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writes:Lately my boyfriend and I have been getting into arguments over the most petty stuff.He constantly accuses me off cheating, and he makes me feel like crap when he does it. When he brings it up I tell him I would never do such a thing and I tell him every reason why, I just don't know how to reassure him anymore. I don't feel like he trusts me, and I've never gave him a reason for dis-trust.I trust him my life, but I just don't know about his poor judgement.I mean we both know we love each other but I guess I don't get or understand why he does it. Reply to this Question
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (8 March 2008):
 In a case like this, he may be quick to accuse because it is something he would or is doing himself.
If you will notice, one who is trustworthy will be quick to trust.
However, one whom is not trustworthy almost cannot trust the motives of anyone.
Now, examine the situation for yourself and decide if this relationship is worth trying to fix.
Is it really fixable or will you always be gluing this part of it together and later gluing that part of it together or as you would do with a cup that has been dear to you for years and has been broken. You may try to glue it back together but it will always have the cracks and it will always leak from then on.
Think about it long and hard then do the best thing for you. Doc
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008): If you truly have done nothing wrong then you should be thinking he may be. However, you should think about whether or not you have changed any of your habits. If you are coming home late or not callling when you said you would you might be creating a concern. If you have not changed any of your usual routine and this has just come out of the blue then there is a good chance he is the problem. this is not an unusual thing to happen,. Actually President Kennedy used to accuse Jackie Kennedy of cheating all the time. He figured if he was she must be also, which at that time she wasn't.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 March 2008):
 He is insecure and is afraid of losing you to others.
He wants to control you and he can become mentally and emotionally abusive.
He is young and immature and has a lot to learn .
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reader, Entirely Unique  +, writes (8 March 2008):
 I've found in some situations what someone accuses you is them with the guilty mind because it's something they're doing themselves.
My ex constantly accused me of cheating when I never went anywhere to do so, later on came the knowledge that he himself was the one cheating and he wasn't the only one that done this, but the ex that never accused me (as far as I'm aware) never cheated on me.
This may not be the case but in my experience it has been, and with more than the one ex.
I do hope this isn't the case with you but I can't see any reason for you to be accused if you've given him no reason to do so, other idea is something in his past, someone has cheated on him and it's effected him badly and he's allowed that to enter into this relationship with you.
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