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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I think he lied to me.I have known this guy for about 4 years, and we had to spend a bit of time together for work. Anyway, so he is naturally flirty, all the girls like him, and I do too, he's a bit cocky to be honest, and knows he's hot. Anyway so I don't want to get into specific stories but he was/is really really flirty with me. He:-always touches me in some way. Usually my hands or my leg. - will literally stand a few inches away from me when we talk. He gets so close that I would always have to back up and he would get closer to me again.-always asks my input, even though he's more experienced in the field than I am. -he stares A LOT, checks me out. He once walked back and forth 4 times near my desk and stared at me when i was wearing a really nice outfit.-ignores everyone when he talks to me. Once told someone to be quiet when I was talking. Has shooshed others when i was talking- people tell me that we appear to be very close. A few have asked if we were dating. -he ALWAYS teases me, no matter what. Brings me into every joke.- he once wrapped his arms around me and didn't let go until I told him to.So one day I revealed to him that i had feelings, for my benefit (no intention of relationship I promise), and he told me that he didn't like me back. I wasn't hurt, but in my gut I had a feeling he was lying, and that bothers me after I told him how I felt. Do you think he was lying to me?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (29 January 2014):
 Does it matter?
He said he didn't "like" you that way, doesn't mean he doesn't like you as a person and like to flirt with you.
And I agree with Anon female. Why tell him if you had no intentions of trying to pursue more (I think YOU were "lying" about that part, to be honest.)
Just because you have a CRUSH on someone doesn't mean you HAVE to tell them.
Now, if you wanted to see if more could happen between you two, then it MAKES sense to tell him.
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reader, DragonMan  +, writes (29 January 2014):
 Greetings,
Think of him as a predator and you are the prey except in this situation a predator never wants an easy catch. As my learned colleague pointed out people are giving him an ego and he is reacting to it.
Unfortunately guys in that state don't want to be tied down onto one female, they want to spread their 'brilliance' around for every female.
In this case don't chase after him, in his mind prey don't chase after the predator they run from them and he wants to feel like he caught you on his own.
If you are determined that you want him to admit his feels let him come to you.
Don't chase
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2014): Here my out look .. Say your both around 21 ? He's young, you say he knows he's hot, hence him being cocky lol and you my lil one have given him an ego and head that will not fit through the door .Why tell him you like him ?? He answers he doesn't have those feelings, no he Has sexual urges and he wants to sow his seeds of love where ever and to whomever .. He may now think your an easy target ..No matter how much you like a guy .. It's like playing poker never ever ever show him your hand until he's hooked .. As in your dating it's progressing and after 8 months you teasingly tell him 'maybe maybe he growing on you , and you like him a lil bit too much ' lol lol you keep it light even then ..Dating is the fun time, the non issues if bills, kids in laws and friends lol lol it's the doing things .. But to even get a guy to date you telling them you like them will send them running to the hills .. Take a breath, here's your next play .. Choose a nice guy don't over flirt .. But show him a lil extra attention rather than this dufus who is flirting his way around the office . Talk to girls make friends as well and don't concentrate just on him ..Take care and don't be foolish ..
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reader, Priyanka09  +, writes (29 January 2014):
 I think just push back. I am not sure if he was lying, but it sounds like he was quiet interested in you till you kept your distance. The moment you gave him some response back, he backed out. Maybe he is scared of commitments. In which case, it will not be of any use. But next time, when he flirts with you, or try and come closer to you, please show him some distance. Tell him you are not a tissue box to be used. If he likes you, he will come back and confess his feelings. If he dosent, its best not to be friends with someone like him.
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