time for a break?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months. The first 3 months were like the moon and stars aligned and it was made of things that novels are written about. At the beginning of the new year, our blissfulness wore off. His future ex (he is ...
A. 20 March 2010: Only you can really decide what is right for you, if this situation is too much for you then you're right in thinking you should take a break but personally I would talk to him first, maybe if he knows how you really feel about all this then he ... (read in full...)
How could he forget me so easily?
Q. how could he forget all about me so easy? my ex left me 3 years ago.we were married for 15 years and have 2 children. my son was only 8 weeks old when I found out that he has been cheating on me with his nurse while I was pregnant. He sai...
A. 20 March 2010: I would find a way to speak to him, you may never get your question answered and I'm not sure you should even try to but you really do need to find some kind of polite ground for the sake of your children and I would try to make him see that things ... (read in full...)
My insecurities are ruining my relationship!!
Q. Hi, I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year and a half now and I love him to pieces but I don't understand why I'm hell bent on ruining it. A few years ago I started dating my ex - we were together for 2 years, and then I...
A. 20 March 2010: Its normal to feel like this when you've had someone lie to you and cheat on you but what you've got to remember is not everyone is like that.
I've been in the same situation as you and you know you shouldn't be thinking or feeling like it but y... (read in full...)
Who should I trust in this situation?
Q. so i hav known this guys 4 almost 4 years now an his mom longer neway we ran back n2 each other last april we started datin caught up where our friendship left off an started makin plans i moved n w/him an his mom we bought a motorcycle everythin ...
A. 20 March 2010: I would say follow your gut feeling.
I don't understand how if he loves you and he's not with anyone else why you aren't back together.
I would have to find out whats really going on with him because its not really fair on you waiting around f... (read in full...)
Parent friendly ideas to surprise my boyfriend in the morning.
Q. ok well im off to suprise my boyfriend tommorrow ive planned it with his mum. im going to get to his house before he wakes up in the morning and then snuggle with him until he wakes up as he keeps wishing that he could wake up to my beautiful face ...
A. 20 March 2010: Sometimes it is just the simple things that really do mean the most.
Personally I would just sneak into the bed with him and cuddle up with him, if you want him to wake up I would give him kisses until he does otherwise just lay there with him... (read in full...)
Why did he suddenly lose interest in sex?
Q. What are the causes,when a man suddenly does not want sex with is wife? My husband suddenly gone off sex.. He never said why. Like 6 month ago I was feeling too much pressure to satisfy him. And he was like that, for 20 years. He loves me ,he says...
A. 20 March 2010: There could be many reasons for this sudden change, it could even be something medical.
Talk to him, see if you can get to the bottom of whats going on and what he's thinking and feeling, also explain to him how you're feeling.
Communication... (read in full...)
Back and forth online argument and I don't think that I should apologize.
Q. Evening peeps! I would like some opinions on my current situation please. On facebook recently I put as my post " Im 99.9 per cent sure children are more messy than dogs,lol!" Now this post was regards to my mate who'd I'd just gone to visit. S...
A. 20 March 2010: I don't think you did anything wrong, you was holding a joke with a friend of yours which seemed to hit a nerve with your cousin, you did right by going to your cousin and explaining it was a joke between you and your friend and really that should ... (read in full...)
How can I win my friend over?
Q. basically me and my close female friend get on great but recently i realised that i was in love with her and so i told her but got the lets just be friends for now speech. its been about a month now but i'm finding it really hard to find out to talk ...
A. 20 March 2010: I would try the asking her and trying to talk to her and not take the 'I'm just tired' answer as the end of it.
You need to find out whats going on with these mood changes and change in her way towards you at the drop of a hat because its not fair... (read in full...)
How can I stop things being so awkward between us? And should I ask her out?
Q. i will start from the beginning there is this girl who went out with my best mate and she added me on facebook and msn so we started to get to know each other eventually she and my mate broke up after a few weeks/months and i didn't really ta...
A. 20 March 2010: I think theres alot of you telling her your feelings but from what you've said there isn't anything in what you said about what she feels towards you, have you asked her?
I do feel your feelings have been conflicting and probably have come acr... (read in full...)
Why does he need to contact these other women?
Q. hi everyone new to the site and just finding my feet... Im on a mission here to bascially find advice on how to save my relationship. Im currently totally confused and feel im drifting more and more on a daily basis to losing my partner who i ...
A. 20 March 2010: From the way you've explained it, it seems to me that its more an issue with you feeling insecure and jealous than an issue of him actually doing anything wrong regarding these women.
As you've said he prefers female friends to male ones but at t... (read in full...)
Depressed and miss having a woman in my life...
Q. Hi, My ex gf broke up with me almost 5 months ago. She was my first serious gf and we dated for almost 2 years. I loved this girl with all my heart and I learned so much from my relationship with her. I was as happy as I could be and treated her ...
A. 20 March 2010: I think sometimes when a relationship ends out of the blue with no real indications to being problems or issues you do struggle to understand why and without that it's harder to get over that relationship.
This is your first love and you was toge... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he believe me when I say we CAN do this???
Q. Okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 2 years now. I go to college but my scholarships cover my tuition. my bf *harvey* works full time at a local glass company. I work part-time at a preschool. I've laid out a budget. We can buy a ...
A. 20 March 2010: I would probably try to see if there might be another reason why he doesn't think you can do it.
When you really want to do something you find a way to do it even if that means stretching yourself so the fact he just doesn't think you can makes me... (read in full...)
The contraceptive rod!
Q. hi all new to this i was wondering i have the contraceptive rod in have done so for about a year and a half it is said it lasts for 3 years but i want to try for a baby will the doctors take it out? i have heard they dont like to take it out early, ...
A. 20 March 2010: My doctor quite happily removed mine and I'd only had mine in for less than a year.
It does state on the leaflet I got about forms of contraception that it lasts for 3 years but it can be removed earlier and I don't see any reason why they wou... (read in full...)
Negative? Could it still be Positive?
Q. I was just wondering is it possible to have a negative pregnancy test and yet infact b pregnant. I have heard it is but yet I havnt heard of anyone this actually happening to so I would to hear from people who this had happened to. I am only three ...
A. 20 March 2010: I had a negative result back on a pregnancy test when I was pregnant with my child and I have known it to happened to other people so it is possible.
You might have taken the test too soon, some tests require a certain period of time after yo... (read in full...)
Should I confess to him?
Q. I'm 16 and a junior in high school and I'm deeply in love with a good friend of mine. I've had a crush on him for a little under a year but lately, I think my feelings have escalated. He's all I can think about and every time I do my heart feels so ...
A. 20 March 2010: You're not a terrible person for feeling the way you do, we don't control how we feel or who we feel those feelings towards its how you deal with those feelings that matters.
If you feel you need to tell him then do so, only you really know wha... (read in full...)
After the gym...everything is hurting and I am worried I have damaged something.
Q. I was in the gym yesterday and everything was okay...some weights, some treadmill etc etc- the norm. Today however my shoulder muscles are hurting terribly and i am worried i might have done damage or something. please help. thanks....
A. 8 March 2008: Any type of exercise you should always start and finish with a warm up kind of exercise and you should always slowly bring your body into adjusting to the new exercise, I know when i do exercise the next day and sometimes a few more after that I ... (read in full...)
Does joining an adult dating site make me look desperate??
Q. I'm considering joining one of those websites where you find people who are looking for intimate/sexual relationships... But I'm a bit concerned about how that may look and how people look at me. I know it shouldn't matter, but I worry it would make ...
A. 8 March 2008: I personally myself wouldn't join a dating agency, I would prefer to find someone not intentionally looking for someone but I'm the one that makes the stop and think I want to be with her.
I would use something like a chatroom, you'd get to know... (read in full...)
My head is a mess...i've fallen for this guy but I know there is another girl but think it's not serious.
Q. I met a guy about a month ago and during that time I've grown quite fond of him. He is amazing, and I mean that in every possible way. He is gorgeous, funny, very succesful, kind, everything, he is just amazing. When I think about him I just smi...
A. 8 March 2008: He could have asked if you was seeing someone just to return the question out of sheer politeness so I wouldn't get too stuck on reasons why.
The best thing you can do is be his friend, get to know him and let him get to know you, he could be feel... (read in full...)
I can't bear the thought of spending the rest of my life with him...but he just won't leave.
Q. hi, ive been married 22 years and since i turned 40, 2 years ago, ive realised how unhappy i am and all i can remember of my 1st 20 yrs of marriage misery. My 2 kids are now grown up and im far from happy with my husband,, dont think i ever rea...
A. 8 March 2008: If he won't leave and this is something you really want then I would suggest you are the one leaving, this will give you the break from him and also a new fresh start thats not in the marital home you shared with your husband.
Make sure this is real... (read in full...)
If I just drink Fanta and Coke till Easter Sunday and eat nothing will I lose weight??
Q. Dear Cupid, what will happen to me if i only drink fanta or coke zero til easter sunday? And eat nothing? I just have one can a day (330 ml) and that it. Will i lose any weight? What side effects would it cause me to have? Is this an awful idea? T...
A. 8 March 2008: If you don't eat when you do the food you do eat will be stored as fat and will make you very bloated and appear of a higher weight than what you actually are.
The best way to lose weight is to eat the right amount of everything within your diet... (read in full...)
I worry so much about having sex, even after 5 years of being in a relationship. Please help?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we are in a very loving relationship. I really am very happy but there is just one problem; sex. For almost 4 years of our relationship I had constant kidney and urine infections which meant sex ...
A. 8 March 2008: Is there something worrying you that is causing you to shy away from sex or is it just you don't want it or don't feel sexually aroused?
I would also like to know same as DoubleM on whether you even find your boyfriend attractive etc as maybe it's... (read in full...)
I wanna help in my mysterious love...
Q. I was having a bf for 1 year and I really left him from only 5 days and returned to someone i was talking to before knowing my x-bf...... when i was talking to this person he was telling me about his girlfriend i feel jealous but i was smiling and ...
A. 8 March 2008: Only you know whats going on in your head and heart.
You've got to do whats right for you and do what will make you happy but if you do choose this guy and go for it and for some reason doesn't return your feelings you can't then return to your ex a... (read in full...)
Am I being stupid for getting upset coz we aint even an item?
Q. Hiya! There is this guy i really like, we aint in a relationship but we meet up whenever he has time and shows alot of affection etc. Been doing this for 5 months. well what it is he has gone away to ireland for 4 days with the guys, he will be...
A. 8 March 2008: Just because you aren't an item doesn't mean you don't hold valid feelings for this guy.
The fact you aren't an item means theres more freedom for him to do things someone wouldn't do if you was an item therefore more chance of you suffering jeal... (read in full...)
I trust him my life, but I just don't know about his poor judgement.
Q. Lately my boyfriend and I have been getting into arguments over the most petty stuff. He constantly accuses me off cheating, and he makes me feel like crap when he does it. When he brings it up I tell him I would never do such a thing and I tell...
A. 8 March 2008: I've found in some situations what someone accuses you is them with the guilty mind because it's something they're doing themselves.
My ex constantly accused me of cheating when I never went anywhere to do so, later on came the knowledge that he h... (read in full...)
How much porn do men watch? Should I be worried?
Q. This question is directed at men, but I'd like anybody's input I can get: I don't think there's anything wrong with porn, I watch a bit of it myself on occasion... but I recently moved in with my boyfriend and I'm realizing that he may be addicted ...
A. 8 March 2008: I would be worried about even 10 mins a day let alone hours, you recently moved in with him surely you both should still be enjoying the 'honeymoon' period instead of him going off to watch porn.
I don't have a problem with porn again like you I've... (read in full...)
How to meet a new girl and ask her out?
Q. It's one thing ive never had the guts to do...go up to a girl ive never met before in my life and ask her out or for her number...My biggest fear is being rejected and/or here saying she has a boyfriend cause then I have to walk away knowing she is ...
A. 8 March 2008: As a female I know that whether I had a boyfriend or wasn't interested in the guy approching me I would be very flattered and it would make me smile.
You've got nothing to lose apart from maybe a little embarrassment from rejection but you don'... (read in full...)
My feeling to that is that she has become slightly taken in with this other guy...
Q. It look like I am about to split with my wife of 4 years (together for 8 years before that) We are both 28 years old so doing the math means we have been togther since we were 16 years old, childhood sweethearts as the saying goes. Anyway over the...
A. 8 March 2008: You are right to both come to the decision she's best going back to her parents to sort her head out, this will be good for both of you, this will give you time to be without her and you might find out somethings you don't realise now.
You've been... (read in full...)
He lied, cheated, stole, and is an alcholic. Why do I want him back?
Q. I was in a realtionship with an alcholic for nine months. we lived together right from the start. I knew what he was like, but yet i thought like everyone else i could change him. He cheated, lied, stole money from me, and treated me like crap. He ...
A. 8 March 2008: In his mind or not he hadn't broke up with you therefore whatever way he want's to look at this he still cheated on you.
He needs help with his alcohol problems as that is probably why he's stealing and until he gets that help I really don't thin... (read in full...)
My husband has a very controlling nature and the past year has got worse...
Q. I have been married over ten years and my relationship is in tatters, my husband has a very controlling nature and the past year has got worse, the physical abuse has stopped but the emotional abuse is just as draining, will he ever change and is it ...
A. 8 March 2008: If you love him and don't want to walk away from him and what you've built together than maybe try talking to him, getting some help for you as a couple and trying to find a way past all this.
I personally believe a leopard doesn't change their spot... (read in full...)
After a bad break-up I want something serious again...but I just can't seem to decide which guy I like the most. Please help.
Q. Well, i haven't had a boyfriend in a while now, he dumped me and i took it quite badly to be honest..and ever since then i can't seem to keep my eyes on that one special person.. I mean, i like his mate Jamie but i also like a few other guys but...
A. 8 March 2008: I think maybe you're looking for 'someone, anyone' and viewing most guys as potential 'relationship' material instead of taking your time, getting to know new people and forming something deeper and more meaningful with someone (which will come ... (read in full...)
When I hint I like a guy nothing happens..so I have decided it is time to take action.
Q. My self esteem has reached an all time high and I feel great! :D Guy's are flirting with me and I am flirting back. I feel very attracted to some of the guys and when I really, really hint that I like them, nothing happens. and I've realized...
A. 8 March 2008: It's great you are feeling this way and no it's not wrong, nowadays it's very common and seen to be normal to most people for things to be equal.
I would try for something light, nothing to heavy or formal just meeting up for an afternoon less 'dat... (read in full...)
I don't treat my boyfriend well...do I need medical help??
Q. Me and my BF are totally in love with each other for the past 3 years. I'm the only child in my family; most of the time im selfish but my man is not like that (he has a sister) i always get what i want, 3 yrs ago i want him as my boyfriend and now ...
A. 8 March 2008: It does sound like you are holding some issues, maybe theres something in you or your life that is making you lash out no matter how much you don't want to, as you know your boyfriend loves you and has allowed your behaviour in the past you then ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but I like another boy and am scared to leave him, but can't carry on with this relationship.
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for nearly..8 months now. I'm 14, hes 15. He's my first. And he's my first love. I recently moved about 30 minutes away from him due to school. So, now i can only see him in the weekends. Well i made a guy...
A. 8 March 2008: Take yourself away from both boys and follow your heart, but don't act mindlessly because this new boy could seem all good just because you are missing your boyfriend and this other boy is with you alot more.
Things are going to be tough with your... (read in full...)
How can I approach him when I am scared of rejection and looking bad in front of my friends??
Q. I really like this boy; he goes to a diffrent school to me but all my freinds know him and that is how i know him. A few months back we started talking on msn, he said he liked me and i was pretty then we just stopped talking (i kept it from my ...
A. 8 March 2008: Nobody likes rejection I know I don't but you've got to weigh out whats more important, few moments of embarrassment through rejection which people will forget or possibly getting the boy you want.
Everything life throws at us we learn from it, and ... (read in full...)
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