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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months. I'll start by saying he's very friendly, respectful, charming, funny, and all around just a great person and I really care about him. Everything in our relationship is really great except for one thing I've noticed about him that bothers me.He is a bit of a natural flirt I guess you can say. I don't know whether this is just his personality or what but usually when he talks to his female friends, he's flirty. What's even worse is his friends flirt right back and before you know it, they're just flirting it up.A lot of people will probably say he's just really nice and it's his personality, and that's what I think too - but watching my boyfriend and his friends being flirty with each other is something that's hard for me to handle. I've never brought this up to him and I just let it go but when it's going on or whenever I've been around when it's happened, I don't know what to think and I just get upset. I know he's not the type to cheat, but I think he's giving out the wrong signals to people. His amazing personality plus his flirting is something a lot of girls just love and would want to have. I get worried about this. I'm not sure if this is a trust issue or insecurity or what but I would really like some help...I don't know what to do about it. Thanks for reading.
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reader, DragonMan  +, writes (27 January 2014):
 Greetings,I can appreciate how hard it is to watch flirting take place with your other half. The worst of it usually occurs because we don't know WHY it takes place. Yes you speak about your bf's personality being flirty but people can be charming, people can be fun but flirty in my understanding tends to indicate a desire for closeness.Now yes this could all be in the name of fun and you wouldn't want to become the green eyed monster but at the same time you don't want to become one of those that become blind to obvious signs in front of them.Best advice? TALKKeep your conversation neutral, no accusations or insinuations, just try to discover from him through civil intimate conversation what makes him feel the need to flirt and as you pointed out girls like that so the temptation for one of them to cross the line is high.Once you have that knowledge sit back and reflect, decide how much you can handle of this, whether you can accept it and if not where you will go from here
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