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I am single, a few relationships in my life as my flag suggests I live in merry ol' England.
My qualifications for my insight are experience, both in relationship and aiding friends and family in their own. I also have a rather unusual way of being blunt in situations which helps cut through potential and get direct to the heart of the situation allowing for clarity of answers.
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Crush on a guy at work, but he says he isn't gay
Q. I've been single for the past 4 years and I've been very happy single. However, I've been having these feelings for another guy at work. I came out as gay just before we started working together so he knows I'm gay. I think about him all day, every ...
A. 12 March 2014: Greetings JT1993,
It is always harder when the person you like is someone at work, I dare say many of us (if not all) have had the same experience.
In terms of your question about whether to tell him or not well obviously that is up to you. My a... (read in full...)
We hooked up, I fell for him and now he's dating someone else. I'm having a hard time hiding my feelings
Q. I need some advice on how to deal with a situation with a guy. I've got myself stuck. At the end of last year I had a fling with a boy who was part of my friendship group. He was much younger than me, so when it started I didn't take it seriousl...
A. 20 February 2014: Greetings again OP,
I am glad to hear that you've managed to find some form of stability in friends.
As for your situation with this guy and this new development I would avoid rushing into asking any questions. After all you don't want to be a... (read in full...)
Sex with my best friend - has it ruined our relationship?
Q. I have a male best friend who I have known for about 5 years. We hang out all the time and love joking around. When we go out drinking we sometimes sleep over each others houses and nothing has ever happened between us, apart from one night we ended ...
A. 17 February 2014: Greetings, As we all know alcohol lowers inhibitions, thereby lowering the masks/defenses we put up. I don't fully believe it when I hear people getting sexual and then saying he/she isn't my type, especially under the influence of alcohol, I ... (read in full...)
Am I missing out on something here? She has a strange pattern to her behaviour!
Q. hello I'm dating a girl for three months now and I feel a strange pattern now in her behaviour ! After every two weeks or so, she'll start ignoring in a sense that she'll take extra time to reply than usual and she'll seem less excited to see ...
A. 17 February 2014: Greetings, My advise would be simple, Confront or retreat? From what you are saying she won't answer your questions about this directly, either meaning she has something to hide or wants to keep you interested aka manipulating you. She knows ... (read in full...)
He got me absolutely nothing for Valentine's Day!
Q. Should I be upset he got me absolutely nothing for Valentine's Day? My boyfriend and I both agree that Valentine's day is not a big deal. We are in a long distance relationship-been together about 8 months. We don't see eachother very often in pe...
A. 17 February 2014: Greetings, Double meanings do not help matters in this case, You cannot say something is a big deal one minute after saying it wasn't earlier. You both agreed it wasn't a big deal and whilst you got him something nice you cannot give something in... (read in full...)
He said he loves my company, but I think I'm in the friend zone
Q. Hello dear Aunts and Uncles, So, i have recently met a new friend (about a month ago)... The thing is i like him as more than a friend... the other thing is i don't know if there are any chances he might like me back... The night we met he gave m...
A. 17 February 2014: Greetings,
Such a case can only be dealt with in one of three ways,
1.) Ignore this and enjoy the time you spend together.
2.) Tell him how you feel and get this feeling of unease out of the way.
3.) Walk away altogether
Being friend-zoned is... (read in full...)
I don't think she's given me the full story about this man!
Q. I have been married for 7 years. Everything was great for the first 5 1/2 years then in the fall of our sixth year things changed she became distant and sex which up till then was great it suddenly stopped everytime I approached her about it she ...
A. 11 February 2014: Greetings,
In a situation like this if the pieces don't fit then suspicion is logical.
You say that they are part of the same company yet work in two separate buildings in two separate jobs that don't link?
That is point one.
Secondly, they se... (read in full...)
Horrible relationship with my mother, what should I do?
Q. Hi maybe somebody here can help. I have a very serious and personal problem. Through out my whole life my mother unfortunately has been into drugs and alcohol, it's pretty bad. With all due respect, my mother is not really a good person because o...
A. 11 February 2014: Greetings,
Usually the best thing you can do, is remove the lifeline.
People like this refuse to accept their failings while subconsciously (or not) pulling on the strings of those around them.
Remove yourself from the equation, make your ... (read in full...)
Crush on a guy at work, but he says he isn't gay
Q. I've been single for the past 4 years and I've been very happy single. However, I've been having these feelings for another guy at work. I came out as gay just before we started working together so he knows I'm gay. I think about him all day, every ...
A. 10 February 2014: Greetings, A situation as delicate as this needs to be treated with care. We often than not do not realize how we act around others and his actions, whilst considered gay by others, could be considered normal to him. Labeling him will not hel... (read in full...)
We are talking about patching things up, but I have concerns about her lying!
Q. I was in a relationship with another woman for about one year. we just recently broke up but are talking about patching things up. We dated casually for a few months, then decided to make it official. During the dating, we never talked about bei...
A. 10 February 2014: Greetings, This situation sounds rather simple form my point of view, the outcome is leave. When a relationship acts like a bungee jump then it isn't meant to hold. Let me explain, I try very hard to see things from both sides but in this case... (read in full...)
How do I come out as bisexual to my parents?
Q. I am bisexual. Ive known this fact since like age six. It is NOT a phase . I really like girls and I really like guys. I don't like keeping this from my parents, it just feels awkward. They are straight lgtb allies, so its nnot like they will be ...
A. 10 February 2014: Greetings, So you and defiant, that is some good spirit but making decisions like this are not worth the hassle at your age. People change during the teen years and you should at least wait until you are past your teen years before you label yourse... (read in full...)
I promised my Mom I would get her a new house someday but now I don't want to!
Q. I promised my mom I would get her a house someday and now, she wants one. She just got re-married and he was bankrupt. She needs me for the credit etc. But I don't want to. I only meant that I'd save up to get her a house when I was able but now, I ...
A. 10 February 2014: Greetings, I must concur with my fellow advisers in this matter, Your mother is acting disgracefully, asking you to not only support the family but also to now provide both her and her bankrupt husband with a new home? Parents are meant to supp... (read in full...)
I need help with my in-laws! I need a break!
Q. I'm feeling really mixed up right now. Please help. I've recently bought a house with my partner of 12 years. We're very happy together. I try to tell myself that his parents are good people. They've financially helped us buy the house and th...
A. 10 February 2014: Greetings, I agree with 'Honeypie', You need to do something to get you out of the house. You also need to explain in a calming environment what you feel because if you hold these things in your'll find that they come out in unexpected and most ... (read in full...)
Should I work it out with the father?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years and we now have two children together. Our emotional situation has been constantly insecure. I learned early on he had been lying to me about a porn addiction and we tried hard to work through ...
A. 10 February 2014: Greetings, Since I am reading your side of the situation I cannot judge effectively. You say he has an addiction but how do you define addiction? Secondly whenever I hear of physical disputes I am extremely wary about them since life has a habit... (read in full...)
I'm insecure and worried that someone will steal my B/f away and I'm perpetually worried about my relationship and assume the worst
Q. Why do I worry so much in my relationship? It's like I always think the worst and I don't know why I do this. I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months. There are some times where he will act different and seem off or become a little distant a...
A. 10 February 2014: Greetings, The first thing to ask yourself is where this is coming from. It is said the moment you have to question trust, it no longer exists but is it your trust in him or your trust in yourself that you are questioning. You need to get to g... (read in full...)
I cant stop thinking about the girl at work and I'm totally in love with her....but she has a boyfriend!!
Q. I'm absolutely smitten with this girl at work but she has a boyfriend. I can't get her out of my head no matter how much I try. I'm 25 and she's 22. We work for a small machinery company in the offices. She is top to toe gorgeous, funny, bright, ...
A. 10 February 2014: Greetings, Such actions are indeed one sided and can be dangerous if fed. What you feel isn't love, it is pure lust Dictionary: Lust is an emotion or feeling of intense desire in the body Therefore your lust is to have her. The fact she has a ... (read in full...)
Should we stay 'just good friends' at the expense of my heart, or should I cut & run, even if it hurts both of us?
Q. I'm romantically interested in a guy who isn't over his ex, who left him in extremely abrupt circumstances approx. 4 months ago. We get along brilliantly and he's the first person I've ever truly 'clicked' with in terms of personality. The problem ...
A. 10 February 2014: Greetings, Situations like this are always a case of longing, do you fight this longing of wanting to be near the person you've clicked with in the hope of future contact (however distant) or realistic but more painful to let go of this chance. ... (read in full...)
I think my mom is jealous of my girlfriend!
Q. Hi everyone, basically this isn't a big issue, mainly minor but I wanted to ask if anyone had an idea of how to stop it. I've been with my Girlfriend for over a year now and we are both completely in love, since I've been at university, we've just ...
A. 31 January 2014: Greetings,
Mothers have a habit of not approving of anyone you choose to date, It is either possessive or protective, I do not know yet however what I do know is your Mother should respect your views and if you tell her how much you dislike ... (read in full...)
Would you consider this emotionally cheating?
Q. I'm posting on here about my friends behaviour with my other friend who's a guy. I introduced them a while back and she and him had a fling, not so long ago, but it ended cause he got a girlfriend. However, even though he's now with someone new, ...
A. 31 January 2014: Greetings,
I must agree with my learned colleagues.
You've done your piece, your conscience is clean, if a friend refuses to listen then accept that and move on, steer clear of the trouble that you feel will take place and if your friendship f... (read in full...)
Was this man just using me?
Q. Hi I'd like your opinion. I was going out with my ex from March 2013 to Nov 2013, he called a halt to our relationship after I text him asking what was up and not to shut me out. I was right, there was something up, but he called it all off. In...
A. 31 January 2014: Greetings, This is me being blunt, YES You are being used and part of you refuses to do anything about it. You could block his number, change your number etc but you refuse to do so, maybe in the name of 'why should I?' However you then complain... (read in full...)
Tired of husbands childish traits. How should I cope?
Q. Sometimes I really dislike, maybe to the point of hate, my husband. Most of the time he's a great guy. But he has some childish traits that can go beyond irritating. He likes to push buttons and tease to the point where I get genuinely angry,...
A. 31 January 2014: Greetings,
First thing to remember is defining your partner by their traits is tantamount to arguments.
Well can agree that GENERALLY there is a difference in maturity between the genders but also a degree in what level of maturity is acceptabl... (read in full...)
I'm not so interested in sex and I'm afraid my boyfriends desires will lead him to cheat
Q. Hiya aunts and uncles, my fiancé of 4 months and dating for 3 years has been talking in his sleep and has expressed the same concerns in his waking hours. He is 26 and im 23 on valentines day. well, its like this: he doesn't feel like we are inti...
A. 31 January 2014: Greetings,
I am not sorry to say this but from what I've read this sounds extremely selfish.
Just because YOU feel that he has to chase, YOU don't feel up to sex, YOU ban him from porn, YOU reject him.
Have you spotted the thread in all th... (read in full...)
How can I live in a new relationship without being haunted by my past?
Q. Hi there :) So, this is the problem: in July my (ex) bf broke up with me, after seven months of relationship. He was my first time, and I really loved him, even though we weren't good with each other. After the break up, I was lonely for a lon...
A. 31 January 2014: Greetings,, 1.) Your English is fine, exceptionally readable shame that most English folks can't be as articulate. 2.) The thing about the past is that it happened and it will always be a reminder, that is something we cannot change. However w... (read in full...)
I suspect my husband of cheating but can't confront him.
Q. Hi, where do I start! My husband and I have been married for 15 years and have 3 children. Over the last 3 years I've found several occasions where my husband had been trying to get the attention of other women by both texting and facebook. I'm ...
A. 31 January 2014: Greetings, Bottling up these feelings can fester and cause you to get snippy over anything he does or does not do. You need to vent, in a calm fashion, either with him alone or with a marriage counsellor. The moment you start to accuse over ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with strong attraction to a co-worker who I have no intention of getting involved with?
Q. Hi I need some advice on how to deal with a situation. Firstly I am 23 and do not intend to act on my feelings. So I have fallen for a guy I work with. He seems a lovely, genuine guy and I very much enjoy working with him. To paint a pictur...
A. 29 January 2014: Greetings,
Firstly allow me to say good for you. Too often I hear about people so willing to break something up just for their own slice of happiness. I myself have a same rule in law about people with partners. So much so that I've been through ... (read in full...)
I feel his loyalty lies with his friends! Any one else in the same situation?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years is the most caring and thoughtful person when it comes to just us - however this soon changes when his friends are involved. I made a huge effort with them including them on my nights out, letting them stay at my house, c...
A. 29 January 2014: Greetings again pebblesb,
Do not let your own feelings be a reason to chain him down so to speak.
We all need friends and he has chosen his for his own reasons, if you try to get involved and micro manage his friendships, his opinion of you will ... (read in full...)
I know I'm just being jealous and my friend is just having fun but I feel like I'm being cheated
Q. Last night my friend and I went out on the town, I dressed up, put on a nice dress, did my makeup properly and for once made an effort. My friend came out in jeans and a t-shirt. She's put her boyfriend back in the dating zone (he still loves ...
A. 29 January 2014: Greetings,
I couldn't give you a complete information on advice as I do not know your 'friend's' side of the story.
However how we see things determines our reality and from what you are seeing, feeling and how it appears when you vent (as you... (read in full...)
I want to talk about the distance that seems to have come between us, but I don't want to seem needy
Q. I began talking to him in August. as the months passed, we grew closer until he asked me to be his gf in December. Since we live in different states, he flew me out to spend a week with him. it turned out great. I got to know him, and I fell for ...
A. 29 January 2014: Greetings,
Such an interesting but common thread for relationships is the long distance one.
Many have experienced it and very few have a happy ending to them.
However I must disagree with my learned colleague 'YouWish' such actions are prob... (read in full...)
He acts like he likes me but says he doesn't. Was he lying?
Q. I think he lied to me. I have known this guy for about 4 years, and we had to spend a bit of time together for work. Anyway, so he is naturally flirty, all the girls like him, and I do too, he's a bit cocky to be honest, and knows he's hot. Anyw...
A. 29 January 2014: Greetings,
Think of him as a predator and you are the prey except in this situation a predator never wants an easy catch. As my learned colleague pointed out people are giving him an ego and he is reacting to it.
Unfortunately guys in that sta... (read in full...)
I had never seen him in a fight before, and I can't handle it because of my past!
Q. I have suffered from depression and anxiety since I was a teenager, and I'm now 21. I have had therapy and medication for the past four years, with a little success. When I explained it all to my now ex boyfriend, I thought he understood my mental ...
A. 28 January 2014: Greetings,
May I ask? Has he ever been violent to you and anyone you care about?
You say that the fight was over anything really? But clearly it was if he got into fight. Unless drunk guys will only fight if hooked into doing so like if it was to... (read in full...)
If I'm the only woman he ever wants to have sex with then why is he imagining doing it with other girls, maybe even ones he knows?
Q. I know this was a silly thing to do, but yesterday I looked at my boyfriend's search history when he was out. We've been together almost 2 years now and he wants to marry me, have kids with me and I know he's the one I want to be with for the rest ...
A. 28 January 2014: Greetings,
The big trouble about this is secrecy.
You have the secret about viewing his history and he has the secret about his chosen girl type.
Part of me feels the need to say that he has chosen you to be his girl but another part of me is co... (read in full...)
I feel his loyalty lies with his friends! Any one else in the same situation?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years is the most caring and thoughtful person when it comes to just us - however this soon changes when his friends are involved. I made a huge effort with them including them on my nights out, letting them stay at my house, c...
A. 28 January 2014: Greetings,
Well the answer to your question is yes, many people suffer from this time and again on both sides of the gender gap and in both your side and your bf's side.
The thing we all must realise is that as a species we tend to have two fac... (read in full...)
I'd do anything for this guy even though he hates me and probably was never even a true friend to me
Q. Ok so I've been struggling with this for a few years now I and just want your guys opinions. I was a freshman in high school I didn't have many friends and was really quiet. Well when I met...this guy I immediately wanted to get to know him. This ...
A. 28 January 2014: Greetings, Dear girl, it is human nature to want to hold onto the hope provided by something and in this case the hope of a new friend who helps you grow is something that no-one wants to let go. My issue with the situation is that your f... (read in full...)
We hooked up, I fell for him and now he's dating someone else. I'm having a hard time hiding my feelings
Q. I need some advice on how to deal with a situation with a guy. I've got myself stuck. At the end of last year I had a fling with a boy who was part of my friendship group. He was much younger than me, so when it started I didn't take it seriousl...
A. 27 January 2014: Greetings,
After careful consideration about your situation I must agree with the other that have replied to this.
Your situation is made worse because you are bottling it up.
You pretend around others that you are stronger than this and you hav... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend's friend do that? Am I overreacting?
Q. Why does my boyfriend's friend do that? Am I overreacting? My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6months now. He seems crazy about me and I'm into him too. Hes really sweet and very nice. All my friends and family likes him and his frie...
A. 27 January 2014: Greetings,
Something tells me this is about maturity.
Now I cannot comment on your relationship as you haven't told me much about this so going from what I have read I will say this.
Many guys find it hard to grow up, yes, this coming from a gu... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a flirt and I think he's giving out the wrong signals to people
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months. I'll start by saying he's very friendly, respectful, charming, funny, and all around just a great person and I really care about him. Everything in our relationship is really great except for one ...
A. 27 January 2014: Greetings, I can appreciate how hard it is to watch flirting take place with your other half. The worst of it usually occurs because we don't know WHY it takes place. Yes you speak about your bf's personality being flirty but people can be ch... (read in full...)
My friends arent nice to my boyfriend!
Q. I'm 15 and my boyfriend and I have been dating for three months. Two of my best friends despise him but I really am fond of him, he has been not wanting to come over if they are there because they are really not very nice to him, I've tried talking ...
A. 27 January 2014: Greetings,
There is two main types of friends in the world,
Those that need you to support them and those that want to support you.
The question is to determine which of these your friends are.
Ask them the reason for their dislike ad then atte... (read in full...)
I really want to be with my FWB but then I get scared!
Q. I really miss my FWB. We were the worst pairing imaginable and man he could push my buttons but I was crazy about him. after nearly two years, he decided he was finally ready to give 'us' a chance at a relationship and I panicked and cut conta...
A. 27 January 2014: Greetings,
This situation is rather complex but my first piece of advice is never be part of a split up.
After all imagine how you'd feel if your boyfriend dumped you for another female. Do as you would have done to you is an honourable p... (read in full...)
My BF wants me to go to the same college he does, but that's a ways off and I can't say yes.
Q. My boyfriend has asked me if I would go to the same college as him I'm 17 he's 17 and I don't want to say yes because I feel like college is a time for me to be free ad explore and I love him I really do but recently he asked me if I would marry him ...
A. 27 January 2014: Greetings,
I hate to sound patronizing but at 17 you don't know what you want truly.
You are at a point in life where you are discovering life and learning who you are. So my advice is just be honest. If you aren't sure than say so.
If he cann... (read in full...)
Worried that my insecurities will ruin my happiness and relationship!
Q. I'm so worried all the time when it comes to my relationship. I've been with my lovely, sweet, thoughtful boyfriend for a year and a half. We are living together for a year - it felt right as we had known each other a year before dating and we both ...
A. 27 January 2014: Greetings,
In situations like this I find that there are two causes for this, instinct(experience) or plain fear.
You need to ask yourself which of these it is, are you being dictated by bad past relationships or worse in cases of pain with hi... (read in full...)
Did he settle for me initially because he couldn't get her?
Q. Hello I would like an opinion If anyone has the time? I need to know If I am just plain insecure and low seld esteem or If I have reason! I'll try keep to the point. Got with my boyfriend 2 years ago, when we first got together he was texting ...
A. 27 January 2014: Greetings,
I can understand your situation and my first words of advise would be control your negative feelings.
It can be pretty common for people to think this way especially under these circumstances however it will only serve in a negative w... (read in full...)
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