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My name is Kayla Pease. I have a big heart and I forgive easily. I am willing to listen to anything. I live in Vermont. I get very upset when there is only one answer to a question and I don't like harsg criticism. I am in a Long-Term relationship at the age of 17.

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How can I stop being so jealous?

Q.   This is my problem. My boyfriend swears up and down that he would never cheat on me, but he has done a lot of things to make me jealous, it has gotten to the point where it seems all that all I am is jealous. We fight almost all the time now. It is ...

A.   4 January 2010: just for the update. that fucking bastard is gone out of my life... (read in full...)

Why does he do this when he knows it upsets me?

Q.   I'm very insecure, I've always been, I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year, he was like the popular funny kid at school, we both have a facebook, and literally 95 percent of his friends are girls, every day he's friends with like 3 new ...

A.   10 December 2008: Some guys have one thing on their mind (not that), but what they want. They just want to feel free and also I find that by pulling stunts like that, they think they are proving to themself that you care and that you know that her is a catch. My ... (read in full...)

Why does he belittle me in front of others?

Q.   Hoping everyone is enjoying the holiday season. I broke up with my ex some time ago but am still serving on a volunteer board where I have to deal stil with his little verbal jabs when I say something or he will often caught me off and say we are ...

A.   10 December 2008: It sounds to me like he misses you. I think he is jealous that you are doing fine without him. You should never take anybodies shit. When people treat you like that you need to show them that you aren't going to take it. In your case, being forced ... (read in full...)

How do I know that she won't do the same to me some day?

Q.   She is on her way out of a relationship with long time boyfriend and he doesn't know it yet, we have kept things clean for the most part and I'm kinda waiting in the background to get with her but how do I know that she won't do the same to me some ...

A.   10 December 2008: Any relationship you have to wait for is a waste of time, because chances are she in going to do it to you. As soon as someone else strikes her fancy, she is going to forget you. I think it's time to let go. Good luck hun.... (read in full...)

Am I bipolar? I've been saying mean and hurtful things to my boyfriend.

Q.   I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I am truely in love with him. I have recently for the past 3 months been really mean to him. I will say mean and hurtful things like call him fat and ugly. I tell him that I don't want to be with ...

A.   11 June 2008: All you have to do is try and if you really love him it will work out but do something before its to late... (read in full...)

My best friend hasn't asked this one guy out for me...

Q.   Well I like this one guy and I THINK he like me too, so what I asked my best freind to do is tell him I like him and ask him out for me. She hasn't done that yet so that is why I'm asking should I tell her go ahead or should I tell her never mind?...

A.   28 May 2008: If you want to ask a guy out, then ask him out by yourself. Don't play games like that. It is best to just do it yourself. The worse that is going to happen in he will deny you. So what, it's better to hear it yourself then have your friend tell it ... (read in full...)

Am I bipolar? I've been saying mean and hurtful things to my boyfriend.

Q.   I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I am truely in love with him. I have recently for the past 3 months been really mean to him. I will say mean and hurtful things like call him fat and ugly. I tell him that I don't want to be with ...

A.   28 May 2008: Thank you very much rcn. I take your kind words to heart. I just wish that I was stronger and new what I wanted.... (read in full...)

Am I bipolar? I've been saying mean and hurtful things to my boyfriend.

Q.   I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I am truely in love with him. I have recently for the past 3 months been really mean to him. I will say mean and hurtful things like call him fat and ugly. I tell him that I don't want to be with ...

A.   27 May 2008: For the Update... I talked to my boyfriend and I told him that I need to treat him better. So I have been really nice and when ever I get mad, I kind of just suck it up. He is alot happier now but he keeps on trying to get me to do things I don't wa... (read in full...)

I don't orgasm. It's my husband's fault. What can I do about it?

Q.   I am 28 years old and married 6 years before. I have a 5 year old daughter. My problem is that all these married life not even once I had orgasam. I am frustrated these days. We do lot of foreplay but of no use and I think he ejaculates very fast. ...

A.   27 May 2008: The problem is not with your husband. The problem is with you. I had that problem for a while. But then I got on top. I found a way that we both could be happy. Maybe you should try experimenting more positions too. It worked for my relationship. ... (read in full...)

Am I bipolar? I've been saying mean and hurtful things to my boyfriend.

Q.   I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I am truely in love with him. I have recently for the past 3 months been really mean to him. I will say mean and hurtful things like call him fat and ugly. I tell him that I don't want to be with ...

A.   27 May 2008: I fight with my mom alot. I can't wait to move out. The only kind of abuse around here is mental. That I am worthless and a lazy bitch. My sister was 18 when she passed away. I was 13 when she passed. I looked up to her. I loved her. I was home when ... (read in full...)

I'm getting a little frustrated, there's nothing worse than sex with a mooshy penis! Will this get better with time?

Q.   hello...i took my boyfriends virginity .... and he is having trouble getting a good hard on and lasting more than 3 min.. it has been abt 4 months now and it is still an issue ... i have tried everything alot of fore play, he went to the doctor and ...

A.   27 May 2008: you are very welcome. Things will definately get better.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants a hand job and a blow job, but I don't know how to do it.

Q.   My boyfriend wants me to give him a hand job and blo job. I'm fine with this, except I never done it before. How do you do a hand job? How do you do a blo job?...

A.   27 May 2008: a blow job is done however it makes you comfortable. Some girls can take it all, and some girls can only take the head. You litely suck and wiggle your tounge on the the head of his dick and lick the shaft. A hand job i best after you have lubed up ... (read in full...)

Is it so bad to cheat on my boyfriend with my ex? My bf has not been able to satisfy me sexually...

Q.   i cheated on my boyfriend.. w my ex................. i dnt want to be back with him but i have been dating my current bf for 5 months. He was a vifgin and has not been able to satisfy me sexually. He tries and has gotten somewhat better ... he cant ...

A.   27 May 2008: No matter who you cheated with, you still cheated. Cheating is never cool. This just seems like you couldn't control yourself. No matter what the reason, cheating is wrong. ... (read in full...)

My uncle asked me out, and we've talked about having sex, but I have some questions.

Q.   Hey, im having trouble with a major issue in my life. My uncle asked me out and i like him a lot so I said yes. But we keep it a secret so he can spend the night. He is six years older than me. We talked about having sex, but I'm scared it will hurt ...

A.   27 May 2008: If you are a virgin, then it is going to hurt no mater how you do it. The odds of you getting pregnant depend on what type of birth control you use. The odds of getting pregnant by a relative are as good as the odds of getting pregnant by any man. I ... (read in full...)

Is it possible to love someone that you are sexually unattracted to?

Q.   I have been dating the same girl for almost a year and a half now. Shes great. I love her to death. She wore a promise ring until today. At first glance I wasn't that attracted to her. But a couple months after we met we started dating. We started ...

A.   27 May 2008: You aren't in love, you are just attached. See the difference is you think you need her. If you loved her there wouldn't be this doubt. She is just a safety net for you. Without her, you don't have a girlfriend. I think that you should decide with ... (read in full...)

Is he using me for sex, but is it possible he has feelings for me too?

Q.   i love my sex partner so much. He has other plains with his son's mother. she's always in and out of his life. He suppose to married her in 3 months but he's unsure.I'm HURT! i've been ONLY with him during our 5years of sex relations. Why would he ...

A.   27 May 2008: I definately think you are the fun on the side. He may care enough about you to keep you around, but girls in your position are easily replaced. Find you self a handsome single man.... (read in full...)

I'm getting a little frustrated, there's nothing worse than sex with a mooshy penis! Will this get better with time?

Q.   hello...i took my boyfriends virginity .... and he is having trouble getting a good hard on and lasting more than 3 min.. it has been abt 4 months now and it is still an issue ... i have tried everything alot of fore play, he went to the doctor and ...

A.   27 May 2008: Do you tell him that he has a mushy penis. Most of it could be in his head. If you are telling him that he doesn't please you, then he definately wont get a hard on. I took my boyfriends virginity and it was a little while before his penis was ... (read in full...)

How do I move on?!?! My sex partner is about to get married and still wants me in his life!

Q.   my sex partner is about to get married but he wants me to still be in his life. i refuse! but its hard to let go. he enjoys my sex better. i love to be with him all the time but i'm mad because he's getting married on me. I'm HURT !!! how do i get ...

A.   27 May 2008: If he is cheating on somebody with you, than maybe it isn't worth it in the first place. My advice is to realize that he already has someone to fall back on, you. Don't be the fall back girl. Remember that just because he says he likes your sex ... (read in full...)

Does size matter? And how do I increase the size of my penis?

Q.   DOes the size of a man's penis really matter? And how do i increase the size of my penis?...

A.   27 May 2008: Absolutley not. If you truely love somebody, size dont mean nothing but a number.... (read in full...)

I'm too young to have sex, but my boyfriend wants to

Q.   Hello I'm 15 Years Old 16 Soon And Am Scared Too Have Sex I Really Like This Boy But We Are Not Goiny Out We Have Done Everything Apart From Sex But I Think He Is Using Me Is There Any Advice You Could Give Me x...

A.   8 August 2007: If you think he is using you than you would be stupid to have sex with him. I think he is using you.... (read in full...)

He promises that he'll divorce her, but he never does!

Q.   Hello, My bf and i have dated for the past 4 years. He is legally married with a kid. His "wife" is in Europe. They have been separated even before our relationship (she had to go back to Sweden and he stayed in Germany). He moved to US and thats ...

A.   8 August 2007: I think he is bogous girl. If you can't see it you never will. You can't live on promises, only actions! ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has a year to live, but he wants to marry me and have a baby!

Q.   This is kinda a HUGE question and i really need help, my fiancée (we have been together since we were 12 im 19 now) has just been diagnosed with lung cancer and has been told he's got about a year to live basically but they're gunna treat him as ...

A.   8 August 2007: This is what I see. He wants to to put a lifetime of expieriences all into one year because he can't live a normal life. I will tell you that I have tears in my eyes for you and your fiancée because no one deserves something like that. With the most ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend constantly gives me a hard time for my past, and it makes me miserable!

Q.   Dear Cupid, I am writing with tears on my eyes 'cause devastated. I will try to make my story short. I met my bf while in college and while in college I acted a little crazy and mess around with a couple of guys. My bf and I were not together...

A.   8 August 2007: What he needs to realize is you are not out there right now messing around with other guys. He needs to be a little more understanding. He is trying to control you. This is the classic male. He will throw in your face all that you have done wrong ... (read in full...)

I've never had an orgasm!!

Q.   Hiii, I have a BIG problem. I am 22 yrs old. I have been having sex since I was 16yrs old. I have never had any signs of having an organsum. I do not know what is going on with my body.It feels really good when I am having sex. It is just tha...

A.   8 August 2007: I am 16 years old and I have been having sex since I was 14 years old. I know that sounds bad, but I was with the guy for 3 years before we had sex. I never got off with him. My first time getting of was when I was 15 years old with my current ... (read in full...)

I can't trust him and every time we go out he always looks at other women and he says he doesn't.

Q.   I love my boyfriend we been together 4 years and got a daughter. He got caught a lot of times talking to other women on the phone, that's even after the baby was born. I still feel he does it, he claims he don't but I can't trust him and every ...

A.   5 August 2007: Jsut remember your the one he has a daughter with. Your the one he is coming home to every night. You are the one he loves. You should look with him and realize all you have that she doesnt, him. I know that with my boyfriend, I point the girl out ... (read in full...)

I lost my boyfriends trust by doing some pretty stupid thing-how do I gain back his trust?

Q.   I lost my boyfriends trust by doing some pretty stupid things. When we were going out fore about 7 months I contacted 2 people I really felt something for at one time and I couldn't even tell him why. Truth is I didn't know myself. But now I know ...

A.   5 August 2007: That is an amazing analogy. Thank you so much. I do think I know what to do!... (read in full...)

Met her online but worry about the dangers. Should I meet her in the real world?

Q.   We've all heard about the dangers of chatting to people online and the dangers of meeting them in the real world - but does it apply in this situation?? I've been chatting to this girl via e-mail for a month now, and she works for a radio station ...

A.   4 August 2007: i think you should get her to talk on the phone first.... (read in full...)

He says his marriage is over! Am I wrong to be sleeping with such an old married man who is my boss?

Q.   I have been seeing an older man. He is very high up in the company and I am only an office girl. He is married with 3 children. He says it's over between them and when they sell there house he will be free. I'm 18 and he is 32. I have left my bf 4 ...

A.   4 August 2007: girl sont be stupid. If he wont wear a condom, dump him. If he aint told his wife, it aint over. IF you fall for it, than he will use you every times he needs a booty call.... (read in full...)

I am soo jealous...how do I stop doing this?

Q.   Hey I really need some advice I really love my boyfriend and absolutly trust him with my whole world. But i can't help feeling jealous of other girls, i knw theres no need to be, but i always think that the girls have something that i don't and...

A.   4 August 2007: Ladyme, I just posted a question so similar to yours. Almost completely alike. I was told that if he had given me no r easons not to trust him, then it was my own insecurity. Do you think maybe that you are a little insecure? I am 16 years old whic... (read in full...)

What is up with my bf and his moodswings?

Q.   My boyfriend changes his mood all of the time. One minute he is being so sweet to me and being so loving, and the next he will just get mad at me for me saying something which in my eyes is not bad, he is just very sensitive and overreacting. Then ...

A.   4 August 2007: Jtaunton, Your boyfriend is earning his control over you. He is molding you into what he wants you to be like. That is why he threatens to break up with you. Truth is, he is immature. In a very similar situation I am. My boyfriend is bipolar.... (read in full...)

Is falling in love with someone..a want or a decision?

Q.   Do you fall in love because you want to, because at some level in your mind you decide to do it, or do you fall in love exclusively because of the effect you think someone else has on you? ...

A.   4 August 2007: I know that when I fell in love with my boyfriend, it was the way he appealed to me and made me feel. He made me want to be more open to certain activities and he made my sexual drive increase alot. Basically it all just fell on me when I got to ... (read in full...)

I like her soo much that things at work have gotten too intense. How do I deal with this?

Q.   Hi guys. I'm straight but ive fallen for a girl at work. It's gotten soo intense now, I cant say anything to her, cant speak to her. I feel jealous of other people she speaks to. i just think of her all the time. ALL THE TIME. Really need some ...

A.   4 August 2007: You need to tell her how you feel if she is also attracted to you. When I was trying to hook up with a friend of mine, she broke my heart, but i moved on and we are still friends. No big deal. I have a great boyfriend now and everything is great. ... (read in full...)

I am sexually attracted to my half-sister, whom I just met recently. Am I mental or what's happening?

Q.   I never met my real dad or his children. After 40 years.I met my bio father and his kids. I grew up with two other brothers from my mom's side and I never had a sister in that family. After several weeks, I am now very close to my half si...

A.   4 August 2007: you do not have mental problems. But there is something very wrong with this situation. Half is alot different than step and even that is wrong. She has the same parent as you. She might as well be your sister. but in is still incest. You just do ... (read in full...)

Is it normal for straight men to want to be masturbating, anally?

Q.   im definately not gay as i have a gf, but recently i have began anal masterbating. is this normal 4 straight men?...

A.   4 August 2007: Sexual pleasure is something personal. It doesn't label you straight or gay. A lot of guys like anal pleasure you are not alone. You should actually consider asking your girlfriend to join in on the pleasure. My boyfriend loves it when we have anal ... (read in full...)

I'm married, she's married, we're having a baby.I'm lost, what do we do?

Q.   I'm married, she's married, we're having a baby. We worked together and flirted with each other. I stopped in to work one night to ask her if she would like to have drinks, and a couple of days later she stopped in to work to give me her emai...

A.   4 August 2007: Excuse me, The very fact that you could cheat on your wife is terrible. Can you answer my question, what is it that could be so bad that you would betray your wife. You don't say vows for the fun of it. Now please know that I am not judging you. I ... (read in full...)

I really love my fiancee but I don't think I am a priority in his life. What can I do?

Q.   well, I am engaged and the fact that i will be married has had me thinking that my fiancee is my #1 He is my all everything and for some reason i dont feel that he feels the same about me. I feel second to his family and all that. This is both of ...

A.   4 August 2007: It sounds like you tried to make it pretty clear to him that you want it to be the two of you, not he decides and then you just follow. Like is no fun if you are going to be someones puppy dog. Love is a great thing, but it also has it's limits. ... (read in full...)

She's my only sexual partner, so I stopped using condoms, so will be both be safe still?

Q.   I've been seeing this girl since we were both 11. We started having sex when we were both 13, we have also used condoms, for both vaginal and anal, but recently i have not been able 2 cum using condoms, even the very thin ones. so we have decided ...

A.   4 August 2007: Of course you will. The only way that you can get std's are through sexual intercourse or making out with other people who have it. Now know the pill is only like 99% safe of stopping pregnany. Basically if the two of you have never been with anyone ... (read in full...)

How can I stop being so jealous?

Q.   This is my problem. My boyfriend swears up and down that he would never cheat on me, but he has done a lot of things to make me jealous, it has gotten to the point where it seems all that all I am is jealous. We fight almost all the time now. It is ...

A.   4 August 2007: Today I did a lot of thinking about my relationship. I thought about every aspect of it. I calmy told my boyfriend how I was feeling neglected and I apoligized for the way I had been acting the prior day. HE calmy replied with an understanding ... (read in full...)

I got close to my closed-up boyfriend on a weekend away; now his heart has closed up again

Q.   last weekened me and my friends had a sleepover up at her cabin. she brought her boyfriend and mine along with and it was really suprising her parents let us. well me and my boyfriend got really close... closer then i've even been to him. he let all ...

A.   3 August 2007: you dont need a guys opinion, you just need to know his comfort zone. Is he comfortable talking to you about certain things? HOw long have you been going out? Give it time and you will see changes. I hope you and him can talking deeply someday hun. ... (read in full...)

How can I stop being so jealous?

Q.   This is my problem. My boyfriend swears up and down that he would never cheat on me, but he has done a lot of things to make me jealous, it has gotten to the point where it seems all that all I am is jealous. We fight almost all the time now. It is ...

A.   3 August 2007: Thank you so much for taking the time to answer my question. I just feel so helpless and I wish that I could control myself more. But from what you just said, I think that I can do it. I will try talking to him today about my feelings. He usually ... (read in full...)

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