Should I wait for my ex to be ready for a relationship again?
Q. Alright, its been like 3 months since my ex and i broke up, We've been together for a year then out of the blue BAM went down the drain :/. Soo anyways she wants me to wait for her but its my choice if i want to or not. She also wants me to stay ...
A. 22 March 2010: By her realising you are what she wants and actually does something about it.... (read in full...)
He wont move out from his mum's house. Should I move on?
Q. i have been with my guy for almost 4 years, but anytime wee talk about moving in together he sais he has to live with his mom to help her!!!! Do i stay with him and see where it aill go or do i try to find my happiness somewhere else???...
A. 22 March 2010: That's what I wanted to check, make sure he wasn't at home helping her in a carer kind of way. As its not and its really silly things that she can actually do herself then I don't really see why he needs to be there to help her. I think he's us... (read in full...)
I regret having an abortion and feel I have no one to talk to about it!
Q. im 15 and had an abortion last year in febuary. all i think of know is what if i kept the baby. I have very strong feelings, and have no one to speak to about this. My mom stood by me when i had the abortion but i feel akward speking to her k...
A. 22 March 2010: You're right, you can't change this or go back in time and change the decision you made but you have to find a way to deal with it the best you can.
I don't think this is something you will ever get over but I do think your Mum is right and it w... (read in full...)
Should I wait for my ex to be ready for a relationship again?
Q. Alright, its been like 3 months since my ex and i broke up, We've been together for a year then out of the blue BAM went down the drain :/. Soo anyways she wants me to wait for her but its my choice if i want to or not. She also wants me to stay ...
A. 22 March 2010: I think its unfair she's asked you to wait for her, I know she's given you the choice that you don't have to but by her asking you to wait you do get left with the thoughts that she is coming back and waiting is what you should do.
She seems li... (read in full...)
He wont move out from his mum's house. Should I move on?
Q. i have been with my guy for almost 4 years, but anytime wee talk about moving in together he sais he has to live with his mom to help her!!!! Do i stay with him and see where it aill go or do i try to find my happiness somewhere else???...
A. 22 March 2010: Can I ask what reason/capacity he is needing to help her?
I think its best to know that before being able to give a true answer on this.... (read in full...)
Do I give my ex another chance, or should I pursue my friend who loves me and let my parents know about him?
Q. I would like your advice on a dilemma. Coming from an Asian background, i am at the age where most girls are married. My Parents are searching for a potential partner for me, which i do not have a problem with, as i have the final say regarding the ...
A. 22 March 2010: I believe in love very strongly and would follow my heart over anything else but I do understand with your background its more about suitable partners and growing to love them.
You have to decide what is right for you because you are the one that... (read in full...)
Should I try to get my ex-boyfriend back?
Q. I was dating a guy two years ago. We were together for one year. One day unexpectedly I received a job offer to work abroad for one year. The opportunity was so good that I took it. My boyfriend wanted me to stay, but did not tell me. He said before ...
A. 22 March 2010: If you're in a relationship with someone you should be able to contact them at any point.
I couldn't deal with being with someone and having no means of being able to contact them, that seems very unfair to me, I accept people have to contact ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her that I am in love with her?
Q. Ok so I'm in love with one of my best friends. We'll call her Carl, no she's not a guy and her real name is not Carl. Anyhow I've known her since she was born. I'm with her almost every weekend, of course it's not just the two of us, her cousin ...
A. 22 March 2010: I probably wouldn't just tell her, you've tried that, I know it was some time ago but I don't think you really want to go through trying to re-build a friendship again.
I would try testing the water first, see if you can spend some time with jus... (read in full...)
Is love a losing game?
Q. This keeps me awake at night all the time and I can't go on feeling like this. I need some help... I don't want to make the wrong decision. I had a boyfriend for the last 6 months but recently I have started falling for someone else. I kissed t...
A. 22 March 2010: I would try to ignore all outside factors like your friends new girlfriend and hurting your boyfriend and just look deep into your feelings and work out what it is you truely want, what it is that will make you truely happy.
I would try talking ... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time thinking about a man who thought it was acceptable to finish a relationship by text?
Q. Hi, I guess I would like a bit of reassurance. My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago now, and I think I am struggling to cope with it. We had only been together for 7 months, but I had started to fall in love with him. He did say in liked me but ...
A. 22 March 2010: This is one of the reasons I really dis-like text messaging, I like it for so many reasons but it really has made some people complete cowards on things that should be said face to face at a push if that's really not possible then by phone at ... (read in full...)
I tried to 'spice things up' and he liked it, but now says he doesn't. Did he lead me on?
Q. Hi aunts. ok so my boyfriend and i are in a long distance relationship for the last one year. a few weeks ago,i decided to try to spice things up and i started textin him dirty,(kind of like phone sex)and he responded very well. he even called me ...
A. 22 March 2010: I would be confused as well going by what you just wrote.
He could have said he enjoyed it as he might have felt it was something you liked and wanted and he wanted to please you but the fact he continued to initiating it from that first time tel... (read in full...)
How can I get over my cheating ex? Please help!
Q. I cant get my ex boyfriend out of my mind. He cheated with me and in front of me he dated another girl. I cant face that girl coz when ever i see her i feel she's better then me thats why my boyfriend left me for her. Im always stressed due to this ...
A. 22 March 2010: Memories are not something you can just open the door to and let them walk out, they have a way of sticking around whether they're good ones or bad ones.
Find a way to distract your thoughts when these memories want to make an appearance and try ... (read in full...)
My wife embarrasses me, and treats my daughter badly.
Q. I have been in a married to the same woman for a few years now. Before I met my wife I had about thirty girl friends. Even though I had so many girl friends I only had sex with two of them. I was looking for a relationship and not a booty ...
A. 22 March 2010: I completely agree, this kind of behaviour is childish and really uncalled for.
You need to speak to her, get her to see and understand that if you can accept her past she has to accept yours, your daughter hasn't done anything wrong and shouldn'... (read in full...)
I really like this guy, but he's always coming up with excuses to not have sex. Help!
Q. Hiya all at cupid Im being stupid hear but theres this guy i like a lot slept with him like 4 times, Talk throughout the day but thats only short conversatings Anyway the only way i think i can see him is ask him for sex and yes last week...
A. 22 March 2010: Strangely enough not all blokes are into sex in a way we all seem to think or are led to believe they are, they can be just as confusing as us girls.
I would try getting him to spend time with you without the 'sex' thing being apart of it, he c... (read in full...)
Does he want me to call, or was it just a closing line?
Q. After a date, if a guy says ' Ok well give me a call later or something'... do you think they actually want you to call them, or could it just be a closing line?? shouldnt the guy call the girl?? :S ...
A. 22 March 2010: That's a hard one because it could be one of either but normally the closing line is 'I'll call you later' therefore they then can control the not calling if that's what they really want.
I'd take it at face value and call him, it can't hurt and... (read in full...)
I love him, but his past is hurting me emotionally. Any advice?
Q. Hi, I'm hoping someone can give me some advice! I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now and am sure that I love him. He has told me that he loves me and we are very happy together. It is definitely the healthiest relationship I've ever been in ...
A. 22 March 2010: Theres nothing you can do, everyone has a past and we have to accept that, you have one just as much as he does, maybe not the same kind but its just something we have to deal with.
I don't see his past should be a problem, if he was continui... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is being abusive, is it the Indian Hemp affecting him?
Q. I met my boyfriend in 2006,he is not that rich so i always help him financially. Everything has been okay until this year.He moved in with me,later i saw hemp in his possession and i claimed to have thrown it away. He beat hell out of me and that's ...
A. 22 March 2010: I can't seem to understand how you managed to allow him to stay in your life and house after he beat you the first time.
I can kind of accept you gave him a second chance and hoped it was a one time thing but its not, its now been 3 times and in m... (read in full...)
My ex is a liar but I feel bad for ignoring her. What should I do?
Q. I broke up with my 4-year GF for good. We'd had complicated problems for a year (she is a liar). I cut her off completely after the talk, she chased after, and i got in my car and left. She called a few times. Left a message. A few weeks passed and ...
A. 22 March 2010: You can't really stop it, all you can do is try your best to ignore it and find other things to distract you while you're going through it.
It will get better and you won't hope as much as time goes on.... (read in full...)
I want him to be confident of us being together... not scared
Q. What do you do when your boyfriend loves you in a way he's never loved any other girl before? It's that kind of feeling you get that's kinda scary... and you just want to run away from it cos you don't know how to deal with it - like you just don't ...
A. 22 March 2010: You need to talk to him and explain how this is affecting you and the way you're feeling.
I do understand that he knows he loves you but he's scared as this is all new to him but you have to reassure him as much and as best as you can so he doesn... (read in full...)
Should I try to get my ex-boyfriend back?
Q. I was dating a guy two years ago. We were together for one year. One day unexpectedly I received a job offer to work abroad for one year. The opportunity was so good that I took it. My boyfriend wanted me to stay, but did not tell me. He said before ...
A. 22 March 2010: You said you don't have contact details for him and blame this on his secretaries but yet you've seen him since and given him your number so why in that moment did you not then make an effort to get his as well?
You left and before you went you... (read in full...)
He doesn't call me from work anymore. Why?
Q. so my live in boyfriend and i have been together for a year we have been goin through some problems certain things he has done to me, it really hurt me! the thing is when he leaves for work around 2 i do not hear from him until he gets home around 1 ...
A. 22 March 2010: You're right to a point, he hurt you and he should be putting the effort into the relationship to make it work but at the same time you chose to take him back/stay with him after he hurt you and when you forgive someone then to a point you should ... (read in full...)
I know it is probably stupid, but I am really hurt coz the guy I like smokes!
Q. This guy I like A LOT drinks and smokes. Well..when I found out he drinks, it didn't bother me at all. When I found out he smokes I felt horrible. I was happy, but then I went completely sad. Ever since I found out about it, I've been sad. I can ...
A. 22 March 2010: If you like someone you take them as a package, flaws as well.
I don't understand how something like this can cause so much hurt for you, its not a nice habit to have but theres plenty of other things he could be doing that are alot worse and in m... (read in full...)
What do you guys think... Friends... or more???
Q. I have a very nice guy friend. we work together and casually chat or text on phone. I wouldn't consider him a best friend as we have only known each other a few months. We aré both single, and I thought, not really looking to hook up with each ...
A. 22 March 2010: I'm not surprised you're confused, he's showing signs he likes you more than a friend but stating clearly its just as friends, I'm not so sure what this situation is really about.
I would be stuck in the same thoughts you are, am I missing ... (read in full...)
Sex has changed what do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and i dont have sex like we use to and he swears he not cheating, what do I do?...
A. 22 March 2010: I think you'll find in most relationships at some point or another sex changes or its wanted more or less than normal.
If its important to you to make a difference to the situation then either talk to him or try to find a way to gently push the... (read in full...)
Child abuse... help!
Q. When I was 12 1/2 , I lived with my dad. when my step- mom wasn't home he would take showers with me and make me touch his dick, and balls. and he drove semis, and I would go with him, and he started to make me sleep with him and he would touch me ...
A. 22 March 2010: Theres no real way to tell someone something like this, it can be hard for you to tell someone and hard for that person you're telling to hear.
I think you will feel better by sharing this with your Mum and being able to allow her to deal with thi... (read in full...)
Parents want to get divorced. Should we talk to them or let them figure it out?
Q. This question isn't about my relationships but my parents and whether or not I should get involved. Long story short, my parents have been married for 35 years. I don't think they've ever gone 2 months without arguing about something and su...
A. 22 March 2010: I would stay out of it, they've been together a long time and they will find a way to work this out one way or another which is best and right for them.
If you get involved it might complicate the situation and add pressure to the decision... (read in full...)
Things are falling apart ... is there any hope left?
Q. I am feeling unappreciated and disrespected... I was friends with my bf 3yrs before we got together and we got a long from the start - had so much fun and he had liked me for a long time before we took the next step. I had two kids before this rel...
A. 22 March 2010: To me he sounds obsessive and controlling.
The money you got from your other children's father is a payment for those children, they needed beds and personally I think that's a good thing to spend that money on as it was money for those children... (read in full...)
My ex is a liar but I feel bad for ignoring her. What should I do?
Q. I broke up with my 4-year GF for good. We'd had complicated problems for a year (she is a liar). I cut her off completely after the talk, she chased after, and i got in my car and left. She called a few times. Left a message. A few weeks passed and ...
A. 22 March 2010: Its natural to have a lapse in ignoring her, as the time goes on and the pain of being lied to isn't as prominent you will find that you'll see different things when she contacts you and/or you think of her compared to the big 'liar' sign you have ... (read in full...)
How do I protect my brother an from internet stalker?
Q. My brother has a girl on his facebook page that he's never met but she writes on his wall nearly everyday. She calls him babe and hun and seems quite obsessed with him. I'm worried that she is not who she says she is. I've told my parents but they ...
A. 22 March 2010: Family are there to protect each other, he may well think you're interfering but its best he does think that than you don't say anything at all and wish you had later on.
Theres a good chance he won't listen or take any notice but at least yo... (read in full...)
How do I get my long-distance fiance to reciprocate more?
Q. My fiance and i are far away for the moment. He is living in usa and i am living in uk. The situation is difficult because there is 8 hours of difference, so we try to chat with the webcam as much as we can. However i feel like i have a lot o...
A. 22 March 2010: Has he ever been a kind of person to do that kind of thing and its stopped or has he just never done it?
Some of us are romantic and do all we can to show it and some people aren't or don't always think about those kind of things and believe ... (read in full...)
How do I get through the intolerable pain?
Q. To cut it short, I ended my special relationship a month ago. But it still hurts to walk around all these places I went with him. We went to a lot of places which I usually go to. There are just too much memories evoked when I go to these places ...
A. 22 March 2010: We all have to go through something like this in life and we all somehow manage to find a way to deal with it and get through each day until the pain is less painful or we've somehow learn to numb it as much as possible.
You can't spend your lif... (read in full...)
Getting back to the possibility of dating a friend.
Q. Hey i need some advice. Ive really liked my best friend, well one of them for some time now. Things werent always great but just recently we've started going out with others and they've noticed how hes been behaving. And its not till recently hes ...
A. 22 March 2010: Try testing the waters with a little flirting, find ways to put yourself into situations where it could easily become something and see how he reacts from that.
You've admitted he's shy so you might have to do something yourself as he may never wi... (read in full...)
Long time pursuit.
Q. I have fancied this guy for ages, we go way back in primary school. We did used to fancy each other like crazy, but then i went out with someone else. After i dumped 'someone else' the guy was asking me out loads but i kept turning him down. Then i ...
A. 22 March 2010: If its meant to be then it will be, you have to know one way or another so if it is then you can both get on with your live together and if not then you can find a way to let go and move on from this.... (read in full...)
How do I get my husband to step up to the plate?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, I am going to try to sum this up in as little words as possible. My husband and I have been fighting a lot lately, both of us only being 18 and 20 with a baby on the way and almost here. We have jumpped from house to house si...
A. 22 March 2010: I would just concentrate on yourself and the baby you have on the way for now, maybe the birth of your child could be his wake up call but I wouldn't hold your breath.
You're going through enough at the moment with the fact you're pregnant... (read in full...)
What signs should I look for to determine if he likes me?
Q. Hi, i need your advice. I need to know what signs i could look for that this guy likes me. Some of my mates reckon he does as they reckon hes so shy around me. Hes not a flirt, he doesnt do anything with people other than friendly stuff, he is quite ...
A. 22 March 2010: From what you've said I would say he does like you, normally people on the outside looking in can see more than the person/people actually involved in the situation and your friends seem to be thinking the same.
He's shy as you've said so I would ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems frustated that I don't get pleasure from oral or manual stimulation.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now and am very happy. However I feel that he is frustrated with me because when he performs oral sex on me or uses his fingers to pleasure me he notices that I'm not getting pleasure from it, he gets ...
A. 22 March 2010: I only really have two tips.
The first one is the one I would recommend and that is you need to learn what you like and want and what does it for you before you can really expect someone else to be able to find that out and once you know you can ... (read in full...)
My husband and I don't have anything in common. How do I cope with this?
Q. How to cope with my husband we do not have any thing in common for the last 2 years....
A. 22 March 2010: For the last 2 years? Does that mean you did before that time?
If so what happened to the things you did have in common, why are they no longer a common ground for you both?... (read in full...)
Was breaking up a good decision or a terrible mistake?
Q. A few days ago I broke up with my boyfriend of six years. I know it is an impossible question but how do I know if it was a good idea or a terrible mistake? In the lead up I was very torn. Couldn't handle some things the way they were but wanted ...
A. 22 March 2010: When things are bad in a relationship that's all we seem to see, the bad things, when the relationship comes to an end our mind seems to throw all the good things in to confuse us.
I would give yourself a little time to work out what is and isn'... (read in full...)
How can I make a guy like me?
Q. im 15, and i like this guy who is 19 :L He works at tesco part-time i see him like 3 times a week :) He gave me his number and we text every night :D, but he goes out alot. He has a friend (female) and they do absolutely EVERYTHING together, ...
A. 22 March 2010: You really can't make someone like you, just being you should be enough and if he does or is going to like you then he will.
Trying to find ways to get him to like you or like you more will only cause you to be living up to an image of someone ... (read in full...)
How do you get over someone you still love when you have to see them daily?
Q. how to get over someone you still love and have to be around daily due to having children together and living arrangements...
A. 22 March 2010: Can I ask what would cause you to have to see them daily? I understand the fact you have children but I'm not sure why they still causes the daily thing.... (read in full...)
How close is too close for married friends?
Q. How close are you to your best friend's husband? My best friend is more like family than a friend. I am very good friends with her husband as well. NOTHING sexual or anything like that, but we do talk, text and hang out. I was just wondering how ...
A. 22 March 2010: Has someone got a problem with this friendship and that's why you're asking or is this just a curious thing?
I think if you find someone you get on with really well and no one involved in the situation has a problem then I don't think you have any... (read in full...)
Am I missing something?
Q. Ok theres a guy i sit next to, we;re all friends in the class but me him n this girl sit at the back. Afew weeks ago we only had one lesson so half of us didnt bother turning up, Him along with the other half did. The thing is a mate of ours was...
A. 22 March 2010: Maybe the fact he likes you is why he struggles to really talk with you and give you the attention you believe someone that can miss you should.
People show or react differently when they like someone, some overly flirt and show it very clearly ... (read in full...)
Is his behaviour obsessive?
Q. I have recently begun dating a guy. We have a six year gap between us and at the start, before we went out, we chatted on Facebook. In our relationship at the moment, he is clearly more interested in me than me to him. During our web chats, he ...
A. 22 March 2010: I don't think he's being obsessive although he could well be an obsessive person but I don't think this is enough to believe he is.
I do think though he's probably jumping abit ahead of himself and you're right to pull him back in on it especial... (read in full...)
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