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writes:I met a guy about a month ago and during that time I've grown quite fond of him. He is amazing, and I mean that in every possible way. He is gorgeous, funny, very succesful, kind, everything, he is just amazing. When I think about him I just smile and when he hugs me, I quite literally go weak. When I'm with him, there are no awkward silences. We just click with each other and spend the whole time laughing. We understand everything about each other as both of us are quite successful in our jobs. Sometimes we just look at each other and smile, it's lovely. Although we've only met a few times, it is as if we have known each other for ages, but yet don't really know much about each other. We never talk about our backgrounds or anything, we just sit and have a really good time over a glass of wine, or just go for a walk together and talk about each others days. Thing is though I broke up with my ex boyfriend back in October. He basically led me along for 6 months and I guess finding that out really dented my self esteem and made me a bit shy about meeting a new guy. So tonight, I finally got up the courage to ask this new guy if he was seeing anyone. He said he was. I asked if it was anything serious and he said "not really". He then asked if I was seeing anyone. Obviously my head right now is in a complete mess. I feel as if I have completely fallen for this guy, he is incredible. But now I know there is some other girl - except it's not serious. What should I do? My friends are telling me to hang in there because they reckon this guy and I are going to end up together. What does it mean that he asked if I was seeing anyone? Does that show he's interested? Please help, I don't know what to do. I'm not even sure I can walk away from this - I am starting to develop feelings for this guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): i think you should totally go for it because if you get on so well you'll be so annoyed if you don't pursue it. screw the other girl, if you get on so well your so much better for him.
an it's so a good thing that he told you about the girl because now at least you know he's not a total liar and he said it wasn't serious. even if it's only for one night just go for it. i bet you totally deserve it
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 March 2008):
 Love is very beautiful.
What is important is your love is true.
All other matters are not important.
True love has no fear.
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reader, Entirely Unique +, writes (8 March 2008):
 He could have asked if you was seeing someone just to return the question out of sheer politeness so I wouldn't get too stuck on reasons why.
The best thing you can do is be his friend, get to know him and let him get to know you, he could be feeling things towards you but still could be new feelings to him and while working out what they are is not doing anything about it and all the time he is with someone else he's not taking anything serious regarding you and him.
You've got two choices, hang in there, get to know each other and see if something comes of it but also in that time something could progress with him and the girl he is seeing but whatever way you will get a fantastic friendship out of it or say something, make a move, grab your chance but this could also risk rejection.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008): Yeah I agree with your friends, keep seeing him. If you like him so much don't just give up on him. If he said it's not serious then it's probably not too much to worry about.
You sound like you 2 really click and get on really well, so just wait and see how it goes!
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